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Hey, team glenes are here walking back to the building Better Humans Project podcast. I want to talk about one of my favorite quotes, and that is that to leave small fights for small fighters. Now, what this means is often in life we get dragged into responding or reacting to things that happen around us. And a classic example would be you're driving to work and someone cuts you off in traffic and you just get really annoyed by that and I've definitely been here, or you know, you're in an eighty k zone and someone's sitting on sixty and it just drives you nuts because you could be going a little bit faster. I try to stay as calm as I can in these situations because look at it this way. If the biggest challenge going on in your life right now is the fact that someone has cut you off in traffic, or someone has said something bad about you, or someone has a poor opinion of you, or whatever it is, it doesn't really matter what the thing is. But if people are out there talking about you, if people are cutting you off in traffic, if people are driving too slowly, if a friend has offended you in some way, shape or form because they haven't invited you somewhere or done something for you that you would have expected them to do. If that is the biggest problem that you have, then I think your life's going pretty well. And I just love the concept of why do you care? I was listening to ed Ma Letten Dan Graziano recently on a PEP talk, just a real short piece where they were talking about, hey, if I order this. They were talking about being in a restaurant if I order medium rare steak and for some reason chicken turns up, I don't care. I just go about I'll eat it anyway, because it's not the biggest problem in my life. And it's a really interesting perspective because you've got to have some real clarity and some real calm in your life in order for you to not be offended or affected by things that aren't really that big a deal on the grand scale. When we have some sort of response or we're affected by these sort of things, and this is just my opinion, but when that happens, it's because there's a lot of other term oil or challenges in our life and we don't have the capacity to find our calm in the middle of that, and Therefore we react and respond to everything, and then the bigger things become even bigger because you've made the small things way bigger than what they needed to be. So if you want to find calm, and you want to find clarity, and you want to find the capacity not to respond and react to everything, practice that in the small moments, Practice that in the daily. My challenge personally for the next week, and maybe I'll even do this for another month, is to try not to respond when I'm driving, Try not to. Like I don't respond outward. I'm not beeping the horn and hand out the window, but I do get annoyed when people are driving too slow, or they cut you off, or why are they doing this. I've got someone to be I've got a busy life. Time is important to me. But at the end of the day, my responding that way, what does it change? Absolutely nothing. They don't speed up, if anything, that might slow down if they see me responding. I don't get there any quicker. I just get they're more annoyed, and then there's a good chance so I carry that annoyance across into other things. So I'm gonna try. I've always liked being the calm and the chaos. But I want to try it on the micro moments, because if I can do that in the micro moments, I can certainly do that in the macro moments the bigger moments as well. I'll play this little audio for you just because I think it's a cracking one and I think you'll enjoy it.
Phase of my life.
I'm not shitting you. If I order medium rare steak at a restaurant and they bring me well done chicken, I just need it.
Who gives a shit? The same way it's if somebody cuts me.
Off in traffic and then flips me off, I'm like, wow, they need bigger problems. Traffic is bugging you that much, you'll never be successful. So know that if you're annoyed because a friend doesn't ask you to go to the mall, or someone cuts you off in traffic, or you think a friend offended you, or you think a coworker's being a little rude, then you're screwed because you're worrying about the wrong things. Spend that energy on solving big problems, and you accomplished big things.
I absolutely love that concept. So you need bigger problems. If you're bonding to those things. And that's the challenge I want to set for myself and most certainly the challenge I want to set for you. As mentioned in some previous episodes, I have some spaces for some one on one mentoring. If you'd like to get in touch with me, just glenmath two ends atlnesa dot com or head over to my instagram which is just Atlenesa and if you hit the link in the bar, you can book in for an initial session. And I'm more than happy to be that person in your corner and to try and help you work your way through some things. Sometimes in life, all you need is a slightly different perspective than the one you've got or the one that you're surrounded by. So hit me up and let's see what we can do.
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