Ahhh we all know the big three. 'Fight, flight, freeze'... The trauma response greatest hits. But nobody warned us about their sneaky little sibling, 'fawn'. That quiet shape-shifting, chronic people-pleasing “yeah I’m fine” while your insides are setting off silent alarm bells.

In this ep I sat down with clinical psychologist Ingrid Clayton, and we got stuck right into it… The trauma response that hides in plain sight. Turns out that fawning is survival mode dressed up as nice, agreeable, easy, and low-maintenance. Aaaaand meanwhile your nervous system is flailing it's legs like a duck under water.

Ingrid talks about how someone can live in a trauma response 24/7 and think it’s just their personality. How we can be high-functioning, polished, successful, reliable, admired… and wildly disconnected from ourselves.

If you’ve ever walked away thinking 'why did I say yes to that?'… press play.

 

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INGRID CLAYTON, PhD

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TIFFANEE COOK

Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches

Website: tiffcook.com

 

Ahhh we all know the big three. 'Fight, flight, freeze'... The trauma response greatest hits. But nobody warned us about their sneaky little sibling, 'fawn'. That quiet shape-shifting, chronic people-pleasing &ldquo;yeah I&rsquo;m fine&rdquo; while your insides are setting off silent alarm bells.
In this ep I sat down with clinical psychologist Ingrid Clayton, and we got stuck right into it&hellip; The trauma response that hides in plain sight. Turns out that fawning is survival mode dressed up as nice, agreeable, easy, and low-maintenance. Aaaaand meanwhile your nervous system is flailing it's legs like a duck under water.
Ingrid talks about how someone can live in a trauma response 24/7 and think it&rsquo;s just their personality. How we can be high-functioning, polished, successful, reliable, admired&hellip; and wildly disconnected from ourselves.
If you&rsquo;ve ever walked away thinking 'why did I say yes to that?'&hellip; press play.
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SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS
Website: <a href="https://www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au">www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au</a>&nbsp;
INGRID CLAYTON, PhD
Website: <a href="https://www.ingridclayton.com/">Ingrid Clayton, PhD</a>
TIFFANEE COOK
Linktree: &nbsp;<a href="https://linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches">linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches</a>
Website: <a href="https://www.tiffcook.com">tiffcook.com</a>
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Life hits hard. Good. So do we.
Roll With The Punches is a front-row seat to the messy, beautiful, brutal bits of being human.

Hosted by Tiff Cook - former boxer, coach, speaker, rascal, and someone who’s copped a few uppercuts from life and keeps getting back up. She sits down with global survivors, scientists, rebels, rockstars, and everyday legends to ask one thing:

What does it really take to get back up when life drops you?

We talk breakdowns, breakthroughs, big truths, and the bullsh*t we all carry. Behind the masks. Beneath the armour. Real conversations that crack something open in all of us.

We’re built to break.
And we become dangerous by design.
Honest work over hard work. Every damn time.

Life hits hard. Good. So do we. Roll With The Punches is a front-row seat to the messy, beautiful, brutal bits of being human.
Hosted by Tiff Cook - former boxer, coach, speaker, rascal, and someone who&rsquo;s copped a few uppercuts from life and keeps getting back up. She sits down with global survivors, scientists, rebels, rockstars, and everyday legends to ask one thing:
What does it really take to get back up when life drops you?
We talk breakdowns, breakthroughs, big truths, and the bullsh*t we all carry. Behind the masks. Beneath the armour. Real conversations that crack something open in all of us.
We&rsquo;re built to break. And we become dangerous by design. Honest work over hard work. Every damn time.

Roll With The Punches

Aussie host Tiffanee Cook is an athlete, performance coach, speaker and self-proclaimed eternal student of life. Making an impact through storytelling and science as she invites you to join her in exploring the human experience. From real life encounters with tragedy, vulnerability and trauma to exploring all things human experience with world renowned experts, scientists, psychologists & thought leaders.

 

Aussie host Tiffanee Cook is an athlete, performance coach, speaker and self-proclaimed eternal student of life. Making an impact through storytelling and science as she invites you to join her in exploring the human experience. From real life encounters with tragedy, vulnerability and trauma to exploring all things human experience with world renowned experts, scientists, psychologists &amp; thought leaders.
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Fawn... When 'Nice' is a Trauma Response | Ingrid Clayton, PhD - 997

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Maaaate.... Nick Morrison went from riding full-grown bulls at 12 years old to breaking his neck, breaking his back, racking up more than 50 concussions and eventually losing the ability to speak. Let that sink in. A stand-up comedian and keynote speaker who literally couldn’t talk.

We went deep into identity. The cowboy up mentality. The addiction to adrenaline. The need to impress your peers. The regret that lingers when your career ends at 21 and you’re left asking who you were actually doing it for.

Nick shared what brain injury really looks like behind the scenes. The blackouts. The paranoia. The emotional volatility. The suicide attempts. And the moment a bullet misfired that changed the trajectory of his life.

What floored me most was this. He does two to four hours of brain work every single morning just to keep his speech. No days off. No excuses. And he still gets up and speaks on stages around the world.

We talked about regret. About trying to impress people who don’t even stick around. About unshackling yourself from other people’s opinions. About working like it depends on you and believing like it depends on something bigger.

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Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au 

TIFFANEE COOK

Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches

Website: tiffcook.com

 

 

Maaaate.... Nick Morrison went from riding full-grown bulls at 12 years old to breaking his neck, breaking his back, racking up more than 50 concussions and eventually losing the ability to speak. Let that sink in. A stand-up comedian and keynote speaker who literally couldn&rsquo;t talk.
We went deep into identity. The cowboy up mentality. The addiction to adrenaline. The need to impress your peers. The regret that lingers when your career ends at 21 and you&rsquo;re left asking who you were actually doing it for.
Nick shared what brain injury really looks like behind the scenes. The blackouts. The paranoia. The emotional volatility. The suicide attempts. And the moment a bullet misfired that changed the trajectory of his life.
What floored me most was this. He does two to four hours of brain work every single morning just to keep his speech. No days off. No excuses. And he still gets up and speaks on stages around the world.
We talked about regret. About trying to impress people who don&rsquo;t even stick around. About unshackling yourself from other people&rsquo;s opinions. About working like it depends on you and believing like it depends on something bigger.
SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS
Website: <a href="https://www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au">www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au</a>&nbsp;
TIFFANEE COOK
Linktree: &nbsp;<a href="https://linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches">linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches</a>
Website: <a href="https://www.tiffcook.com">tiffcook.com</a>
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Adrenaline, Identity & Regret | Nick Morrison - 996

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G’day legends, this one’s me, solo, slightly caffeinated, and fresh off a boxing session so my brain is basically still shadowboxing like a boss. I'm eager to riff on some sneaky crap that keeps punching us humans in the face and causing us to spin our wheels... Like the idea that 'success' doesn’t delete fear, self-doubt, discomfort, or imposter syndrome. We keep telling ourselves this story that once we get good enough, experienced enough, and legit enough, those feelings will pack their bags and move to Perth. Well pals, they sure do not. They renovate and they bring friends.

Basically, this ep is ya verbal permission slip to stop waiting for confidence to rock up before you move. Aaaaand it’s probably not enroute whilst you're standing still... so, off you go!



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TIFFANEE COOK

Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches

Website: tiffcook.com

G&rsquo;day legends, this one&rsquo;s me, solo, slightly caffeinated, and fresh off a boxing session so my brain is basically still shadowboxing like a boss. I'm eager to riff on some sneaky crap that keeps punching us humans in the face and causing us to spin our wheels... Like the idea that 'success' doesn&rsquo;t delete fear, self-doubt, discomfort, or imposter syndrome. We keep telling ourselves this story that once we get good enough, experienced enough, and legit enough, those feelings will pack their bags and move to Perth. Well pals, they sure do not. They renovate and they bring friends.
Basically, this ep is ya verbal permission slip to stop waiting for confidence to rock up before you move. Aaaaand it&rsquo;s probably not enroute whilst you're standing still... so, off you go! 
SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS
Website: <a href="https://www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au">www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au</a>&nbsp;
TIFFANEE COOK
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Website: <a href="https://www.tiffcook.com">tiffcook.com</a>

Crap That (Sadly) Doesn’t Disappear When We 'Succeed' | Tiff Cook - 995

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I loved this one! Elaine Lin Hering is all about silence. Not the peaceful, meditative kind. The learned kind... The kind where you know exactly what you want to say… and then don’t.

We talked about why 'just speak up' is crap advice, why some of us are post-processors who realise what we think three days later, and how hinting is not the same as being clear. Apparently 'Are you hungry?' is a yes or no question. Who knew.

It’s not about saying it perfectly or getting the response you want. It’s about choice. Am I choosing to stay silent, or is silence choosing me?

And yes, we absolutely unpacked my internal rage spiral over rice... That I don’t even like. Because it’s never about the rice.

If you’ve ever swallowed something that mattered, told yourself a story instead of having the conversation, or realised three days later what you wish you’d said… this one will land.

 

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ELAINE LIN HERING

Website: Elaine Lin Hering – Unlearning Silence

TIFFANEE COOK

Linktree:  linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches

Website: tiffcook.com

I loved this one! Elaine Lin Hering is all about silence. Not the peaceful, meditative kind. The learned kind... The kind where you know exactly what you want to say&hellip; and then don&rsquo;t.
We talked about why 'just speak up' is crap advice, why some of us are post-processors who realise what we think three days later, and how hinting is not the same as being clear. Apparently 'Are you hungry?' is a yes or no question. Who knew.
It&rsquo;s not about saying it perfectly or getting the response you want. It&rsquo;s about choice. Am I choosing to stay silent, or is silence choosing me?
And yes, we absolutely unpacked my internal rage spiral over rice... That I don&rsquo;t even like. Because it&rsquo;s never about the rice.
If you&rsquo;ve ever swallowed something that mattered, told yourself a story instead of having the conversation, or realised three days later what you wish you&rsquo;d said&hellip; this one will land.
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SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS
Website: <a href="https://www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au">www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au</a>&nbsp;
ELAINE LIN HERING
Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://elainelinhering.com/">Elaine Lin Hering &ndash; Unlearning Silence</a>
TIFFANEE COOK
Linktree: &nbsp;<a href="https://linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches">linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches</a>
Website: <a href="https://www.tiffcook.com">tiffcook.com</a>

Unlearning Silence | Elaine Lin Hering - 994

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Fawn... When 'Nice' is a Trauma Response | Ingrid Clayton, PhD - 997

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