In Part 3 of our Four Horsemen series, we dive into contempt, the most dangerous predictor of relationship breakdown. Kat breaks down what contempt sounds like, why it’s referred to as “relational poison,” and how it impacts both emotional and even physical health. Most importantly, we go over the antidote from Dr. Gottman: building a culture of admiration and respect. Plus, Amy’s Feeling of the Day is sad, but it’s giving her some helpful information about herself and her relationship.

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Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

In Part 3 of our Four Horsemen series, we dive into contempt, the most dangerous predictor of relationship breakdown. Kat breaks down what contempt sounds like, why it&rsquo;s referred to as &ldquo;relational poison,&rdquo; and how it impacts both emotional and even physical health. Most importantly, we go over the antidote from Dr. Gottman: building a culture of admiration and respect. Plus, Amy&rsquo;s Feeling of the Day is sad, but it&rsquo;s giving her some helpful information about herself and her relationship.
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HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

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The Single Biggest Predictor of Divorce (Part 3 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman)

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Do you touch your hair or fidget with your jewelry at work? We're breaking down a communication expert's take on small nervous habits, twirling your hair, fixing your earrings, playing with loud bangles, and why these tiny, seemingly harmless movements can unintentionally read as nervousness or even flirtation to the people around you. 

We talk about the upcoming Verity movie and get into 7 research-backed morning habits that couples who stay in love tend to share, from a 6-second kiss to connecting before checking your phone.

We got a sweet DM from a listener grateful for the show's prep work ahead of Kat's baby, a hilariously dark confession about making a younger sibling cry on purpose as a kid, and a whimsical mental reframe for creating your own "golden ticket" to a great day.

We're also continuing our Hasbro Moment series, this week honoring a school librarian who creates a true sense of community for her students, and celebrating how games like Jenga, Scrabble, and Trivial Pursuit sneak in real learning through play.

Hasbro is sponsoring Feeling Things for 8 weeks, celebrating back to school by getting families around the table with games again.

Even better: they're helping us honor amazing teachers! Know one? Email heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com or call 877-207-2077, they could get featured on the show, plus a $500 Walmart gift card from Hasbro for classroom supplies.

Grab your favorite Hasbro games like Jenga, Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit & more at Walmart.com!

Do you touch your hair or fidget with your jewelry at work? We're breaking down a communication expert's take on small nervous habits, twirling your hair, fixing your earrings, playing with loud bangles, and why these tiny, seemingly harmless movements can unintentionally read as nervousness or even flirtation to the people around you.&nbsp;
We talk about the upcoming Verity movie and get into 7 research-backed morning habits that couples who stay in love tend to share, from a 6-second kiss to connecting before checking your phone.
We got a sweet DM from a listener grateful for the show's prep work ahead of Kat's baby, a hilariously dark confession about making a younger sibling cry on purpose as a kid, and a whimsical mental reframe for creating your own "golden ticket" to a great day.
We're also continuing our Hasbro Moment series, this week honoring a school librarian who creates a true sense of community for her students, and celebrating how games like Jenga, Scrabble, and Trivial Pursuit sneak in real learning through play.
Hasbro is sponsoring Feeling Things for 8 weeks, celebrating back to school by getting families around the table with games again.
Even better: they're helping us honor amazing teachers! Know one? Email heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com or call 877-207-2077, they could get featured on the show, plus a $500 Walmart gift card from Hasbro for classroom supplies.
Grab your favorite Hasbro games like Jenga, Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit &amp; more at <a href="https://www.walmart.com/brand/hasbro/hasbro-games/20073853">Walmart.com</a>!

What Your Fidgeting Says About You + 7 Morning Habits of Happy Couples

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A listener wants to know the difference between relating to someone's story and accidentally one-upping them, where does connection end and competition begin? 

We also tackle a tricky friendship dilemma: a listener whose friend gets loud, aggressive, and mean when she drinks too much on trips, and now keeps inviting herself along to group vacations. 

And finally, we answer a heartfelt letter from a bride whose engagement season has been completely overshadowed, first by a wave of friends getting engaged around the same time, and now by her own dad's upcoming wedding. 

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Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

A listener wants to know the difference between relating to someone's story and accidentally one-upping them, where does connection end and competition begin?&nbsp;
We also tackle a tricky friendship dilemma: a listener whose friend gets loud, aggressive, and mean when she drinks too much on trips, and now keeps inviting herself along to group vacations.&nbsp;
And finally, we answer a heartfelt letter from a bride whose engagement season has been completely overshadowed, first by a wave of friends getting engaged around the same time, and now by her own dad's upcoming wedding.&nbsp;
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Find us on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radioamy">@radioamy</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: <a href="tel:877-207-2077">877-207-2077</a>
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

One-Upping vs. Relating, a Friend Dilemma & a Stolen Spotlight (Couch Talks)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/c389a44a-47d5-4cef-9803-b4b2018a9583/transcript

Amy bought Glen Powell's ketchup on a whim at the store and there’s so much more to this then we realized. We get into his wild journey from a childhood ketchup trauma to co-founding his own organic condiment brand, Smash Kitchen.

Kat unpacks family systems for us and the different roles people tend to fall into growing up, the Hero, the Mascot, the Lost Child, the Placater, and the Scapegoat, and talk through why the "truth teller" of the family so often ends up labeled as the problem.

We also talk about a psychological trick called the Benjamin Franklin Effect, the surprising reason people actually like you more when you ask them for a small favor, not the other way around.

Plus, we share an incredibly touching story from a Hasbro Moment listener whose autistic son found connection and confidence through simple board games like Hi Ho! Cherry-O and Hungry Hungry Hippos, thanks to a teacher who knew exactly what he needed.

Hasbro is sponsoring Feeling Things for 8 weeks, celebrating back to school by getting families around the table with games again.

Even better: they're helping us honor amazing teachers! Know one? Email heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com or call 877-207-2077, they could get featured on the show, plus a $500 Walmart gift card from Hasbro for classroom supplies.

Grab your favorite Hasbro games like Guess Who?, Monopoly, Clue & more at Walmart.com!

 

Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)

Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Find us on TikTok: @radioamy

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Amy bought Glen Powell's ketchup on a whim at the store and there&rsquo;s so much more to this then we realized. We get into his wild journey from a childhood ketchup trauma to co-founding his own organic condiment brand, Smash Kitchen.
Kat unpacks family systems for us and the different roles people tend to fall into growing up, the Hero, the Mascot, the Lost Child, the Placater, and the Scapegoat, and talk through why the "truth teller" of the family so often ends up labeled as the problem.
We also talk about a psychological trick called the Benjamin Franklin Effect, the surprising reason people actually like you more when you ask them for a small favor, not the other way around.
Plus, we share an incredibly touching story from a Hasbro Moment listener whose autistic son found connection and confidence through simple board games like Hi Ho! Cherry-O and Hungry Hungry Hippos, thanks to a teacher who knew exactly what he needed.
Hasbro is sponsoring Feeling Things for 8 weeks, celebrating back to school by getting families around the table with games again.
Even better: they're helping us honor amazing teachers! Know one? Email heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com or call 877-207-2077, they could get featured on the show, plus a $500 Walmart gift card from Hasbro for classroom supplies.
Grab your favorite Hasbro games like Guess Who?, Monopoly, Clue &amp; more at&nbsp;<a href="https://www.walmart.com/brand/hasbro/hasbro-games/20073853">Walmart.com</a>!
&nbsp;
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking&nbsp;<a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Find us on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radioamy">@radioamy</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

How to Get People to Like You More + Why Glen Powell Couldn't Eat Ketchup for Years

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/8d5583d6-0e56-4a33-8f56-b4b10025a7d3/transcript

The Single Biggest Predictor of Divorce (Part 3 of How Relationships Begin to End: The Four Horseman)

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