How do you decide which extra curricular activities to put the kids into?




Topics discussed in today's podcast:
Take their age into account
Experience vs learning a skill
Available resources
Don't force the 'life lessons' 
Competence & confidence
What are your values?
Competition can be undermining for kids wellbeing




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How do you decide which extra curricular activities to put the kids into? Topics discussed in today's podcast:<ul>
<li>Take their age into account</li>
<li>Experience vs learning a skill</li>
<li>Available resources</li>
<li>Don't force the 'life lessons' </li>
<li>Competence &amp; confidence</li>
<li>What are your values?</li>
<li>Competition can be undermining for kids wellbeing</li>
</ul> Purchase <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/better-together">Better Together</a> or find it in your <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/membership/parents">Happy Families Membership</a> - Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

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#525 Kids Activities: What, Why and How Many?

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/87baebcd-f7d5-45f5-afc0-af460038dd91/transcript

Your child is standing in front of a party table loaded with cake, lollies and soft drink. Do you step in or let them go for it?

Justin and Kylie’s answer might surprise you: let the party be the party.

Research suggests that tightly restricting treats can make kids want them even more. Instead of policing every mouthful, this episode explores how parents can help kids build genuine self-control, trust around food and the ability to notice when their body has had enough.

KEY POINTS
Why restricting treats can make them more desirable
The problem with policing what kids eat at parties
Why healthy food habits are built at home, not beside the lolly table
How trust helps kids develop their own self-control
Why parents can decide what food is offered while kids decide whether and how much they eat
How to help kids recognise their body's signals
Why the best teaching moment may come after the party

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The child who is calm around the lolly table got there by being trusted around food when it wasn't a big deal.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Fisher and Birch research on restricting children's access to palatable foods
Walter Mischel's Marshmallow Experiment and the 2018 replication study
Ellyn Satter's Division of Responsibility in Feeding

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Let parties be parties. One afternoon of cake and lollies isn't going to determine your child's health.
Build everyday habits at home. Offer nutritious options without turning food into a constant battle.
Take the drama out of treats. Avoid making sugary food forbidden, precious or unusually exciting.
Give your child some control. Let them practise deciding how much they want to eat.
Talk afterwards. If they come home feeling sick or uncomfortable, help them connect how they feel with what they ate rather than lecturing them at the party.
Teach body awareness. Help them notice hunger, fullness and how different foods make them feel.

Your child is standing in front of a party table loaded with cake, lollies and soft drink. Do you step in or let them go for it?
Justin and Kylie&rsquo;s answer might surprise you: let the party be the party.
Research suggests that tightly restricting treats can make kids want them even more. Instead of policing every mouthful, this episode explores how parents can help kids build genuine self-control, trust around food and the ability to notice when their body has had enough.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why restricting treats can make them more desirable</li>
<li aria-level="1">The problem with policing what kids eat at parties</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why healthy food habits are built at home, not beside the lolly table</li>
<li aria-level="1">How trust helps kids develop their own self-control</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why parents can decide what food is offered while kids decide whether and how much they eat</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to help kids recognise their body's signals</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why the best teaching moment may come after the party</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;The child who is calm around the lolly table got there by being trusted around food when it wasn't a big deal.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10357749/\">Fisher and Birch research </a>on restricting children's access to palatable foods</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/marshmallow-test.html">Walter Mischel's Marshmallow Experiment</a> and the <a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6050075/">2018 replication study</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Ellyn Satter's <a href="https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/satter-feeding-dynamics-model/">Division of Responsibility in Feeding</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Let parties be parties. One afternoon of cake and lollies isn't going to determine your child's health.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build everyday habits at home. Offer nutritious options without turning food into a constant battle.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Take the drama out of treats. Avoid making sugary food forbidden, precious or unusually exciting.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Give your child some control. Let them practise deciding how much they want to eat.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk afterwards. If they come home feeling sick or uncomfortable, help them connect how they feel with what they ate rather than lecturing them at the party.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teach body awareness. Help them notice hunger, fullness and how different foods make them feel.</li>
</ul>

Why Restricting Party Treats Can Backfire [a Listener Q&A]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/f00777f3-ba55-43d0-990f-b4b300ba475f/transcript

Do you actually know what your child is being taught about gender and identity at school?

Child and adolescent psychologist Clare Rowe says many parents have no idea what is being introduced in classrooms, particularly in the early primary years. She joins Justin to unpack what she believes is a growing gap between what children are being taught and what they are developmentally ready to understand.

They discuss gender identity education, the role of schools versus parents, what Clare is seeing in her psychology practice, and why she believes parents need greater transparency about classroom content.

Most importantly, Clare explains how parents can find out exactly what their school is teaching without starting a fight.

KEY POINTS
Why Clare believes some gender concepts are being introduced too early
The difference between teaching inclusion and introducing complex ideas about identity
Why young children can struggle with abstract concepts
What Clare is seeing among children presenting with gender distress
The concern around moving young people quickly towards medical interventions
Why parents may not know what outside providers are teaching at school
How to ask your school for lesson plans and curriculum information without becoming confrontational

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Get curious, not furious.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Clare Rowe and Rowe & Associates Child and Family Psychology
The Rowe Report
On the Couch with Clare
Respectful Relationships programs
Happy Families

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Ask your school what your child is being taught about sex, gender and identity.
Request lesson plans, curriculum details and information about any third-party providers.
Find out when this content will be taught so you can talk about it at home.
Approach the school calmly and ask questions before drawing conclusions.
Consider approaching the school with two or three other parents if you feel more comfortable doing it together.

Do you actually know what your child is being taught about gender and identity at school?
Child and adolescent psychologist Clare Rowe says many parents have no idea what is being introduced in classrooms, particularly in the early primary years. She joins Justin to unpack what she believes is a growing gap between what children are being taught and what they are developmentally ready to understand.
They discuss gender identity education, the role of schools versus parents, what Clare is seeing in her psychology practice, and why she believes parents need greater transparency about classroom content.
Most importantly, Clare explains how parents can find out exactly what their school is teaching without starting a fight.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why Clare believes some gender concepts are being introduced too early</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between teaching inclusion and introducing complex ideas about identity</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why young children can struggle with abstract concepts</li>
<li aria-level="1">What Clare is seeing among children presenting with gender distress</li>
<li aria-level="1">The concern around moving young people quickly towards medical interventions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why parents may not know what outside providers are teaching at school</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to ask your school for lesson plans and curriculum information without becoming confrontational</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Get curious, not furious.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.roweandassociates.com.au/">Clare Rowe and Rowe &amp; Associates Child and Family Psychology</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://clarerowe.substack.com/">The Rowe Report</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.clarerowe.com.au/podcast-on-the-couch-with-clare">On the Couch with Clare</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://education.nsw.gov.au/teaching-and-learning/curriculum/respectful-relationships-education">Respectful Relationships</a> programs</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au">Happy Families</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">Ask your school what your child is being taught about sex, gender and identity.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Request lesson plans, curriculum details and information about any third-party providers.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Find out when this content will be taught so you can talk about it at home.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Approach the school calmly and ask questions before drawing conclusions.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Consider approaching the school with two or three other parents if you feel more comfortable doing it together.</li>
</ol>

What Your Child Is Being Taught About Gender at School [with Clare Rowe]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/3610b2f2-aee5-47b7-8f53-b4b300ba227a/transcript

What if trying to create the perfect family moment is the very thing getting in the way?

After a week away with three of their daughters, Kylie realised she’d arrived with a clear picture of how their time together should look. The reality was completely different. And it turned out to be better. Justin and Kylie unpack the pressure parents put on themselves to get the “recipe” right, why our kids need room to make their own choices, and how letting go of control can create more connection.

Justin also shares what happened when Kylie left him juggling work and parenting, including one spectacular diary fail, and why simple, low-pressure time together can be some of the best parenting we do.

KEY POINTS
Why parenting doesn’t come with a guaranteed recipe for happy, successful kids
How expectations can turn good family experiences into disappointments
Why giving kids space can lead to more openness and connection
The power of simple, unstructured time with your child
Why presence, patience and understanding often matter more than elaborate plans - Justin’s lesson in juggling work and parenting when Kylie went away

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“It’s the simple stuff that makes our families work the best.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

What Your Child Needs From You by Justin Coulson

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Notice where you’ve created a “recipe” for how family life should look.
Leave room for your child to choose how they experience a moment.
Swap one carefully planned activity for simple time together.
Focus less on monitoring and more on creating a relationship where your child wants to talk to you.

What if trying to create the perfect family moment is the very thing getting in the way?
After a week away with three of their daughters, Kylie realised she&rsquo;d arrived with a clear picture of how their time together should look. The reality was completely different. And it turned out to be better. Justin and Kylie unpack the pressure parents put on themselves to get the &ldquo;recipe&rdquo; right, why our kids need room to make their own choices, and how letting go of control can create more connection.
Justin also shares what happened when Kylie left him juggling work and parenting, including one spectacular diary fail, and why simple, low-pressure time together can be some of the best parenting we do.
KEY POINTS
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Why parenting doesn&rsquo;t come with a guaranteed recipe for happy, successful kids</li>
<li>How expectations can turn good family experiences into disappointments</li>
<li>Why giving kids space can lead to more openness and connection</li>
<li>The power of simple, unstructured time with your child</li>
<li>Why presence, patience and understanding often matter more than elaborate plans - Justin&rsquo;s lesson in juggling work and parenting when Kylie went away</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
<blockquote>
&ldquo;It&rsquo;s the simple stuff that makes our families work the best.&rdquo;
</blockquote>
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/what-your-child-needs-from-you">What Your Child Needs From You</a> by Justin Coulson
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Notice where you&rsquo;ve created a &ldquo;recipe&rdquo; for how family life should look.</li>
<li>Leave room for your child to choose how they experience a moment.</li>
<li>Swap one carefully planned activity for simple time together.</li>
<li>Focus less on monitoring and more on creating a relationship where your child wants to talk to you.</li>
</ul>

Millenial Dads (When Mum Goes Away)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/178612aa-a595-4948-8769-b4ac001de8bd/transcript

#525 Kids Activities: What, Why and How Many?

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