Highlights from episode #319 The A to Z of Feelings with Andrew Fuller

Andrew Fuller's new book The A to Z of Feelings




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Highlights from episode <a href="https://pod.fo/e/dc4f2">#319 The A to Z of Feelings with Andrew Fuller</a>Andrew Fuller's new book <a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-a-to-z-of-feelings-andrew-fuller/book/9780645069013.html">The A to Z of Feelings</a> For a happier family try a <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/membership/parents">Happy Families Membership</a>. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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#483 Holiday Edition - Andrew Fuller

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Some parents are devastated to hear, “It’s a boy.”
Not disappointed - devastated.

In this confronting episode, we unpack the rising fear around raising boys, where it’s coming from, and the dangerous story we’re starting to believe. Are boys really the problem… or are we shaping them that way?

This conversation will challenge everything you think you know about gender, parenting, and the future of our kids.

KEY POINTS:
Why “gender disappointment” is shifting toward boys
The cultural fears driving anxiety about raising sons
How low expectations quietly shape boys’ behaviour
What boys are actually craving from adults (it’s not what you think)
Why strong family culture matters more than social narratives
The simple but powerful role parents play in raising good humans

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
 “Boys aren’t the problem. They’re the solution.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out (pre-order here)
Research and commentary on gender disappointment
Parenting support resources for perinatal mental health: 

PANDA
Gidget Foundation

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
Challenge your own assumptions about boys and behaviour
Focus on values over stereotypes - raise a good human first
Create a home culture that prioritises safety, strength, and kindness
Speak belief into your child - don’t let fear define them
Model the behaviour you want them to grow into

Some parents are devastated to hear, &ldquo;It&rsquo;s a boy.&rdquo; Not disappointed - devastated.
In this confronting episode, we unpack the rising fear around raising boys, where it&rsquo;s coming from, and the dangerous story we&rsquo;re starting to believe. Are boys really the problem&hellip; or are we shaping them that way?
This conversation will challenge everything you think you know about gender, parenting, and the future of our kids.
KEY POINTS:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;gender disappointment&rdquo; is shifting toward boys</li>
<li aria-level="1">The cultural fears driving anxiety about raising sons</li>
<li aria-level="1">How low expectations quietly shape boys&rsquo; behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">What boys are actually craving from adults (it&rsquo;s not what you think)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why strong family culture matters more than social narratives</li>
<li aria-level="1">The simple but powerful role parents play in raising good humans</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: &ldquo;Boys aren&rsquo;t the problem. They&rsquo;re the solution.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out (<a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist">pre-order here</a>)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Research and commentary on gender disappointment</li>
<li aria-level="1">Parenting support resources for perinatal mental health:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.panda.org.au/">PANDA</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.gidgetfoundation.org.au/">Gidget Foundation</a></li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Challenge your own assumptions about boys and behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on values over stereotypes - raise a good human first</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create a home culture that prioritises safety, strength, and kindness</li>
<li aria-level="1">Speak belief into your child - don&rsquo;t let fear define them</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model the behaviour you want them to grow into</li>
</ul>

Oh No, It's a Boy!

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/5bf25188-32d6-4997-b4f9-b430005a5a83/transcript

You’re doing everything “right”… so why is it making things worse?

In this honest and vulnerable episode, Justin shares a parenting tension many of us feel but rarely admit: knowing what matters for our kids - like time, productivity, and healthy habits - but completely missing the mark in how we teach it.

Because when good intentions turn into constant correction, something breaks. And it’s usually connection.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to push harder… only to be met with resistance, this episode will help you rethink what actually works.

KEY POINTS
Why being “right” doesn’t mean your approach is working
How constant correction quietly damages connection
The hidden cost of becoming the “enforcer” in your child’s life
Why kids can’t learn self-regulation if we’re always controlling them
The power of small, everyday moments to rebuild family connection
Why repair - not perfection - is the real goal in family relationships

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
 “Am I helping them… or just making them feel like they’re not enough?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Pre-order Boys now

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Swap one correction today for a moment of connection
Notice when “helping” starts to feel like pressure
Let your child sit in the natural consequences of their choices (within reason)
Create simple, shared moments (a movie, a meal, a walk) that bring you back together
Practice repair: model how to apologise, reconnect, and move forward

You&rsquo;re doing everything &ldquo;right&rdquo;&hellip; so why is it making things worse?
In this honest and vulnerable episode, Justin shares a parenting tension many of us feel but rarely admit: knowing what matters for our kids - like time, productivity, and healthy habits - but completely missing the mark in how we teach it.
Because when good intentions turn into constant correction, something breaks. And it&rsquo;s usually connection.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt the urge to push harder&hellip; only to be met with resistance, this episode will help you rethink what actually works.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why being &ldquo;right&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t mean your approach is working</li>
<li aria-level="1">How constant correction quietly damages connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden cost of becoming the &ldquo;enforcer&rdquo; in your child&rsquo;s life</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why kids can&rsquo;t learn self-regulation if we&rsquo;re always controlling them</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of small, everyday moments to rebuild family connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why repair - not perfection - is the real goal in family relationships</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE &ldquo;Am I helping them&hellip; or just making them feel like they&rsquo;re not enough?&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist">Pre-order Boys</a> now</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Swap one correction today for a moment of connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Notice when &ldquo;helping&rdquo; starts to feel like pressure</li>
<li aria-level="1">Let your child sit in the natural consequences of their choices (within reason)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create simple, shared moments (a movie, a meal, a walk) that bring you back together</li>
<li aria-level="1">Practice repair: model how to apologise, reconnect, and move forward</li>
</ul>

Raising Capable Kids Without Constant Control

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Your child didn’t suddenly become difficult - something deeper is going on.

New research reveals a surprising truth: during adolescence, personality traits actually take a temporary dive. Motivation drops. Emotions spike. Agreeableness disappears. And parents are left wondering… what just happened?

In this episode, we unpack the “adolescent personality dip” - why your teen feels harder to live with, what’s really changing beneath the surface, and the simple shifts that can transform daily conflict into connection.

If you’re raising a teen (or about to), this will change how you see them - and how you show up.

KEY POINTS
Personality traits decline during adolescence - and it’s completely normal
Teens become less motivated, less agreeable, and more emotionally reactive
Girls experience a sharper rise in emotional intensity than boys
Social awareness and peer pressure amplify big reactions
This phase is temporary - but how you respond matters long-term

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Your teenager isn’t broken - their personality is under construction.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Longitudinal study on adolescent personality development (Norway)
The “Big Five” personality traits (OCEAN model)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Step into their world before reacting - perspective changes everything
Replace control with collaboration wherever possible
Acknowledge feelings before correcting behaviour
Explain your reasoning instead of giving blunt instructions
Prioritise patience - more than you think you need

Your child didn&rsquo;t suddenly become difficult - something deeper is going on.
New research reveals a surprising truth: during adolescence, personality traits actually take a temporary dive. Motivation drops. Emotions spike. Agreeableness disappears. And parents are left wondering&hellip; what just happened?
In this episode, we unpack the &ldquo;adolescent personality dip&rdquo; - why your teen feels harder to live with, what&rsquo;s really changing beneath the surface, and the simple shifts that can transform daily conflict into connection.
If you&rsquo;re raising a teen (or about to), this will change how you see them - and how you show up.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Personality traits decline during adolescence - and it&rsquo;s completely normal</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teens become less motivated, less agreeable, and more emotionally reactive</li>
<li aria-level="1">Girls experience a sharper rise in emotional intensity than boys</li>
<li aria-level="1">Social awareness and peer pressure amplify big reactions</li>
<li aria-level="1">This phase is temporary - but how you respond matters long-term</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Your teenager isn&rsquo;t broken - their personality is under construction.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Longitudinal study on adolescent personality development (Norway)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;Big Five&rdquo; personality traits (OCEAN model)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Step into their world before reacting - perspective changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace control with collaboration wherever possible</li>
<li aria-level="1">Acknowledge feelings before correcting behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Explain your reasoning instead of giving blunt instructions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise patience - more than you think you need</li>
</ul>

The Adolescent Personality Dip No One Warns You About 

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