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Let's go. Hey teen, Welcome back to the Building Better Human Tragic Podcast. Today, I want to explore a topic that so many parents, cares and mentors are struggling with, and that is young people who seem stuck. They finished school, or maybe they didn't, and now they're drifting no direction, no motivation, still living at home and struggling to take those first real steps into adulthood. There's a term for this, and it's called failure to Launch. And there's a powerful book, which I've talked about before, by a psychologist by the name of doctor Mark mcconbell, that digs into the real reasons behind it and more importantly, how we can help. I want to be clear this episode isn't about blame. It's about understanding because the world's changed and the path from childhood to adulthood isn't what it used to be. Fail to launch doesn't mean your kids lazy. It doesn't mean they're doomed or broken. It means they're struggling with the transition into independent adulthood. And that struggle can be emotional, psychological, or even developmental. It looks like this, living at home well into their twenties or thirties, avoiding work or study, getting stuck in endless gaming, social media, or avoidance, feeling anxious or overwhelmed by basic adult responsibilities. Now, Dr mcconbell breaks this down not as a failure, but as a delayed process. These young people aren't ready yet, and our job isn't to push harder, is to guide them more wisely. One of the key insights from the book is this failu to launch is often driven by avoidance, but underneath avoidance is almost always anxiety or a lack of confidence. These young adults fear failing, being judged, not knowing what they want or who they are today's world with constant pressure, social comparison, and are less linear path to success. It's understandable. Now here's a twist. Sometimes we as adults unintentionally contribute to the problem. We overhelp, we rescue, we try to protect, and we create what mcconvall calls a dependency trap, patterns where the young person avoids and we step in and they never build the skills they need to move forward. Doctor mcconwall offers a great metaphor, instead of being a manager but a consultant. A manager tells you what to do. A consultant waits to be invited in and offers guidance based on experience. So that means you stop rescuing and start encouraging problem solving, You stop lecturing and start listening. You set clear boundaries around your support, but remain emotionally available. Here's an example. Instead of nagging your twenty three year old to find a job, you might say, I'm happy to help you plan a job search strategy, but I'm not going to chase you about it anymore. You let me know when you're ready. This approach builds ownership, and that's the key, because until they own their fisher, they won't move forward. A big theme in Farry to Launch is that many young people today are underdeveloped, not unintelligent, just lacking in basic life skills. Think how to manage time, how to apply for jobs, how to cook budget, clean plan. These aren't just tasks, they're confidence builders. So instead of doing it all for them, get them involved. Even small winds create momentum. Also, let them fail, let them struggle a little bit, because that's where growth lives. So Why does this matter so much? Because we want our young people to thrive, to step into the world with belief, courage, and resilience, and that only happens when we shift from enabling to empowering. We're not just raising kids, we're launching adults, and that takes time, patience, and a different set of tools. This also ties back to our own mindset. We have to let go of control, we have to tolerate uncertainty, and we have to redefine success not as a straight line, but as forward movement, no matter how slow. If you've got a young adult in your life who's struggling to launch, start with empathy, see the fear behind the avoidance, offer support without taking over, set boundaries with love, and be the consultant, not the manager. Remember, this generation faces challenges that we never had to, but they also have more opportunities to grow, learn, and define life on their own terms. Thanks again for tuning in to the Building Better Humans project. If you found this episode valuable, please share it and let's keep building better humans one insight at a time.

Let's go. Hey teen, Welcome back to the Building Better Human Tragic Podcast. Today, I want to explore a topic that so many parents, cares and mentors are struggling with, and that is young people who seem stuck. They finished school, or maybe they didn't, and now they're drifting no direction, no motivation, still living at home and struggling to take those first real steps into adulthood. There's a term for this, and it's called failure to Launch. And there's a powerful book, which I've talked about before, by a psychologist by the name of doctor Mark mcconbell, that digs into the real reasons behind it and more importantly, how we can help. I want to be clear this episode isn't about blame. It's about understanding because the world's changed and the path from childhood to adulthood isn't what it used to be. Fail to launch doesn't mean your kids lazy. It doesn't mean they're doomed or broken. It means they're struggling with the transition into independent adulthood. And that struggle can be emotional, psychological, or even developmental. It looks like this, living at home well into their twenties or thirties, avoiding work or study, getting stuck in endless gaming, social media, or avoidance, feeling anxious or overwhelmed by basic adult responsibilities. Now, Dr mcconbell breaks this down not as a failure, but as a delayed process. These young people aren't ready yet, and our job isn't to push harder, is to guide them more wisely. One of the key insights from the book is this failu to launch is often driven by avoidance, but underneath avoidance is almost always anxiety or a lack of confidence. These young adults fear failing, being judged, not knowing what they want or who they are today's world with constant pressure, social comparison, and are less linear path to success. It's understandable. Now here's a twist. Sometimes we as adults unintentionally contribute to the problem. We overhelp, we rescue, we try to protect, and we create what mcconvall calls a dependency trap, patterns where the young person avoids and we step in and they never build the skills they need to move forward. Doctor mcconwall offers a great metaphor, instead of being a manager but a consultant. A manager tells you what to do. A consultant waits to be invited in and offers guidance based on experience. So that means you stop rescuing and start encouraging problem solving, You stop lecturing and start listening. You set clear boundaries around your support, but remain emotionally available. Here's an example. Instead of nagging your twenty three year old to find a job, you might say, I'm happy to help you plan a job search strategy, but I'm not going to chase you about it anymore. You let me know when you're ready. This approach builds ownership, and that's the key, because until they own their fisher, they won't move forward. A big theme in Farry to Launch is that many young people today are underdeveloped, not unintelligent, just lacking in basic life skills. Think how to manage time, how to apply for jobs, how to cook budget, clean plan. These aren't just tasks, they're confidence builders. So instead of doing it all for them, get them involved. Even small winds create momentum. Also, let them fail, let them struggle a little bit, because that's where growth lives. So Why does this matter so much? Because we want our young people to thrive, to step into the world with belief, courage, and resilience, and that only happens when we shift from enabling to empowering. We're not just raising kids, we're launching adults, and that takes time, patience, and a different set of tools. This also ties back to our own mindset. We have to let go of control, we have to tolerate uncertainty, and we have to redefine success not as a straight line, but as forward movement, no matter how slow. If you've got a young adult in your life who's struggling to launch, start with empathy, see the fear behind the avoidance, offer support without taking over, set boundaries with love, and be the consultant, not the manager. Remember, this generation faces challenges that we never had to, but they also have more opportunities to grow, learn, and define life on their own terms. Thanks again for tuning in to the Building Better Humans project. If you found this episode valuable, please share it and let's keep building better humans one insight at a time.

Thanks for listening to this episode of the Building Better Humans podcast with your host Glenn Asa for feedback. To stay up to date or go back and find an old episode. Head over to one ady dot net dot au.

Thanks for listening to this episode of the Building Better Humans podcast with your host Glenn Asa for feedback. To stay up to date or go back and find an old episode. Head over to one ady dot net dot au.

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