This week I’m dipping back into the archives with one of the most relistened episodes of Almost 40: a conversation with my mum. It started as a joke. My podcast manager suggested I ask mum the questions you’d want answered before the end of someone’s life. Mum was 57 at the time of recording! What unfolded surprised me. Mum shares why her proudest achievement isn’t her kids or grandkids, but the sharp left turn she took into a whole new career despite a lifelong fear of exams and a belief that she wasn’t smart enough. We talk about what it was like having two babies by 19, the day I rolled off a hospital bed at twelve weeks old (yes, I’m the fractured skull child), and why “I don’t know how you do it” rarely lands the way people intend.

We also unpack something I can’t stop thinking about: why women call their achievements luck. Mum bought her own home after her divorce and is now mortgage free, and her first instinct was to call herself lucky rather than proud. Becoming a mum myself changed how I see her, and this conversation changed it again.

In this episode:

• The career change my mum made in midlife and the self-doubt she pushed through

 • Being a young mum at 19 and how you cope when there’s no other option

 • Why “I don’t know how you do it” lands differently when you’re in survival mode

 • Luck versus pride: how women talk themselves out of their own achievements

 • The one thing mum would do differently, and what it reveals about parenting, guilt and work ethic

If you love this one, come join me over on Almost Confidential for the more personal episodes.

 

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This week I&rsquo;m dipping back into the archives with one of the most relistened episodes of Almost 40: a conversation with my mum.&nbsp;It started as a joke. My podcast manager suggested I ask mum the questions you&rsquo;d want answered before the end of someone&rsquo;s life. Mum was 57 at the time of recording! What unfolded surprised me. Mum shares why her proudest achievement isn&rsquo;t her kids or grandkids, but the sharp left turn she took into a whole new career despite a lifelong fear of exams and a belief that she wasn&rsquo;t smart enough. We talk about what it was like having two babies by 19, the day I rolled off a hospital bed at twelve weeks old (yes, I&rsquo;m the fractured skull child), and why &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know how you do it&rdquo; rarely lands the way people intend.
We also unpack something I can&rsquo;t stop thinking about: why women call their achievements luck. Mum bought her own home after her divorce and is now mortgage free, and her first instinct was to call herself lucky rather than proud. Becoming a mum myself changed how I see her, and this conversation changed it again.
In this episode:
&bull;&nbsp;The career change my mum made in midlife and the self-doubt she pushed through
 &bull; Being a young mum at 19 and how you cope when there&rsquo;s no other option
 &bull; Why &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know how you do it&rdquo; lands differently when you&rsquo;re in survival mode
 &bull; Luck versus pride: how women talk themselves out of their own achievements
 &bull; The one thing mum would do differently, and what it reveals about parenting, guilt and work ethic
If you love this one, come join me over on Almost Confidential for the more personal episodes.
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Understanding My Mum: What I didn't know

Dr Lara Goode opens up about her recent realisation and diagnosis about of what her psychologist called "severe combined type ADHD" at 35. Lara runs her own allied health clinic, is a Mum of two boys and she’s only now meeting herself for the first time - at 35. 

In this episode, Lara and I unpack what a late ADHD diagnosis actually feels like: the relief, the rage, and the question she now asks herself every day - is this actual Lara, or performing Lara?

We talk about:
Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 35 and grieving the years it was missed
Good girl conditioning, people pleasing and having no boundaries
Masking, mirroring and being a chameleon in relationships
Why anger in women is treated as “unbecoming”, and why our mid-thirties is when the rage shows up
Burnout, high standards and genuinely believing in bandwidth you don’t have
Postnatal anxiety and the undoing that motherhood brings
What Lara would say to her younger self

Whether or not ADHD is part of your story, if you’ve ever felt like you’ve spent your life performing a version of yourself, this one is for you.

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Dr Lara Goode opens up about her recent realisation and diagnosis about of what her psychologist called "severe combined type ADHD" at 35. Lara runs her own allied health clinic, is a Mum of two boys and she&rsquo;s only now meeting herself for the first time - at 35.&nbsp;
In this episode, Lara and I unpack what a late ADHD diagnosis actually feels like: the relief, the rage, and the question she now asks herself every day - is this actual Lara, or performing Lara?
We talk about:
<ul>
<li>Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 35 and grieving the years it was missed</li>
<li>Good girl conditioning, people pleasing and having no boundaries</li>
<li>Masking, mirroring and being a chameleon in relationships</li>
<li>Why anger in women is treated as &ldquo;unbecoming&rdquo;, and why our mid-thirties is when the rage shows up</li>
<li>Burnout, high standards and genuinely believing in bandwidth you don&rsquo;t have</li>
<li>Postnatal anxiety and the undoing that motherhood brings</li>
<li>What Lara would say to her younger self</li>
</ul>
Whether or not ADHD is part of your story, if you&rsquo;ve ever felt like you&rsquo;ve spent your life performing a version of yourself, this one is for you.
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The "Good Girl Undoing" with Dr Lara Goode 

What makes a Miserable Mum? Is it linked to life satisfaction? If you’re feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, carrying the mental load, or struggling to enjoy family life, this episode is for you.

In this episode of Almost Forty, Kylie is joined by Alison from Our Neurodiverse Family for an honest conversation about the recent social media trend surrounding "Things we do because we refuse to be Miserable Mum's". This conversation is all about motherhood, parenting, family systems, resentment, unrealistic expectations and the hidden factors that contribute to mum burnout.

Together they explore why so many women feel exhausted by the pressure of being a “good mum” and why the answer isn’t necessarily becoming a better parent - it’s identifying what actually matters, letting go of what doesn’t, and redesigning the systems that are creating friction in everyday family life.

Topics discussed include:

• The mental load of motherhood

• Family dinners and parenting expectations

• Mum guilt and resentment

• Family systems that reduce overwhelm

• Neurodivergent families and practical supports

• Teaching kids independence and life skills

• Fend For Yourself Dinner (FFYD)

• Letting go of perfectionism

• Finding more joy and life satisfaction as a parent

Whether you’re navigating motherhood, parenting neurodivergent children, feeling overwhelmed by family responsibilities, or simply looking for practical ways to make family life feel easier, this episode is packed with relatable stories, permission slips and actionable ideas.

Follow Alison from Our Neurodiverse Family on Instagram here and remember to dm her the wprd BRAINSTORM to secure one of her FREE limited sessions 

Head over to the Our Neurodiverse Website here for more info 

 

If you enjoyed this episode, you’ll love Almost Confidential-  The subscriber-only podcast featuring bonus episodes, behind-the-scenes conversations, personal reflections and deeper discussions. Follow Kylie On Instagram via Kylie Lately. 

 

 

 

 

What makes a Miserable Mum? Is it linked to life satisfaction? If you&rsquo;re feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, carrying the mental load, or struggling to enjoy family life, this episode is for you.
In this episode of Almost Forty, Kylie is joined by Alison from Our Neurodiverse Family for an honest conversation about the recent social media trend surrounding "Things we do because we refuse to be Miserable Mum's". This conversation is all about motherhood, parenting, family systems, resentment, unrealistic expectations and the hidden factors that contribute to mum burnout.
Together they explore why so many women feel exhausted by the pressure of being a &ldquo;good mum&rdquo; and why the answer isn&rsquo;t necessarily becoming a better parent - it&rsquo;s identifying what actually matters, letting go of what doesn&rsquo;t, and redesigning the systems that are creating friction in everyday family life.
Topics discussed include:
&bull; The mental load of motherhood
&bull; Family dinners and parenting expectations
&bull; Mum guilt and resentment
&bull; Family systems that reduce overwhelm
&bull; Neurodivergent families and practical supports
&bull; Teaching kids independence and life skills
&bull; Fend For Yourself Dinner (FFYD)
&bull; Letting go of perfectionism
&bull; Finding more joy and life satisfaction as a parent
Whether you&rsquo;re navigating motherhood, parenting neurodivergent children, feeling overwhelmed by family responsibilities, or simply looking for practical ways to make family life feel easier, this episode is packed with relatable stories, permission slips and actionable ideas.
Follow Alison from Our Neurodiverse Family on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ourneurodiversefamily_/">here</a> and remember to dm her the wprd BRAINSTORM to secure one of her FREE limited sessions&nbsp;
Head over to the Our Neurodiverse Website <a href="https://www.ourndfamily.com/">here </a>for more info&nbsp;
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The Miserable Mum Episode ; What Matters & What Doesn't 

In this personal solo episode of Almost Forty, I’m taking a moment to reflect on the first six months of the year and unpack some of the changes. This is an honest conversation about where I was in January compared to where I am now, in Mid June.

This episode is also packed with reflective prompts to help you pause, check in with yourself and consider what progress you’ve made, what you’re still carrying, and what you want the second half of the year to look like.

In this episode:
Reflecting on the first six months of the year
Burnout, over-functioning and hypervigilance
Financial goals and taking responsibility for the things that matter
Relationships, self-trust and letting people in
Work, purpose and creating a life that feels more aligned
Why your camera roll can reveal more than you realise
Journal prompts for a mid-year reset and reflection

If you’d like a copy of the journal prompts from this episode, send me a DM on Instagram with the word RESET and I’ll send them through.

If you’re enjoying Almost Forty, make sure you’re following or subscribing so you never miss an episode.

Topics discussed: mid-year reset, personal growth, burnout recovery, self-trust, relationships, journaling, goal setting, reflection, ADHD, mindset, women’s wellbeing, personal development.

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In this personal solo episode of Almost Forty, I&rsquo;m taking a moment to reflect on the first six months of the year and unpack some of the changes. This is an honest conversation about where I was in January compared to where I am now, in Mid June.
This episode is also packed with reflective prompts to help you pause, check in with yourself and consider what progress you&rsquo;ve made, what you&rsquo;re still carrying, and what you want the second half of the year to look like.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Reflecting on the first six months of the year</li>
<li aria-level="1">Burnout, over-functioning and hypervigilance</li>
<li aria-level="1">Financial goals and taking responsibility for the things that matter</li>
<li aria-level="1">Relationships, self-trust and letting people in</li>
<li aria-level="1">Work, purpose and creating a life that feels more aligned</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why your camera roll can reveal more than you realise</li>
<li aria-level="1">Journal prompts for a mid-year reset and reflection</li>
</ul>
If you&rsquo;d like a copy of the journal prompts from this episode, send me a DM on Instagram with the word RESET and I&rsquo;ll send them through.
If you&rsquo;re enjoying Almost Forty, make sure you&rsquo;re following or subscribing so you never miss an episode.
Topics discussed: mid-year reset, personal growth, burnout recovery, self-trust, relationships, journaling, goal setting, reflection, ADHD, mindset, women&rsquo;s wellbeing, personal development.
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January Me Wouldn’t Believe This - The Mid Year Reset

This episode is all about practical, research-backed tips to enhance communication and emotional connection in relationships. Hosted by Kylie, this episode revisits her most listened-to podcast on communication, expanding on key principles for secure interactions. In this ep Kylie covers:
Debunking the "mind reader myth" and the importance of clear communication
Differentiating between facts and feelings to prevent misunderstandings
The significance of regulation and self-awareness in conflict resolution
Managing unmet needs and how to respond when they are ignored
The value of post-conflict debriefs and continuous learning
Maintaining appreciation and affirmation over time
Recognising triggers 

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Listen to the 10 Golden Rules Of Communication Episode here 

 

This episode is all about practical, research-backed tips to enhance communication and emotional connection in relationships. Hosted by Kylie, this episode revisits her most listened-to podcast on communication, expanding on key principles for secure interactions. In this ep Kylie covers:
<ul>
<li>Debunking the "mind reader myth" and the importance of clear communication</li>
<li>Differentiating between facts and feelings to prevent misunderstandings</li>
<li>The significance of regulation and self-awareness in conflict resolution</li>
<li>Managing unmet needs and how to respond when they are ignored</li>
<li>The value of post-conflict debriefs and continuous learning</li>
<li>Maintaining appreciation and affirmation over time</li>
<li>Recognising triggers&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
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The 7 Relationship Rules I'm *trying* to live by 

The Unfiltered Conversation continues- Part 2 with Cassie and Kylie. Part One is Live Now for you. This portion of the chat includes personal questions, reflections, closure and more. 

Cassie is an experienced and degree qualified naturopath and nutritionist, Cassie is passionate about co-creating achievable and sustainable solutions with her clients. Her approach involves combining the latest evidence based research with traditional herbal medicine methods and believes small changes can create a big impact Follow Cassie On IG Here 

Learn More About Cassie Here

The Unfiltered Conversation continues- Part 2 with Cassie and Kylie. Part One is Live Now for you. This portion of the chat includes personal questions, reflections, closure and more.&nbsp;
Cassie is an experienced and degree qualified naturopath and nutritionist, Cassie is passionate about co-creating achievable and sustainable solutions with her clients. Her approach involves combining the latest evidence based research with traditional herbal medicine methods and believes small changes can create a big impact <a href="https://www.instagram.com/cassiedavenport_in/">Follow Cassie On IG Here</a>&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.cassiedavenport.com.au/meet-cassie">Learn More About Cassie Here</a>

Kylie & Cassie ~ Pt 2~ Personal Questions, Closure & Supplements 

This is a must listen episode- for every woman in her 30s and 40s. It is a very real and raw discussion about navigating the transitions in life. Cassie opens up about her own experience in moving through a time in life where she felt disconnected from the reality in front of her- and how she learnt to accept this pivot. Cassie reflects on the most impact and profound ways she learnt to cope, and thrive. It's a vulnerable and real unfiltered exploration of how it feels when life throws a curve ball. It's about mental health, holding it together, acceptance and moving on.  Part two is live now - keep listening.

Cassie Davenport is an experienced and degree qualified naturopath and nutritionist, Cassie is passionate about co-creating achievable and sustainable solutions with her clients. Her approach involves combining the latest evidence based research with traditional herbal medicine methods and believes small changes can create a big impact!

 

Follow Cassie Here and Visit Cassies Website Here 

 You can reach out to book an appointment with Cassie via info@cassiedavenport.com.au

This is a must listen episode- for every woman in her 30s and 40s. It is a very real and raw discussion about navigating the transitions in life. Cassie opens up about her own experience in moving through a time in life where she felt disconnected from the reality in front of her- and how she learnt to accept this pivot. Cassie reflects on the most impact and profound ways she learnt to cope, and thrive. It's a vulnerable and real unfiltered exploration of how it feels when life throws a curve ball. It's about mental health, holding it together, acceptance and moving on. &nbsp;Part two is live now - keep listening.
Cassie Davenport is an&nbsp;experienced and degree qualified naturopath and nutritionist, Cassie is passionate about co-creating achievable and sustainable solutions with her clients. Her approach involves combining the latest evidence based research with traditional herbal medicine methods and believes small changes can create a big impact!
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<a href="https://www.instagram.com/cassiedavenport_in/">Follow Cassie Here </a><a href="https://www.cassiedavenport.com.au/">and Visit Cassies Website Here&nbsp;</a>
&nbsp;You can reach out to book an appointment with Cassie via <a href="mailto:info@mysite.com">info@cassiedavenport.com.au</a>

Kylie & Cassie Unfiltered ~ Holding It Together VS Holding Yourself ~ 

If you ever find yourself wondering is parenting is meant to feel this hard? or is it normal to find family dynamics challenging... This is the episode for you! Alison, founder of Our Neurodiverse Family and AuADHD Coach Family Dynamics Strategist joins me to answer listener submitted questions. We chat about the reality of needing support, the lack of village, the pressure and expectations of parenting. We get into what it means to have a vision for your family in the future but also, right now.  Alison answers questions about sensory seeking behaviour, systems and more. For more helpful guidance -  Follow Alison on IG and explore options to work with Alison here Our ND Family Website

If you ever find yourself wondering is parenting is meant to feel this hard? or is it normal to find family dynamics challenging... This is the episode for you! Alison, founder of Our Neurodiverse Family and AuADHD Coach Family Dynamics Strategist joins me to answer listener submitted questions. We chat about the reality of needing support, the lack of village, the pressure and expectations of parenting. We get into what it means to have a vision for your family in the future but also, right now.&nbsp; Alison answers questions about sensory seeking behaviour, systems and more. For more helpful guidance -&nbsp; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/ourneurodiversefamily_/">Follow Alison on IG </a>and explore options to work with Alison here <a href="https://www.ourndfamily.com/">Our ND Family Website</a>

Is Family Life Supposed To Feel This Hard?!| Q&A With Alison 

This episode is a sneak peek behind the subscriber feed and into the more personal thoughts and moments that don’t make the main podcast. Inside this episode:
a very real pre-teen parenting situation that pushed me to my limit
things I’ve never properly said out loud about parenting solo
a conversation with my son about high school culture, vaping, bullying and consent
the reality of being a Type B / ADHD mum trying to hold life together
the emotional undercurrent behind the polished version of adulthood and more 

To access these subscriber episodes in full and hundreds more- simply click here: Almost Confidential Episodes

This episode is a sneak peek behind the subscriber feed and into the more personal thoughts and moments that don&rsquo;t make the main podcast. Inside this episode:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">a very real pre-teen parenting situation that pushed me to my limit</li>
<li aria-level="1">things I&rsquo;ve never properly said out loud about parenting solo</li>
<li aria-level="1">a conversation with my son about high school culture, vaping, bullying and consent</li>
<li aria-level="1">the reality of being a Type B / ADHD mum trying to hold life together</li>
<li aria-level="1">the emotional undercurrent behind the polished version of adulthood and more&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
To access these subscriber episodes in full and hundreds more- simply click here: <a href="https://apple.co/iam">Almost Confidential Episodes</a>

Almost Confidential: The Parts You Haven’t Heard

Answering questions submitted via Instagram including the things I would never suggest throughout pregnancy, expectations, judgement, parenting tools, relationship questions and more. Remember every week you can access subscriber only episodes via Almost Confidential. Those are the conversations that will never make it to the main feed.  Unlock Almost Confidential

Answering questions submitted via Instagram including the things I would never suggest throughout pregnancy, expectations, judgement, parenting tools, relationship questions and more. Remember every week you can access subscriber only episodes via Almost Confidential. Those are the conversations that will never make it to the main feed. &nbsp;<a href="https://apple.co/iam">Unlock Almost Confidential</a>

Answering Your Questions 🫣...

For the woman who is literally in the middle of it all - she's navigating midlife and the identity shifts that come along with it. Plus the balance of raising kids, health, happiness, neurodivergence and love in all of its forms. From romantic love to friendships, family and career. With honest reflections and thoughtful conversations on love, identity and midlife. Kylie uses her training in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to approach the topics that matter during this stage of life. This podcast was formerly known as Almost Forty. Subscribe to Almost Confidential for access to extra weekly episodes - These are the BTS eps with details that never make it to the main feed. Listen here https://apple.co/iam 

For the woman who is literally in the middle of it all - she's navigating midlife and the identity shifts that come along with it. Plus the balance of raising kids, health, happiness, neurodivergence and love in all of its forms. From romantic love to friendships, family and career. With honest reflections and thoughtful conversations on love, identity and midlife. Kylie uses her training in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to approach the topics that matter during this stage of life. This podcast was formerly known as Almost Forty. Subscribe to Almost Confidential for access to extra weekly episodes - These are the BTS eps with details that never make it to the main feed. Listen here <a href="https://apple.co/iam">https://apple.co/iam</a>&nbsp;

Kylie Lately

I am. with Kylie Lately is the podcast for women who want to know, like, love and value themselves more than ever before.





Through personal reflections, regular overshares and curious conversations with a variety of guests you will finish each episode feeling like you’ve just had a proper soul catch up with your best friend.





We take life lessons and turn them into the fuel that fires your one precious life. 

I am. with Kylie Lately is the podcast for women who want to know, like, love and value themselves more than ever before.
 
 
Through personal reflections, regular overshares and curious conversations with a variety of guests you will finish each episode feeling like you’ve just had a proper soul catch up with your best friend.
 
 
We take life lessons and turn them into the fuel that fires your one precious life.

I am. with Kylie Lately

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