Introduction

Ron Introduces Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith

Their Betrayal Story

 Healing Past Trauma

Awareness & Confession

Repair After Betrayal

Pornography And Forgiveness

Rebuilding Intimacy Together

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You thought you were rebuilding after sexual betrayal—whether from this marriage or the previous—but something still feels off: Distance. Triggers. Questions you can’t shake. Authors Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith get brutally honest about how betrayal trauma, perhaps from sexual addiction, porn, affairs, or other sources, affects your brain, your body, your marriage...and why quick fixes don’t stick. From their book, Building True Intimacy, Matthew and Joanna map a slower, sturdier path forward when trust feels shattered.

Show Notes and Resources


Find a Mindful Marriage event and small group in your state 


Access blended resources familylifeblended.com 


Learn more about The Raabsmiths 


Look through the list of Smart Stepfamily Therapists 

You thought you were rebuilding after sexual betrayal&mdash;whether from this marriage or the previous&mdash;but something still feels off: Distance. Triggers. Questions you can&rsquo;t shake. Authors Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith get brutally honest about how betrayal trauma, perhaps from sexual addiction, porn, affairs, or other sources, affects your brain, your body, your marriage...and why quick fixes don&rsquo;t stick. From their book, Building True Intimacy, Matthew and Joanna map a slower, sturdier path forward when trust feels shattered.
Show Notes and Resources
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<a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/">Find a Mindful Marriage event and small group in your state</a>&nbsp;
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Access blended resources <a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/">familylifeblended.com </a>
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<a href="https://raabsmithteam.com/">Learn more about The Raabsmiths&nbsp;</a>
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<a href="https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers">Look through the list of Smart Stepfamily Therapists&nbsp;</a>
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FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.

Timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families with Ron Deal, LMFT, LPC.

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Rebuilding after sexual betrayal but still feel off? Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith explain how betrayal trauma impacts brain, body, and marriage—and why quick fixes fail. A slower, sturdier path builds real intimacy and restored trust.

193: Restoring Trust After Sexual Betrayal

Welcome to the FamilyLife Blended Podcast

The Reality of Blending Families

Her Story of Being Widowed Twice

Kids, Grief, and the Stepdad Role

Responding to Rejection

How Siblings Experience Grief Differently

Adoption and Hope 

Remarriage after the death of a spouse brings hope—but it can also uncover grief you didn't expect. Ministry leaders Rod and Rachel Faulkner Brown share the realities of building a blended family after widowhood, helping children navigate loss, and learning that love doesn't erase pain overnight. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal explores what it really takes to become family again.

Show Notes and Resources
Watch this episode on YouTube 
Learn about Rachel's ministry
Browse free blended resources
Donate to FamilyLife Blended

Remarriage after the death of a spouse brings hope&mdash;but it can also uncover grief you didn't expect. Ministry leaders Rod and Rachel Faulkner Brown share the realities of building a blended family after widowhood, helping children navigate loss, and learning that love doesn't erase pain overnight. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal explores what it really takes to become family again.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/YgWKKtnkYeM">Watch this episode on YouTube</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Learn about <a href="https://www.neveralonewidows.com/">Rachel's ministry</a></li>
<li>Browse <a href="https://familylifeblended.com">free blended resources</a></li>
<li>Donate to <a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?campaign-code=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">FamilyLife Blended</a></li>
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Remarriage after the death of a spouse is more than saying "I do." Rod and Rachel Faulkner Brown join Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended to talk grief and blending a family.

198: Remarriage After the Death of a Spouse: Why It's Harder Than You Think

Ron Introduces Blake Hudspeth

Grief and Forgiveness

Building Safety and Stepparent Wins

Co-Parenting In Crisis

Creating Emotional Safety

Leaning In With Honesty

Church Support For Blended Families

Many kids grieving divorce never have words for what they're carrying. Blake Hudspeth grew up through four different stepfamilies and knows how family change can shape a child's view of love, trust, and belonging. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal talks with Blake about the grief parents often overlook, the questions kids rarely ask out loud, and why feeling "fine" isn't always the whole story.

Show Notes and Resources
Watch this episode on YouTube 
Get a free download for how to build love with your stepchild
Read the article: Bridge Building: Strengthening Relationships with Stepchildren
Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage
Ministering to students tips sheet
Send the Blended team a donation

Many kids grieving divorce never have words for what they're carrying. Blake Hudspeth grew up through four different stepfamilies and knows how family change can shape a child's view of love, trust, and belonging. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal talks with Blake about the grief parents often overlook, the questions kids rarely ask out loud, and why feeling "fine" isn't always the whole story.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/Zpvls2wyeSs">Watch this episode on YouTube</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/content-offers/building-love-with-the-five-ps-of-stepparenting/">Get a free download for how to build love with your stepchild</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/blended-family/stepparents/developing-a-relationship-with-stepchildren/bridge-building-strengthening-relationships-with-stepchildren/">Read the article: Bridge Building: Strengthening Relationships with Stepchildren</a></li>
<li><a href="https://shop.familylife.com/product/the-mindful-marriage/">Get your copy of The Mindful Marriage</a></li>
<li><a href="https://additional-pdfs.s3.amazonaws.com/MinisteringToStudentsInStepfamilies_2020.pdf">Ministering to students tips sheet</a></li>
<li><a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?campaign-code=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">Send the Blended team a donation</a></li>
</ul>

Many kids grieving divorce never have words for what they're carrying. Blake Hudspeth grew up through four different stepfamilies and knows how family change can shape a child's view of love, trust, and belonging. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal talks with Blake about the grief parents often overlook, the questions kids rarely ask out loud, and why feeling "fine" isn't always the whole story.

197: What Kids Grieving Divorce Wish Parents Knew

Welcome to the FLB Podcast

Ron Introduces Montell and Kristin Jordan

Kristin Growing Up Blended

Montell Adoption Story

Debt and Divorce Fallout

Choosing Marriage Stability

Adoption and Trust Tests

From Music to Marriage Ministry

Blended family life can feel like walking into someone else’s story: guarded kids, mixed loyalties, no clear playbook. Montell Jordan—the artist best known for his hit, "This Is How We Do It"—and his wife Kristen join Ron Deal to unpack growing up in the chaos—and what kids wish adults understood but rarely say.

Show Notes and Resources
Learn about Montell and Kristin's ministry
Dozens of free blended resources for you
Find a small group in your area
Reserve your cabin on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise! 
Register to receive your access link to The Smart Stepfamily on Right Now Media 

Blended family life can feel like walking into someone else&rsquo;s story: guarded kids, mixed loyalties, no clear playbook. Montell Jordan&mdash;the artist best known for his hit, "This Is How We Do It"&mdash;and his wife Kristen join Ron Deal to unpack growing up in the chaos&mdash;and what kids wish adults understood but rarely say.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://montellandkristin.com/">Learn about Montell and Kristin's ministry</a></li>
<li><a href="https://familylifeblended.com">Dozens of free blended resources for you</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/find-an-event/">Find a small group in your area</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/">Reserve your cabin on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise!</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/the-smart-stepfamily-ministry/">Register to receive your access link to The Smart Stepfamily on Right Now Media</a>&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

Blended family life can feel like walking into someone else’s story: guarded kids, mixed loyalties, no clear playbook. Montell Jordan—the artist best known for his hit, "This Is How We Do It"—and his wife Kristen join Ron Deal to unpack growing up in the chaos—and what kids wish adults understood but rarely say. 

193: Restoring Trust After Sexual Betrayal

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