What does it really mean to help someone, and where do we draw the line?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with the incredible Terri Cole, a psychotherapist whose own life experiences offer a profound look into the world of high-functioning codependency. Terri shares an unforgettable story about the night she brought a stranger home from the train station—a gesture that sparks our exploration into the blurred lines between helping and interfering. 

Join us as we delve into the psychological impacts of codependency, discussing how our desires to help can sometimes control both our lives and those around us. Terri provides crucial insights on recognizing when empathy exceeds healthy limits and the vital importance of establishing boundaries for our well-being. 

If you’ve ever found yourself in the role of a rescuer, or if you’re seeking to understand the emotional intricacies of codependency, this heartfelt discussion is not to be missed.

 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:56 Bringing home a stranger

03:13 What is high functioning codependency?

06:02 Signs of an HFC

07:47 The line between helping and controlling

11:14 How to support without overstepping

15:59 The power of asking expansive questions

18:30 The burden of being 'nice'

20:47 Breaking the cycle of auto advice-giving

25:20 Letting someone be their own hero

28:03 Why parents should let kids fail sometimes

39:05 Asking before giving advice

43:20 How projection affects our relationships

46:07 Why asking for help feels so hard

52:26 How to stop tying worth to helping others

58:09 Stop caring what others think

1:02:18 Showing up the same online and offline

1:07:40 The cost of perfectionism

1:12:25 How to truly rest your mind and body

 

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What does it really mean to help someone, and where do we draw the line?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I sit down with the incredible Terri Cole, a psychotherapist whose own life experiences offer a profound look into the world of high-functioning codependency. Terri shares an unforgettable story about the night she brought a stranger home from the train station&mdash;a gesture that sparks our exploration into the blurred lines between helping and interfering.&nbsp;
Join us as we delve into the psychological impacts of codependency, discussing how our desires to help can sometimes control both our lives and those around us. Terri provides crucial insights on recognizing when empathy exceeds healthy limits and the vital importance of establishing boundaries for our well-being.&nbsp;
If you&rsquo;ve ever found yourself in the role of a rescuer, or if you&rsquo;re seeking to understand the emotional intricacies of codependency, this heartfelt discussion is not to be missed.
&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:56 Bringing home a stranger
03:13 What is high functioning codependency?
06:02 Signs of an HFC
07:47 The line between helping and controlling
11:14 How to support without overstepping
15:59 The power of asking expansive questions
18:30 The burden of being 'nice'
20:47 Breaking the cycle of auto advice-giving
25:20 Letting someone be their own hero
28:03 Why parents should let kids fail sometimes
39:05 Asking before giving advice
43:20 How projection affects our relationships
46:07 Why asking for help feels so hard
52:26 How to stop tying worth to helping others
58:09 Stop caring what others think
1:02:18 Showing up the same online and offline
1:07:40 The cost of perfectionism
1:12:25 How to truly rest your mind and body
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This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

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Terri Cole: Stop Trying to Fix Everyone. Signs You’re a High-Functioning Codependent and How to Break the Cycle

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Why is it so hard to forgive and let go? 

I’ve been there–caught up in replaying moments where other people hurt me, and waiting for apologies that never come. And honestly? It’s exhausting.

In this episode, I’m sharing my own struggles with forgiveness and the surprising things I’ve learned about how much holding onto pain can weigh us down. We’ll talk about what forgiveness really is (hint: it’s not about them), how our emotions affect us physically, and some simple practices that can help us let go and feel lighter.

If you’re ready to stop letting the past take up so much space and make room for peace and joy, this one’s for you

 

What Was Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:08 Do we really need an apology to heal?

04:05 Getting hurt is just part of life

04:54 The impact of pent-up emotions on your body

05:36 Just let it go

06:29 Forgiveness isn’t about them, it’s about you

08:09 Forgiveness is strength, not weakness

10:22 How journaling helps you heal

12:33 Putting forgiveness in God’s hands

15:53 The 4 steps to forgiveness

17:43 Becoming forgivingly fit

21:11 Imagine forgiveness in your mind

 

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Why is it so hard to forgive and let go?&nbsp;
I&rsquo;ve been there&ndash;caught up in replaying moments where other people hurt me, and waiting for apologies that never come. And honestly? It&rsquo;s exhausting.
In this episode, I&rsquo;m sharing my own struggles with forgiveness and the surprising things I&rsquo;ve learned about how much holding onto pain can weigh us down. We&rsquo;ll talk about what forgiveness really is (hint: it&rsquo;s not about them), how our emotions affect us physically, and some simple practices that can help us let go and feel lighter.
If you&rsquo;re ready to stop letting the past take up so much space and make room for peace and joy, this one&rsquo;s for you
&nbsp;
What Was Discussed:
00:00 Intro
01:08 Do we really need an apology to heal?
04:05 Getting hurt is just part of life
04:54 The impact of pent-up emotions on your body
05:36 Just let it go
06:29 Forgiveness isn&rsquo;t about them, it&rsquo;s about you
08:09 Forgiveness is strength, not weakness
10:22 How journaling helps you heal
12:33 Putting forgiveness in God&rsquo;s hands
15:53 The 4 steps to forgiveness
17:43 Becoming forgivingly fit
21:11 Imagine forgiveness in your mind
&nbsp;
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Are You a Prisoner of your Pain and Past? 4 Steps to Forgiveness and the Power to Letting Go

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Are you ready to make wellness feel simple and joyful?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I’m sitting down with the wonderful Liz Moody, author of 100 Ways to Change Your Life, and we’re talking all about making wellness simple, fun, and actually doable. Liz shares her journey from dealing with anxiety to creating a life she truly loves, and she’s got so many beautiful tips on building self-trust, finding motivation that feels real, and ditching all the “perfect” wellness routines that just don’t work. 

We chat about creating small changes that last, embracing our bodies with love, and tuning into what really lights us up. If you’re ready for a fresh take on wellness that lets you just be you, then come join us—this episode is all about finding joy in every step.



What We Discuss:


00:00 Intro


03:07 "Never be the one to say no to yourself"


07:25 What does your best life look like?


11:37 When comfort foods don’t bring comfort


15:46 The power of curiosity to break bad habits


17:48 Why accountability helps you stick to goals


21:00 Purpose and connection keep us alive longer


24:12 Fear won’t get you to your goals


26:23 Finding your motivation to workout


31:49 Living in your body vs. Looking at it


37:50 Micro choices that redefine your life


44:02 Temptation bundling


47:11 Staying in touch with family and friends


49:47 Think about your death


56:30 Identify energy drains in your life


1:02:57 Setting boundaries to reclaim your energy


1:08:56 Be gentle with yourselves



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Are you ready to make wellness feel simple and joyful?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I’m sitting down with the wonderful Liz Moody, author of 100 Ways to Change Your Life, and we’re talking all about making wellness simple, fun, and actually doable. Liz shares her journey from dealing with anxiety to creating a life she truly loves, and she’s got so many beautiful tips on building self-trust, finding motivation that feels real, and ditching all the “perfect” wellness routines that just don’t work. 
We chat about creating small changes that last, embracing our bodies with love, and tuning into what really lights us up. If you’re ready for a fresh take on wellness that lets you just be you, then come join us—this episode is all about finding joy in every step.
 
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
00:00 Intro
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
03:07 "Never be the one to say no to yourself"
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
07:25 What does your best life look like?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
11:37 When comfort foods don’t bring comfort
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
15:46 The power of curiosity to break bad habits
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
17:48 Why accountability helps you stick to goals
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
21:00 Purpose and connection keep us alive longer
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
24:12 Fear won’t get you to your goals
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
26:23 Finding your motivation to workout
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
31:49 Living in your body vs. Looking at it
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
37:50 Micro choices that redefine your life
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
44:02 Temptation bundling
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
47:11 Staying in touch with family and friends
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
49:47 Think about your death
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
56:30 Identify energy drains in your life
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
1:02:57 Setting boundaries to reclaim your energy
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
1:08:56 Be gentle with yourselves
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</ul>
 
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Liz Moody: Simple Ways to Break Bad Habits and Change Your Life

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Ever walked into a room and felt like everyone’s eyes were on you, every flaw on display? You're not alone!

In this episode, we’re diving into what social anxiety really is, where it comes from, and why it affects so many of us. I’m sharing my own journey, my little tips and tricks, and how I found a path to feeling more calm and present. 

So, if you’ve ever felt the urge to bail on a party last-minute or felt uncomfortable in a crowd, tune in! We’ll explore the roots of this feeling and, hopefully, help you see that social anxiety doesn’t have to control your life. Let’s find that inner calm, together.



What Was Discussed:


00:00 Intro


02:34 Why I’ve Canceled Plans Last Minute


05:29 It’s Not Always About You


07:47 Are You Stopping Yourself From Feeling Better?


08:17 Show Up as Your True Self


10:23 Setting Goals and Giving Yourself an Exit Strategy


11:29 Get Comfortable with Uncomfortable Conversations


15:13 Be Honest About Your Anxiety


16:11 The “So What” Method


17:47 Ask More Questions and Become Curious


20:22 Sometimes You Just Have to Show Up


21:36 Ayurvedic Tips for Managing Anxiety


22:39 The Cost of Anxiety


23:42 Join A Club


24:40 How Clothing Impacts Confidence


26:03 Self-Love is Key to Confidence



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Ever walked into a room and felt like everyone’s eyes were on you, every flaw on display? You're not alone!
In this episode, we’re diving into what social anxiety really is, where it comes from, and why it affects so many of us. I’m sharing my own journey, my little tips and tricks, and how I found a path to feeling more calm and present. 
So, if you’ve ever felt the urge to bail on a party last-minute or felt uncomfortable in a crowd, tune in! We’ll explore the roots of this feeling and, hopefully, help you see that social anxiety doesn’t have to control your life. Let’s find that inner calm, together.
 
What Was Discussed:
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
00:00 Intro
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
02:34 Why I’ve Canceled Plans Last Minute
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
05:29 It’s Not Always About You
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
07:47 Are You Stopping Yourself From Feeling Better?
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
08:17 Show Up as Your True Self
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
10:23 Setting Goals and Giving Yourself an Exit Strategy
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
11:29 Get Comfortable with Uncomfortable Conversations
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
15:13 Be Honest About Your Anxiety
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
16:11 The “So What” Method
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
17:47 Ask More Questions and Become Curious
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
20:22 Sometimes You Just Have to Show Up
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
21:36 Ayurvedic Tips for Managing Anxiety
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
22:39 The Cost of Anxiety
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
23:42 Join A Club
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
24:40 How Clothing Impacts Confidence
</li>
<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
26:03 Self-Love is Key to Confidence
</li>
</ul>
 
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How to Overcome Social Anxiety: Simple Tools to Build Your Confidence

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