Justin & Kylie discuss how to praise a child - and why you shouldn't

Topics included in this episode -
The way we give feedback to our children matters
Why people praise
Attempting to boost our child's self esteem
We praise the kids that we think need it
It feels like it's right to say nice things
The paradoxical effects of praise & criticism on perceived ability
'That's not beautiful, that's incredibly beautiful'
Inflated praise decreases challenge seeking in children with low self esteem
The effects of praise on children's intrinsic motivation 
The right way to praise a child
Ask questions
It takes practice
Say what you see

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Justin &amp; Kylie discuss how to praise a child - and why you shouldn't
Topics included in this episode -
<ul>
<li>The way we give feedback to our children matters</li>
<li>Why people praise</li>
<li>Attempting to boost our child's self esteem</li>
<li>We praise the kids that we think need it</li>
<li>It feels like it's right to say nice things</li>
<li>The paradoxical effects of praise &amp; criticism on perceived ability</li>
<li>'That's not beautiful, that's incredibly beautiful'</li>
<li>Inflated praise decreases challenge seeking in children with low self esteem</li>
<li>The effects of praise on children's intrinsic motivation </li>
<li>The right way to praise a child</li>
<li>Ask questions</li>
<li>It takes practice</li>
<li>Say what you see</li>
</ul>
Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>
Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#773 A Pause on the Praise

If you are struggling to "keep the spark alive" with your loved one, you're not alone. Exhaustion, screen addiction, lack of time, resentment - all these issues (and more!) can lead to zero interest in nurturing intimacy. Today we share some surprising secrets to sustaining a strong sexual connection!

In this episode:
Reasons for having zero interest in intimacy 
Connection and friendship
Prioritising sex
Slowing things down
Female pleasure
Book recommendations 

Links:
Nurturing Intimacy: Secrets to Sustaining Strong Sexual Connection – Happy Families
Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski | The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
She Comes First by Ian Kerner | The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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If you are struggling to "keep the spark alive" with your loved one, you're not alone. Exhaustion, screen addiction, lack of time, resentment - all these issues (and more!) can lead to zero interest in nurturing intimacy. Today we share some surprising secrets to sustaining a strong sexual connection!
In this episode:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Reasons for having zero interest in intimacy </li>
<li aria-level="1">Connection and friendship</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritising sex</li>
<li aria-level="1">Slowing things down</li>
<li aria-level="1">Female pleasure</li>
<li aria-level="1">Book recommendations </li>
</ul>
Links:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/?p=89115">Nurturing Intimacy: Secrets to Sustaining Strong Sexual Connection – Happy Families</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/come-as-you-are-emily-nagoski/book/9781925106596.html?irclickid=R0G3MI2FPxyPTj3yyYxHdyOLUkHWpZ10xU1Lxc0&amp;utm_campaign=Dr%20Justin%20Coulson&amp;utm_medium=affiliate&amp;utm_source=Impact&amp;bk_source=2046498&amp;bk_source_id=2046498&amp;irgwc=1">Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski | The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/she-comes-first-ian-kerner/book/9781788164030.html?irclickid=R0G3MI2FPxyPTj3yyYxHdyOLUkHWpZxoxU1Lxc0&amp;utm_campaign=Dr%20Justin%20Coulson&amp;utm_medium=affiliate&amp;utm_source=Impact&amp;bk_source=2046498&amp;bk_source_id=2046498&amp;irgwc=1">She Comes First by Ian Kerner | The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman</a></li>
</ul>
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#981 Am I The Only One Not Interested in Intimacy?

Justin shares four big ideas based on Jonathan Haidt's new book in the hope that it generates some constructive conversations with your kids at home: the key to building a resilient child, getting comfy with our children experiencing a healthy level of discomfort in life, the impact of social media on the brain development of teens, and looking at problematic use of or addiction to social media.

In this episode:
Healthy/unhealthy childhood stressors
Supportive parenting vs "tough love" or over-protective parenting
Resilience
Anxiety
The cycle of incompetence
Anti-fragility
Impact of social media on teenage brain development
Social media addiction / problematic use

Links:
After Babel | Jon Haidt | Substack
The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt
Honestly with Bari Weiss: Smartphones Rewired Childhood. Here's How to Fix It

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Justin shares four big ideas based on Jonathan Haidt's new book in the hope that it generates some constructive conversations with your kids at home: the key to building a resilient child, getting comfy with our children experiencing a healthy level of discomfort in life, the impact of social media on the brain development of teens, and looking at problematic use of or addiction to social media.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Healthy/unhealthy childhood stressors</li>
<li aria-level="1">Supportive parenting vs "tough love" or over-protective parenting</li>
<li aria-level="1">Resilience</li>
<li aria-level="1">Anxiety</li>
<li aria-level="1">The cycle of incompetence</li>
<li aria-level="1">Anti-fragility</li>
<li aria-level="1">Impact of social media on <a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/the-teenage-brain">teenage brain development</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Social media addiction / problematic use</li>
</ul>
Links:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.afterbabel.com/">After Babel | Jon Haidt | Substack</a></li>
<li><a href="https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/g10OQ2">The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt</a></li>
<li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smartphones-rewired-childhood-heres-how-to-fix-it/id1570872415?i=1000650431219">Honestly with Bari Weiss: Smartphones Rewired Childhood. Here's How to Fix It</a></li>
</ul>
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#980 The Anxious Generation With Jonathan Haidt

A listener wants to know how to help her friend, a single mum to an increasingly difficult 10-year-old boy. Plus, three things you can do to survive your child’s big and embarrassing public meltdown!

In this episode:
Single parenting
Supporting other parents
Aggressive child
Emotional regulation
Psychological help
It takes a village!
2-parent privilege
Travelling with kids
HALTS
How to say no with compassion and kindness

Helpful Links:
Developmental Milestones [Part 4: Middle Childhood]
Can We Please Talk About Boys?
#649 Bringing Up Boys With Dr Arne Rubinstein
The Secret to Regulating Emotions
What is the Best Way to Say ‘No!’ To Your Kids?

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Leave a voice memo here or email your questions/comments to podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

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A listener wants to know how to help her friend, a single mum to an increasingly difficult 10-year-old boy. Plus, three things you can do to survive your child’s big and embarrassing public meltdown!
In this episode:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Single parenting</li>
<li aria-level="1">Supporting other parents</li>
<li aria-level="1">Aggressive child</li>
<li aria-level="1">Emotional regulation</li>
<li aria-level="1">Psychological help</li>
<li aria-level="1">It takes a village!</li>
<li aria-level="1">2-parent privilege</li>
<li aria-level="1">Travelling with kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">HALTS</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to say no with compassion and kindness</li>
</ul>
Helpful Links:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/developmental-milestones-part-4-middle-childhood">Developmental Milestones [Part 4: Middle Childhood]</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/can-we-please-talk-about-boys">Can We Please Talk About Boys?</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/649-bringing-up-boys-with-dr-arne-rubinstein">#649 Bringing Up Boys With Dr Arne Rubinstein</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/the-secret-to-regulating-emotions">The Secret to Regulating Emotions</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/ask-dr-justin-what-is-the-best-way-to-say-no-to-your-kids">What is the Best Way to Say ‘No!’ To Your Kids?</a></li>
</ul>
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