Anonymous met his partner seven years ago and says they moved in together at his partner’s family home, on her request, as he used to live at his work quarters when they met. 

He was initially ok with this living arrangement, however, over time he’s felt emasculated by this situation, with people in the community referring to him as “makoti”. 

He has spoken to his partner about moving out from her family home and renting somewhere else, but she’s completely against it. 

Anonymous also feels bullied in his relationship and adds that his partner doesn’t seem to respect him.