If daycare drop-off is causing distress, there are three things you can do to help your little one feel secure and adjust well to the environment.

In this episode:
Jay Belsky research
Structures, transitions, and predictability
Communication
Slowing down
Parent/carer partnerships
Distressed child

Find us on Facebook or TikTok

Email your questions and comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at our website

If daycare drop-off is causing distress, there are three things you can do to help your little one feel secure and adjust well to the environment.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>Jay Belsky research</li>
<li>Structures, <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/articles/when-your-child-refuses-to-get-into-the-car-seat">transitions</a>, and predictability</li>
<li>Communication</li>
<li>Slowing down</li>
<li>Parent/carer partnerships</li>
<li>Distressed child</li>
</ul>
Find us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@happyfamiliesau">TikTok</a>
<ul></ul>
Email your questions and comments to <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>
Find out more about becoming a Happy Families member at <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/membership/parents">our website</a>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#920 Minimising Daycare Dramas

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/6516e425-4ba2-471d-8a57-b10800c0f5ba/transcript

Your child didn’t suddenly become difficult - something deeper is going on.

New research reveals a surprising truth: during adolescence, personality traits actually take a temporary dive. Motivation drops. Emotions spike. Agreeableness disappears. And parents are left wondering… what just happened?

In this episode, we unpack the “adolescent personality dip” - why your teen feels harder to live with, what’s really changing beneath the surface, and the simple shifts that can transform daily conflict into connection.

If you’re raising a teen (or about to), this will change how you see them - and how you show up.

KEY POINTS
Personality traits decline during adolescence - and it’s completely normal
Teens become less motivated, less agreeable, and more emotionally reactive
Girls experience a sharper rise in emotional intensity than boys
Social awareness and peer pressure amplify big reactions
This phase is temporary - but how you respond matters long-term

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Your teenager isn’t broken - their personality is under construction.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Longitudinal study on adolescent personality development (Norway)
The “Big Five” personality traits (OCEAN model)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Step into their world before reacting - perspective changes everything
Replace control with collaboration wherever possible
Acknowledge feelings before correcting behaviour
Explain your reasoning instead of giving blunt instructions
Prioritise patience - more than you think you need

Your child didn&rsquo;t suddenly become difficult - something deeper is going on.
New research reveals a surprising truth: during adolescence, personality traits actually take a temporary dive. Motivation drops. Emotions spike. Agreeableness disappears. And parents are left wondering&hellip; what just happened?
In this episode, we unpack the &ldquo;adolescent personality dip&rdquo; - why your teen feels harder to live with, what&rsquo;s really changing beneath the surface, and the simple shifts that can transform daily conflict into connection.
If you&rsquo;re raising a teen (or about to), this will change how you see them - and how you show up.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Personality traits decline during adolescence - and it&rsquo;s completely normal</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teens become less motivated, less agreeable, and more emotionally reactive</li>
<li aria-level="1">Girls experience a sharper rise in emotional intensity than boys</li>
<li aria-level="1">Social awareness and peer pressure amplify big reactions</li>
<li aria-level="1">This phase is temporary - but how you respond matters long-term</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Your teenager isn&rsquo;t broken - their personality is under construction.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Longitudinal study on adolescent personality development (Norway)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;Big Five&rdquo; personality traits (OCEAN model)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Step into their world before reacting - perspective changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace control with collaboration wherever possible</li>
<li aria-level="1">Acknowledge feelings before correcting behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Explain your reasoning instead of giving blunt instructions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise patience - more than you think you need</li>
</ul>

The Adolescent Personality Dip No One Warns You About 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/e8bd43a6-ca83-417b-83ab-b41f008db96e/transcript

What if your child’s meltdowns aren’t misbehaviour… but a message?

In this powerful conversation, Dr Dusty Hess flips the script on parenting struggles—revealing how sleep, food, stress, and screen time are quietly shaping your child’s emotions, focus, and behaviour.

If you’ve been stuck in a cycle of reacting, correcting, and feeling exhausted… this episode will show you where real change begins.

KEY POINTS
Behaviour is information, not defiance
Sleep deprivation impacts mood, focus, and even metabolism
Food isn’t just fuel—it’s brain chemistry
Chronic stress pushes kids into survival mode (not learning mode)
Screen time is linked to anxiety, aggression, and inattention
“Upstream parenting” focuses on prevention, not reaction
Small, consistent changes can transform your child’s regulation

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Sometimes a child isn’t acting out—their body is crying out.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Upstream Health (Dr Dusty Hess)
Upstream Plus Membership & Magazine

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Prioritise sleep before trying to fix behaviour
Stabilise one daily habit (e.g. breakfast or bedtime)
Reduce overscheduling and protect downtime
Have ongoing conversations about screen use (don’t just restrict it)
Look for the root cause, not just the reaction
Start small—one upstream shift at a time

What if your child&rsquo;s meltdowns aren&rsquo;t misbehaviour&hellip; but a message?
In this powerful conversation, Dr Dusty Hess flips the script on parenting struggles&mdash;revealing how sleep, food, stress, and screen time are quietly shaping your child&rsquo;s emotions, focus, and behaviour.
If you&rsquo;ve been stuck in a cycle of reacting, correcting, and feeling exhausted&hellip; this episode will show you where real change begins.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Behaviour is information, not defiance</li>
<li aria-level="1">Sleep deprivation impacts mood, focus, and even metabolism</li>
<li aria-level="1">Food isn&rsquo;t just fuel&mdash;it&rsquo;s brain chemistry</li>
<li aria-level="1">Chronic stress pushes kids into survival mode (not learning mode)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Screen time is linked to anxiety, aggression, and inattention</li>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;Upstream parenting&rdquo; focuses on prevention, not reaction</li>
<li aria-level="1">Small, consistent changes can transform your child&rsquo;s regulation</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Sometimes a child isn&rsquo;t acting out&mdash;their body is crying out.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Upstream Health (Dr Dusty Hess)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Upstream Plus Membership &amp; Magazine</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise sleep before trying to fix behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Stabilise one daily habit (e.g. breakfast or bedtime)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Reduce overscheduling and protect downtime</li>
<li aria-level="1">Have ongoing conversations about screen use (don&rsquo;t just restrict it)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for the root cause, not just the reaction</li>
<li aria-level="1">Start small&mdash;one upstream shift at a time</li>
</ul>

What Your Child’s Meltdowns Are Really Telling You [with Dr Dusty Hess]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/89cc0925-555c-4aff-b7be-b41f008da12b/transcript

Your child refuses to leave the house… melts down over their hair… or acts defiant when you show up. Is it anxiety, attitude… or something deeper?

In this episode, we unpack what’s really going on when big emotions collide with growing independence - and how to respond in a way that actually helps (not escalates).

If your child suddenly thinks you’re “cringe”… this one’s for you.

KEY POINTS
Big emotions ≠ bad behaviour (and why labels matter)
The hidden link between anxiety, overwhelm, and defiance
The difference between autonomy and “doing whatever they want”
Why kids reject parents in public (and what it really means)
How misaligned parenting can amplify emotional struggles
A simple framework to get on the same page as your partner
The power of collaborative problem-solving (instead of control)

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Autonomy isn’t freedom — it’s helping kids make thoughtful, values-based choices.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The “What’s working / What’s not / What next” parenting check-in
The “Three E’s” collaborative problem-solving approach

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Pause before labelling behaviour — ask: what’s underneath this?
Have a calm check-in with your partner: what’s working, what’s not, what next
Get curious with your child instead of offering solutions
Ask: “Help me understand why this feels hard”
Co-create a plan your child actually agrees with
Find small, respectful ways to stay connected — even when they push you away

Your child refuses to leave the house&hellip; melts down over their hair&hellip; or acts defiant when you show up. Is it anxiety, attitude&hellip; or something deeper?
In this episode, we unpack what&rsquo;s really going on when big emotions collide with growing independence - and how to respond in a way that actually helps (not escalates).
If your child suddenly thinks you&rsquo;re &ldquo;cringe&rdquo;&hellip; this one&rsquo;s for you.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Big emotions &ne; bad behaviour (and why labels matter)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden link between anxiety, overwhelm, and defiance</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between autonomy and &ldquo;doing whatever they want&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why kids reject parents in public (and what it really means)</li>
<li aria-level="1">How misaligned parenting can amplify emotional struggles</li>
<li aria-level="1">A simple framework to get on the same page as your partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of collaborative problem-solving (instead of control)</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Autonomy isn&rsquo;t freedom &mdash; it&rsquo;s helping kids make thoughtful, values-based choices.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;What&rsquo;s working / What&rsquo;s not / What next&rdquo; parenting check-in</li>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;Three E&rsquo;s&rdquo; collaborative problem-solving approach</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Pause before labelling behaviour &mdash; ask: what&rsquo;s underneath this?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Have a calm check-in with your partner: what&rsquo;s working, what&rsquo;s not, what next</li>
<li aria-level="1">Get curious with your child instead of offering solutions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Ask: &ldquo;Help me understand why this feels hard&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Co-create a plan your child actually agrees with</li>
<li aria-level="1">Find small, respectful ways to stay connected &mdash; even when they push you away</li>
</ul>

Big Emotions Parent's Aren't Cool

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/12e46bf7-59c7-408d-a63b-b41f008d8484/transcript

#920 Minimising Daycare Dramas

In 1 playlist(s)

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Social links

Follow podcast

Recent clips