It starts as a joke — “Mummy needs wine!” — but for many parents, that glass at the end of the day becomes more than just a meme. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Dr Justin Coulson talks with author and “Sober Awkward” podcast host Victoria Vanstone about her journey from party girl to sober mum — and how she broke free from the culture that told her alcohol was the answer. This episode will challenge how you see drinking, motherhood, and what self-care really means.

KEY POINTS:

• How alcohol became part of Victoria’s identity — and why it took motherhood to question it
• The emotional and social pressures behind “Mummy Wine Time” culture
• Why drinking in front of kids sends powerful hidden messages
• The quiet shame of “normal” drinking habits — and what to do if you’re starting to question yours
• The rise of “sober curious” parenting and what it looks like in real life

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“It’s not really about alcohol. It’s about who you were before it — and who comes after it.” — Victoria Vanstone

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• A Thousand Wasted Sundays by Victoria Vanstone
• Mumming by Victoria Vanstone
• Podcast: Sober Awkward

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

• Reflect on the messages your kids receive when they see you drinking or joking about it.
• If you’re curious about cutting back, start with a “sober curious” mindset — it’s about questioning, not quitting.
• Talk to your partner or a trusted friend about how alcohol fits (or doesn’t fit) in your family life.
• Explore support options — books, podcasts, therapy, or sober communities — if alcohol feels like it’s taking more than it gives.