Should we be making our children apologise when they do the wrong thing? What does a sincere apology look like?

In this episode:
Parental Guidance (S1): “Forcing children to apologise is teaching children to lie”
Victim mentality
People pleasing
Ruptured relationships
The Parenting Revolution, by Dr Justin Coulson
Motivation Continuum - extrinsic, introjected, identified, integrated, intrinsic
Is It Wrong to Tell Kids to Apologize? | The Atlantic
Theory of Mind
Why do children apologise under coercion?
Feeling seen, heard, and valued
Repairing relationships
Why don't kids want to apologise?
4 components of a sincere apology

Related links: 
Should we Force our Children to Say 'Sorry'
Carrots & Sticks: How Rewards and Punishments Hurt Our Kids, and What to do Instead [Webinar]

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Should we be making our children apologise when they do the wrong thing? What does a sincere apology look like?
In this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.9now.com.au/parental-guidance/season-1">Parental Guidance (S1)</a>: “Forcing children to apologise is teaching children to lie”</li>
<li>Victim mentality</li>
<li>People pleasing</li>
<li>Ruptured relationships</li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-parenting-revolution">The Parenting Revolution</a>, by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
<li>Motivation Continuum - extrinsic, introjected, identified, integrated, intrinsic</li>
<li><a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2024/05/should-kids-apologize-parenting-debate/678294/">Is It Wrong to Tell Kids to Apologize? | The Atlantic</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/developmental-milestones-part-3-preschool">Theory of Mind</a></li>
<li>Why do children apologise under coercion?</li>
<li>Feeling seen, heard, and valued</li>
<li>Repairing relationships</li>
<li>Why don't kids want to apologise?</li>
<li>4 components of a sincere apology</li>
</ul>
Related links: 
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/should-we-force-our-children-to-say-sorry">Should we Force our Children to Say 'Sorry'</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/carrots-sticks">Carrots &amp; Sticks: How Rewards and Punishments Hurt Our Kids, and What to do Instead [Webinar]</a></li>
</ul>
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#1043 - Forcing Kids to Apologise

Bec, from Sydney, has a 2-year-old who keeps running towards the road when out at parks, playgrounds, and shops. Running away is developmentally normal: little kids love to explore. But it's also very scary! There are four things parents can do to keep their "runner" safe when out and about.

Karen, from Brisbane, asks how to navigate the ongoing challenge of school refusal. Ongoing conversations with both child and school are important when school attendance is a challenge. Dr Justin shares some questions to ask, and four ideas to increase engagement, competence, and confidence for your struggling student.

In this episode:
Developmental Milestones [Part 2: Toddlers]
Curious, exploring, developmentally appropriate
Hunt, Gather, Parent by Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff | Dymocks
Ongoing conversations on safety
Solutions to keep child safe
Pros and cons of giving kids mental health days
Problematic school avoidance
Working with the school
Three basic psychological needs
Attaching education to child's goals
Alternatives to school

Related links: 
What To Do When Kids Won't Listen
How To Help When School Sucks [Webinar]
School Refusal
#875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel

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Bec, from Sydney, has a 2-year-old who keeps running towards the road when out at parks, playgrounds, and shops. Running away is developmentally normal: little kids love to explore. But it's also very scary! There are four things parents can do to keep their "runner" safe when out and about.
Karen, from Brisbane, asks how to navigate the ongoing challenge of school refusal. Ongoing conversations with both child and school are important when school attendance is a challenge. Dr Justin shares some questions to ask, and four ideas to increase engagement, competence, and confidence for your struggling student.
In this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/developmental-milestones-part-2-toddlers">Developmental Milestones [Part 2: Toddlers]</a></li>
<li>Curious, exploring, developmentally appropriate</li>
<li><a href="https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&amp;ai=DChcSEwjv4f3yjcuHAxWqo2YCHRqpAKoYABAOGgJzbQ&amp;ae=2&amp;co=1&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjw2Je1BhAgEiwAp3KY717IOQKQm7NrL3PAanbjMoB5GTxZySh8cU657y0n-Zr-IOeuwIs0FRoCCH8QAvD_BwE&amp;sig=AOD64_1EOZR116_4VtSFfYH9cmTjZFZ8DQ&amp;ctype=5&amp;q=&amp;ved=2ahUKEwiVtfbyjcuHAxVAxDgGHauRNaEQ9aACKAB6BAgHEFQ&amp;adurl=">Hunt, Gather, Parent by Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff | Dymocks</a></li>
<li>Ongoing conversations on safety</li>
<li>Solutions to keep child safe</li>
<li>Pros and cons of giving kids mental health days</li>
<li>Problematic school avoidance</li>
<li>Working with the school</li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/the-parenting-revolution">Three basic psychological needs</a></li>
<li>Attaching education to child's goals</li>
<li>Alternatives to school</li>
</ul>
Related links: 
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/what-to-do-when-kids-wont-listen">What To Do When Kids Won't Listen</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/how-to-help-when-school-sucks">How To Help When School Sucks</a> [Webinar]</li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/school-refusal">School Refusal</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/875-failed-at-school-successful-at-life-ian-steel">#875 Failed at School, Successful at Life: Ian Steel</a></li>
</ul>
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#1044 - Q&A: Tearaway Toddlers & Staying in School

It has been 9 months of homeschooling for the Coulson crew, with plenty of ups and downs and many lessons learned. One of those lessons is that homeschool is not and cannot just be "school at home". When a child is struggling in a school setting, taking them out of that environment only to set up the same structures and lessons at home doesn't change the challenges that your child is experiencing! 

In this episode:


Resilient Kids Conference - (recording available)


Help, hug, or space?


When school isn't working
Homeschooling is not school at home
Letting go of expectations/perceptions
Self-directed learning
Autonomy
Exercise - cycling, swimming
Working from home
Setting boundaries
Steven Covey's "Big Rocks of Life" analogy
The overwhelm of to-do lists

Related links: 
Taking the Pressure Off
School Refusal

.

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It has been 9 months of homeschooling for the Coulson crew, with plenty of ups and downs and many lessons learned. One of those lessons is that homeschool is not and cannot just be "school at home". When a child is struggling in a school setting, taking them out of that environment only to set up the same structures and lessons at home doesn't change the challenges that your child is experiencing! 
In this episode:
<ul>
<li>
<a href="https://michellemitchell.org/resilient-kids-conference/">Resilient Kids Conference</a> - <a href="https://michellemitchell.org/shop/resilient-kids-conference-online-stream-from-sydney-conference/">(recording available)</a>
</li>
<li>
Help, hug, or space?
</li>
<li>
When school isn't working
</li>
<li>Homeschooling is not school at home</li>
<li>Letting go of expectations/perceptions</li>
<li>Self-directed learning</li>
<li>Autonomy</li>
<li>Exercise - cycling, swimming</li>
<li>Working from home</li>
<li>Setting boundaries</li>
<li>Steven Covey's "<a href="https://www.appleseeds.org//big-rocks_covey.htm">Big Rocks of Life</a>" analogy</li>
<li>The overwhelm of to-do lists</li>
</ul>
Related links: 
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/taking-the-pressure-off">Taking the Pressure Off</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/school-refusal">School Refusal</a></li>
</ul>
.
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#1042 - Work & Home School Life Balance

Devices can calm our emotional children - but does a screen actually help them to emotionally regulate or is it just distracting them from their emotions in the heat of the moment? Are there long term consequences to letting screens "manage" a child's emotions?

We also talk about a controversial topic - using "screen-time" as a reward! There is an important connection between screen use and children's executive function and emotional regulation, and it's not good news!

In this episode:
Your words have power:  @always.upper.elementary
Toothpaste Words: The most important back to school lesson you can do
Should we comment on someone's appearance?
Cure for tantrums? Longitudinal associations between parental digital emotion regulation and children's self-regulatory skills
Using devices as digital pacifiers
Frustration tolerance
Unplug Childhood: Join the village, sign the petition


#1038 - Managing Emotional Dysregulation


Tolerable discomfort


Resilience


Associations between media parenting practices and early adolescent screen use


Social media


Using screens as punishment or reward leads to higher screen use


Alfie Kohn, author of 'Punished by Rewards'
Positive/negative reinforcement
The most important "app" for our children

Related links: 
Unplugging Parenthood
#137 Punishment & Rewards with Alfie Kohn

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Devices can calm our emotional children - but does a screen actually help them to emotionally regulate or is it just distracting them from their emotions in the heat of the moment? Are there long term consequences to letting screens "manage" a child's emotions?
We also talk about a controversial topic - using "screen-time" as a reward! There is an important connection between screen use and children's executive function and emotional regulation, and it's not good news!
In this episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/C8U_Fv2yQJy/">Your words have power: </a> @always.upper.elementary</li>
<li><a href="https://www.mrsoknows.com/2018/07/toothpaste-words-most-important-back-to.html">Toothpaste Words: The most important back to school lesson you can do</a></li>
<li>Should we comment on someone's appearance?</li>
<li><a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/child-and-adolescent-psychiatry/articles/10.3389/frcha.2024.1276154/full">Cure for tantrums? Longitudinal associations between parental digital emotion regulation and children's self-regulatory skills</a></li>
<li>Using devices as digital pacifiers</li>
<li>Frustration tolerance</li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/unplugchildhood-org">Unplug Childhood</a>: Join the village, sign the petition</li>
<li>
<a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/1038-managing-emotional-dysregulation">#1038 - Managing Emotional Dysregulation</a>
</li>
<li>
Tolerable discomfort
</li>
<li>
Resilience
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/s41390-024-03243-y">Associations between media parenting practices and early adolescent screen use</a>
</li>
<li>
<a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/s41390-024-03243-y"></a>Social media
</li>
<li>
Using screens as punishment or reward leads to higher screen use
</li>
<li>
Alfie Kohn, author of 'Punished by Rewards'
</li>
<li>Positive/negative reinforcement</li>
<li>The most important "app" for our children</li>
</ul>
Related links: 
<ul>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/articles/unplugging-parenthood">Unplugging Parenthood</a></li>
<li><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au/podcast/episode/137-punishment-rewards-with-alfie-kohn">#137 Punishment &amp; Rewards with Alfie Kohn</a></li>
</ul>
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