Summary:

In this conversation, Shaunti, Jeff, and Chris Legg explore the common reasons couples find themselves at odds, focusing on the differences in communication styles and emotional thresholds. They discuss the importance of understanding translation versus interpretation in relationships, how emotional reactions can vary between partners, and the significance of believing the best in each other's intentions.  

Resources and Links Mentioned:

www.chrismlegg.com

www.alethiacounseling.com

Secrets of Sex and Marriage on Amazon  

Summary:
In this conversation, Shaunti, Jeff, and Chris Legg explore the common reasons couples find themselves at odds, focusing on the differences in communication styles and emotional thresholds. They discuss the importance of understanding translation versus interpretation in relationships, how emotional reactions can vary between partners, and the significance of believing the best in each other's intentions.&nbsp;&nbsp;
Resources and Links Mentioned:
<a href="http://www.chrismlegg.com">www.chrismlegg.com</a>
<a href="http://www.alethiacounseling.com">www.alethiacounseling.com</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">Secrets of Sex and Marriage on Amazon</a> &nbsp;

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Episode 23: Avoid Marriage Frustration with Stronger Interpretation Skills, with Chris Legg

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn unpack one of the most overlooked sources of conflict in marriage: the very different ways men and women process thoughts and emotions. Drawing on two decades of research, they explore why many women experience ongoing “open windows,” lingering worries or mental tabs that are hard to close and why many men may not even realize those windows are still open. 

With practical insight and empathy for both sides, Shaunti and Jeff explain the brain-based and physiological differences that shape how we handle stress and disagreement. Most importantly, they offer simple, powerful ways spouses can respond in moments of tension, turning misunderstanding into connection. If you’ve ever felt like you and your spouse were missing each other emotionally, this conversation will give you fresh clarity and practical tools to build deeper understanding. 

Resources: Gur, R. C., & Gur, R. E. (2017). Complementarity of sex differences in brain and behavior: From laterality to multimodal neuroimaging. Journal of Neuroscience Research, 95(1), 189–199. https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383 

FOR MEN ONLY 

FOR WOMEN ONLY  

 

Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;unpack one of the most overlooked sources of conflict in marriage: the&nbsp;very different&nbsp;ways men and women process thoughts and emotions. Drawing on two decades of research, they explore why many women experience ongoing &ldquo;open windows,&rdquo; lingering worries or mental tabs that are hard to close and why many men may not even realize those windows are still open.&nbsp;
With practical insight and empathy for both sides, Shaunti and Jeff explain the brain-based and physiological differences that shape how we handle stress and disagreement. Most importantly, they offer simple, powerful ways spouses can respond in moments of tension, turning misunderstanding into connection. If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like you and your spouse were missing each other emotionally, this conversation will give you fresh clarity and practical tools to build deeper understanding.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;Gur, R. C., &amp; Gur, R. E. (2017). Complementarity of sex differences in brain and behavior: From laterality to multimodal neuroimaging.&nbsp;Journal of Neuroscience Research, 95(1), 189&ndash;199.&nbsp;<a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383">https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Men-Only-Revised-Updated-Straightforward/dp/1601424450/?tag=shaunticom-20">FOR MEN ONLY&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-About/dp/1601424442/?tag=shaunticom-20">FOR WOMEN ONLY</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
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Navigating the Open Windows of Communication - Episode 36

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/f0ab1379-9cba-43e4-a8fc-b4010144e058/transcript

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What are young couples really wondering about as they step into engagement and marriage?

In this special and deeply personal episode, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with their daughter Morgen and her fiancé Ben—just weeks before their wedding—to talk candidly about readiness, trust, faith, conflict, finances, sex, and what it really means to commit for life.

Drawing from both lived experience and decades of research, this conversation blends heart, humor, and practical wisdom for engaged couples—and for parents walking alongside them.

Resources:

The Secrets of Sex and Marriage

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages

 

Summary:&nbsp;
What are young couples really wondering about as they step into engagement and marriage?
In this special and deeply personal episode, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with their daughter Morgen and her fianc&eacute; Ben&mdash;just weeks before their wedding&mdash;to talk candidly about readiness, trust, faith, conflict, finances, sex, and what it really means to commit for life.
Drawing from both lived experience and decades of research, this conversation blends heart, humor, and practical wisdom for engaged couples&mdash;and for parents walking alongside them.
Resources:
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Surprising-Secrets-Highly-Happy-Marriages/dp/1601421214/?tag=shaunticom-20">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a>
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Being Engaged! A Personal Chat with Our Daughter and Future Son-In-Law

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/08d63092-f5e5-4868-93e1-b3f301068507/transcript

Summary 

In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. 

Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship that’s been deeply wounded. The Raabsmiths offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection. 

You’ll hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope. 

If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue. 

Resources: 

https://raabsmithteam.com/free 

Building True Intimacy 

https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20

Secrets of Sex and Marriage book  

For referral resources: secretsofsexandmarriage.com  

Summary&nbsp;
In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna&nbsp;Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.&nbsp;
Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship&nbsp;that&rsquo;s&nbsp;been deeply wounded. The&nbsp;Raabsmiths&nbsp;offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection.&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll&nbsp;hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope.&nbsp;
If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/free">https://raabsmithteam.com/free</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=building+true+intimacy+dan+drake&amp;crid=42DMYM9AVDF9&amp;sprefix=Building+True%2Caps%2C154&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_2_13">Building True Intimacy</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20">https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>&nbsp;book&nbsp;&nbsp;
For referral resources:&nbsp;<a href="http://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/">secretsofsexandmarriage.com</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;

Episode 34: The Courage to Heal After Betrayal, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith – Part 2

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/5e27a451-e6e6-4c51-aa03-a7370003783c/clips/2029f8c0-0023-458d-80a8-b3e70044ee08/transcript

Episode 23: Avoid Marriage Frustration with Stronger Interpretation Skills, with Chris Legg

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