Justin & Kylie answer a listener's question about reasonable expections for kids & chores

Topics included in this episode -
Kylie shares her experience of being pregnant & family life continuing 
Justin shares a sneak peek of his new book 
Force creates resistance 
What are the developmental realities?
Involvement
Competence 
Hunt, Gather, Parent
Autonomy
It's a long game

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Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

Justin &amp; Kylie answer a listener's question about reasonable expections for kids &amp; chores
Topics included in this episode -
<ul>
<li>Kylie shares her experience of being pregnant &amp; family life continuing <a href="https://www.facebook.com/shentoncollege/posts/pfbid02tJRK2Uo5Y6LhaX82dppnPj4ZR6XZVJxjoWjr6gAtFeFA9v5Z5FZ6qt1uH1bMQRRFl"></a></li>
<li>Justin shares a sneak peek of his new book </li>
<li>Force creates resistance </li>
<li>What are the developmental realities?</li>
<li>Involvement</li>
<li>Competence </li>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/hunt-gather-parent-michaeleen-doucleff/book/9780008406912.html?source=pla&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQiArsefBhCbARIsAP98hXTMoVHqh-HdMGvI6CmTb99HN-TgRGiAMfTBcPsaHmidd_YWtpYFsMAaAtfjEALw_wcB">Hunt, Gather, Parent</a> </li>
<li>Autonomy</li>
<li>It's a long game</li>
</ul>
Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>
Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#705 3 Secrets to a More Helpful Child at Home

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He’s snapping, shutting down, or pulling away… but what if it’s not anger at all?

In this powerful conversation, psychologist Craig Russouw unpacks what’s really going on beneath the surface for so many men and boys — and why most never ask for help until it’s too late.

From hidden signs of depression to the quiet crisis facing Aussie men, this episode will shift how you see behaviour, masculinity, and mental health — and give you practical ways to support the men and boys in your life.

KEY POINTS
Why men’s mental health struggles often show up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal
The alarming gap between men experiencing issues and those actually seeking help
How outdated ideas of masculinity keep men silent
What “mental health literacy” is — and why many men don’t have it
The concept of “mental maintenance” (and why prevention matters more than crisis care)
Simple, practical habits that protect mental wellbeing
Why connection for men often looks different — and how to support it

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Anger is often just the surface. Underneath, there’s anxiety, sadness, or something much deeper.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Mental Maintenance Manual (free guide for men’s mental health)
Someone Health (telehealth psychology service across Australia)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Look beyond behaviour — ask what might be underneath anger or withdrawal
Normalise conversations about emotions early, especially with boys
Encourage regular “mental maintenance,” not just crisis support
Help boys identify feelings (not just react to them)
Prioritise sleep, connection, and enjoyable activities as non-negotiables
Model vulnerability — show that talking is strength, not weakness

He&rsquo;s snapping, shutting down, or pulling away&hellip; but what if it&rsquo;s not anger at all?
In this powerful conversation, psychologist Craig Russouw unpacks what&rsquo;s really going on beneath the surface for so many men and boys &mdash; and why most never ask for help until it&rsquo;s too late.
From hidden signs of depression to the quiet crisis facing Aussie men, this episode will shift how you see behaviour, masculinity, and mental health &mdash; and give you practical ways to support the men and boys in your life.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why men&rsquo;s mental health struggles often show up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal</li>
<li aria-level="1">The alarming gap between men experiencing issues and those actually seeking help</li>
<li aria-level="1">How outdated ideas of masculinity keep men silent</li>
<li aria-level="1">What &ldquo;mental health literacy&rdquo; is &mdash; and why many men don&rsquo;t have it</li>
<li aria-level="1">The concept of &ldquo;mental maintenance&rdquo; (and why prevention matters more than crisis care)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Simple, practical habits that protect mental wellbeing</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why connection for men often looks different &mdash; and how to support it</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Anger is often just the surface. Underneath, there&rsquo;s anxiety, sadness, or something much deeper.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Mental Maintenance Manual (free guide for men&rsquo;s mental health)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Someone Health (telehealth psychology service across Australia)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Look beyond behaviour &mdash; ask what might be underneath anger or withdrawal</li>
<li aria-level="1">Normalise conversations about emotions early, especially with boys</li>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage regular &ldquo;mental maintenance,&rdquo; not just crisis support</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help boys identify feelings (not just react to them)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise sleep, connection, and enjoyable activities as non-negotiables</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model vulnerability &mdash; show that talking is strength, not weakness</li>
</ul>

The Truth About Men, Emotions, and Silence (with Craig Russouw)

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What if the nightly homework battle… isn’t worth fighting?

In this episode, we unpack a surprising truth about primary school homework that challenges everything parents have been told. Plus, breaking global news reveals a major court ruling against social media giants, and why it should completely change how we think about screens at home.

If you’re exhausted by homework resistance or worried about screen time, this episode will shift your perspective fast.

KEY POINTS
Why primary school homework often does more harm than good
The real reason kids resist homework (and it’s not laziness)
What actually improves academic outcomes in younger children
The one simple habit that matters more than any worksheet
Landmark court ruling finds social media platforms contributed to harm
How persuasive tech design is keeping kids hooked
Why this changes the conversation around screens for parents

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Kids don’t hate homework because they’re lazy. They hate it because it’s either pointless or painful.”

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Drop the pressure around primary school homework
Prioritise reading daily (together or independently)
Protect unstructured play time after school
Limit passive screen use where possible
Focus on connection and curiosity over compliance

What if the nightly homework battle&hellip; isn&rsquo;t worth fighting?
In this episode, we unpack a surprising truth about primary school homework that challenges everything parents have been told. Plus, breaking global news reveals a major court ruling against social media giants, and why it should completely change how we think about screens at home.
If you&rsquo;re exhausted by homework resistance or worried about screen time, this episode will shift your perspective fast.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why primary school homework often does more harm than good</li>
<li aria-level="1">The real reason kids resist homework (and it&rsquo;s not laziness)</li>
<li aria-level="1">What actually improves academic outcomes in younger children</li>
<li aria-level="1">The one simple habit that matters more than any worksheet</li>
<li aria-level="1">Landmark court ruling finds social media platforms contributed to harm</li>
<li aria-level="1">How persuasive tech design is keeping kids hooked</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why this changes the conversation around screens for parents</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Kids don&rsquo;t hate homework because they&rsquo;re lazy. They hate it because it&rsquo;s either pointless or painful.&rdquo;
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Drop the pressure around primary school homework</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise reading daily (together or independently)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Protect unstructured play time after school</li>
<li aria-level="1">Limit passive screen use where possible</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on connection and curiosity over compliance</li>
</ul>

Is Homework Actually Helping Your Child?

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What your child is watching matters more than you think.

From movies to games to social feeds, today’s kids are exposed to more violence and sexual content than ever before - and most parents don’t realise just how much it’s shaping their behaviour, beliefs, and even empathy.

In this episode, we unpack eye-opening research on how repeated exposure changes what kids see as “normal”… and why even well-meaning parents slowly lower their guard.

If you’ve ever thought, “It’s probably fine” - this conversation might change your mind.

KEY POINTS
Why parents gradually become more lenient with screen content
How repeated exposure leads to desensitisation
The powerful truth: seeing is believing for kids
How violent and explicit content reshapes behaviour and empathy
The difference between passive TV and algorithm-driven content
Why ages 6–12 are a critical window for screen habits
The simple safeguards that make the biggest difference

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Seeing is believing - and what kids see becomes what they believe is normal.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Common Sense Media (for age-based content reviews)
Parent chat groups / “village” support systems
Happy Families resources & Parenting ADHD course

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Check before you say yes - Look up content before allowing it
Co-watch when you can - Context matters more than control
Delay exposure - Younger brains aren’t ready for adult themes
Avoid algorithm-driven platforms for younger kids
Find your village - Lean on like-minded parents for guidance
Hold your standards - Don’t let gradual desensitisation lower your boundaries

What your child is watching matters more than you think.
From movies to games to social feeds, today&rsquo;s kids are exposed to more violence and sexual content than ever before - and most parents don&rsquo;t realise just how much it&rsquo;s shaping their behaviour, beliefs, and even empathy.
In this episode, we unpack eye-opening research on how repeated exposure changes what kids see as &ldquo;normal&rdquo;&hellip; and why even well-meaning parents slowly lower their guard.
If you&rsquo;ve ever thought, &ldquo;It&rsquo;s probably fine&rdquo; - this conversation might change your mind.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why parents gradually become more lenient with screen content</li>
<li aria-level="1">How repeated exposure leads to desensitisation</li>
<li aria-level="1">The powerful truth: seeing is believing for kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">How violent and explicit content reshapes behaviour and empathy</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between passive TV and algorithm-driven content</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why ages 6&ndash;12 are a critical window for screen habits</li>
<li aria-level="1">The simple safeguards that make the biggest difference</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Seeing is believing - and what kids see becomes what they believe is normal.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Common Sense Media (for age-based content reviews)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Parent chat groups / &ldquo;village&rdquo; support systems</li>
<li aria-level="1">Happy Families resources &amp; Parenting ADHD course</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Check before you say yes - Look up content before allowing it</li>
<li aria-level="1">Co-watch when you can - Context matters more than control</li>
<li aria-level="1">Delay exposure - Younger brains aren&rsquo;t ready for adult themes</li>
<li aria-level="1">Avoid algorithm-driven platforms for younger kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">Find your village - Lean on like-minded parents for guidance</li>
<li aria-level="1">Hold your standards - Don&rsquo;t let gradual desensitisation lower your boundaries</li>
</ul>

Content Creep & the Invisible Influence of What Kids Watch

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#705 3 Secrets to a More Helpful Child at Home

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