Introduction with Ron Deal & Gayla Grace

Ron Introduces Cheryl Shumake

The Phrase “God Hates Divorce”

Malachi 2:16 and What Hate Means

Who Hates Divorce?

Malachi Context Explained

God’s Divorce with Israel

A Better Church Message

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"God hates divorce": you’ve heard it, maybe felt crushed by it. Cheryl Shumake joins Ron Deal and Gayla Grace to pull apart what Malachi 2 really says—and what it doesn’t. If you’ve felt judged, stuck, or sidelined by church talk, this conversation meets you there and pushes toward truth, clarity, and hope without easy answers.

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"God hates divorce": you&rsquo;ve heard it, maybe felt crushed by it. Cheryl Shumake joins Ron Deal and Gayla Grace to pull apart what Malachi 2 really says&mdash;and what it doesn&rsquo;t. If you&rsquo;ve felt judged, stuck, or sidelined by church talk, this conversation meets you there and pushes toward truth, clarity, and hope without easy answers.
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FamilyLife Blended® provides timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families and those who love them. Join Ron L. Deal, LMFT, LPC as he and his guests discuss a wide variety of marriage, family, and relationship topics related to blended families.

Timeless wisdom and practical help and hope for blended families with Ron Deal, LMFT, LPC.

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“God hates divorce”—you’ve heard it, maybe felt crushed. Cheryl Shumake, Ron Deal, and Gayla Grace unpack Malachi 2—what it says and doesn’t—offering clarity, truth, and hope for those feeling judged or stuck.

194: What “God Hates Divorce” Gets Right—and Very Wrong

Welcome to the FLB Podcast

Ron Introduces Dr. Lee Warren

Why Hope Matters

Mind vs Brain and Renewal

Renewing Mind and Trauma

Brain Science and Resonance

Epigenetics and Breaking Cycles

Hope and Next Steps

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Wondering how to rewire your brain after loss, grief, or years of discouragement? Neurosurgeon Dr. Lee Warren joins Ron Deal to explore how hope, biblical truth, and the way you think can reshape your mind—even when blended family life feels overwhelming. On FamilyLife Blended, discover why hopelessness doesn't have to define your future.

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Wondering how to rewire your brain after loss, grief, or years of discouragement? Neurosurgeon Dr. Lee Warren joins Ron Deal to explore how hope, biblical truth, and the way you think can reshape your mind&mdash;even when blended family life feels overwhelming. On FamilyLife Blended, discover why hopelessness doesn't have to define your future.
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<li><a href="https://youtu.be/uVmxHu_yX-8">Watch this episode on YouTube.</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Learn about <a href="https://wleewarrenmd.com/">Dr Warren and grab one of his books</a>.</li>
<li>Find a <a href="https://familylifeblended.com">blended resource that can serve you</a>.</li>
<li>Send a <a href="https://donate.familylife.com/blended/?campaign-code=D000BLENDG&amp;cru_medium=DesktopHeaderNav&amp;cru_campaign=Blended">donation to the blended team</a>.</li>
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Wondering how to rewire your brain? Dr. Lee Warren joins Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended to explore hope, healing, and the power of renewing your mind.

201: How to Rewire Your Brain--When Life Feels Hopeless

Ron Introduces Kim Walker-Smith

Parentified Protector Identity

Abuse Memories & Faith Questions

Stress Coping Patterns

Stepdad’s Steadfast Love

Worship Hopeful Closing 

Childhood-trauma healing doesn't erase the past—but it can change your future. Worship leader Kim Walker-Smith shares how growing up through divorce, multiple stepfathers, abuse, and loss shaped her life, and how one faithful stepdad became a picture of hope. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal explores what healing can look like for anyone carrying wounds from a broken family.

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Childhood-trauma healing doesn't erase the past&mdash;but it can change your future. Worship leader Kim Walker-Smith shares how growing up through divorce, multiple stepfathers, abuse, and loss shaped her life, and how one faithful stepdad became a picture of hope. On FamilyLife Blended, Ron Deal explores what healing can look like for anyone carrying wounds from a broken family.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/MjTFoMAUOYU">Watch this episode on YouTube</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Learn about <a href="https://kimwalkersmith.com/">Kim Walker-Smith</a></li>
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Childhood-trauma healing is possible. Kim Walker-Smith joins Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended to share her journey from family trauma to hope.

200: Childhood-trauma Healing: When One Stepparent Changed Everything

Ron Introduces Michelle Nietert

Calming Kids Big Emotions

Assume the Best

Sibling Rivalry Reset

Transitions Trigger Big Emotions

Powerlessness and Parenting Time

Help Hope and Next Steps

Helping kids with big emotions starts with understanding what's really driving them. Counselor Michelle Nietert joins Ron Deal to unpack why kids in blended families often struggle with grief, overwhelm, and divided loyalties—and how parents can respond without making things worse. On FamilyLife Blended, discover practical ways to become the calm, steady presence your child needs most.

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Watch this episode on YouTube 
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List of Christian Stepfamily Therapists
Give a donation to help strengthen blended families

Helping kids with big emotions starts with understanding what's really driving them. Counselor Michelle Nietert joins Ron Deal to unpack why kids in blended families often struggle with grief, overwhelm, and divided loyalties&mdash;and how parents can respond without making things worse. On FamilyLife Blended, discover practical ways to become the calm, steady presence your child needs most.
Show Notes and Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://youtu.be/dmunMnQHt0o">Watch this episode on YouTube</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li><a href="https://michellenietert.com/">Learn about Michelle Nietert, LPC and get a copy of one of her book</a></li>
<li><a href="httpshttps://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-prohttps://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providersviders://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers">List of Christian Stepfamily Therapists</a></li>
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Helping kids with big emotions isn't about fixing every feeling. Therapist Michelle Nietert joins Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended with practical help for overwhelmed parents.

194: What “God Hates Divorce” Gets Right—and Very Wrong

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