Why does relaxing feel so hard? Why does sitting on the couch for 20 minutes feel like a moral failure? We break down the guilt of "unfinished" downtime, the pressure to turn every hobby into a side hustle, and why rest isn't something you have to earn. Plus, a listener question on feeling worthy that isn't tied to what you can do for others.

We also share some workout recs that came in for Amy's weightlifting journey, plus a voicemail from a listener who wants Kat to know just how powerful (and even euphoric) an unmedicated birth experience can be, straight from someone who's done it twice.

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Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Why does relaxing feel so hard? Why does sitting on the couch for 20 minutes feel like a moral failure? We break down the guilt of "unfinished" downtime, the pressure to turn every hobby into a side hustle, and why rest isn't something you have to earn. Plus, a listener question on feeling worthy that isn't tied to what you can do for others.
We also share some workout recs that came in for Amy's weightlifting journey, plus a voicemail from a listener who wants Kat to know just how powerful (and even euphoric) an unmedicated birth experience can be, straight from someone who's done it twice.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
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Call and leave a voicemail: <a href="tel:877-207-2077">877-207-2077</a>
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat

The Guilt of Doing Nothing + Is Your Work Ethic Actually a Trauma Response? (Couch Talks)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/b9a77fa3-79a8-4d6b-aca7-b4a1017b309e/transcript

This week we're breaking down a 75-year Harvard study that found the biggest predictor of a successful adult by age 25 wasn't grades, test scores, or extracurriculars, it was whether they did chores starting at age three or four. We get into why that is, plus three rules for making chores actually work in your house (hint: don't pay for them).

We also share an easy first-date hack from Logan Ury (whose new Netflix show, The Later Daters, we mentioned last week): ditch the small talk and jump straight into the middle of a story instead. It works for any nerve-wracking new-people situation, not just dates.

Plus, a simple nightly ritual called C.A.P. (Celebrate, Appreciate, Prioritize) to close out your day, a few decluttering tips for a clearer mind, and some sentences that we can't stop thinking about.

Oh, and we finally watched "A Toxic Love Story" after all our talk about it, and we have thoughts.

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Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Find us on TikTok: @radioamy

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

This week we're breaking down a 75-year Harvard study that found the biggest predictor of a successful adult by age 25 wasn't grades, test scores, or extracurriculars, it was whether they did chores starting at age three or four. We get into why that is, plus three rules for making chores actually work in your house (hint: don't pay for them).
We also share an easy first-date hack from Logan Ury (whose new Netflix show, The Later Daters, we mentioned last week): ditch the small talk and jump straight into the middle of a story instead. It works for any nerve-wracking new-people situation, not just dates.
Plus, a simple nightly ritual called C.A.P. (Celebrate, Appreciate, Prioritize) to close out your day, a few decluttering tips for a clearer mind, and some sentences that we can't stop thinking about.
Oh, and we finally watched "A Toxic Love Story" after all our talk about it, and we have thoughts.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking&nbsp;<a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Find us on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radioamy">@radioamy</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

A Nightcap Ritual That Actually Works + What Makes People Successful

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/36984164-10c4-4502-b2ff-b4a00031d13e/transcript

We're answering a heartbreaking listener question from a woman who survived a severely abusive relationship, one that included manipulation, threats, and abandonment during her pregnancy, and is now trying to figure out how to move forward knowing she may never get justice, accountability, or an apology, especially watching her ex seemingly land on his feet.

Then we shift to a listener wondering if her parents' frequent casino trips have crossed the line from hobby into addiction, and how to bring up the fact that she and her kids would love to see them more, without it turning into a fight.

We also play a voicemail from a listener with nearly 700 skydiving jumps under her belt, trying to convince us to finally give it a shot.

A heads-up: this episode touches on abuse, addiction, and suicide threats. If any of this hits close to home, please take care while listening.

Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)

Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Find us on TikTok: @radioamy

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

We're answering a heartbreaking listener question from a woman who survived a severely abusive relationship, one that included manipulation, threats, and abandonment during her pregnancy, and is now trying to figure out how to move forward knowing she may never get justice, accountability, or an apology, especially watching her ex seemingly land on his feet.
Then we shift to a listener wondering if her parents' frequent casino trips have crossed the line from hobby into addiction, and how to bring up the fact that she and her kids would love to see them more, without it turning into a fight.
We also play a voicemail from a listener with nearly 700 skydiving jumps under her belt, trying to convince us to finally give it a shot.
A heads-up: this episode touches on abuse, addiction, and suicide threats. If any of this hits close to home, please take care while listening.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking&nbsp;<a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Find us on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radioamy">@radioamy</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: <a href="tel:877-207-2077">877-207-2077</a>
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Healing After Abuse + Are My Parents Gambling Addicts? (Couch Talks)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/77003faf-811b-4a39-b8f5-b49e00030c0c/transcript

We break down the idea of an annual "Girls Dinner" (specifically built around the question "What the hell are we doing with our lives?"), where you and your closest friends put your phones away and answer things like what you want more of, what you're tolerating that needs to change, and what you'd go after if you knew every woman in the room had your back.

Then we shift into 6 rules for avoiding cringe behavior, from speakerphone use in public to scrolling through someone's photos without asking.

We also share our feelings of the day and get into whether it's too soon to buy a "Golden Girls" style house with your best friend decades before you're actually that age. We also ask a question that doesn't come up enough: do you ever lie about your occupation? For example, would you lie about being a therapist to a stranger on a plane just to avoid unpacking their childhood trauma on vacation?

 

Oh, and we watched the documentary "A Toxic Love Story" and we have thoughts.

Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)

Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Find us on TikTok: @radioamy

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

We break down the idea of an annual "Girls Dinner" (specifically built around the question "What the hell are we doing with our lives?"), where you and your closest friends put your phones away and answer things like what you want more of, what you're tolerating that needs to change, and what you'd go after if you knew every woman in the room had your back.
Then we shift into 6 rules for avoiding cringe behavior, from speakerphone use in public to scrolling through someone's photos without asking.
We also share our feelings of the day and get into whether it's too soon to buy a "Golden Girls" style house with your best friend decades before you're actually that age. We also ask a question that doesn't come up enough: do you ever lie about your occupation? For example, would you lie about being a therapist to a stranger on a plane just to avoid unpacking their childhood trauma on vacation?
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Oh, and we watched the documentary "A Toxic Love Story" and we have thoughts.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Find us on TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radioamy">@radioamy</a>
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

What The Hell Are We Doing With Our Lives + 6 Rules to Avoid Being Cringe

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/46c8aa19-dcc6-4666-ad4f-b49b0172f6b8/transcript

The Guilt of Doing Nothing + Is Your Work Ethic Actually a Trauma Response? (Couch Talks)

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