What if your anger isn't really anger at all? What if it's grief? Or fear? Or shame? Or something else entirely?

On this episode of Don't Change Much, host Buzz Bishop speaks with Dr. David Kuhl, a UBC professor and physician who believes that learning to be emotionally honest is the key to being a better man, partner, and father.

Get ready to look under the anger and find out what's really going on.

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What if your anger isn't really anger at all? What if it's grief? Or fear? Or shame? Or something else entirely?
On this episode of Don't Change Much, host Buzz Bishop speaks with Dr. David Kuhl, a UBC professor and physician who believes that learning to be emotionally honest is the key to being a better man, partner, and father.
Get ready to look under the anger and find out what's really going on.
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The Don’t Change Much Podcast is about men’s mental and physical health and conversations that build awareness, educate and provide simple lifestyle tips to help men and their families take action for better well-being. 

Each episode, host Dan Murphy is joined by Canada’s top influencers, world class athletes and subject matter experts who share their lived experiences and insights for better mental and physical health. 

The goal is to have real conversations about the things so many of us don’t prioritize: lowering stress, eating healthier, getting active and the impacts of not taking care of ourselves. 

Don’t Change Much is all about encouraging men to make simple changes that can have a big impact on their health, their families and their communities. Better health doesn’t have to mean a lifestyle overhaul.

Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide diagnosis or be a substitute for professional medical advice from a healthcare practitioner. You should not use the information provided in this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have a medical or health problem, promptly consult your healthcare practitioner. While this podcast is carefully reviewed, the Canadian Men's Health Foundation does not take responsibility or liability for the medical accuracy of the information provided by its host or guests and is not liable for any direct or indirect claim, loss or damage arising from use of this podcast. It is the listeners' responsibility to check the accuracy and relevance of the information.

The Don&rsquo;t Change Much Podcast is about men&rsquo;s mental and physical health and conversations that build awareness, educate and provide simple lifestyle tips to help men and their families take action for better well-being.&nbsp;
Each episode, host Dan Murphy is joined by Canada&rsquo;s top influencers, world class athletes and subject matter experts who share their lived experiences and insights for better mental and physical health.&nbsp;
The goal is to have real conversations about the things so many of us don&rsquo;t prioritize: lowering stress, eating healthier, getting active and the impacts of not taking care of ourselves.&nbsp;
Don&rsquo;t Change Much is all about encouraging men to make simple changes that can have a big impact on their health, their families and their communities. Better health doesn&rsquo;t have to mean a lifestyle overhaul.
Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide diagnosis or be a substitute for professional medical advice from a healthcare practitioner.&nbsp;You should not use the information provided in this podcast for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. If you have or suspect you have a medical or health problem, promptly consult your healthcare practitioner. While this podcast is carefully reviewed, the Canadian Men's Health Foundation does not take responsibility or liability for the medical accuracy of the information provided by its host or guests and is not liable for any direct or indirect claim, loss or damage arising from use of this podcast. It is the listeners' responsibility to check the accuracy and relevance of the information.

Don't Change Much

The Don’t Change Much Podcast is about men’s mental and physical health and conversations that build awareness, educate and provide simple lifestyle tips to help men and their families take action for better well-being. 

Each episode, host Dan Murphy is joined by Canada’s top influencers, world class athletes and subject matter experts who share their lived experiences and insights for better mental and physical health. 

The goal is to have real conversations about the things so many of us don’t prioritize: lowering stress, eating healthier, getting active and the impacts of not taking care of ourselves. 

Don’t Change Much is all about encouraging men to make simple changes that can have a big impact on their health, their families and their communities. Better health doesn’t have to mean a lifestyle overhaul.

The Don’t Change Much Podcast premieres June 7, 2022.

The Don&rsquo;t Change Much Podcast is about men&rsquo;s mental and physical health and conversations that build awareness, educate and provide simple lifestyle tips to help men and their families take action for better well-being.&nbsp;
Each episode, host Dan Murphy is joined by Canada&rsquo;s top influencers, world class athletes and subject matter experts who share their lived experiences and insights for better mental and physical health.&nbsp;
The goal is to have real conversations about the things so many of us don&rsquo;t prioritize: lowering stress, eating healthier, getting active and the impacts of not taking care of ourselves.&nbsp;
Don&rsquo;t Change Much is all about encouraging men to make simple changes that can have a big impact on their health, their families and their communities. Better health doesn&rsquo;t have to mean a lifestyle overhaul.
The Don&rsquo;t Change Much Podcast premieres June 7, 2022.

When Anger Helps (and When It Hurts)

A lot of men aren’t “angry guys.” They’re overwhelmed, disconnected, and running out of space to breathe, and it’s catching up with them.

In this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, Gene Bernier, CTO & Don’t Change Much Producer at CMHF, joins hosts Trevor Botkin and Mike Cameron on camera for an honest conversation about anger, men’s mental health, and why reacting isn’t the same thing as responding. Together, they break down how anger shows up in the body, why it’s often the only emotion men were taught to recognize, and how today’s social pressure is amplifying everyday frustration.

The conversation moves from the pressures young men are facing today to how anger often masks sadness, fear, or feeling left behind. The turning point isn’t about “controlling” anger. It’s about learning how to pause before it explodes.

Not therapy-speak. Not perfection. Just a small, practiced moment that can change the outcome.

You’ll hear practical, real-world tools men can use immediately, including:
How to use anger as a cue to slow down instead of reacting
Why naming what you’re feeling changes everything
How to pause long enough to choose a better response
Why emotions are temporary, but consequences can be permanent
How connection and listening can de-escalate even the hardest moments

This episode is about resilience, self-care, and connection. Not fixing yourself and not getting it perfect, just learning how to show up with a little more awareness and a lot less damage.

 

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Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/
X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X 
LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron
Website - https://mikecameron.ca/
TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong

 

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A lot of men aren&rsquo;t &ldquo;angry guys.&rdquo; They&rsquo;re overwhelmed, disconnected, and running out of space to breathe, and it&rsquo;s catching up with them.
In this episode of the Don&rsquo;t Change Much Podcast, Gene Bernier, CTO &amp; Don&rsquo;t Change Much Producer at CMHF, joins hosts Trevor Botkin and Mike Cameron on camera for an honest conversation about anger, men&rsquo;s mental health, and why reacting isn&rsquo;t the same thing as responding. Together, they break down how anger shows up in the body, why it&rsquo;s often the only emotion men were taught to recognize, and how today&rsquo;s social pressure is amplifying everyday frustration.
The conversation moves from the pressures young men are facing today to how anger often masks sadness, fear, or feeling left behind. The turning point isn&rsquo;t about &ldquo;controlling&rdquo; anger. It&rsquo;s about learning how to pause before it explodes.
Not therapy-speak. Not perfection. Just a small, practiced moment that can change the outcome.
You&rsquo;ll hear practical, real-world tools men can use immediately, including:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How to use anger as a cue to slow down instead of reacting</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why naming what you&rsquo;re feeling changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to pause long enough to choose a better response</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why emotions are temporary, but consequences can be permanent</li>
<li aria-level="1">How connection and listening can de-escalate even the hardest moments</li>
</ul>
This episode is about resilience, self-care, and connection. Not fixing yourself and not getting it perfect, just learning how to show up with a little more awareness and a lot less damage.
&nbsp;
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<li>LinkedIn - <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/genebernier/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/genebernier/</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
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<li>Facebook - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/">https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/</a></li>
<li>X - <a href="https://x.com/axiommike">Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>LinkedIn -<a href="https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron"> https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron </a>Website - <a href="https://mikecameron.ca/">https://mikecameron.ca/ </a>TedX Talk - <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong">https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
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</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Canadian Men&rsquo;s Health Foundation
<ul>
<li>Website - <a href="https://menshealthfoundation.ca/">https://menshealthfoundation.ca/</a></li>
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<li>Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation</li>
</ul>

From Rage to Relief: How to Pause Before You Explode

Introduction: The Struggle with Humility

The Importance of Human Connection

 Personal Journeys: Overcoming Challenges

The Power of Vulnerability and Asking for Help

 A Heartbreaking Loss: Mike's Story

Honoring Colleen: Making Beautiful Shit Happen

Finding Beauty in Grief: Trevor's Story

Finding Strength in Vulnerability

Overcoming Addiction and Self-Discovery

The Importance of Sharing Stories

 Navigating Shame and Forgiveness

Building a Hopeful Future

What happens when two men sit down, drop the armour, and tell the truth about who they really are? On this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, we introduce our new co-hosts, Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin—two guys who have lived through rock bottom, rebuilt their lives, and are still doing the work every day.

They share the same mission: help men close the gap between who they are and who they want to be.

In this raw and hopeful conversation, Mike and Trevor unpack what healing actually looks like for men—navigating shame, asking for help, getting blindsided by grief, and learning to show up as the man you want to be, not the one you’re pretending to be. They share their stories of addiction, trauma, devastating loss, and the life-saving power of connection.

What emerges is a powerful reminder that resilience isn’t only about being strong… it’s also about learning to feel again.

This isn’t self-help fluff. It’s the hard, uncomfortable, life-changing work of becoming emotionally honest.

You’ll hear:
 • Why men avoid asking for help and how to break that pattern
• How shame fuels isolation and what stops it from running your life
• The simple question Mike uses to course-correct when he’s slipping
• Why Trevor believes self-forgiveness is the most unselfish thing a man can do

If you’ve ever felt stuck, alone, or like you’re not the man you want to be, this conversation is your reminder: healing is possible… and you don’t have to do it on your own.

 

Follow Mike Cameron
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/
Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/
X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X 
LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron
Website - https://mikecameron.ca/

TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong

 

Follow Trevor Botkin
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Chapters

00:00 Introduction: The Struggle with Humility

00:50 Meet the Hosts: Mike and Trevor

01:21 The Importance of Human Connection

02:55 Personal Journeys: Overcoming Challenges

06:21 The Power of Vulnerability and Asking for Help

09:27 A Heartbreaking Loss: Mike's Story

14:09 Honoring Colleen: Making Beautiful Shit Happen

18:22 Finding Beauty in Grief: Trevor's Story

19:20 Coping with Loss and Family Support

21:02 Finding Strength in Vulnerability

21:38 Redefining Masculinity

22:28 The Power of Emotional Connection

23:28 Overcoming Addiction and Self-Discovery

26:10 The Importance of Sharing Stories

29:37 Navigating Shame and Forgiveness

33:49 Building a Hopeful Future

What happens when two men sit down, drop the armour, and tell the truth about who they really are? On this episode of the Don&rsquo;t Change Much Podcast, we introduce our new co-hosts, Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin&mdash;two guys who have lived through rock bottom, rebuilt their lives, and are still doing the work every day.
They share the same mission: help men close the gap between who they are and who they want to be.
In this raw and hopeful conversation, Mike and Trevor unpack what healing actually looks like for men&mdash;navigating shame, asking for help, getting blindsided by grief, and learning to show up as the man you want to be, not the one you&rsquo;re pretending to be. They share their stories of addiction, trauma, devastating loss, and the life-saving power of connection.
What emerges is a powerful reminder that resilience isn&rsquo;t only about being strong&hellip; it&rsquo;s also about learning to feel again.
This isn&rsquo;t self-help fluff. It&rsquo;s the hard, uncomfortable, life-changing work of becoming emotionally honest.
You&rsquo;ll hear: &bull; Why men avoid asking for help and how to break that pattern &bull; How shame fuels isolation and what stops it from running your life &bull; The simple question Mike uses to course-correct when he&rsquo;s slipping &bull; Why Trevor believes self-forgiveness is the most unselfish thing a man can do
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt stuck, alone, or like you&rsquo;re not the man you want to be, this conversation is your reminder: healing is possible&hellip; and you don&rsquo;t have to do it on your own.
&nbsp;
Follow Mike Cameron
<ul>
<li>Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/">https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/</a></li>
<li>Youtube - <a href="https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks">https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Facebook - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/">https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/</a></li>
<li>X - <a href="https://x.com/axiommike">Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>LinkedIn -<a href="https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron"> https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron</a></li>
<li>Website -&nbsp;<a href="https://mikecameron.ca/">https://mikecameron.ca/ </a></li>
<li>TedX Talk -&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong">https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Trevor Botkin
<ul>
<li>LinkedIn - <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Canadian Men&rsquo;s Health Foundation
<ul>
<li>Website - <a href="https://menshealthfoundation.ca/">https://menshealthfoundation.ca/</a></li>
<li>Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/">https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/</a></li>
<li>Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation</li>
</ul>
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: The Struggle with Humility
00:50 Meet the Hosts: Mike and Trevor
01:21 The Importance of Human Connection
02:55 Personal Journeys: Overcoming Challenges
06:21 The Power of Vulnerability and Asking for Help
09:27 A Heartbreaking Loss: Mike's Story
14:09 Honoring Colleen: Making Beautiful Shit Happen
18:22 Finding Beauty in Grief: Trevor's Story
19:20 Coping with Loss and Family Support
21:02 Finding Strength in Vulnerability
21:38 Redefining Masculinity
22:28 The Power of Emotional Connection
23:28 Overcoming Addiction and Self-Discovery
26:10 The Importance of Sharing Stories
29:37 Navigating Shame and Forgiveness
33:49 Building a Hopeful Future

How Men Are Healing: Shame, Hope, and the Hard Work of Change

We've been taught that supporting men's health somehow takes away from supporting women's health. This episode shatters that zero-sum myth, arguing that raising one boat raises all.

Host Buzz Bishop is joined by Nicky Dhaliwal (Canadian Men's Health Foundation), Mike Cameron (Connected Men), and Clair Davis (Midlife Mentors) to discuss why men's health is family health. 

The group gets honest about what they’re seeing in homes, workplaces, and communities: women feeling judged for supporting men; men afraid of mentoring after #MeToo; and young men experiencing anger at nearly double the national rate. 

They dive into startling CMHF research showing 50% of young men (19–29) are at risk of problem anger and violent impulses. The key to breaking this cycle and building resilience? Deep Connection

This episode offers tangible self-care and connection steps to support men's mental health:
The Power of Exclusive Spaces: Why men-only workshops create a unique, safe dynamic where men feel permission to open up and be vulnerable.
Be Curious, Not Assuming: Claire shares the need to be curious about the men in your life and avoid the shame-based assumptions that keep the shadow bag closed.
Use Silence as a Tool: When you ask, "How are you?" allow the silence to breathe; that’s where the truth shows up.
Emotions Drive Behavior: Mike explains the sequence: emotion → decisions → behaviors → results.
Hug Until They Let Go: A beautifully simple piece of advice from CMHF/Blueprint for building stronger relationships with your kids.

A healthy man is not a perfect man. He just needs a thousand small acts of connection to move the needle. Tune in to find out how to create the space for those acts.

Follow Claire Davis
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Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/themidlifementors
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifementorscommunity
Website - https://themidlifementors.com/

Follow Mike Cameron
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/
Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks 
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/
X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X 
LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron
Website - https://mikecameron.ca/
TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong


Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation
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Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/
Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation

We've been taught that supporting men's health somehow takes away from supporting women's health. This episode shatters that zero-sum myth, arguing that raising one boat raises all.
Host Buzz Bishop is joined by Nicky Dhaliwal (Canadian Men's Health Foundation), Mike Cameron (Connected Men), and Clair Davis (Midlife Mentors) to discuss why men's health is family health.&nbsp;
The group gets honest about what they&rsquo;re seeing in homes, workplaces, and communities: women feeling judged for supporting men; men afraid of mentoring after #MeToo; and young men experiencing anger at nearly double the national rate.&nbsp;
They dive into startling CMHF research showing 50% of young men (19&ndash;29) are at risk of problem anger and violent impulses. The key to breaking this cycle and building resilience? Deep Connection
This episode offers tangible&nbsp;self-care and connection steps to support men's mental health:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The Power of Exclusive Spaces: Why men-only workshops create a unique, safe dynamic where men feel permission to open up and be vulnerable.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Be Curious, Not Assuming: Claire shares the need to be curious about the men in your life and avoid the shame-based assumptions that keep the shadow bag closed.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Use Silence as a Tool: When you ask, "How are you?" allow the silence to breathe; that&rsquo;s where the truth shows up.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Emotions Drive Behavior: Mike explains the sequence: emotion &rarr; decisions &rarr; behaviors &rarr; results.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Hug Until They Let Go: A beautifully simple piece of advice from CMHF/Blueprint for building stronger relationships with your kids.</li>
</ul>
A healthy man is not a perfect man. He just needs a thousand small acts of&nbsp;connection to move the needle. Tune in to find out how to create the space for those acts.
Follow Claire Davis
<ul>
<li>Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/midlifementors/">https://www.instagram.com/midlifementors/</a></li>
<li>Youtube -<a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/themidlifementors"> https://www.youtube.com/c/themidlifementors</a></li>
<li>Facebook - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifementorscommunity">https://www.facebook.com/groups/themidlifementorscommunity</a></li>
<li>Website - <a href="https://themidlifementors.com/">https://themidlifementors.com/</a></li>
</ul>
Follow Mike Cameron
<ul>
<li>Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/">https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/</a></li>
<li>Youtube - <a href="https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks">https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>Facebook - <a href="https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/">https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/</a></li>
<li>X - <a href="https://x.com/axiommike">Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X</a>&nbsp;</li>
<li>LinkedIn -<a href="https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron"> https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron </a>Website - <a href="https://mikecameron.ca/">https://mikecameron.ca/ </a>TedX Talk - <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong">https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong</a></li>
</ul>
 Follow Canadian Men&rsquo;s Health Foundation
<ul>
<li>Website - <a href="https://menshealthfoundation.ca/">https://menshealthfoundation.ca/</a></li>
<li>Instagram - <a href="https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/">https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/</a></li>
<li>Facebook - <a href="https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation">https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation</a></li>
</ul>

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