What do you do when someone you love is struggling and shutting you out? Amy and Kat respond to a heartfelt email from a college student whose roommate is battling an eating disorder. She’s heartbroken, overwhelmed, and unsure how to support her friend without completely losing herself in the process. Kat shares thoughts on grief, boundaries, and “wise compassion,” while Amy offers relatable encouragement for anyone stuck in the tension between wanting to help and setting boundaries, so you can focus on your own healing. This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt helpless in the face of someone else’s pain.

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // @KatVanburen

What do you do when someone you love is struggling and shutting you out? Amy and Kat respond to a heartfelt email from a college student whose roommate is battling an eating disorder. She&rsquo;s heartbroken, overwhelmed, and unsure how to support her friend without completely losing herself in the process. Kat shares thoughts on grief, boundaries, and &ldquo;wise compassion,&rdquo; while Amy offers relatable encouragement for anyone stuck in the tension between wanting to help and setting boundaries, so you can focus on your own healing. This one&rsquo;s for anyone who&rsquo;s ever felt helpless in the face of someone else&rsquo;s pain.
Email: <a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat 

When Helping Hurts: Supporting a Friend Without Losing Yourself (Couch Talks)

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Kat and Amy go over the Drama Triangle today! Kat helps us unpack the difference between content vs. context (aka fact vs. the story we write about the fact), why our brains default to meaning-making, and how those stories can lift us above the line into possibility…or pull us below the line into fear, lack, and powerlessness.

Kat explains the 3 unconscious roles of the Drama Triangle: Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor + why each one feels rewarding in the moment, and how they keep us trapped in unhealthy communication loops. Both Amy and Kat share some personal stories on the Drama Triangle showing up in their own lives.

They also talk about how quickly we rotate roles and what actually breaks the cycle: noticing your patterns, naming your feelings, setting boundaries, lowering expectations, and taking radical responsibility for yourself.

It’s an eye-opening and immediately practical episode. Plus, Amy brings in the “burnt toast theory” to show how reframing even the smallest moments can be helpful.

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Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Kat and Amy go over the Drama Triangle today! Kat helps us unpack the difference between content vs. context (aka fact vs. the story we write about the fact), why our brains default to meaning-making, and how those stories can lift us above the line into possibility&hellip;or pull us below the line into fear, lack, and powerlessness.
Kat explains the 3 unconscious roles of the Drama Triangle: Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor + why each one feels rewarding in the moment, and how they keep us trapped in unhealthy communication loops. Both Amy and Kat share some personal stories on the Drama Triangle showing up in their own lives.
They also talk about how quickly we rotate roles and what actually breaks the cycle: noticing your patterns, naming your feelings, setting boundaries, lowering expectations, and taking radical responsibility for yourself.
It&rsquo;s an eye-opening and immediately practical episode. Plus, Amy brings in the &ldquo;burnt toast theory&rdquo; to show how reframing even the smallest moments can be helpful.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Understanding the Drama Triangle: Why We Play Victim, Rescuer & Persecutor

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/25039242-a300-40e3-badf-b3ae00b1dd0d/transcript

Amy & Kat take an unexpected stroll down memory lane talking about the D.A.R.E. program from back in the day. Do yall remember that? It definitely kept Kat clean & also had her freaked out anytime her parents would have one drink haha. 

They go over a heartfelt email from Suzanne offering a beautiful picture of the ups and downs that come with big life changes. Through all the emotions (happiness, sadness, fear, and contentment) she reminds us to embrace the chaos of the holidays, fill our cups, and take things one step at a time. A true reminder that life is full of all the feelings, and it's okay to experience them all in a single day.

Also, Amy answers another email from a listener asking about how Ally Fallon fits into the mix because they found her podcast on the feed and they play a voicemail about letting go of the need for others' approval!! 

Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)

Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Amy &amp; Kat take an unexpected stroll down memory lane talking about the D.A.R.E. program from back in the day. Do yall remember that? It definitely kept Kat clean &amp; also had her freaked out anytime her parents would have one drink haha.&nbsp;
They go over a heartfelt email from Suzanne offering a beautiful picture of the ups and downs that come with big life changes. Through all the emotions (happiness, sadness, fear, and contentment) she reminds us to embrace the chaos of the holidays, fill our cups, and take things one step at a time. A true reminder that life is full of all the feelings, and it's okay to experience them all in a single day.
Also, Amy answers another email from a listener asking about how Ally Fallon fits into the mix because they found her podcast on the feed and they play a voicemail about letting go of the need for others' approval!!&nbsp;
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Embracing All of the Feels & Amy’s Cigarette Days (Couch Talks)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/949c965b-bdde-4a1a-b4dc-b3a801818c1e/transcript

Amy and Kat kick off the episode with a feeling that might hit way too close to home: “I think I might need to cry.” Speaking of crying, science says that if you cry easily it might mean your brain is working better than you think. They break down findings on why people who tear up easily have faster processing, and how “emotion labeling” can calm your brain in just 90 seconds.

They also talk about the inconvenient nature of friendships and relationships (including an airport pickup that went sideways with Amy’s boyfriend), what truly makes a bond healthy, and why mutual investment matters more than proximity or shared experiences.

And with Christmas coming up, they close out with a reminder: there are things you absolutely don’t owe your family during the holidays. 

Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)

Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Amy and Kat kick off the episode with a feeling that might hit way too close to home: &ldquo;I think I might need to cry.&rdquo; Speaking of crying, science says that if you cry easily it might mean your brain is working better than you think. They break down findings on why people who tear up easily have faster processing, and how &ldquo;emotion labeling&rdquo; can calm your brain in just 90 seconds.
They also talk about the inconvenient nature of friendships and relationships (including an airport pickup that went sideways with Amy&rsquo;s boyfriend), what truly makes a bond healthy, and why mutual investment matters more than proximity or shared experiences.
And with Christmas coming up, they close out with a reminder: there are things you absolutely don&rsquo;t owe your family during the holidays.&nbsp;
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking&nbsp;<a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

The Inconvenient Truth About Friendship, the 90-Second Emotion Rule & More

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/372cb09f-b950-4459-8b76-b3a70084a985/transcript

When Helping Hurts: Supporting a Friend Without Losing Yourself (Couch Talks)

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