In this episode, Loraine reads a chapter of her self-published book, where she describes the emotional and psychological abuse she experienced during her time living in Spain. Loraine recounts the challenges faced post-separation and highlights the gaps in legal protection for victims of abuse. Through her retelling, she aims to raise awareness about hidden abuse in relationships, the impact of post-separation abuse, and the need for better legal provisions to safeguard individuals in such situations. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


This episode discusses the author's experience of emotional and psychological abuse during a relationship in Spain.


Loraine highlights the challenges faced in seeking legal help and protection in cases of emotional and psychological abuse.


This chapter sheds light on the impact of COVID lockdown in Spain in March 2020 on the relationship dynamics.


Loraine emphasizes the importance of raising awareness about hidden emotional and psychological abuse in relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

"All I wanted was what was promised and he went back on all the promises that he made."

"A lot of solicitors, a lot of lawyers out there don't understand what it is to be in a situation of emotional and psychological abuse."

"I finally felt that I was leaving behind the terrible memory of the past infidelity and I started to recover lost self-confidence again."

"Victims of abuse often know that what has been happening to them isn't right, but they didn't understand or don't understand that it is domestic abuse and that it is now illegal."

"He expected to be able to put another £100,000 into his retirement fund, telling me it was so that we could be secure in our retirement here in Spain."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

In this episode, Loraine reads a chapter of her self-published book, where she describes the emotional and psychological abuse she experienced during her time living in Spain. Loraine recounts the challenges faced post-separation and highlights the gaps in legal protection for victims of abuse. Through her retelling, she aims to raise awareness about hidden abuse in relationships, the impact of post-separation abuse, and the need for better legal provisions to safeguard individuals in such situations. 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>
This episode discusses the author's experience of emotional and psychological abuse during a relationship in Spain.
</li>
<li>
Loraine highlights the challenges faced in seeking legal help and protection in cases of emotional and psychological abuse.
</li>
<li>
This chapter sheds light on the impact of COVID lockdown in Spain in March 2020 on the relationship dynamics.
</li>
<li>
Loraine emphasizes the importance of raising awareness about hidden emotional and psychological abuse in relationships.
</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
"All I wanted was what was promised and he went back on all the promises that he made."
"A lot of solicitors, a lot of lawyers out there don't understand what it is to be in a situation of emotional and psychological abuse."
"I finally felt that I was leaving behind the terrible memory of the past infidelity and I started to recover lost self-confidence again."
"Victims of abuse often know that what has been happening to them isn't right, but they didn't understand or don't understand that it is domestic abuse and that it is now illegal."
"He expected to be able to put another £100,000 into his retirement fund, telling me it was so that we could be secure in our retirement here in Spain."
HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a  decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

Mindset, Money, Success is a Podcast aimed at discovering what it takes to be successful. I believe that you can’t become successful unless you have the right mindset. What do you think? I will be talking with entrepreneurs to discover their secrets to success. First up chatting to Single, Sexy, and Successful Women. I also want to raise awareness of experiences of adversity and how these can impact individuals. My story covers the three Ds in relationship endings check out my Bio I’m a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to me post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings. 

Mindset, Money, Success is a Podcast aimed at discovering what it takes to be successful. I believe that you can’t become successful unless you have the right mindset. What do you think? I will be talking with entrepreneurs to discover their secrets to success. First up chatting to Single, Sexy, and Successful Women. I also want to raise awareness of experiences of adversity and how these can impact individuals. My story covers the three Ds in relationship endings check out my Bio I’m a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to me post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings.

Mindset Money Success

Coercive Control and Legal Gaps

In this episode, Loraine delivers a step-by-step guide to dealing with debt, offering practical advice and strategies for managing debt and budgeting effectively. Drawing from her experience working in money advice at the Citizens Advice Bureau, Loraine introduces the PIES acronym (Prioritise, Income, Expenditure, Share) as a method to help individuals navigate their financial challenges. She discusses prioritizing expenses, increasing income through various means, identifying non-priority expenses, and sharing available income with creditors. Loraine also touches on coerced debts and the importance of seeking support from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse and Citizens Advice Bureau. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Start by identifying and prioritizing your essential expenses such as rent, mortgage, utilities, and food allowance.


Explore various ways to boost your income, including claiming entitled benefits, checking tax codes, selling unused items, or renting out a spare room.


Create a budget and allocate available income to non-priority debts using a pro rata calculation to negotiate reduced payments with creditors.


If you've been coerced into financial agreements, seek assistance from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse or Citizens Advice Bureau.


Consider joining a private support community like "Success with Lorraine" on Facebook for women aged 40+ to connect, heal, and grow from trauma to transformation.

BEST MOMENTS

"If you've got mortgage arrears or rent arrears and things, then you do really need to speak to a professional and seek help."

"Now, letters are the easiest form. Obviously, it keeps a record of everything that's going on."

"It's domestic abuse and more banks and credit card companies are becoming informed about this."

"So if you phone in or you're writing and you're in that situation of coerced debts, I would ask them if they have a vulnerable customer support."

Zero Cost, NO Commitment, Safe Space - https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/

Podcast Episode 1: https://youtu.be/Tqsl9bNB09w?si=HYKs2OUO9JT14QN4 
Three Ds in relationship endings: https://youtu.be/rruk-FzmLLU?si=XvB33_v6FPAkRVGR Will the real victim please stand up: https://youtu.be/nwNZN1JqD0k?si=DzscJ7lt8mU9Ow4X



HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

In this episode, Loraine delivers a step-by-step guide to dealing with debt, offering practical advice and strategies for managing debt and budgeting effectively. Drawing from her experience working in money advice at the Citizens Advice Bureau, Loraine introduces the PIES acronym (Prioritise, Income, Expenditure, Share) as a method to help individuals navigate their financial challenges. She discusses prioritizing expenses, increasing income through various means, identifying non-priority expenses, and sharing available income with creditors. Loraine also touches on coerced debts and the importance of seeking support from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse and Citizens Advice Bureau. 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>
Start by identifying and prioritizing your essential expenses such as rent, mortgage, utilities, and food allowance.
</li>
<li>
Explore various ways to boost your income, including claiming entitled benefits, checking tax codes, selling unused items, or renting out a spare room.
</li>
<li>
Create a budget and allocate available income to non-priority debts using a pro rata calculation to negotiate reduced payments with creditors.
</li>
<li>
If you've been coerced into financial agreements, seek assistance from organizations like Surviving Economic Abuse or Citizens Advice Bureau.
</li>
<li>
Consider joining a private support community like "Success with Lorraine" on Facebook for women aged 40+ to connect, heal, and grow from trauma to transformation.
</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
"If you've got mortgage arrears or rent arrears and things, then you do really need to speak to a professional and seek help."
"Now, letters are the easiest form. Obviously, it keeps a record of everything that's going on."
"It's domestic abuse and more banks and credit card companies are becoming informed about this."
"So if you phone in or you're writing and you're in that situation of coerced debts, I would ask them if they have a vulnerable customer support."
Zero Cost, NO Commitment, Safe Space - <a href="https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/">https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/</a> Podcast Episode 1: <a href="https://youtu.be/Tqsl9bNB09w?si=HYKs2OUO9JT14QN4">https://youtu.be/Tqsl9bNB09w?si=HYKs2OUO9JT14QN4 </a> Three Ds in relationship endings: https://youtu.be/rruk-FzmLLU?si=XvB33_v6FPAkRVGR Will the real victim please stand up: https://youtu.be/nwNZN1JqD0k?si=DzscJ7lt8mU9Ow4X
 
HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

Dealing with Debt: A Step-by-Step Guide

Today, Loraine delves into the theme of healing the mind. Drawing inspiration from motivational speaker Bob Proctor and the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, Loraine discusses the powerful practice of letter writing as a tool for releasing negative emotions and traumas. She explores the cathartic process of writing letters to express anger, resentment, shame, or guilt, and then burning them as a symbolic release. Loraine also introduces the concept of the burning bowl ceremony, shared by Randy Gage, as a ritual to transform negative memories into ashes. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS


The practice of letter writing and journaling, as well as the burning bowl ceremony, can be effective tools for healing past hurt, negative memories, and traumas.


Writing letters as a physical exercise to release anger and aggression, and then burning them, can help in processing and healing from negative emotions.


It is important to allow emotions to come to the surface during the writing process, even if it may be distressing, as it is part of the healing journey.


Repeating the exercise of writing letters on the same topic or situation at least four times can aid in processing and releasing the negative memory.


The burning bowl ceremony, introduced as a ritual by Randy Gage, can be a symbolic way to release negative emotions and turn them into ashes, promoting healing and transformation.

BEST MOMENTS

"Vent your spleen in writing. Write a letter to the person who has frustrated or angered you. Pull out all the stops. Leave nothing to the imagination. Then burn the letter."

"I've used this practice on a number of occasions throughout my life journey, and I actually wrote about this in my first self-published book."

"You might actually experience tears or there might be a feeling of anxiety or fear arise or even anger. But this is all part of the healing process."

"I have created a no-cost, zero-commitment support group for women aged 40 plus. A safe space for women to connect, heal and grow."

Free Group - https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/ 

Merch - https://successwithloraine.com/merch/




HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

Today, Loraine delves into the theme of healing the mind. Drawing inspiration from motivational speaker Bob Proctor and the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, Loraine discusses the powerful practice of letter writing as a tool for releasing negative emotions and traumas. She explores the cathartic process of writing letters to express anger, resentment, shame, or guilt, and then burning them as a symbolic release. Loraine also introduces the concept of the burning bowl ceremony, shared by Randy Gage, as a ritual to transform negative memories into ashes. 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>
The practice of letter writing and journaling, as well as the burning bowl ceremony, can be effective tools for healing past hurt, negative memories, and traumas.
</li>
<li>
Writing letters as a physical exercise to release anger and aggression, and then burning them, can help in processing and healing from negative emotions.
</li>
<li>
It is important to allow emotions to come to the surface during the writing process, even if it may be distressing, as it is part of the healing journey.
</li>
<li>
Repeating the exercise of writing letters on the same topic or situation at least four times can aid in processing and releasing the negative memory.
</li>
<li>
The burning bowl ceremony, introduced as a ritual by Randy Gage, can be a symbolic way to release negative emotions and turn them into ashes, promoting healing and transformation.
</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
"Vent your spleen in writing. Write a letter to the person who has frustrated or angered you. Pull out all the stops. Leave nothing to the imagination. Then burn the letter."
"I've used this practice on a number of occasions throughout my life journey, and I actually wrote about this in my first self-published book."
"You might actually experience tears or there might be a feeling of anxiety or fear arise or even anger. But this is all part of the healing process."
"I have created a no-cost, zero-commitment support group for women aged 40 plus. A safe space for women to connect, heal and grow." Free Group - <a href="https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/">https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/ </a> Merch - <a href="https://successwithloraine.com/merch/">https://successwithloraine.com/merch/</a> 
 
HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.

Healing Negative Memories Through Writing

In this episode Loraine reflects on the tumultuous events that unfolded in her life over the past four years, particularly focusing on the abrupt termination of a toxic relationship in August 2020. She candidly shares her experiences of emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic behaviour that she was unaware of during the relationship. Loraine recounts the intense emotions she felt during the breakup, the challenges she faced post-relationship, and the legal battles that ensued, including a criminal case for defamation and damages.

KEY TAKEAWAYS


Loraine experienced a toxic and abusive relationship that lasted for 11 years before abruptly ending in August 2020.


She struggled with emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic abuse during the relationship.


After the relationship ended, Loraine wrote a book under a pen name to protect the identities of those involved and is now considering relaunching it.


Loraine has faced legal challenges, including a civil court case for precarious eviction and a criminal case for defamation and damages.


Despite the challenges, Loraine remains resilient, continuing to create content for their channels, rewrite their first book, and work on a sequel.

BEST MOMENTS

"I had no idea how that relationship had been toxic and one where there were many ups and downs." 

"I couldn't see any transformation from where I was. And I wanted to find out what had happened."

I found myself in Spain precarious in September of 2020 when he left with all of these future faking false promises."

HOST BIO

Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 

Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 

She is currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation, including the threats of precarious eviction and prison by a former partner.

Hoping for an acquittal when the criminal case goes to the next hearing. 

Podcast: https://successwithloraine.com/podcast-2/
Amazon Merch: https://successwithloraine.com/merch/
Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithl...
Learn Digital Marketing: https://successwithloraine.com/ips/

In this episode Loraine reflects on the tumultuous events that unfolded in her life over the past four years, particularly focusing on the abrupt termination of a toxic relationship in August 2020. She candidly shares her experiences of emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic behaviour that she was unaware of during the relationship. Loraine recounts the intense emotions she felt during the breakup, the challenges she faced post-relationship, and the legal battles that ensued, including a criminal case for defamation and damages.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
<ul>
<li>
Loraine experienced a toxic and abusive relationship that lasted for 11 years before abruptly ending in August 2020.
</li>
<li>
She struggled with emotional and psychological abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic abuse during the relationship.
</li>
<li>
After the relationship ended, Loraine wrote a book under a pen name to protect the identities of those involved and is now considering relaunching it.
</li>
<li>
Loraine has faced legal challenges, including a civil court case for precarious eviction and a criminal case for defamation and damages.
</li>
<li>
Despite the challenges, Loraine remains resilient, continuing to create content for their channels, rewrite their first book, and work on a sequel.
</li>
</ul>
BEST MOMENTS
"I had no idea how that relationship had been toxic and one where there were many ups and downs." 
"I couldn't see any transformation from where I was. And I wanted to find out what had happened."
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HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author. A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020. 
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship. 
She is currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation, including the threats of precarious eviction and prison by a former partner. Hoping for an acquittal when the criminal case goes to the next hearing.  Podcast: <a href="https://successwithloraine.com/podcast-2/">https://successwithloraine.com/podcast-2/</a> Amazon Merch: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkhKOV9pS3QxSnVPUi1lZ2ZTNnc3MHVmak1CQXxBQ3Jtc0tua0pnRmhEcG9xOFhFejFRS2kzUzRYV3ZsMFlheXE4MTNCOGVqelJZZXZ0b1NfSlQtcGVieXpLdkQ5OUxKeC03eGVMVGx6VHpGMUstQjFtUjlWcGF6clJMX0xLYTYtTFlYZ0NFZklLZ0RnRGRWN1pXaw&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fsuccesswithloraine.com%2Fmerch%2F&amp;v=rigqspuuQfE">https://successwithloraine.com/merch/</a> Buy Me A Coffee: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbHd5ZlNJMmN1Ql9OOERMd0E4LVU2YkxtMzNKQXxBQ3Jtc0ttSUN6Q3F3TGVpc3hmdU15dkREWHVIRXh3QjJadWpfSS03bjNxLVV5UkFvRkhaeTZYYk5VOE5NR1pGTjdrNU83M1R6Y0h5MmdWMm5FWjZYS0NPMF9LZUQyLUY5TFh4cWt3UFJGQmFsMl9BWXlpZlRpUQ&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fbuymeacoffee.com%2Fsuccesswithloraine&amp;v=rigqspuuQfE">https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithl...</a> Learn Digital Marketing: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDBhdjhZcDJrR0JPRmRvMElyS2dJZTU1UXBHd3xBQ3Jtc0tuU0RlYzRCdThnUndvX3BYeUZ4N0JsZFBJWXB5NzRtVTlDTnpITThrWE5QaUh2MDNFUmxrOU1xQ2hQNVRMMkJUWDZxeHBqVTRkaVJQYkpDZFZLc3YxMUF4dlB0M0JMQm04LWRtY1pVRDAydy04MDlrYw&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fsuccesswithloraine.com%2Fips%2F&amp;v=rigqspuuQfE">https://successwithloraine.com/ips/</a>

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