Summary 

In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. 

Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship that’s been deeply wounded. The Raabsmiths offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection. 

You’ll hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope. 

If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue. 

Resources: 

https://raabsmithteam.com/free 

Building True Intimacy 

https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20

Secrets of Sex and Marriage book  

For referral resources: secretsofsexandmarriage.com  

Summary&nbsp;
In this second part of our powerful two-part series, Shaunti and Jeff&nbsp;Feldhahn&nbsp;continue their heartfelt conversation with Matthew and Joanna&nbsp;Raabsmith, diving even deeper into the healing journey after sexual addiction and betrayal trauma.&nbsp;
Building on the foundation of honesty and vulnerability discussed in Part 1, this episode unpacks what it takes to truly rebuild trust and intimacy in a relationship&nbsp;that&rsquo;s&nbsp;been deeply wounded. The&nbsp;Raabsmiths&nbsp;offer practical, grace-filled guidance for couples, emphasizing the importance of structured healing, safe community, and sustained emotional connection.&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll&nbsp;hear how couples can move forward, not just surviving, but genuinely thriving through intentional steps, compassionate support, and the redemptive work of God. This is a vital conversation for anyone longing to understand the path to restoration and hope.&nbsp;
If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and start there for the full picture of this profound dialogue.&nbsp;
Resources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/free">https://raabsmithteam.com/free</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/s?k=building+true+intimacy+dan+drake&amp;crid=42DMYM9AVDF9&amp;sprefix=Building+True%2Caps%2C154&amp;ref=nb_sb_ss_p13n-expert-pd-ops-ranker_2_13">Building True Intimacy</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20">https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-Connection/dp/B0CHCLTDZJ/?tag=shaunticom-20</a>
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Sex-Marriage-Surprises-Difference/dp/0764239554/?tag=shaunticom-20">Secrets of Sex and Marriage</a>&nbsp;book&nbsp;&nbsp;
For referral resources:&nbsp;<a href="http://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/">secretsofsexandmarriage.com</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

I Wish You Could Hear This

Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You&rsquo;re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They&rsquo;re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

Rebuild Trust and Intimacy After Broken Faith in Marriage, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith – Episode 34

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Boys today are growing up surrounded by confusing messages about masculinity and what it means to be a man. So how can parents help their sons develop a healthy, confident understanding of who God created them to be? 

Shaunti and Jeff talk with Molly DeFrank, mom of six and author of Mothering Boys: 8 Things Your Son Needs to Hear from You Before He Turns 10. Together, they explore the powerful role parents—and especially moms—play in shaping a boy’s identity, character, confidence, and understanding of masculinity. 

You’ll hear practical ways to speak life into your son, recognize the unique strengths God has given him, and help him grow into a godly man of courage and character. 

Boys today are growing up surrounded by confusing messages about masculinity and what it means to be a man. So how can parents help their sons develop a healthy, confident understanding of who God created them to be?&nbsp;
Shaunti and Jeff talk with Molly DeFrank, mom of six and author of&nbsp;Mothering Boys: 8 Things Your Son Needs to Hear from You Before He Turns 10. Together, they explore the powerful&nbsp;role&nbsp;parents&mdash;and especially moms&mdash;play in shaping a boy&rsquo;s identity, character, confidence, and understanding of masculinity.&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll&nbsp;hear practical ways to speak life into your son, recognize the unique strengths God has given him, and help him grow into a godly man of courage and character.&nbsp;

What Your Son Needs to Hear From You, with Molly DeFrank: Episode 47

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Feeling overwhelmed by motherhood? Wondering how to prioritize your faith when you're barely keeping up with everyday life? 

If you've ever ended the day feeling guilty because you didn't have time to read your Bible, pray, or spend quiet time with God, you're not alone. 

In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and Equipping Godly Women founder Brittany Ann to talk honestly about the challenges young Christian moms face. Together, they explore how to grow closer to God without adding more pressure to an already full life. 

Brittany shares her own journey of balancing marriage, motherhood, ministry, and faith, along with practical encouragement for finding God's peace—even in the middle of exhaustion and chaos. 

In This Episode You'll Learn: 
Why so many Christian moms struggle with guilt over their spiritual lives 
How to prioritize your relationship with God when life feels overwhelming 
Practical ways to spend meaningful time with God—even if you only have a few minutes 
The difference between striving for perfection and pursuing faithfulness 
How to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace God's grace 
Encouragement for moms who feel spiritually dry or discouraged 
Simple habits that can help you stay connected to God during busy seasons 

Whether you're raising toddlers, homeschooling, juggling work and family, or simply trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical hope for this season of life. 

Meet Our Guest 

Brittany Ann is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of Equipping Godly Women, a ministry dedicated to encouraging Christian women with practical, biblical wisdom for everyday life. Since launching the ministry in 2014, Brittany has reached millions of women through articles, Bible studies, books, and online resources. She and her husband are raising four children together. 

Resources Mentioned 
Fall in Love with God's Word by Brittany Ann https://a.co/d/000kPB4D 
https://equippinggodlywomen.com/ 

Feeling overwhelmed by motherhood? Wondering how to prioritize your faith when&nbsp;you're&nbsp;barely keeping up with everyday life?&nbsp;
If&nbsp;you've&nbsp;ever ended the day feeling guilty because you&nbsp;didn't&nbsp;have time to read your Bible, pray, or spend quiet time with God,&nbsp;you're&nbsp;not alone.&nbsp;
In this episode of&nbsp;I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and&nbsp;Equipping Godly Women&nbsp;founder&nbsp;Brittany Ann&nbsp;to talk honestly about the challenges young Christian moms face. Together, they explore how to grow closer to God without adding more pressure to an already full life.&nbsp;
Brittany shares her own journey of balancing marriage, motherhood, ministry, and faith, along with practical encouragement for finding God's peace&mdash;even in the middle of exhaustion and chaos.&nbsp;
In This Episode You'll Learn:&nbsp;
<ul>
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</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="2" data-aria-level="1">How to prioritize your relationship with God when life feels overwhelming&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="3" data-aria-level="1">Practical ways to spend meaningful time with God&mdash;even if you only have a few minutes&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="4" data-aria-level="1">The difference between striving for perfection and pursuing faithfulness&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="5" data-aria-level="1">How to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace God's grace&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="6" data-aria-level="1">Encouragement for moms who feel spiritually dry or discouraged&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="1" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="7" data-aria-level="1">Simple habits that can help you stay connected to God during busy seasons&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
Whether&nbsp;you're&nbsp;raising toddlers, homeschooling, juggling&nbsp;work&nbsp;and family, or simply trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical hope for this season of life.&nbsp;
Meet Our Guest&nbsp;
Brittany Ann&nbsp;is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of&nbsp;Equipping Godly Women, a ministry dedicated to encouraging Christian women with practical, biblical wisdom for everyday life. Since launching the ministry in 2014, Brittany has reached millions of women through articles, Bible studies, books, and online resources. She and her husband are raising four children together.&nbsp;
Resources Mentioned&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-setsize="-1" data-leveltext="" data-font="Symbol" data-listid="2" data-list-defn-props="{&quot;335552541&quot;:1,&quot;335559683&quot;:0,&quot;335559684&quot;:-2,&quot;335559685&quot;:720,&quot;335559991&quot;:360,&quot;469769226&quot;:&quot;Symbol&quot;,&quot;469769242&quot;:[8226],&quot;469777803&quot;:&quot;left&quot;,&quot;469777804&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;469777815&quot;:&quot;hybridMultilevel&quot;}" data-aria-posinset="1" data-aria-level="1">Fall in Love with God's Word&nbsp;by Brittany Ann&nbsp;<a href="https://a.co/d/000kPB4D">https://a.co/d/000kPB4D</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<ul>
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</ul>

The Truth Every Overwhelmed Christian Mom Needs to Hear, with Brittany Ann, Episode 46

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Summary: 

Boys and men are struggling—but this isn't a reason to lose hope. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack what's happening in today's culture, why so many boys and young men are falling behind, and the simple, powerful ways each of us can make a difference. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, mentor, teacher, or friend, you'll come away with practical encouragement and renewed hope for the boys and men you love. 

Resources and Links: 

Nancy Pearcy “The Toxic War on Masculinity” 

https://a.co/d/05CJjqrE 

Hannah Rosin, The End of Men essay in The Atlantic 

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/ 

“If We Were Ants” short film 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE 

Pew Research -Public Views on Men and Masculinity 

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/10/17/public-views-on-men-and-masculinity/ 

APA Guidelines on practice with boys and men 

https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf 

Data tables: 

Reading scores of 4th, 8th and 12th grade students – see Figure 5, 6, 7 

https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cnb/reading-performance 

College enrollment of men v women 

https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/pdf/2024/cpb_508c.pdf 

https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d22/tables/dt22_303.10.asp 

Bureau of Labor Statistics about men and women in the workforce: 

https://www.bls.gov/charts/employment-situation/civilian-labor-force-participation-rate.htm 

Mortality data: 

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db456.htm 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE 

Summary: 
Boys and men are struggling&mdash;but this isn't a reason to lose hope. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack what's happening in today's culture, why so many boys and young men are falling behind, and the simple, powerful ways each of us can make a difference. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, mentor, teacher, or friend, you'll come away with practical encouragement and renewed hope for the boys and men you love.&nbsp;
Resources and Links:&nbsp;
Nancy Pearcy &ldquo;The Toxic War on Masculinity&rdquo;&nbsp;
<a href="https://a.co/d/05CJjqrE">https://a.co/d/05CJjqrE</a>&nbsp;
Hannah Rosin, The End of Men essay in The Atlantic&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/">https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/</a>&nbsp;
&ldquo;If We Were Ants&rdquo; short film&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE</a>&nbsp;
Pew Research -Public Views on Men and Masculinity&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/10/17/public-views-on-men-and-masculinity/">https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/10/17/public-views-on-men-and-masculinity/</a>&nbsp;
APA Guidelines on practice with boys and men&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf">https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf</a>&nbsp;
Data tables:&nbsp;
Reading scores of&nbsp;4th, 8th&nbsp;and 12th&nbsp;grade students &ndash; see Figure 5, 6, 7&nbsp;
<a href="https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cnb/reading-performance">https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cnb/reading-performance</a>&nbsp;
College enrollment of men v women&nbsp;
<a href="https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/pdf/2024/cpb_508c.pdf">https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/pdf/2024/cpb_508c.pdf</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d22/tables/dt22_303.10.asp">https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d22/tables/dt22_303.10.asp</a>&nbsp;
Bureau of Labor Statistics about men and women in the workforce:&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.bls.gov/charts/employment-situation/civilian-labor-force-participation-rate.htm">https://www.bls.gov/charts/employment-situation/civilian-labor-force-participation-rate.htm</a>&nbsp;
Mortality data:&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db456.htm">https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db456.htm</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE</a>&nbsp;

What's Happening to Our Boys and How You Can Help, Episode 45 

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Rebuild Trust and Intimacy After Broken Faith in Marriage, with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith – Episode 34

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