Is repeating a year of school really the best solution for struggling students?

Join us as we unpack the research, share personal stories, and discuss why alternatives like tailored teaching/differentiation, extra support, and starting school at the right age may yield better outcomes for your child.

Whether you’re grappling with this decision or curious about educational trends, this episode offers valuable insights to guide you.

In this episode:
Pros/cons of grade retention
Differences in learning (heterogeneity)
Delaying the start of formal education (redshirting)
Competency & self-esteem
Global trends in repeating a school year
Effectiveness of grade retention: A systematic review and meta-analysis
Social consequences
Alternatives to retention
Practical advice for parents with struggling students

Related Links:
Starting School Activity Book
The Big Debate: Should you Delay your Child’s Start in School?

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Is repeating a year of school really the best solution for struggling students?
Join us as we unpack the research, share personal stories, and discuss why alternatives like tailored teaching/differentiation, extra support, and starting school at the right age may yield better outcomes for your child.
Whether you’re grappling with this decision or curious about educational trends, this episode offers valuable insights to guide you.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>Pros/cons of grade retention</li>
<li>Differences in learning (heterogeneity)</li>
<li>Delaying the start of formal education (redshirting)</li>
<li>Competency &amp; self-esteem</li>
<li>Global trends in repeating a school year</li>
<li><a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1747938X21000245#:~:text=In%20sum%2C%20these%20meta%2Danalyses,run%20(Driessen%2C%202020).">Effectiveness of grade retention: A systematic review and meta-analysis</a></li>
<li>Social consequences</li>
<li>Alternatives to retention</li>
<li>Practical advice for parents with struggling students</li>
</ul>
Related Links:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/starting-school-activity-book">Starting School Activity Book</a></li>
<li dir="ltr"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/the-big-debate-should-you-delay-your-childs-start-in-school"></a><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/the-big-debate-should-you-delay-your-childs-start-in-school">The Big Debate: Should you Delay your Child’s Start in School?</a></li>
</ul>
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The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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#1130 - Should Your Child Repeat a Year?

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A viral parenting moment shocked the internet - but what if the real problem isn’t the child… it’s the response?

When a young girl’s bullying leads to a harsh, fear-based punishment, millions applaud the dad’s reaction. But beneath the surface, there’s a deeper, more uncomfortable truth most parents are missing.

In this episode, we unpack what actually works when kids act out - and why fear, shame, and punishment can quietly make things worse.

If you’ve ever felt the urge to come down hard on your child… this conversation might change everything.

KEY POINTS
Why viral parenting advice is often dangerously misleading
The difference between accountability and fear-based discipline
How harsh reactions can damage trust, safety, and connection
The hidden reasons behind “bullying” behaviour in kids
Why empathy - not punishment - is the key to real behaviour change
How parents can model the very behaviour they want to see

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Big people don’t win by overpowering kids - we win by helping them understand.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
21 Days to a Happier Family by Dr Justin Coulson
happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Pause before reacting - your response shapes the outcome
Get curious about the why behind your child’s behaviour
Lead with connection before correction
Help your child step into someone else’s shoes
Create safety so your child can open up - not shut down

A viral parenting moment shocked the internet - but what if the real problem isn&rsquo;t the child&hellip; it&rsquo;s the response?
When a young girl&rsquo;s bullying leads to a harsh, fear-based punishment, millions applaud the dad&rsquo;s reaction. But beneath the surface, there&rsquo;s a deeper, more uncomfortable truth most parents are missing.
In this episode, we unpack what actually works when kids act out - and why fear, shame, and punishment can quietly make things worse.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt the urge to come down hard on your child&hellip; this conversation might change everything.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why viral parenting advice is often dangerously misleading</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between accountability and fear-based discipline</li>
<li aria-level="1">How harsh reactions can damage trust, safety, and connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden reasons behind &ldquo;bullying&rdquo; behaviour in kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why empathy - not punishment - is the key to real behaviour change</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents can model the very behaviour they want to see</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Big people don&rsquo;t win by overpowering kids - we win by helping them understand.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.harpercollins.com.au/9780733334818/21-days-to-a-happier-family/">21 Days to a Happier Family</a> by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="happyfamilies.com.au">happyfamilies.com.au</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Pause before reacting - your response shapes the outcome</li>
<li aria-level="1">Get curious about the why behind your child&rsquo;s behaviour</li>
<li aria-level="1">Lead with connection before correction</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help your child step into someone else&rsquo;s shoes</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create safety so your child can open up - not shut down</li>
</ul>

When Parents Become Bullys

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/f592bee1-89ab-4f62-8194-b41500be6f20/transcript

He’s snapping, shutting down, or pulling away… but what if it’s not anger at all?

In this powerful conversation, psychologist Craig Russouw unpacks what’s really going on beneath the surface for so many men and boys — and why most never ask for help until it’s too late.

From hidden signs of depression to the quiet crisis facing Aussie men, this episode will shift how you see behaviour, masculinity, and mental health — and give you practical ways to support the men and boys in your life.

KEY POINTS
Why men’s mental health struggles often show up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal
The alarming gap between men experiencing issues and those actually seeking help
How outdated ideas of masculinity keep men silent
What “mental health literacy” is — and why many men don’t have it
The concept of “mental maintenance” (and why prevention matters more than crisis care)
Simple, practical habits that protect mental wellbeing
Why connection for men often looks different — and how to support it

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Anger is often just the surface. Underneath, there’s anxiety, sadness, or something much deeper.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Mental Maintenance Manual (free guide for men’s mental health)
Someone Health (telehealth psychology service across Australia)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Look beyond behaviour — ask what might be underneath anger or withdrawal
Normalise conversations about emotions early, especially with boys
Encourage regular “mental maintenance,” not just crisis support
Help boys identify feelings (not just react to them)
Prioritise sleep, connection, and enjoyable activities as non-negotiables
Model vulnerability — show that talking is strength, not weakness

He&rsquo;s snapping, shutting down, or pulling away&hellip; but what if it&rsquo;s not anger at all?
In this powerful conversation, psychologist Craig Russouw unpacks what&rsquo;s really going on beneath the surface for so many men and boys &mdash; and why most never ask for help until it&rsquo;s too late.
From hidden signs of depression to the quiet crisis facing Aussie men, this episode will shift how you see behaviour, masculinity, and mental health &mdash; and give you practical ways to support the men and boys in your life.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why men&rsquo;s mental health struggles often show up as anger, irritability, or withdrawal</li>
<li aria-level="1">The alarming gap between men experiencing issues and those actually seeking help</li>
<li aria-level="1">How outdated ideas of masculinity keep men silent</li>
<li aria-level="1">What &ldquo;mental health literacy&rdquo; is &mdash; and why many men don&rsquo;t have it</li>
<li aria-level="1">The concept of &ldquo;mental maintenance&rdquo; (and why prevention matters more than crisis care)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Simple, practical habits that protect mental wellbeing</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why connection for men often looks different &mdash; and how to support it</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Anger is often just the surface. Underneath, there&rsquo;s anxiety, sadness, or something much deeper.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Mental Maintenance Manual (free guide for men&rsquo;s mental health)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Someone Health (telehealth psychology service across Australia)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Look beyond behaviour &mdash; ask what might be underneath anger or withdrawal</li>
<li aria-level="1">Normalise conversations about emotions early, especially with boys</li>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage regular &ldquo;mental maintenance,&rdquo; not just crisis support</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help boys identify feelings (not just react to them)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise sleep, connection, and enjoyable activities as non-negotiables</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model vulnerability &mdash; show that talking is strength, not weakness</li>
</ul>

The Truth About Men, Emotions, and Silence (with Craig Russouw)

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What if the nightly homework battle… isn’t worth fighting?

In this episode, we unpack a surprising truth about primary school homework that challenges everything parents have been told. Plus, breaking global news reveals a major court ruling against social media giants, and why it should completely change how we think about screens at home.

If you’re exhausted by homework resistance or worried about screen time, this episode will shift your perspective fast.

KEY POINTS
Why primary school homework often does more harm than good
The real reason kids resist homework (and it’s not laziness)
What actually improves academic outcomes in younger children
The one simple habit that matters more than any worksheet
Landmark court ruling finds social media platforms contributed to harm
How persuasive tech design is keeping kids hooked
Why this changes the conversation around screens for parents

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Kids don’t hate homework because they’re lazy. They hate it because it’s either pointless or painful.”

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Drop the pressure around primary school homework
Prioritise reading daily (together or independently)
Protect unstructured play time after school
Limit passive screen use where possible
Focus on connection and curiosity over compliance

What if the nightly homework battle&hellip; isn&rsquo;t worth fighting?
In this episode, we unpack a surprising truth about primary school homework that challenges everything parents have been told. Plus, breaking global news reveals a major court ruling against social media giants, and why it should completely change how we think about screens at home.
If you&rsquo;re exhausted by homework resistance or worried about screen time, this episode will shift your perspective fast.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why primary school homework often does more harm than good</li>
<li aria-level="1">The real reason kids resist homework (and it&rsquo;s not laziness)</li>
<li aria-level="1">What actually improves academic outcomes in younger children</li>
<li aria-level="1">The one simple habit that matters more than any worksheet</li>
<li aria-level="1">Landmark court ruling finds social media platforms contributed to harm</li>
<li aria-level="1">How persuasive tech design is keeping kids hooked</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why this changes the conversation around screens for parents</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Kids don&rsquo;t hate homework because they&rsquo;re lazy. They hate it because it&rsquo;s either pointless or painful.&rdquo;
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Drop the pressure around primary school homework</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise reading daily (together or independently)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Protect unstructured play time after school</li>
<li aria-level="1">Limit passive screen use where possible</li>
<li aria-level="1">Focus on connection and curiosity over compliance</li>
</ul>

Is Homework Actually Helping Your Child?

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/5daf0bb7-1209-4d83-ba8b-b41500bdf775/transcript

#1130 - Should Your Child Repeat a Year?

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