Introduction

B&B Timeout on Ghosts in Marriage Past

Spotting Ghosts and Common Triggers

 Insecurity After Divorce

Healing In Layers

Fear Factor And Triggers

Widow Ghost Comparisons

B&B Timeout on Self Control

Closing Remarks

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You’re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated—and sometimes it feels like you’re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar—in the best way.

Show Notes and Resources
Watch Women & Blended Families 
Attend Blended & Blessed for free this year! 
Get the All- Access didgital pass from previous Blended & Blessed years 
Listen to the podcast with Dr. Juli Slattery 
Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage 

 

You&rsquo;re not crazy. Blended family life is complicated&mdash;and sometimes it feels like you&rsquo;re fighting battles that started long before this marriage. Old fears. Ex-spouses. Money tension. Kid loyalty binds. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the &ldquo;ghosts&rdquo; haunting stepfamilies&mdash;and why you lean out when you meant to lean in. If you&rsquo;re tired of walking on eggshells, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar&mdash;in the best way.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoZ3uqAYX8EE5-rlD9PMy1DFnEHBR8Wt7&amp;si=H82pPXF5_cJH-vMg">Watch Women &amp; Blended Families</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">Attend Blended &amp; Blessed for free this year!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product-category/marriage/blended-family/?filters=format[2800]">Get the All- Access didgital pass from previous Blended &amp; Blessed years</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/uDbzKlXcrTA?si=h_5Vi5nyOvLs33Dx">Listen to the podcast with Dr. Juli Slattery</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/the-mindful-marriage/">Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
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FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.

Timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families with Ron Deal, LMFT, LPC.

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Blended family life is messy—old fears, exes, money stress, kid loyalties. Ron Deal and Gayla Grace name the “ghosts” haunting stepfamilies—and why you pull back when you want to lean in.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

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Meet Matt and Kari Perkins, widowed parents who blended a family of seven after deep loss. They know you don’t “get over” loss—you grow with it. Find honest hope for grieving parents and blended families as you form a future without erasing the past.

Show Notes and Resources
Learn more about Matt and Kari, and the Grief to Growth Pathway 
You still have time to register for Blended & Blessed! 
List of Christian Stepfamily Therapists 

Meet Matt and Kari Perkins, widowed parents who blended a family of seven after deep loss. They know you don&rsquo;t &ldquo;get over&rdquo; loss&mdash;you grow with it. Find honest hope for grieving parents and blended families as you form a future without erasing the past.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.grieftogrowth.org/mattandkari-epk">Learn more about Matt and Kari, and the Grief to Growth Pathway</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">You still have time to register for Blended &amp; Blessed!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers">List of Christian Stepfamily Therapists</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

Meet Matt and Kari Perkins, widowed parents who blended a family of seven after deep loss. They know you don’t “get over” loss—you grow with it. Find honest hope for grieving parents and blended families as you form a future without erasing the past.

187: Worship through Grief: Matt and Kari Perkins

Ron Introduces Vaneetha Risner

Grief Community and Triggers

Boundaries After Divorce

Forgiveness Without Reconciliation

 Co-Parenting and Healing Forward

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Vaneetha Risner knows the raw grief of unwanted divorce and betrayal. She gets church shame, lost identity, lingering triggers. Yet God has turned lament into deeper trust. This was never the plan, but it has forged faith. And it offers hope for yours.

Show Notes and Resources
Register for the live Blended & Blessed event in Oklahoma City 
Listen to episode 130: Coping With Traumatic Events
Learn about Vaneetha and get a copy of her book, This Was Never the Plan: Walking with God Through the Heartache of Divorce 
Help us reach more families around the world with a gift of support 

Vaneetha Risner knows the raw grief of unwanted divorce and betrayal. She gets church shame, lost identity, lingering triggers. Yet God has turned lament into deeper trust. This was never the plan, but it has forged faith. And it offers hope for yours.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">Register for the live Blended &amp; Blessed event in Oklahoma City&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/podcast/familylife-blended-podcast/130-coping-with-traumatic-events/">Listen to episode 130: Coping With Traumatic Events</a></li>
<li>Learn about Vaneetha and get a copy of her book, <a href="https://www.vaneetha.com/">This Was Never the Plan: Walking with God Through the Heartache of Divorce&nbsp;</a></li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?cru_source=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Help us reach more families around the world with a gift of support&nbsp;</a></li>
</ul>

Vaneetha Risner knows the raw grief of unwanted divorce and betrayal. She gets church shame, lost identity, lingering triggers. Yet God has turned lament into deeper trust. This was never the plan, but it has forged faith. And it offers hope for yours.

185: This Was Never the Plan: Walking with God through the Heartache of Divorce

When did “family time” become everyone scrolling in separate corners? In this eye-opening episode, Ron Deal and author Arlene Pellicane unpack how to manage screentime—helping parents and grandparents raise screen-wise kids who still look up, laugh, and live offline. Discover why boredom builds brilliance, how to delay devices with grace, and how real connection always outshines the algorithm.

Show Notes and Resources
Reserve your Love Like You Mean It cabin!
Look for a seminar or stepfamily small group in your area
Learn about Arlene and order her book, Screen Kids ArlenePellicane.com
Send a tax-deductible gift
Join us online for Blended & Blessed for FREE!
Watch the film, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words

When did &ldquo;family time&rdquo; become everyone scrolling in separate corners? In this eye-opening episode, Ron Deal and author Arlene Pellicane unpack how to manage screentime&mdash;helping parents and grandparents raise screen-wise kids who still look up, laugh, and live offline. Discover why boredom builds brilliance, how to delay devices with grace, and how real connection always outshines the algorithm.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/">Reserve your Love Like You Mean It cabin!</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/#blendedmap">Look for a seminar or stepfamily small group in your area</a></li>
<li>Learn about Arlene and order her book, Screen Kids <a href="https://arlenepellicane.com/">ArlenePellicane.com</a></li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?cru_source=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Send a tax-deductible gift</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.blendedandblessed.com/">Join us online for Blended &amp; Blessed for FREE!</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/film">Watch the film, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words</a></li>
<li></li>
</ul>

When did “family time” become everyone scrolling in the same room? Ron Deal and Arlene Pellicane reveal how to manage screentime and raise screen-wise kids who look up, laugh, and live offline. Real connection still beats the algorithm every time.

186: Is Fear Running Your Stepfamily? (Here’s How to Spot It)--Gayla Grace

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