Lyn engages in a thought-provoking discussion with sex educator and relationship coach Mary Whitman Ortiz about the unexpected sexual problems that can arise after marriage. They explore how the transition from the romantic period of dating to the realities of married life can lead to stress and changes in the intimacy experienced between couples plus how to resolve the issues raised.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Couples often experience unexpected changes in their sexual relationship after marriage, moving from a spontaneous romantic phase to a more routine dynamic that can lead to stress and misunderstandings.
• Open and honest communication is crucial for addressing sexual needs and desires. Couples should create a safe space for discussions about sex, ensuring both partners feel heard and respected.
• Men and women may have different sexual desires and ways of expressing intimacy. Understanding and acknowledging these differences can help couples navigate their sexual relationship more effectively.
• Stress from work, health issues, and life stages (like having children or menopause) can impact sexual intimacy. Couples should be proactive in recognising these stressors and discussing how they are affecting their relationship.

BEST MOMENTS

"Stress in different stages... can be work-related, health issues, or childbearing, and it really surprises them. We are forever changing, never staying the same."

"I call it the sexual desire divide, because men and women want sex, experience sex differently... we just assume that our spouse has the same desires."

"You have to dare to love because when you get that vulnerable, you don’t know how your spouse is going to respond."

"Sometimes a partner's words of affirmation might be an actual turn off for you rather than a turn on."

ABOUT THE GUEST
Mary Whitman Ortiz - Sex Educator & Relationship Coach 

Mary Whitman Ortiz, MA, CLC is passionate about empowering healthy sexuality in marriage. As a Christian sex educator, relationship coach, author, and speaker, she helps couples globally and is regularly featured on TV as a relationship expert. She also trains ministry leaders and mental health professionals to facilitate sexual healing and wholeness. 

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/MaryWhitmanOrtiz
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marywhitmanortiz/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/MaryWhitmanOrtiz
Email - hello@marywhitmanoritz.com

ABOUT THE HOST
Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD
lyn@hearts-entwined.com