Introduction

B&B Timeout on Ghosts in Marriage Past

Spotting Ghosts and Common Triggers

 Insecurity After Divorce

Healing In Layers

Fear Factor And Triggers

Widow Ghost Comparisons

B&B Timeout on Self Control

Closing Remarks

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You’re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated—and sometimes it feels like you’re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar—in the best way.

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You&rsquo;re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated&mdash;and sometimes it feels like you&rsquo;re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the &ldquo;ghosts&rdquo; haunting stepfamilies&mdash;and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you&rsquo;re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar&mdash;in the best way.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoZ3uqAYX8EE5-rlD9PMy1DFnEHBR8Wt7&amp;si=H82pPXF5_cJH-vMg">Watch Women &amp; Blended Families</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">Attend Blended &amp; Blessed for free this year!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/marriage/blended-family/?filters=format[2800]">Get the All- Access didgital pass from previous Blended &amp; Blessed years</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/uDbzKlXcrTA?si=h_5Vi5nyOvLs33Dx">Listen to the podcast with Dr. Juli Slattery</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/the-mindful-marriage/">Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
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FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.

Timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families with Ron Deal, LMFT, LPC.

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Blended family life is messy—old fears, exes, money stress, kid loyalties. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you pull back when you want to lean in.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

Ron Introduces Carol Kent

Carol’s Family Story

Breaking the Regret Loop

Carrying Sorrow & Calendar Triggers

Hope and Gratitude in a Life Sentence

Impossible Relationships & Purposeful Pain

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Mother’s Day can sting when your story didn’t turn out like you planned. Maybe that looks like wayward kids. Courtrooms. Even prison sentences. And silence where relationship used to be. Ron Deal talks with author Carol Kent about loving a son serving life in prison—and finding faith when the worst actually happens. If you’re carrying shame, regret, or heartbreak as a mom or stepmom, this conversation sits with you in it—and refuses to let despair win.

Show Notes and Resources
Use blended resources for free! 
Watch Carol and Gayla talk about how to cultivate a thankful heart in dark seasons on Women & Blended Families 
Learn about Carol and her ministry 
Donate $5.00 or more to help Jason's ministry to other inmates 
Support the work at FamilyLife Blended 
Enroll in the certificate program in Blended Family Ministry 

Mother&rsquo;s Day can sting when your story didn&rsquo;t turn out like you planned. Maybe that looks like wayward kids. Courtrooms. Even prison sentences. And silence where relationship used to be. Ron Deal talks with author Carol Kent about loving a son serving life in prison&mdash;and finding faith when the worst actually happens. If you&rsquo;re carrying shame, regret, or heartbreak as a mom or stepmom, this conversation sits with you in it&mdash;and refuses to let despair win.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/">Use blended resources for free!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EmMXsEmCfhQ&amp;list=PLoZ3uqAYX8EE5-rlD9PMy1DFnEHBR8Wt7&amp;index=5">Watch Carol and Gayla talk about how to cultivate a thankful heart</a> in dark seasons on Women &amp; Blended Families&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://speakupforhope.org/">Learn about Carol and her ministry</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://speakupforhope.org/donate/">Donate $5.00 or more to help Jason's ministry to other inmates</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?cru_source=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Support the work at FamilyLife Blended</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/learn/certificate-in-blended-family-ministry/">Enroll in the certificate program in Blended Family Ministry</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

Mother’s Day can sting when life goes sideways—wayward kids, courtrooms, even prison. Ron Deal talks with Carol Kent about loving a son behind bars and finding faith while living the impossible.

190:  The Mother's Day You Never Wanted: Hope for Hurting Moms and Stepmoms

Ron Introduces Daniel & Brittany Brooker

 Messy Redemption and Eternal Hope

Developmental Grief

Be Present in Pain

Mentors and Practical Wisdom

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Loss shattered you; remarriage after widowhood humbles you amid trauma, blending families, and recurring developmental grief. If comparison, unmet expectations, or past pain threaten your marriage and home, listen in. Daniel and Brittany Brooker (Refuge Widowers) share Scripture-soaked wisdom, practical strategies, and hope to redeem brokenness for God’s glory.

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Loss shattered you; remarriage after widowhood humbles you amid trauma, blending families, and recurring developmental grief. If comparison, unmet expectations, or past pain threaten your marriage and home, listen in. Daniel and Brittany Brooker (Refuge Widowers) share Scripture-soaked wisdom, practical strategies, and hope to redeem brokenness for God&rsquo;s glory.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/">Our events, small groups, and ministry map</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.refugewidowers.com/about">Learn about Daniel's ministry</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.brittanypricebrooker.com/">Learn about Brittany's ministry</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://linktr.ee/familylifeblended">FamilyLife Blended resources</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?cru_source=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Give a gift to FamilyLife Blended ministry</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

Loss shattered you; remarriage after widowhood humbles you amid trauma, blending families, and recurring developmental grief. If comparison, unmet expectations, or past pain threaten your marriage and home, listen in. Daniel and Brittany Brooker (Refuge Widowers) share Scripture-soaked wisdom, practical strategies, and hope to redeem brokenness for God’s glory.

189: Widowhood to Remarriage: Blending Families with Ongoing Grief - Daniel and Brittany Brooker

Ron Introduces Micah Scharchburg

Micah’s Story Growing Up Blended

Caught in the Middle

Church as Stabilizer

Breaking Generational Cycles

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If you were growing up in a blended family, you knew the drill—new houses, new rules, new “normal” every few years. And now you’re the parent, wondering what stuck and what still stings. Ron Deal talks with Barna's Micah Scharchburg about growing up in family chaos—and why your story doesn’t have to define your kids’ future. If you’ve ever asked, “Did that mess me up?” or "Am I messing up my kids?" this conversation meets you right there—and points you forward.

Show Notes and Resources
Get a Blended & Blessed All Access Pass blendedandblessed.com
Blended resources for you 
Learn about Barna 
Ron's speaking schedule RonDeal.org

If you were growing up in a blended family, you knew the drill&mdash;new houses, new rules, new &ldquo;normal&rdquo; every few years. And now you&rsquo;re the parent, wondering what stuck and what still stings. Ron Deal talks with Barna's Micah Scharchburg about growing up in family chaos&mdash;and why your story doesn&rsquo;t have to define your kids&rsquo; future. If you&rsquo;ve ever asked, &ldquo;Did that mess me up?&rdquo; or "Am I messing up my kids?" this conversation meets you right there&mdash;and points you forward.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li>Get a Blended &amp; Blessed All Access Pass <a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">blendedandblessed.com</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/">Blended resources for you</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.barna.com/about/">Learn about Barna</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Ron's speaking schedule <a href="https://rondeal.org/">RonDeal.org</a></li>
</ul>

Grew up in a blended family? New houses, new rules, new “normal” every few years. Ron Deal talks with Barna's Micah Scharchburg about growing up in chaos—and how to parent without passing the past onto your kids.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

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