Introduction

B&B Timeout on Ghosts in Marriage Past

Spotting Ghosts and Common Triggers

 Insecurity After Divorce

Healing In Layers

Fear Factor And Triggers

Widow Ghost Comparisons

B&B Timeout on Self Control

Closing Remarks

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You’re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated—and sometimes it feels like you’re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar—in the best way.

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You&rsquo;re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated&mdash;and sometimes it feels like you&rsquo;re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the &ldquo;ghosts&rdquo; haunting stepfamilies&mdash;and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you&rsquo;re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar&mdash;in the best way.
Show Notes and Resources
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<li><a href="https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoZ3uqAYX8EE5-rlD9PMy1DFnEHBR8Wt7&amp;si=H82pPXF5_cJH-vMg">Watch Women &amp; Blended Families</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">Attend Blended &amp; Blessed for free this year!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/marriage/blended-family/?filters=format[2800]">Get the All- Access didgital pass from previous Blended &amp; Blessed years</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/uDbzKlXcrTA?si=h_5Vi5nyOvLs33Dx">Listen to the podcast with Dr. Juli Slattery</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/the-mindful-marriage/">Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage</a>&nbsp;</li>
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FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.

Timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families with Ron Deal, LMFT, LPC.

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Blended family life is messy—old fears, exes, money stress, kid loyalties. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you pull back when you want to lean in.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

Ron Introduces Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith

Their Betrayal Story

 Healing Past Trauma

Awareness & Confession

Repair After Betrayal

Pornography And Forgiveness

Rebuilding Intimacy Together

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You thought you were rebuilding after sexual betrayal—whether from this marriage or the previous—but something still feels off: Distance. Triggers. Questions you can’t shake. Authors Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith get brutally honest about how betrayal trauma, perhaps from sexual addiction, porn, affairs, or other sources, affects your brain, your body, your marriage...and why quick fixes don’t stick. From their book, Building True Intimacy, Matthew and Joanna map a slower, sturdier path forward when trust feels shattered.

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You thought you were rebuilding after sexual betrayal&mdash;whether from this marriage or the previous&mdash;but something still feels off: Distance. Triggers. Questions you can&rsquo;t shake. Authors Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith get brutally honest about how betrayal trauma, perhaps from sexual addiction, porn, affairs, or other sources, affects your brain, your body, your marriage...and why quick fixes don&rsquo;t stick. From their book, Building True Intimacy, Matthew and Joanna map a slower, sturdier path forward when trust feels shattered.
Show Notes and Resources
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<li>
<a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/">Find a Mindful Marriage event and small group in your state</a>&nbsp;
</li>
<li>
Access blended resources <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/">familylifeblended.com </a>
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/">Learn more about The Raabsmiths&nbsp;</a>
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers">Look through the list of Smart Stepfamily Therapists&nbsp;</a>
</li>
</ul>
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Rebuilding after sexual betrayal but still feel off? Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith explain how betrayal trauma impacts brain, body, and marriage—and why quick fixes fail. A slower, sturdier path builds real intimacy and restored trust.

193: Restoring Trust After Sexual Betrayal

Welcome to the FamilyLife Blended Podcast

Ron Introduces Dr. Jim Burns

Why Adult Kids Stray

Tough Love and Staying Connected

Rebuilding After Estrangement

Circle Of Support

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You raised them right—so why does it feel like you’re losing them? Jim Burns steps into the ache parents don’t say out loud: regret, distance, and the fear you blew it. Drawing from When Your Adult Child Strays, he gets real about what to do when pushing harder only pushes them away—and what actually keeps the door open.

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Learn about Jim, Homeword, and get his book, When Your Adult Child Strays 
Give a tax-deductible gift 
Ron's speaking schedule 

You raised them right&mdash;so why does it feel like you&rsquo;re losing them? Jim Burns steps into the ache parents don&rsquo;t say out loud: regret, distance, and the fear you blew it. Drawing from When Your Adult Child Strays, he gets real about what to do when pushing harder only pushes them away&mdash;and what actually keeps the door open.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li>Email us<a href="mailto:%20blended@familylife.com"> blended@familylife.com</a></li>
<li><a href="https://homeword.com/">Learn about Jim, Homeword, and get his book, When Your Adult Child Strays&nbsp;</a></li>
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<li><a href="https://smartstepfamilies.com/events/find-an-event">Ron's speaking schedule</a>&nbsp;</li>
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You raised them with loving intentions—so why the distance? Jim Burns addresses parents’ regret and fear, sharing what to do when pushing backfires—and how to keep the door open with your adult child.

192: Jim Burns: When Adult Children Stray

Ron Introduces Brian and Debbie Doyle

Widowhood Stories and Grief Support

 Rebuilding Family Roles and Support Teams

Remarriage With Adult Kids

 Grief Pace And Holidays

Mens Ministry And Mentoring

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Father’s Day feels weird, or even stings, when the chair at the table is empty—or when your stepkids pull back because they’re still hurting. Ron Deal talks with the widowed and remarried Brian and Debbie Doyle--about grief, holidays, and blending families with adult children. If you’ve ever worried about stepping in or stepping too hard, this conversation gives you permission to move with patience, empathy, and faith.

Show Notes and Resources
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Iron Sharpens Iron 
Get the Smart Stepdad or The Smart Stepmom 
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List of Smart Stepfamily Therapist Providers 

 

Father&rsquo;s Day feels weird, or even stings, when the chair at the table is empty&mdash;or when your stepkids pull back because they&rsquo;re still hurting. Ron Deal talks with the widowed and remarried Brian and Debbie Doyle--about grief, holidays, and blending families with adult children. If you&rsquo;ve ever worried about stepping in or stepping too hard, this conversation gives you permission to move with patience, empathy, and faith.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/">Free blended resources&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/">Look for a live or virtual small group to join&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://ironsharpensiron.net/aboutironsharpnsiron.html">Iron Sharpens Iron&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/blended/">Get the Smart Stepdad or The Smart Stepmom&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?cru_source=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Give a donation to help strengthen blended families&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers">List of Smart Stepfamily Therapist Providers&nbsp;</a></li>
</ul>
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Father’s Day hits differently when chairs are empty and stepkids keep their distance. Ron Deal talks with Brian and Debbie Doyle about grief, blended families, and moving with patience, not pressure.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

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