Topics discussed in today's episode:
The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School
CPS model
Inflexibility + inflexibility = Meltdown
Problem solving proactively
The truth about consequences
Punishment vs problem solving
Lives In The Balance

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Topics discussed in today's episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-explosive-child-sixth-edition-ross-w-greene/book/9780063092464.html">The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene</a> an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School</li>
<li>CPS model</li>
<li>Inflexibility + inflexibility = Meltdown</li>
<li>Problem solving proactively</li>
<li>The truth about consequences</li>
<li>Punishment vs problem solving</li>
<li><a href="https://livesinthebalance.org/">Lives In The Balance</a></li>
</ul>
Get in touch with your questions and feedback to <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>
Find out more and register for the <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-raising-resilient-kids-summit">Raising Resilient Kids Summit</a>.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#722 The Truth About Consequences with Dr Ross Greene

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What if the very thing we’re trying to protect our kids from… is the thing they actually need most?

Many parents want their children to feel confident, resilient, and worthy. But in our effort to make life easier for them, we might be accidentally stealing the struggles that build those very traits.

In this powerful conversation, Justin and Kylie explore why doing hard things—not comfortable ones—is the foundation of resilience. They unpack the surprising psychology behind why kids feel empty when life is too easy, and how small daily challenges can help children develop a deep sense of purpose, confidence, and self-worth.

If you want your kids to grow up strong, capable, and emotionally resilient, this episode will change how you think about struggle.

KEY POINTS
Inherently worthy Vs feeling of worth.
Hedonic happiness and eudaimonic happiness.
Resilience grows when children are stretched just beyond their current ability.
When parents step in to fix every problem, we steal the dragons our children need to slay.
Kids are far more willing to struggle when they feel supported and connected.
The most powerful teaching tool? Kids watching their parents do hard things too.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“We grow by being defeated by greater and greater things.” 

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Road to Character – David Brooks
Flow research by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Work of Professor Todd Kashdan on meaning and happiness

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Let your child choose a hard thing – sport, music, art, work, or a personal challenge.
Encourage productive struggle rather than removing every obstacle.
Support without rescuing when problems arise.
Build resilience together – challenges are easier with connection.
Model courage and discipline by tackling hard things yourself.
This week: identify one struggle you’ve been fixing for your child… and step back.

What if the very thing we&rsquo;re trying to protect our kids from&hellip; is the thing they actually need most?
Many parents want their children to feel confident, resilient, and worthy. But in our effort to make life easier for them, we might be accidentally stealing the struggles that build those very traits.
In this powerful conversation, Justin and Kylie explore why doing hard things&mdash;not comfortable ones&mdash;is the foundation of resilience. They unpack the surprising psychology behind why kids feel empty when life is too easy, and how small daily challenges can help children develop a deep sense of purpose, confidence, and self-worth.
If you want your kids to grow up strong, capable, and emotionally resilient, this episode will change how you think about struggle.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Inherently worthy Vs&nbsp;feeling of worth.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Hedonic happiness and eudaimonic happiness.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Resilience grows when children are&nbsp;stretched just beyond their current ability.</li>
<li aria-level="1">When parents step in to fix every problem, we&nbsp;steal the dragons our children need to slay.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Kids are far more willing to struggle when they feel&nbsp;supported and connected.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The most powerful teaching tool?&nbsp;Kids watching their parents do hard things too.</li>
<ul></ul>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;We grow by being defeated by greater and greater things.&rdquo;&nbsp;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.penguin.com.au/books/the-road-to-character-9780141980362">The Road to Character</a> &ndash; David Brooks</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/flow-theory">Flow research</a> by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://toddkashdan.substack.com/p/people-confuse-purpose-and-happiness">Work of Professor Todd Kashdan</a> on meaning and happiness</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">Let your child choose a hard thing &ndash; sport, music, art, work, or a personal challenge.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage productive struggle rather than removing every obstacle.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Support without rescuing when problems arise.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build resilience together &ndash; challenges are easier with connection.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model courage and discipline by tackling hard things yourself.</li>
<li aria-level="1">This week:&nbsp;identify one struggle you&rsquo;ve been fixing for your child&hellip; and step back.</li>
</ol>

Does Your Child Feel Worthy?

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One quiet car ride. One tired teenager. One frustrated parent. And one powerful reminder about what parenting really asks of us.

In this reflective Friday episode, Justin shares a moment he’s not proud of—sitting in traffic after a 4am stable shift pickup, feeling resentful about the time lost and the lack of a simple “thank you.” But the experience reveals something deeper about the true nature of parenting.

Because parenting isn’t a fair exchange. You will give more than you ever get back.

But over time, something extraordinary happens. The small sacrifices—rides, meals, conversations, traditions—compound into something far richer than gratitude.

Justin and Kylie explore why parenting requires so much giving, how resentment quietly steals joy, and why simple rituals like family dinners may be one of the most powerful investments a parent can make.

KEY POINTS
Parenting is fundamentally unequal—you will always give more than you receive.
Expecting repayment from children often leads to resentment.
Small daily sacrifices are part of “giving your life” as a parent.
The payoff in parenting often arrives decades later, not in the moment.
Family rituals—especially shared meals and conversations—create powerful long-term connection.
The compound effect of consistent family time builds belonging, gratitude, and joy.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
 “Parenting means you will give more than you will ever get back. But if you stay the course long enough, the return becomes incredibly rich.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Happy Families Parenting ADHD Course

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Accept the reality: Parenting isn’t transactional—release the expectation of equal return.
Watch resentment: When frustration creeps in, remember the bigger picture.
Protect family rituals: Regular meals or weekly gatherings build connection over time.
Play the long game: The payoff for parenting effort often appears years later.
Look for small joy: The conversations, stories, and laughter along the way are part of the reward.

One quiet car ride. One tired teenager. One frustrated parent. And one powerful reminder about what parenting really asks of us.
In this reflective Friday episode, Justin shares a moment he&rsquo;s not proud of&mdash;sitting in traffic after a 4am stable shift pickup, feeling resentful about the time lost and the lack of a simple &ldquo;thank you.&rdquo; But the experience reveals something deeper about the true nature of parenting.
Because parenting isn&rsquo;t a fair exchange. You will give more than you ever get back.
But over time, something extraordinary happens. The small sacrifices&mdash;rides, meals, conversations, traditions&mdash;compound into something far richer than gratitude.
Justin and Kylie explore why parenting requires so much giving, how resentment quietly steals joy, and why simple rituals like family dinners may be one of the most powerful investments a parent can make.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Parenting is fundamentally unequal&mdash;you will always give more than you receive.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Expecting repayment from children often leads to resentment.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Small daily sacrifices are part of &ldquo;giving your life&rdquo; as a parent.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The payoff in parenting often arrives decades later, not in the moment.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Family rituals&mdash;especially shared meals and conversations&mdash;create powerful long-term connection.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The compound effect of consistent family time builds belonging, gratitude, and joy.</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE &ldquo;Parenting means you will give more than you will ever get back. But if you stay the course long enough, the return becomes incredibly rich.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Happy Families <a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/parenting-adhd-the-course">Parenting ADHD Course</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Accept the reality: Parenting isn&rsquo;t transactional&mdash;release the expectation of equal return.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Watch resentment: When frustration creeps in, remember the bigger picture.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Protect family rituals: Regular meals or weekly gatherings build connection over time.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Play the long game: The payoff for parenting effort often appears years later.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for small joy: The conversations, stories, and laughter along the way are part of the reward.</li>
</ul>

You’ll Give More Than You Ever Get as a Parent

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/b20fb7bf-f050-4cc7-b0d6-b40100af4579/transcript

When Kylie hit perimenopause, her body stopped responding the way it used to.

The weight kept climbing. Energy disappeared. And after years of trying everything, she started seriously considering surgery, injections, and other extreme options.

Then something unexpected happened.

In just 10 weeks, without surgery or drastic diets, she began reversing years of frustration - and the results shocked even her.

In this deeply personal episode, Justin and Kylie pull back the curtain on Kylie’s health reset: the frustration, the turning point, and the simple habits that are finally working after decades of struggle.

If you’ve ever felt like your body is working against you, this conversation will feel both honest and hopeful.

KEY POINTS
Why perimenopause can make weight loss feel impossible
The moment Kylie seriously considered surgery and medical interventions
The surprising habit that changed everything: drinking more water
Why “the scale” can be the worst measurement of progress
The power of doing hard things with someone else
Why most short-term fitness challenges fail
How small consistent habits beat extreme solutions every time

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
 Build knowledge. Understand how your body works—especially during hormonal changes.
 Choose movement you enjoy. If you hate it, you won’t stick with it.
 Do it with someone. Consistency is easier when commitment is shared.
 Track progress beyond the scale. Photos and measurements tell a more accurate story.
Focus on consistency, not intensity. Long-term adherence beats short-term extremes.

When Kylie hit perimenopause, her body stopped responding the way it used to.
The weight kept climbing. Energy disappeared. And after years of trying everything, she started seriously considering surgery, injections, and other extreme options.
Then something unexpected happened.
In just 10 weeks, without surgery or drastic diets, she began reversing years of frustration - and the results shocked even her.
In this deeply personal episode, Justin and Kylie pull back the curtain on Kylie&rsquo;s health reset: the frustration, the turning point, and the simple habits that are finally working after decades of struggle.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like your body is working against you, this conversation will feel both honest and hopeful.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why perimenopause can make weight loss feel impossible</li>
<li aria-level="1">The moment Kylie seriously considered surgery and medical interventions</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising habit that changed everything: drinking more water</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;the scale&rdquo; can be the worst measurement of progress</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of doing hard things with someone else</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why most short-term fitness challenges fail</li>
<li aria-level="1">How small consistent habits beat extreme solutions every time</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li> Build knowledge. Understand how your body works&mdash;especially during hormonal changes.</li>
<li> Choose movement you enjoy. If you hate it, you won&rsquo;t stick with it.</li>
<li> Do it with someone. Consistency is easier when commitment is shared.</li>
<li> Track progress beyond the scale. Photos and measurements tell a more accurate story.</li>
<li>Focus on consistency, not intensity.&nbsp;Long-term adherence beats short-term extremes.</li>
</ol>

Training for Old Age

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