Are smartphones dumbing down relationships and making your marriage miserable? Four easy ways to help parents quit the phubbing and increase relationship satisfaction - without blame or judgement!


"Phubbing" 
'More Scrolling, More Marital Problems' - from the Insitute for Families Studies
'How relationships come to an end and the scourge of the smartphone' - Andrew Sofin
What have phones and screens actually replaced?
The very real impacts of excessive phone usage 
How screentime analysis can be helpful
Boundaries around screens for adults - how and why



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Are smartphones dumbing down relationships and making your marriage miserable? Four easy ways to help parents quit the phubbing and increase relationship satisfaction - without blame or judgement!
 
<ul>
<li>"Phubbing" </li>
<li>'<a href="https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/research/final-2ifstechmarriageresearchbrief.pdf">More Scrolling, More Marital Problems</a>' - from the Insitute for Families Studies</li>
<li>'<a href="https://thewalrus.ca/what-breaks-up-couples/">How relationships come to an end and the scourge of the smartphone</a>' - Andrew Sofin</li>
<li>What have phones and screens actually replaced?</li>
<li>The very real impacts of excessive phone usage </li>
<li>How screentime analysis can be helpful</li>
<li>Boundaries around screens for adults - how and why</li>
</ul>
 
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Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/" data-cke-saved-href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>.
Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au" data-cke-saved-href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#845 Phones, Phubbing & Relationship Satisfaction

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One hilarious family dinner story turned into a powerful reminder of what really matters most.

In this Friday edition of I'll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share the chaos, laughter, and connection that unfolds around their Sunday night family dinners — including the unbelievable lengths one of their daughters went to in order to save money on petrol.

But the episode takes a deeply emotional turn when a listener from the UK shares how the Happy Families Podcast helped her leave an abusive relationship and create safety, stability, and healing for her four children.

This episode is funny, raw, heartbreaking, and deeply hopeful — a reminder that small moments of connection can shape a family forever.

If you've ever wondered whether family traditions really matter, or whether gentle, connected parenting makes a difference, this conversation will stay with you long after it ends.

KEY POINTS
Why simple family traditions create lifelong connection
The hidden power of sharing stories around the dinner table
How emotional safety helps children heal from trauma
The parenting principle that helped one mum escape abuse
Why connection must come before correction
The importance of creating calm, stable spaces for children
How parents can become a “safe base” for their kids
The reminder every parent needs about gratitude and presence

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“They aren’t giving me a hard time. They are having a hard time.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Parenting Revolution by Dr Justin Coulson
Happy Families

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Start one small weekly family tradition and protect it consistently
Create device-free moments where everyone can simply talk and laugh together
Focus on connection before correction when emotions run high
Respond to difficult behaviour with curiosity instead of anger
Remind your children regularly that they are safe, loved, and supported
Look for opportunities to build calm, stability, and trust inside your home

One hilarious family dinner story turned into a powerful reminder of what really matters most.
In this Friday edition of I'll Do Better Tomorrow, Justin and Kylie share the chaos, laughter, and connection that unfolds around their Sunday night family dinners &mdash; including the unbelievable lengths one of their daughters went to in order to save money on petrol.
But the episode takes a deeply emotional turn when a listener from the UK shares how the Happy Families Podcast helped her leave an abusive relationship and create safety, stability, and healing for her four children.
This episode is funny, raw, heartbreaking, and deeply hopeful &mdash; a reminder that small moments of connection can shape a family forever.
If you've ever wondered whether family traditions really matter, or whether gentle, connected parenting makes a difference, this conversation will stay with you long after it ends.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why simple family traditions create lifelong connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden power of sharing stories around the dinner table</li>
<li aria-level="1">How emotional safety helps children heal from trauma</li>
<li aria-level="1">The parenting principle that helped one mum escape abuse</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why connection must come before correction</li>
<li aria-level="1">The importance of creating calm, stable spaces for children</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents can become a &ldquo;safe base&rdquo; for their kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">The reminder every parent needs about gratitude and presence</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;They aren&rsquo;t giving me a hard time. They are having a hard time.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-parenting-revolution">The Parenting Revolution</a> by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au">Happy Families</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Start one small weekly family tradition and protect it consistently</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create device-free moments where everyone can simply talk and laugh together</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on connection before correction when emotions run high</li>
<li aria-level="1">Respond to difficult behaviour with curiosity instead of anger</li>
<li aria-level="1">Remind your children regularly that they are safe, loved, and supported</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for opportunities to build calm, stability, and trust inside your home</li>
</ul>

When Family Chaos Turns Into Connection

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What if the way we talk about “harmful words” is actually making kids more fragile?

In this thought-provoking Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin Coulson and Kylie Coulson unpack brand-new research exploring whether believing words are harmful changes our resilience, mental health, and parenting.

From social media comments to playground insults, this conversation dives into the uncomfortable tension between empathy and emotional toughness — and asks whether protecting kids from hard words might actually leave them less prepared for the real world.

If you’ve ever wondered how to help your child cope with criticism, bullying, or hurtful comments without becoming emotionally overwhelmed, this episode is essential listening.

KEY POINTS
New research reveals a strong link between believing words are harmful and lower emotional resilience
Why empathy and emotional fragility can sometimes go hand-in-hand
How “concept creep” may be expanding what we label as trauma
The hidden danger of teaching kids they’re emotionally breakable
Why resilience starts with helping children interpret words differently
The powerful parenting question: “Would you take advice from that person?”
How parents can validate feelings without reinforcing victimhood
Why difficult conversations may strengthen kids more than shielding them

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The way we perceive words — and the weight we give them — is ultimately ours to decide.”

RESOURCES
The “Words Can Harm Scale” research study by Samuel Pratt, Peyton Jones and colleagues
Watch Your Words [Article]
When Your Child is Bullied: A Calm, Practical Guide for Parents [Article]

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Teach children that feelings matter, but words do not define them
Help kids separate criticism from identity
Encourage resilience by discussing difficult social situations openly
Ask: “Would you go to that person for advice?” before taking their criticism personally
Model emotional regulation when you encounter hurtful comments yourself
Focus on building competence, connection, and autonomy at home

What if the way we talk about &ldquo;harmful words&rdquo; is actually making kids more fragile?
In this thought-provoking Doctor&rsquo;s Desk episode, Justin Coulson and Kylie Coulson unpack brand-new research exploring whether believing words are harmful changes our resilience, mental health, and parenting.
From social media comments to playground insults, this conversation dives into the uncomfortable tension between empathy and emotional toughness &mdash; and asks whether protecting kids from hard words might actually leave them less prepared for the real world.
If you&rsquo;ve ever wondered how to help your child cope with criticism, bullying, or hurtful comments without becoming emotionally overwhelmed, this episode is essential listening.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">New research reveals a strong link between believing words are harmful and lower emotional resilience</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why empathy and emotional fragility can sometimes go hand-in-hand</li>
<li aria-level="1">How &ldquo;concept creep&rdquo; may be expanding what we label as trauma</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden danger of teaching kids they&rsquo;re emotionally breakable</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why resilience starts with helping children interpret words differently</li>
<li aria-level="1">The powerful parenting question: &ldquo;Would you take advice from that person?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents can validate feelings without reinforcing victimhood</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why difficult conversations may strengthen kids more than shielding them</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;The way we perceive words &mdash; and the weight we give them &mdash; is ultimately ours to decide.&rdquo;
RESOURCES
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;Words Can Harm Scale&rdquo; <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886926001492">research study</a> by Samuel Pratt, Peyton Jones and colleagues</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/watch-your-words">Watch Your Words</a> [Article]</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/when-your-child-is-bullied-a-calm-practical-guide-for-parents">When Your Child is Bullied: A Calm, Practical Guide for Parents</a> [Article]</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Teach children that feelings matter, but words do not define them</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help kids separate criticism from identity</li>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage resilience by discussing difficult social situations openly</li>
<li aria-level="1">Ask: &ldquo;Would you go to that person for advice?&rdquo; before taking their criticism personally</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model emotional regulation when you encounter hurtful comments yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on building competence, connection, and autonomy at home</li>
</ul>

Sticks & Stones

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After years of criticism around child safety, Roblox is rolling out major changes designed to better protect kids online — and this podcast has the exclusive Australian interview.

Justin talks directly with Roblox Chief Safety Officer Matt Kaufman about the platform’s new age-based accounts, facial age checks, tighter content moderation, chat restrictions, and updated parental controls.

Can parents finally trust Roblox? What risks still remain? And how involved do parents really need to be?

This conversation unpacks what’s changing, what parents should know, and why online safety can never be fully outsourced to technology alone.

KEY POINTS
Roblox is introducing separate accounts for kids under 9, ages 9–15, and users 16+
Younger users will have heavily restricted chat and content access
Facial age estimation technology will be used to verify ages
Roblox says content moderation now combines AI with human review
Parents will gain more control over chat, content, and account settings
Justin challenges Roblox on past failures and broken trust with families
The biggest safety tool still isn’t technology — it’s parental involvement

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Parents shouldn’t have to be constantly involved. The platforms have a responsibility.”

RESOURCES 
#761 - Game… or Off? Are Video Games Really That Bad?
#1261 - Hooked on Games: How to Help Kids Break Free from Addictive Gaming (feat. Scott Novus, former VP at Disney & gaming expert)
The Screen Smart Series (Webinar)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Review your child’s Roblox settings and parental controls together
Talk regularly about who they’re chatting and gaming with online
Make sure your child’s age is set up correctly on their account
Keep devices in shared family spaces where possible
Treat online safety as an ongoing conversation, not a one-time setup

After years of criticism around child safety, Roblox is rolling out major changes designed to better protect kids online &mdash; and this podcast has the exclusive Australian interview.
Justin talks directly with Roblox Chief Safety Officer Matt Kaufman about the platform&rsquo;s new age-based accounts, facial age checks, tighter content moderation, chat restrictions, and updated parental controls.
Can parents finally trust Roblox? What risks still remain? And how involved do parents really need to be?
This conversation unpacks what&rsquo;s changing, what parents should know, and why online safety can never be fully outsourced to technology alone.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Roblox is introducing separate accounts for kids under 9, ages 9&ndash;15, and users 16+</li>
<li aria-level="1">Younger users will have heavily restricted chat and content access</li>
<li aria-level="1">Facial age estimation technology will be used to verify ages</li>
<li aria-level="1">Roblox says content moderation now combines AI with human review</li>
<li aria-level="1">Parents will gain more control over chat, content, and account settings</li>
<li aria-level="1">Justin challenges Roblox on past failures and broken trust with families</li>
<li aria-level="1">The biggest safety tool still isn&rsquo;t technology &mdash; it&rsquo;s parental involvement</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Parents shouldn&rsquo;t have to be constantly involved. The platforms have a responsibility.&rdquo;
RESOURCES&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/761-game-on-or-off-are-video-games-really-that-bad-2">#761 - Game&hellip; or Off? Are Video Games Really That Bad?</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">#1261 - <a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/1261-hooked-on-games-how-to-help-kids-break-free-from-addictive-gaming-feat-scott-novus-former-vp-at-disney-gaming-expert">Hooked on Games: How to Help Kids Break Free from Addictive Gaming</a> (feat. Scott Novus, former VP at Disney &amp; gaming expert)</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/courses/video-library/lessons/children-discipline/topic/the-screen-smart-series-answers-with-justin">The Screen Smart Series</a> (Webinar)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Review your child&rsquo;s Roblox settings and parental controls together</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk regularly about who they&rsquo;re chatting and gaming with online</li>
<li aria-level="1">Make sure your child&rsquo;s age is set up correctly on their account</li>
<li aria-level="1">Keep devices in shared family spaces where possible</li>
<li aria-level="1">Treat online safety as an ongoing conversation, not a one-time setup</li>
</ul>

Roblox Exclusive with Matt Kaufman

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#845 Phones, Phubbing & Relationship Satisfaction

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