Lyn welcomes self-love coach Nadja Hagen to discuss the challenges of being a people pleaser and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Nadja shares her personal journey from being a people pleaser to learning how to establish firm but flexible boundaries that create reciprocal happier balanced relationships. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• People pleasing involves accommodating others at the expense of one's own well-being, leading to resentment and unhealthy/ unfulfilling relationships. It's important to recognise that being nice is different from people pleasing.
• Healthy boundaries are balanced and flexible, allowing for both rigidity and adaptability depending on the situation. It's essential to communicate boundaries in a kind and honest manner to create mutual respect.
• Before addressing unacceptable behaviours in relationships, it's crucial to reflect on what is no longer acceptable and articulate desired wants/ outcomes clearly. This self-awareness communicates our boundaries more effectively.
• If verbal communication feels daunting, writing a letter can be an alternative way to express boundaries. This method allows for a calmer exchange and provides a record of the conversation.
• It's important to acknowledge when a relationship is harmful, even if it involves family. You may have to consider keeping someone at arms length or letting go of them completely. It is possible to love someone from a distance whilst prioritising one's own emotional & mental health.

BEST MOMENTS

"People-pleasing is always saying yes, and accommodating other people at the expense of our own well-being."

"When we say yes, when we truly want to say no, then over time resentment builds up."

 "We can learn to set healthy boundaries. We can learn to say no when it's right for us."

"You do not have a relationship with 'potential'. You have a relationship with another human being."

ABOUT THE GUEST - Nadja Hagen - Self-Love Coach 

Nadja Hagen is a Self-Love Coach for high-achieving women recovering from people-pleasing and building a life aligned with their values. She teaches women to set healthy boundaries, prioritize their needs and build mutual, connected relationships without the need to pretend to be someone they are not.

Nadja’s signature process is teaching clarity on personal values, healing emotional wounds and embodying self-love on a practical day-to-day level.

She teaches from authenticity, sharing her knowledge as an ECA accredited Professional Coach & Trainer with more than 10 years of experience in corporate leadership roles. She has graduated from ESCP, one of Europe’s leading business schools, and is trained in systemic work.

As a recovered people-pleaser herself, she has helped hundreds of women to protect their peace through healthy boundaries and create their life intentionally in alignment with their core values.

She lives with her daughter in Germany, on the countryside between Aachen and Cologne.

Website - https://nadjahagen.com/
Email - nadja@nadjahagen.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD
lyn@hearts-entwined.com