Peace of the plan is Charlamagne to God here and as we come closer to closing out this year, I just want to say thank you for tuning it into the Black Effect podcast Network. There have been so many great moments over the past year. Take a listen to some of those captivating moments in this special best of episode episodes.

Peace of the plan is Charlamagne to God here and as we come closer to closing out this year, I just want to say thank you for tuning it into the Black Effect podcast Network. There have been so many great moments over the past year. Take a listen to some of those captivating moments in this special best of episode episodes.

I am deeply Wow. I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast. I have an incredible, incredible guest joining us today, Leyla Delia. You know, there's a lot of phrases that are getting thrown around a lot right now. A lot of a lot of people are like, I'm an impath, I'm highly sensitive. A lot are. But it's also there are terms that I think are not always fully translated. Yeah, and I would love to talk about that with you for a minute, because you and I are both empathic, and we are both like very highly sensitive, like very high. Like we can't be in toxic rooms because we'll absorb the energy that's present. So you know, one thing about you and I will pop up and we'll be in the mix and then you won't hear from us for months. Yes, yes, but you know that piece that's something. When I first learned of that phrase early in my journey, I really rejected that label highly sensitive because I didn't fully understand what it meant, and as someone that had lived a life that I felt like, I don't look like the things that I've been through, So sometimes people assume things are easier than they've actually been. I really rejected that because I would say, I'm not sensitive. You don't know my life. Do you know what I've walked through? I'm not sensitive, And I didn't really understand that it meant like deep sensitivity of your physical body, like on a cellular level, the way that your body responds to stress, way that your body responds to toxicity. But that alone is such a profound healing journey. When you can understand that you know some things that may be happening to you physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, there's a whole other category of experience you're having that could be massively different from other people. Yes, can we speak to that. Can you speak on what that journey is for you? Kind of being someone that's highly sensitive, someone that is incredibly intuitive, and how you adapt your needs around that.

I am deeply Wow. I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast. I have an incredible, incredible guest joining us today, Leyla Delia. You know, there's a lot of phrases that are getting thrown around a lot right now. A lot of a lot of people are like, I'm an impath, I'm highly sensitive. A lot are. But it's also there are terms that I think are not always fully translated. Yeah, and I would love to talk about that with you for a minute, because you and I are both empathic, and we are both like very highly sensitive, like very high. Like we can't be in toxic rooms because we'll absorb the energy that's present. So you know, one thing about you and I will pop up and we'll be in the mix and then you won't hear from us for months. Yes, yes, but you know that piece that's something. When I first learned of that phrase early in my journey, I really rejected that label highly sensitive because I didn't fully understand what it meant, and as someone that had lived a life that I felt like, I don't look like the things that I've been through, So sometimes people assume things are easier than they've actually been. I really rejected that because I would say, I'm not sensitive. You don't know my life. Do you know what I've walked through? I'm not sensitive, And I didn't really understand that it meant like deep sensitivity of your physical body, like on a cellular level, the way that your body responds to stress, way that your body responds to toxicity. But that alone is such a profound healing journey. When you can understand that you know some things that may be happening to you physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, there's a whole other category of experience you're having that could be massively different from other people. Yes, can we speak to that. Can you speak on what that journey is for you? Kind of being someone that's highly sensitive, someone that is incredibly intuitive, and how you adapt your needs around that.

Oh? Absolutely, it was. It was helpful for me as well, because I had language for what I was experiencing, and like the adage goes, name it to tame it, and so it helps to know, Okay, well, I have a sensitivity to stimuli, into energy, into people's fields, and even to people's thoughts.

Oh? Absolutely, it was. It was helpful for me as well, because I had language for what I was experiencing, and like the adage goes, name it to tame it, and so it helps to know, Okay, well, I have a sensitivity to stimuli, into energy, into people's fields, and even to people's thoughts.

Yeah, like I can.

Yeah, like I can.

I can literally in a room and feel someone's thoughts. But when I was younger, I didn't know what to do with that, Like what are you growing up in the eighties and in night, Like yeah, there was just no context, language, no language, no community, no support for any of this. So it kind of swept that swept under the rug. So we're our generation is the ones who were awakening to it in a way of like, oh we're we're We brought the support online. So now this next generation and the generations to come, we'll have language forward and community and support and a path already paved to say it's okay to land here and to be like this. But I, for the life of me, I felt so awkward for a huge majority of my life. It was a lot of masking. It was a lot of fitting in because oh, no one else is feeling this, all right, you know, I'm just keeping it to myself. But at the same time, I'm reading the room. I know we shouldn't be here. I know I shouldn't be here for sure, but going along with it. So there's a lot of killing I had to do through even that type of thing of not being true to who I was because no one else could understand it. So I just kind of just buried it, right and so now but living in that authenticity, authenticity and in my power with it changed the game. Like, I'm so happy that I claimed who I am and I'm proud of it. I'm happy, you know, I'm I'm full of gratitude for being able to name like what I'm going through, and you know, even even on a deeper level of like recently finding out other things about myself of like, okay, you're on the spectrum and it's okay, it's okay to be you know, high functioning and on the spectrum. And I never understood that before.

I can literally in a room and feel someone's thoughts. But when I was younger, I didn't know what to do with that, Like what are you growing up in the eighties and in night, Like yeah, there was just no context, language, no language, no community, no support for any of this. So it kind of swept that swept under the rug. So we're our generation is the ones who were awakening to it in a way of like, oh we're we're We brought the support online. So now this next generation and the generations to come, we'll have language forward and community and support and a path already paved to say it's okay to land here and to be like this. But I, for the life of me, I felt so awkward for a huge majority of my life. It was a lot of masking. It was a lot of fitting in because oh, no one else is feeling this, all right, you know, I'm just keeping it to myself. But at the same time, I'm reading the room. I know we shouldn't be here. I know I shouldn't be here for sure, but going along with it. So there's a lot of killing I had to do through even that type of thing of not being true to who I was because no one else could understand it. So I just kind of just buried it, right and so now but living in that authenticity, authenticity and in my power with it changed the game. Like, I'm so happy that I claimed who I am and I'm proud of it. I'm happy, you know, I'm I'm full of gratitude for being able to name like what I'm going through, and you know, even even on a deeper level of like recently finding out other things about myself of like, okay, you're on the spectrum and it's okay, it's okay to be you know, high functioning and on the spectrum. And I never understood that before.

I love you.

I love you.

I love you. Yeah, And so for me understanding, well, this is why you had that gift, this is why you had these feelings, this is why you could perceive things, this is why people didn't always understand you, and this is why you were misled or mislabeled, and you know, thinking back far as like kindergarten, you know, being put back in kindergarten because I didn't know what was wrong with me. But now that I understand that it wasn't anything wrong, it was just different, right, and it was just something different.

I love you. Yeah, And so for me understanding, well, this is why you had that gift, this is why you had these feelings, this is why you could perceive things, this is why people didn't always understand you, and this is why you were misled or mislabeled, and you know, thinking back far as like kindergarten, you know, being put back in kindergarten because I didn't know what was wrong with me. But now that I understand that it wasn't anything wrong, it was just different, right, and it was just something different.

We are joined by DANAE. Logan.

We are joined by DANAE. Logan.

I believe there's so much about our society as it has been that's been like a really wounded masculine paradigm. And so that's like really like competitive productivity at all costs, you know, just sort of like pull yourself up by your bootstraps and like really like disengaged from our inner world in so many ways. Like that's like the societal paradigm that's been normalized. And a lot of times, like the things that we revere, like especially in Western culture, like we really sort of like you know, this thing of like working ourselves until we're sick, not having any like vacation days. That's really like those are like the things that we value societally.

I believe there's so much about our society as it has been that's been like a really wounded masculine paradigm. And so that's like really like competitive productivity at all costs, you know, just sort of like pull yourself up by your bootstraps and like really like disengaged from our inner world in so many ways. Like that's like the societal paradigm that's been normalized. And a lot of times, like the things that we revere, like especially in Western culture, like we really sort of like you know, this thing of like working ourselves until we're sick, not having any like vacation days. That's really like those are like the things that we value societally.

Now.

Now.

When it comes to feminine energy, we really think of feminine energy with a lot of contempt and a lot of what we believe is feminine energy is really a distortion of feminine energy. So that's sort of like the insecure, clingy, you know, codependent like anxious like need someone else to complete me energy. We think of that as feminine energy. And you know, as we were saying before, that's in all of us, Like we will all sort of do this dance between our wounded masculine and feminine energetics. But what I started to understand is like we're a society that doesn't really have any sort of like conceptualization of what these dynamics are and look like from a healthy perspective. And you know, certainly with masculine energy, we don't even know or have models of what healthy masculinity looks like really, And so when we think about, like what is healthy masculinity, that is a sense of self, that is confidence, that is a mission that is like I am rooted in what I know, I'm here to do, and I got me no matter what, right, And that's in all of us. That's the like moving forward from the space of inspired action versus how it looks from the outside, right, like from a space rooted from within. But then this beautiful, healthy, feminine energetic is the energetic within all of us that like, if I think of feminine energy, the first word that comes to mind is always trust, because the feminine energy is like the source energy within all of us. It is the aspect of us that is like connected to the divine, and so that is like the receptive energy, that is the part of us that believes that we can trust our intuition, trust our internal guidance system, and know that we will be held. It's the part of us that trust in life allows ourselves to play and be free and embodied all of these beautiful aspects of our feminine But all of us need to like really have both of those energetics alive and dancing and integrated within us. But we can't really have that until we not only have an understanding of what those energetics are and how they show up, but what it looks like tangibly to take responsibility for our own energy. And that's really what I try to walk people through in the book, like that we are actually able not only to take responsibility for our own energy in any given moment. But what's amazing about Couple's work is when we take responsibility for our own energy. And this isn't just in romantic relationships, it's in relationships in general, inevitably we will create polarity. We'll create healthy polarity. So just like a quick example of what that can look like. So let's say that I'm like you're like in a we're going to pretend like we're like battling in wounded polarity for a moment, right, So, if you were like in wounded feminine energetic, and you're just like constantly like wanting more from me, telling me that, like you know, you just like want to hang out more, and I'm just like not eating your needs, and like there's all of these ways that you're feeling like you want more from me, but I'm not giving it to you, and it's making you feel insecure and unhappy in this relationship. And so I'm in wounded masculine energy and I'm just like really irritated and like, oh, you're always pulling on me and you're so needy and I'm like really trying to build something at work and why don't you understand? And I'm just like really in this like guarded wounded masculine paradigm with you. My work is to shift into my healthy feminine So if I'm in wounded masculine. I go into my healthy feminine and that's me in the space of vulnerability. So I get still and I like really say, okay, like, what is it that Debbie's doing that? Like I'm telling myself a story about I take up space the feminine is like the spaciousness. So I take up space with the truth of how this feels for me. I say, the vulnerable thing I say, you know, the story I'm telling myself is that like, no matter what I do, it's never enough for you. And that reminds me maybe of the way that like my mom always criticized me. Like we get into like the vulnerable conversation and I take up space with that. And what will inevitably happen is as I take up space in my healthy feminine, you will start to create healthy masculine containment for me. And so you will see me in this vulnerable space and you'll be like, oh, tonay, I wasn't trying to make you feel that way. All of a sudden, you got me. You're containing me. You're like, I see you, I see how I'm making you feel. That was not my intention. And we start to be in that dance.

When it comes to feminine energy, we really think of feminine energy with a lot of contempt and a lot of what we believe is feminine energy is really a distortion of feminine energy. So that's sort of like the insecure, clingy, you know, codependent like anxious like need someone else to complete me energy. We think of that as feminine energy. And you know, as we were saying before, that's in all of us, Like we will all sort of do this dance between our wounded masculine and feminine energetics. But what I started to understand is like we're a society that doesn't really have any sort of like conceptualization of what these dynamics are and look like from a healthy perspective. And you know, certainly with masculine energy, we don't even know or have models of what healthy masculinity looks like really, And so when we think about, like what is healthy masculinity, that is a sense of self, that is confidence, that is a mission that is like I am rooted in what I know, I'm here to do, and I got me no matter what, right, And that's in all of us. That's the like moving forward from the space of inspired action versus how it looks from the outside, right, like from a space rooted from within. But then this beautiful, healthy, feminine energetic is the energetic within all of us that like, if I think of feminine energy, the first word that comes to mind is always trust, because the feminine energy is like the source energy within all of us. It is the aspect of us that is like connected to the divine, and so that is like the receptive energy, that is the part of us that believes that we can trust our intuition, trust our internal guidance system, and know that we will be held. It's the part of us that trust in life allows ourselves to play and be free and embodied all of these beautiful aspects of our feminine But all of us need to like really have both of those energetics alive and dancing and integrated within us. But we can't really have that until we not only have an understanding of what those energetics are and how they show up, but what it looks like tangibly to take responsibility for our own energy. And that's really what I try to walk people through in the book, like that we are actually able not only to take responsibility for our own energy in any given moment. But what's amazing about Couple's work is when we take responsibility for our own energy. And this isn't just in romantic relationships, it's in relationships in general, inevitably we will create polarity. We'll create healthy polarity. So just like a quick example of what that can look like. So let's say that I'm like you're like in a we're going to pretend like we're like battling in wounded polarity for a moment, right, So, if you were like in wounded feminine energetic, and you're just like constantly like wanting more from me, telling me that, like you know, you just like want to hang out more, and I'm just like not eating your needs, and like there's all of these ways that you're feeling like you want more from me, but I'm not giving it to you, and it's making you feel insecure and unhappy in this relationship. And so I'm in wounded masculine energy and I'm just like really irritated and like, oh, you're always pulling on me and you're so needy and I'm like really trying to build something at work and why don't you understand? And I'm just like really in this like guarded wounded masculine paradigm with you. My work is to shift into my healthy feminine So if I'm in wounded masculine. I go into my healthy feminine and that's me in the space of vulnerability. So I get still and I like really say, okay, like, what is it that Debbie's doing that? Like I'm telling myself a story about I take up space the feminine is like the spaciousness. So I take up space with the truth of how this feels for me. I say, the vulnerable thing I say, you know, the story I'm telling myself is that like, no matter what I do, it's never enough for you. And that reminds me maybe of the way that like my mom always criticized me. Like we get into like the vulnerable conversation and I take up space with that. And what will inevitably happen is as I take up space in my healthy feminine, you will start to create healthy masculine containment for me. And so you will see me in this vulnerable space and you'll be like, oh, tonay, I wasn't trying to make you feel that way. All of a sudden, you got me. You're containing me. You're like, I see you, I see how I'm making you feel. That was not my intention. And we start to be in that dance.

Today's guest Minaj.

Today's guest Minaj.

I had a career in marketing and advertising and I got really sick, like physically, very very sick, and I couldn't work because I had a really big panic attack one day at work. And there was about two years that I didn't work. My mother was looking after me, and it was in that period that I found my teacher and I started practicing with him every day and I was getting better. I was getting healed, and my mental health was coming back. My physical health has come back. I was pretty much like an eating disorder and I had really bad panic attacks and things like that. Anyway, after the two years, I got a job. I was back at you know, working in this fancy financial institution in marketing and advertising. And then he asked me to teach a class and he did it in a way that was not like expected. I rocked up to take his class and he said, I don't feel well today, can you teach it? And I'm like, oh, oh okay, like I'd never taught before, and so I went there and I just you know, took in all of what he said and I started teaching. And then he came and sat in the class and he wasn't sick, right, and I was like, strange, like my teacher's coming and doing this. Anyway, I went back to work and then every now and again I'd teach this one class, you know, whenever he was sick. And then he said to me, one day, eventually life film, you'll teach. And this was seventeen years ago where I was like and I was like, I don't want to be a meditation teacher, like you don't make money. And it was like frowned upon, right, And I was in a circle of very cool people going to parties or that anyway, but there was this little flicker within me that's like I feel really happy every time I'm teaching, Like I just feel like I'm in alignment to what you said. I feel like like I don't have to struggle when I'm doing this one thing, which is teaching. And so there was a moment where I was like, fuck it, I'm going to go all in. I'm just going to teach and mind you, I'm taking you back like sixteen fifteen years now, and I had a daughter. I have a daughter, sell but at the point at that time she was very young. I had a six figure salary, was making one hundred and fifty K. I was in my late twenties, and I'm like, oh, I just feel like this is it. It just feels so true. So I quit my job and I started teaching at any studio that would take me. And for the first year, I made thirty five thousand dollars, Like you couldn't even barely exist on that, and I kept on borrowing money from my mom and dad obviously, but not much because I didn't have much either, But every time I did it, I was just so happy. And since that year, I've never like, I've never felt like I could live off you know, nothing again, but like I never wanted anything. I never wanted fancy clothes and dinners or anything. I was so happy. The second year, this the biggest studio in Australia, is like, we want you to teach for us, and we're going to give you a full time job, and we're going to make you this fancy title of performance coach. And from that moment on, every decision I made which was in alignment with what I was feeling at the time and my intuition took me down the path that I'm on now. The money came to your point, like the money came, like the job came, the courier came. But I was just in alignment. I was doing what I knew to be true, what I knew to be of benefit to the world, and I wasn't thinking about how much money I was going to make. I was like, this just feels good, Like this just feels right. And I think to your point, if you put the money thing out of which is really paradle because we need money. And I'm not saying just forget money and do it, but if you genuinely approach your life through the perspective of I am going to be of benefit to others, there is something and you might have better language for it. There is something that conspires to make sure that you are taken care of. And it might not look the way that it looks now. And I went through fifteen years of not making any money to eventually feeling like, oh, I've got something. And it's a long road, but like I promise you, if you follow your heart and you be of benefit to the world, and something happens happen.

I had a career in marketing and advertising and I got really sick, like physically, very very sick, and I couldn't work because I had a really big panic attack one day at work. And there was about two years that I didn't work. My mother was looking after me, and it was in that period that I found my teacher and I started practicing with him every day and I was getting better. I was getting healed, and my mental health was coming back. My physical health has come back. I was pretty much like an eating disorder and I had really bad panic attacks and things like that. Anyway, after the two years, I got a job. I was back at you know, working in this fancy financial institution in marketing and advertising. And then he asked me to teach a class and he did it in a way that was not like expected. I rocked up to take his class and he said, I don't feel well today, can you teach it? And I'm like, oh, oh okay, like I'd never taught before, and so I went there and I just you know, took in all of what he said and I started teaching. And then he came and sat in the class and he wasn't sick, right, and I was like, strange, like my teacher's coming and doing this. Anyway, I went back to work and then every now and again I'd teach this one class, you know, whenever he was sick. And then he said to me, one day, eventually life film, you'll teach. And this was seventeen years ago where I was like and I was like, I don't want to be a meditation teacher, like you don't make money. And it was like frowned upon, right, And I was in a circle of very cool people going to parties or that anyway, but there was this little flicker within me that's like I feel really happy every time I'm teaching, Like I just feel like I'm in alignment to what you said. I feel like like I don't have to struggle when I'm doing this one thing, which is teaching. And so there was a moment where I was like, fuck it, I'm going to go all in. I'm just going to teach and mind you, I'm taking you back like sixteen fifteen years now, and I had a daughter. I have a daughter, sell but at the point at that time she was very young. I had a six figure salary, was making one hundred and fifty K. I was in my late twenties, and I'm like, oh, I just feel like this is it. It just feels so true. So I quit my job and I started teaching at any studio that would take me. And for the first year, I made thirty five thousand dollars, Like you couldn't even barely exist on that, and I kept on borrowing money from my mom and dad obviously, but not much because I didn't have much either, But every time I did it, I was just so happy. And since that year, I've never like, I've never felt like I could live off you know, nothing again, but like I never wanted anything. I never wanted fancy clothes and dinners or anything. I was so happy. The second year, this the biggest studio in Australia, is like, we want you to teach for us, and we're going to give you a full time job, and we're going to make you this fancy title of performance coach. And from that moment on, every decision I made which was in alignment with what I was feeling at the time and my intuition took me down the path that I'm on now. The money came to your point, like the money came, like the job came, the courier came. But I was just in alignment. I was doing what I knew to be true, what I knew to be of benefit to the world, and I wasn't thinking about how much money I was going to make. I was like, this just feels good, Like this just feels right. And I think to your point, if you put the money thing out of which is really paradle because we need money. And I'm not saying just forget money and do it, but if you genuinely approach your life through the perspective of I am going to be of benefit to others, there is something and you might have better language for it. There is something that conspires to make sure that you are taken care of. And it might not look the way that it looks now. And I went through fifteen years of not making any money to eventually feeling like, oh, I've got something. And it's a long road, but like I promise you, if you follow your heart and you be of benefit to the world, and something happens happen.

So in that year time span, I investigated that with a lot of different kinds of people. I had eight lot of conversations. I said a lot, I heard a lot, had a lot of prayer for just the cleanliness of the breaks. You know that any break that happened with anyone in my life, that it could be done with dignity, with respect, with honor, with grace, with an appreciation for whatever time we spent together, whatever we learned from each other. And that felt good. That really settled my heart and spirit and kind of a lot of space of like I can, I can really see you from afar and smile, you know, and feel happy for you and feel you know, grateful for you. But also know that we don't have to be an active friendship or partnership anymore. You know that that's not what our path is at this time. But if I run into you, can we can I give you a big hug? Can I? You know? So in that year that I did that, I shed a lot a lot of connections, and I created a lot of space for God to walk into my life, the connections that really are aligned with who I am in this moment. And again, in most cases, it's not good or bad. It's not like new friends were better than the old, but it's just that we change so much, and it is so important to be in alignment with who we are, with the calling on our lives, with the time, you know. So in that space I met some new friends that have become some of the closest people in my life. I had space to just try new things, to have more time for myself to try on some new hobbies. And also in the midst of doing all of that, I did a massive social media purge. So this is probably three years ago now, but I always take big breaks from social media, typically in the winter, and so in December, I think I was following like a couple thousand people. I don't know how many. I unfollowed everyone, and then I kept it like that for a couple months, and then when I was ready to see social media again. I have since and I'm still doing it. Been slowly easing myself back into following people, and so I would just kind of add a couple people here and there when they popped into my mind. I would, you know, whenever they came into my awareness or my consciousness, then I'd be like, oh, yeah, I want to follow that person back. But that was one of the greatest kind of unfoldings of this process. Too, was clearing house on social media. I've shared this process with a lot of my girlfriends who have since done it as well. But it was so powerful because something I realized was I don't have the time, the space, or the capacity to know the nuance of everyone's life that I've ever known. Right like on social media. When I first signed up, which was over a decade ago, you just followed everybody you ever saw, and you're interacting with each other, and it felt cool because you were kind of getting more connected with people you didn't know well and you know, just able to share different sides of yourself. And then moving to a few different states, I was, you know, you kind of get this big group of people all at the same time. And so I was just following people that I just hadn't seen, I hadn't talked to, I hadn't thought of on my own naturally in ten years. You know, it's not there's not enough space in my brain to know what everyone is doing and what everyone who I've known or met decades ago, what they're reading, what they're eating, who their kids are, what they like. You know, it's fun when you can pop in and get that organically. You know, like you just happen to run into someone on the street and that's where you do the big ketchup. I haven't seen you in twenty years? What are you doing?

So in that year time span, I investigated that with a lot of different kinds of people. I had eight lot of conversations. I said a lot, I heard a lot, had a lot of prayer for just the cleanliness of the breaks. You know that any break that happened with anyone in my life, that it could be done with dignity, with respect, with honor, with grace, with an appreciation for whatever time we spent together, whatever we learned from each other. And that felt good. That really settled my heart and spirit and kind of a lot of space of like I can, I can really see you from afar and smile, you know, and feel happy for you and feel you know, grateful for you. But also know that we don't have to be an active friendship or partnership anymore. You know that that's not what our path is at this time. But if I run into you, can we can I give you a big hug? Can I? You know? So in that year that I did that, I shed a lot a lot of connections, and I created a lot of space for God to walk into my life, the connections that really are aligned with who I am in this moment. And again, in most cases, it's not good or bad. It's not like new friends were better than the old, but it's just that we change so much, and it is so important to be in alignment with who we are, with the calling on our lives, with the time, you know. So in that space I met some new friends that have become some of the closest people in my life. I had space to just try new things, to have more time for myself to try on some new hobbies. And also in the midst of doing all of that, I did a massive social media purge. So this is probably three years ago now, but I always take big breaks from social media, typically in the winter, and so in December, I think I was following like a couple thousand people. I don't know how many. I unfollowed everyone, and then I kept it like that for a couple months, and then when I was ready to see social media again. I have since and I'm still doing it. Been slowly easing myself back into following people, and so I would just kind of add a couple people here and there when they popped into my mind. I would, you know, whenever they came into my awareness or my consciousness, then I'd be like, oh, yeah, I want to follow that person back. But that was one of the greatest kind of unfoldings of this process. Too, was clearing house on social media. I've shared this process with a lot of my girlfriends who have since done it as well. But it was so powerful because something I realized was I don't have the time, the space, or the capacity to know the nuance of everyone's life that I've ever known. Right like on social media. When I first signed up, which was over a decade ago, you just followed everybody you ever saw, and you're interacting with each other, and it felt cool because you were kind of getting more connected with people you didn't know well and you know, just able to share different sides of yourself. And then moving to a few different states, I was, you know, you kind of get this big group of people all at the same time. And so I was just following people that I just hadn't seen, I hadn't talked to, I hadn't thought of on my own naturally in ten years. You know, it's not there's not enough space in my brain to know what everyone is doing and what everyone who I've known or met decades ago, what they're reading, what they're eating, who their kids are, what they like. You know, it's fun when you can pop in and get that organically. You know, like you just happen to run into someone on the street and that's where you do the big ketchup. I haven't seen you in twenty years? What are you doing?

Who are you?

Who are you?

I wanted more space for that in my life, like authenticity of surprise, the authenticity of connection. So I think I'm somewhere around like four hundred people that I'm following back. Now there's still people I haven't followed back. I've definitely got some stuff for that. That's fine, And it made space to see, like, what do I actually want to fill my psyche with with all of the ways that social media floods you're subconscious, you know, I want to be a little bit more diligent and discerning with that too. So that was my social media process, That was my friend purge process. All of that got me up to this last year and it felt amazing like the last couple of years having done that have been so rich, so fun, so expansive in so many different ways, and it just I felt like it really proved my intuition right, and I felt so grateful that I took the time to do that, because it wasn't comfortable, you know, it is an uncomfortable thing to have all those conversations, to even check the charge in your body when you do a massive follow and how people will feel, and you know, but just being with whatever feeling is present and noticing it. It's part of the power of the process.

I wanted more space for that in my life, like authenticity of surprise, the authenticity of connection. So I think I'm somewhere around like four hundred people that I'm following back. Now there's still people I haven't followed back. I've definitely got some stuff for that. That's fine, And it made space to see, like, what do I actually want to fill my psyche with with all of the ways that social media floods you're subconscious, you know, I want to be a little bit more diligent and discerning with that too. So that was my social media process, That was my friend purge process. All of that got me up to this last year and it felt amazing like the last couple of years having done that have been so rich, so fun, so expansive in so many different ways, and it just I felt like it really proved my intuition right, and I felt so grateful that I took the time to do that, because it wasn't comfortable, you know, it is an uncomfortable thing to have all those conversations, to even check the charge in your body when you do a massive follow and how people will feel, and you know, but just being with whatever feeling is present and noticing it. It's part of the power of the process.

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