Justin & Kylie discuss Parental Guidance Season Two

Topics included in this episode -
The swing assembly challenge
How every family on Parental Guidance is great while being different
The delivery driver test

Become a member of the Happy Families family

Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

Justin &amp; Kylie discuss Parental Guidance Season Two
Topics included in this episode -
<ul>
<li>The swing assembly challenge</li>
<li>How every family on Parental Guidance is great while being different</li>
<li>The delivery driver test</li>
</ul>
<a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/membership/parents">Become a member of the Happy Families family</a>
Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>
Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#788 Parental Guidance Recap - Swings & Strangers

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/51e024a7-71af-47ac-8dff-b02100d9f05a/transcript

You’re one eye-roll away from losing it.
You’ve called their name four times.
You’re hot, tired, and absolutely done.

And then patience changes everything.

In this Friday episode, Justin and Kylie share two small choices that create big connection: making time for the people marrying into your family, and holding your nerve long enough for your child to come to you.

Because when we slow down, relationships grow.

KEY POINTS
Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.
Time invested now shapes future in-law relationships.
Kids often need space to process before they respond.
Patience prevents power struggles and invites cooperation.
Small messages of love spark big moments of connection.
Even eye-rolling kids still want us in their world.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Patience got us there. When we slow down, relationships grow.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Happy Families memberships & resources
The 7 Day Connection Challenge (Free Happy Families resource)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Give someone your full attention this week. No phone. Just presence.
When you want to react, pause. Let your child process.
Create a short family catch-phrase that reminds your kids who they are.
Send a simple “thinking of you” text when they’re away.

You&rsquo;re one eye-roll away from losing it. You&rsquo;ve called their name four times. You&rsquo;re hot, tired, and absolutely done.
And then patience changes everything.
In this Friday episode, Justin and Kylie share two small choices that create big connection: making time for the people marrying into your family, and holding your nerve long enough for your child to come to you.
Because when we slow down, relationships grow.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Time invested now shapes future in-law relationships.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Kids often need space to process before they respond.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Patience prevents power struggles and invites cooperation.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Small messages of love spark big moments of connection.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Even eye-rolling kids still want us in their world.</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Patience got us there. When we slow down, relationships grow.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Happy Families <a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/membership">memberships</a> &amp; resources</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/miss-connection-7-day-connection-challenge">The 7 Day Connection Challenge</a> (Free Happy Families resource)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Give someone your full attention this week. No phone. Just presence.</li>
<li aria-level="1">When you want to react, pause. Let your child process.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create a short family catch-phrase that reminds your kids who they are.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Send a simple &ldquo;thinking of you&rdquo; text when they&rsquo;re away.</li>
</ul>

I'll Do Better Tomorrow - The Virtue of Patience

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/3eaa82d4-1d39-4c97-a5f1-b3e500b258a0/transcript

We’ve told kids for years that effort changes everything.

But the biggest review of growth mindset research in decades just found the results are tiny… sometimes nothing at all.

So should parents and teachers stop talking about “not yet”?

In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what the science really says, why the data might be missing the magic, and the simple belief that still changes lives for many children.

KEY POINTS
A major new review analysed 24 gold-standard studies on growth mindset interventions.
The strongest research found very small or zero academic improvement.
Real classrooms and real families are far more complex than controlled trials.
No study shows growth mindset causes harm.
Language, belief, and persistence still influence motivation for many kids.
We should be careful about promises — but not abandon hope.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“I don’t want to be the adult who looks at a child and says, ‘You just can’t.’”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Gazmuri, C. (2025). Growth mindset interventions and academic achievement. Review of Education.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Swap limits for possibility: invite effort and exploration.
Focus on helping your child stay in the uncomfortable learning zone.
Offer support after they’ve tried, not before.
Remember: neutral evidence is not negative evidence.

We&rsquo;ve told kids for years that effort changes everything.
But the biggest review of growth mindset research in decades just found the results are tiny&hellip; sometimes nothing at all.
So should parents and teachers stop talking about &ldquo;not yet&rdquo;?
In this Doctor&rsquo;s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie unpack what the science really says, why the data might be missing the magic, and the simple belief that still changes lives for many children.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">A major new review analysed 24 gold-standard studies on growth mindset interventions.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The strongest research found very small or zero academic improvement.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Real classrooms and real families are far more complex than controlled trials.</li>
<li aria-level="1">No study shows growth mindset causes harm.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Language, belief, and persistence still influence motivation for many kids.</li>
<li aria-level="1">We should be careful about promises &mdash; but not abandon hope.</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;I don&rsquo;t want to be the adult who looks at a child and says, &lsquo;You just can&rsquo;t.&rsquo;&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Gazmuri, C. (2025). Growth mindset interventions and academic achievement. Review of Education.</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Swap limits for possibility: invite effort and exploration.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on helping your child stay in the uncomfortable learning zone.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Offer support after they&rsquo;ve tried, not before.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Remember: neutral evidence is not negative evidence.</li>
</ul>

Growth Mindsets & Academic Improvement

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/1c662a2f-9c8b-4ed6-87c2-b3e500b23054/transcript

She loves her parents. She wants to be a good daughter. So why does it feel so heavy?

In this powerful conversation, Dr Allison Alford names the invisible emotional labour millions of women are carrying — and why being a “good daughter” shouldn’t cost you your wellbeing. From eldest daughter syndrome to guilt, boundaries, and burnout, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and lighter.

If you’ve ever felt stretched thin by family expectations, this one is for you.

KEY POINTS
What “daughtering” really is — and why naming it changes everything
Why guilt is a terrible guide for family caregiving
The hidden emotional and mental load daughters carry every day
Why boundaries don’t make you selfish — they make you sustainable
The freedom of being a “B-plus daughter” instead of burning out

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Being good enough isn’t about doing it all. It’s about doing what is sustainable.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Good Daughtering by Dr Allison Alford
Follow Dr Allison Alford: daughtering101.com
Socials: @daughtering101

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Write down the invisible work you do for your family — and count it
Replace “What should I be doing?” with “What’s sustainable right now?”
Aim to be a B-plus daughter, not an exhausted A-plus one
Talk openly about daughtering with friends and family — language brings relief
Let go of guilt as a decision-maker and choose balance instead

She loves her parents. She wants to be a good daughter. So why does it feel so heavy?
In this powerful conversation, Dr Allison Alford names the invisible emotional labour millions of women are carrying &mdash; and why being a &ldquo;good daughter&rdquo; shouldn&rsquo;t cost you your wellbeing. From eldest daughter syndrome to guilt, boundaries, and burnout, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and lighter.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt stretched thin by family expectations, this one is for you.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">What &ldquo;daughtering&rdquo; really is &mdash; and why naming it changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why guilt is a terrible guide for family caregiving</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden emotional and mental load daughters carry every day</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why boundaries don&rsquo;t make you selfish &mdash; they make you sustainable</li>
<li aria-level="1">The freedom of being a &ldquo;B-plus daughter&rdquo; instead of burning out</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Being good enough isn&rsquo;t about doing it all. It&rsquo;s about doing what is sustainable.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.harpercollins.com/products/good-daughtering-allison-m-alford-phd?variant=44326693699618">Good Daughtering</a> by Dr Allison Alford</li>
<li aria-level="1">Follow Dr Allison Alford: <a href="daughtering101.com">daughtering101.com</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Socials: @daughtering101</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Write down the invisible work you do for your family &mdash; and count it</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace &ldquo;What should I be doing?&rdquo; with &ldquo;What&rsquo;s sustainable right now?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Aim to be a B-plus daughter, not an exhausted A-plus one</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk openly about daughtering with friends and family &mdash; language brings relief</li>
<li aria-level="1">Let go of guilt as a decision-maker and choose balance instead</li>
</ul>

Good Daughtering [with Dr Allison Alford]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/d805f508-db5b-40c6-99d6-b3e500b1f6c7/transcript

#788 Parental Guidance Recap - Swings & Strangers

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