This week we welcome the one and only Dirty Lola to discuss the ways we are relearning love from a queer lens and how we can continue to love ourselves, even when love doesn't seem to love us the way we want to be loved. 

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This week we welcome the one and only Dirty Lola to discuss the ways we are relearning love from a queer lens and how we can continue to love ourselves, even when love doesn't seem to love us the way we want to be loved. 
Make the haters mad and rate us 5 stars. 
Send us an email with your thoughts/comments about the show: <a href="mailto:BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com">BlackFatFemmePod@gmail.com</a>
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"The B.F.F. Podcast” gives voice to two of the leading queer, fat and Black changemakers while calling in the world to examine and understand what it means to love oneself unapologetically - in a world where loving oneself often feels impossible.

"The B.F.F. Podcast” gives voice to two of the leading queer, fat and Black changemakers while calling in the world to examine and understand what it means to love oneself unapologetically - in a world where loving oneself often feels impossible.

BFF: Black, Fat, Femme

I'm Searching For a Queer Love (Featuring Dirty Lola)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/7c815400-70ca-436d-b7dd-afef000a5275/transcript

What does it mean to be Black, gay, and free — all over the world?

This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Nick, creator of Black, Gay, and Abroad, to talk Black gay travel, safety, and storytelling. From MTV and BuzzFeed to building his own agency and passport-stamping his way across Spain, France, Mexico, Costa Rica, and beyond — Nick is redefining what it looks like to move through the world as a Black gay man.

We get into his iconic Yasss to Naur solo travel safety list, the art of long-form travel blogging in a short-form world, and why he went live from Puerto Vallarta during the El Mencho operation to counter the media narrative with truth on the ground.

Travel tips, queer joy, and citizen journalism — this episode has all of it.

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What does it mean to be Black, gay, and free &mdash; all over the world?
This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Nick, creator of Black, Gay, and Abroad, to talk Black gay travel, safety, and storytelling. From MTV and BuzzFeed to building his own agency and passport-stamping his way across Spain, France, Mexico, Costa Rica, and beyond &mdash; Nick is redefining what it looks like to move through the world as a Black gay man.
We get into his iconic Yasss to Naur solo travel safety list, the art of long-form travel blogging in a short-form world, and why he went live from Puerto Vallarta during the El Mencho operation to counter the media narrative with truth on the ground.
Travel tips, queer joy, and citizen journalism &mdash; this episode has all of it.
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Keep Your Head on Da Swivel (Featuring Nick Guillory)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/3bd0e1fa-297e-43ef-b79c-b41e00509ca4/transcript

This week on B.F.F.: Black Fat Femme Podcast, Joho and Jon are joined by Tre'vell Anderson & Ray Love Jr. from the Seated Podcast for a deep dive into the Black moviegoing experience. Coming off the chaos of award season, the trio gets real about how Black and queer audiences find joy, connection, and meaning in cinema — even as Hollywood’s marketing still caters to whiteness and heteronormativity. From theater call-and-response moments to the rise of streaming culture, they explore what it would look like if Black, queer, and trans perspectives were treated as the default rather than the exception. 

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This week on B.F.F.: Black Fat Femme Podcast, Joho and Jon are joined by Tre'vell Anderson &amp; Ray Love Jr. from the Seated Podcast for a deep dive into the&nbsp;Black moviegoing experience. Coming off the chaos of award season, the trio gets real about how Black and queer audiences find joy, connection, and meaning in cinema &mdash; even as Hollywood&rsquo;s marketing still caters to whiteness and heteronormativity. From theater call-and-response moments to the rise of streaming culture, they explore what it would look like if Black, queer, and trans perspectives were treated as the default rather than the exception.&nbsp;
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It's Giving Black Cinema (Featuring Tre'vell Anderson & Ray Love Jr.) 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/9b91f6d5-fa81-490b-9038-b416014c63c3/transcript

In celebration of Women’s History Month, Joho and Jon dedicate this week’s episode to the Black trans women whose courage and brilliance helped shape movements for civil rights, LGBTQ+ justice, and social liberation — yet whose names are too often left out of mainstream narratives. Through stories of Frances Thompson, Lucy Hicks Anderson, and Mary Jones, this episode shines a light on resilience, survival, and truth-telling across centuries of systemic harm.

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In celebration of Women&rsquo;s History Month, Joho and Jon dedicate this week&rsquo;s episode to the Black trans women whose courage and brilliance helped shape movements for civil rights, LGBTQ+ justice, and social liberation &mdash; yet whose names are too often left out of mainstream narratives. Through stories of Frances Thompson, Lucy Hicks Anderson, and Mary Jones, this episode shines a light on resilience, survival, and truth-telling across centuries of systemic harm.
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Unearthing Our Mothers 

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/eb6d5027-c079-4101-87a5-b40f017c0502/transcript

I'm Searching For a Queer Love (Featuring Dirty Lola)

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