The place most people think is the end is actually just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it, think it, and then give it over to the universe and let them let the universe do its thing. It's actually not the case at all. That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you have to think, are you really ready for that desire to come true? Now, this is the most important part. I'm Ralei Wkah and on my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn, connect and find comfort together. Hey everyone, and welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. Now, today I'm going to talk about a topic that comes up a lot living in LA And honestly, I used to be a skeptic every single time I heard the word manifesting, especially here in LA, because everyone is manifesting everything from their boyfriends to their booties. But honestly, after becoming more intentional in my life and truly seeing and understanding the power of it, I realize it actually is pretty powerful and magical and incredible. If you are able to do it right. I think there's this woo woo idea of manifestation these days that is this magical thing that happens. And like I said, I do think it is quite magical, but not in the mystical way that you might think. It's not just wishing or hoping for it to come true or come into existence, or waiting for the very manifestation Godmother to come and give you all your heart desires. It's actually way more.

The place most people think is the end is actually just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it, think it, and then give it over to the universe and let them let the universe do its thing. It's actually not the case at all. That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you have to think, are you really ready for that desire to come true? Now, this is the most important part. I'm Ralei Wkah and on my podcast A Really Good Cry, we embrace the messy and the beautiful, providing a space for raw, unfiltered conversations that celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn, connect and find comfort together. Hey everyone, and welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. Now, today I'm going to talk about a topic that comes up a lot living in LA And honestly, I used to be a skeptic every single time I heard the word manifesting, especially here in LA, because everyone is manifesting everything from their boyfriends to their booties. But honestly, after becoming more intentional in my life and truly seeing and understanding the power of it, I realize it actually is pretty powerful and magical and incredible. If you are able to do it right. I think there's this woo woo idea of manifestation these days that is this magical thing that happens. And like I said, I do think it is quite magical, but not in the mystical way that you might think. It's not just wishing or hoping for it to come true or come into existence, or waiting for the very manifestation Godmother to come and give you all your heart desires. It's actually way more.

Practical than that.

Practical than that.

How do I change my lifestyle and the things that I'm doing daily to support and move towards achieving this goal that I want. Achieving a goal requires clear intention, actionable planning, and consistent effort, and manifesting is simply using tools and systems to bring your goals into reality. So you're focusing your energy, your thoughts, and your actions into achieving your desired outcome, bringing something really tangible into your life through attraction and belief. When I started researching it, reading about it, and listening to people speak about it, I actually realized that so much of my life has been a result of this process, and that's what it is. It actually is a process. I chose a goal. I refine my intention and my desire around it.

How do I change my lifestyle and the things that I'm doing daily to support and move towards achieving this goal that I want. Achieving a goal requires clear intention, actionable planning, and consistent effort, and manifesting is simply using tools and systems to bring your goals into reality. So you're focusing your energy, your thoughts, and your actions into achieving your desired outcome, bringing something really tangible into your life through attraction and belief. When I started researching it, reading about it, and listening to people speak about it, I actually realized that so much of my life has been a result of this process, and that's what it is. It actually is a process. I chose a goal. I refine my intention and my desire around it.

I imagine what it.

I imagine what it.

Would feel like, what it would be like to achieve it or have the thing that I wanted. I changed and I adapted my lifestyle, my habits, and my routine to be conducive to the desire and believed every single day that it was for me. Now, I believe in God, and I have since I was very young, and so I also believe that it's so much more than just a mething. Actually it's never really just an eye. It's always a wee. And I read this in Gabby Bernstein's book All about Manifestation. It's called the super Attractor, and she says that manifesting is known as co creating, and I really loved that definition. It's a collaboration between you and the universe, between you and God. And the truth is that sometimes when you do end up thinking it's a me thing, it's actually what limits us from opening ourselves to the opportunities or the possibility of more than what we even believe we are capable of.

Would feel like, what it would be like to achieve it or have the thing that I wanted. I changed and I adapted my lifestyle, my habits, and my routine to be conducive to the desire and believed every single day that it was for me. Now, I believe in God, and I have since I was very young, and so I also believe that it's so much more than just a mething. Actually it's never really just an eye. It's always a wee. And I read this in Gabby Bernstein's book All about Manifestation. It's called the super Attractor, and she says that manifesting is known as co creating, and I really loved that definition. It's a collaboration between you and the universe, between you and God. And the truth is that sometimes when you do end up thinking it's a me thing, it's actually what limits us from opening ourselves to the opportunities or the possibility of more than what we even believe we are capable of.

So believing it's a.

So believing it's a.

Team effort with you and God or you and the universe makes it feel like more is possible. More than you could even imagine, more than you even think. It's part of your reality, more than you could even foresee for yourself. You believe more could be possible because it's not just you. It's not you and your limited capabilities. It's you plus something or someone that is capable of doing anything and everything. And so actually believing that it's a we and not me makes so much more possible. The first time that I can really think back to when I did feel like I had manifested something in my life was when I was deeply seeking a spiritual community. And this was about, gosh, maybe like fifteen years ago now, maybe just under and I had such a deep desire to.

Team effort with you and God or you and the universe makes it feel like more is possible. More than you could even imagine, more than you even think. It's part of your reality, more than you could even foresee for yourself. You believe more could be possible because it's not just you. It's not you and your limited capabilities. It's you plus something or someone that is capable of doing anything and everything. And so actually believing that it's a we and not me makes so much more possible. The first time that I can really think back to when I did feel like I had manifested something in my life was when I was deeply seeking a spiritual community. And this was about, gosh, maybe like fifteen years ago now, maybe just under and I had such a deep desire to.

Have a meaningful spiritual practice in my life.

Have a meaningful spiritual practice in my life.

I just graduated from college or from university, and I was feeling a little bit lost. I never felt like I found a group of people that I really felt connected to through my university days. I did, I had made really good friends, but I still felt like I was lacking something. And I think a big part of that was this deep desire to feel connected to God and understand find a community that also felt that way. And so the desire was already there in me and had been for a while, and somehow through my mum, I actually got introduced to a spiritual youth group. And at that time, my routine or my lifestyle really was not conducive to what they were doing. They'd all have met ups on Fridays, and I'd have plans to go out with my friends to a bar or to hang out as SSHA place that night, or they'd do early morning prayers and I would have late nights the day before, so I wouldn't make it or wake up in time for it. So I really had to create space in my life. I created space. I created an environment that didn't just let me receive what I'd been asking for, but also allowed me to maintain it and keep it. And honestly, at the time it was really hard. My friends were confused, my family were confused. I suddenly decided to shift my whole reality into something new, and so it was really difficult for me to shift. But also the shift was difficult for other people around me, and they did not fail to let me know it. And so I had made a decision that I would go to the temple every single morning before I went to work. Now that meant I had to wake up at about four am, to get there for four thirty, to stay there till about six thirty seven, go home, get ready for work, and leave, and then to be able to do that all over again the next day, which I was trying to do. I really wanted to commit to just investing as much time and energy into something that I'd been wanting for so long, and so to be able to do that, I had to sacrifice certain things, so that meant no social life after work. I had made a decison that for my own consciousness, I didn't want to eat out in places that served me, and so that restricted my social life even more. And I just became very aware of being in environments that were supporting that life I wanted, and that weren't. And there were so many other things that I had to change. But I'm telling you all this to say that it did come to me, and it took work to keep it in my life, and it has every day since. And so manifestation is not just dreaming, it's not just envisioning what you want. It's not a woo woo experience. It's a full on process. And honestly, that's just one example I've seen it happen professionally and personally in my life over and over again. So before I share some tips on how to start manifesting in your life, I'm actually going to share some warnings for you, some of the mistakes that I've made along this process, that I've heard other people make or I've seen for myself, because sometimes we can be desiring something consciously or subconsciously and not even realizing that we're doing it. I'm going to share these with you because it will save you from making these mistakes and you can just learn from mind instead of making them yourself. So the first thing is to make sure you know exactly what it is that you want. Be so careful about what you ask for, because the fact is the universe is listening at every moment. God is listening at every moment, and so you really need to know what is it that I'm asking for. You're the only one that knows your dreams that you're dreaming of every single day, so you have to refine those dreams, become so clear about what it is that you really want, Be aware of all the possible challenges, the changes that might happen, and the outcomes of that choice that you are making of that desire that you have, you have to get really specific about it. Some of my friends right now are trying to find their partners in life, and I've been saying this to my friend over and over again because she keeps telling me the type of person she wants. She really wants to be financially stable. It's something that she didn't have when she was younger, and she experienced her mum struggling with it, and so that's something she really wants. And so a lot of her focus and energy when it comes to having a partner is focusing on that is financially stable, that's able to look after her and care for her. But I keep saying to him, like, you better be careful what you keep asking for and be really specific, because if you're saying you want to be supported and looked after, that may come to you financially, but what about emotionally? What about mentally? And I've seen this happen. When the focus is financial stability, for example, and you're only focusing on that one thing, you may end up getting someone who is exactly that, but who's too busy working to be there for you, who is emotionally unavailable or emotionally abusive. And so all that to say, you have to be very careful what you are asking for. So when you're trying to manifest something, develop a detailed description from the qualities, to the values, to the characteristics, not just based on your immediate desires that come to mind, but whether it's a partner or a professional goal or a life goal, make sure you know exactly what you are asking for. I have definitely experienced this professionally. I really wanted this one thing, and I kept thinking about it, I kept speaking about it. I was putting in a lot of effort to receive that, putting in a lot of energy towards it without truly thinking it through. And it did come to me, but not in the way that I wanted it to, and it didn't actually make me feel the way that I thought it would. And after all that, I realized I actually didn't want it at all, and it wasn't what was going to help me in my life, and it wasn't what was going to bring me the joy that I thought it would. So remember that where your thoughts flow and your energy goes is where you.

I just graduated from college or from university, and I was feeling a little bit lost. I never felt like I found a group of people that I really felt connected to through my university days. I did, I had made really good friends, but I still felt like I was lacking something. And I think a big part of that was this deep desire to feel connected to God and understand find a community that also felt that way. And so the desire was already there in me and had been for a while, and somehow through my mum, I actually got introduced to a spiritual youth group. And at that time, my routine or my lifestyle really was not conducive to what they were doing. They'd all have met ups on Fridays, and I'd have plans to go out with my friends to a bar or to hang out as SSHA place that night, or they'd do early morning prayers and I would have late nights the day before, so I wouldn't make it or wake up in time for it. So I really had to create space in my life. I created space. I created an environment that didn't just let me receive what I'd been asking for, but also allowed me to maintain it and keep it. And honestly, at the time it was really hard. My friends were confused, my family were confused. I suddenly decided to shift my whole reality into something new, and so it was really difficult for me to shift. But also the shift was difficult for other people around me, and they did not fail to let me know it. And so I had made a decision that I would go to the temple every single morning before I went to work. Now that meant I had to wake up at about four am, to get there for four thirty, to stay there till about six thirty seven, go home, get ready for work, and leave, and then to be able to do that all over again the next day, which I was trying to do. I really wanted to commit to just investing as much time and energy into something that I'd been wanting for so long, and so to be able to do that, I had to sacrifice certain things, so that meant no social life after work. I had made a decison that for my own consciousness, I didn't want to eat out in places that served me, and so that restricted my social life even more. And I just became very aware of being in environments that were supporting that life I wanted, and that weren't. And there were so many other things that I had to change. But I'm telling you all this to say that it did come to me, and it took work to keep it in my life, and it has every day since. And so manifestation is not just dreaming, it's not just envisioning what you want. It's not a woo woo experience. It's a full on process. And honestly, that's just one example I've seen it happen professionally and personally in my life over and over again. So before I share some tips on how to start manifesting in your life, I'm actually going to share some warnings for you, some of the mistakes that I've made along this process, that I've heard other people make or I've seen for myself, because sometimes we can be desiring something consciously or subconsciously and not even realizing that we're doing it. I'm going to share these with you because it will save you from making these mistakes and you can just learn from mind instead of making them yourself. So the first thing is to make sure you know exactly what it is that you want. Be so careful about what you ask for, because the fact is the universe is listening at every moment. God is listening at every moment, and so you really need to know what is it that I'm asking for. You're the only one that knows your dreams that you're dreaming of every single day, so you have to refine those dreams, become so clear about what it is that you really want, Be aware of all the possible challenges, the changes that might happen, and the outcomes of that choice that you are making of that desire that you have, you have to get really specific about it. Some of my friends right now are trying to find their partners in life, and I've been saying this to my friend over and over again because she keeps telling me the type of person she wants. She really wants to be financially stable. It's something that she didn't have when she was younger, and she experienced her mum struggling with it, and so that's something she really wants. And so a lot of her focus and energy when it comes to having a partner is focusing on that is financially stable, that's able to look after her and care for her. But I keep saying to him, like, you better be careful what you keep asking for and be really specific, because if you're saying you want to be supported and looked after, that may come to you financially, but what about emotionally? What about mentally? And I've seen this happen. When the focus is financial stability, for example, and you're only focusing on that one thing, you may end up getting someone who is exactly that, but who's too busy working to be there for you, who is emotionally unavailable or emotionally abusive. And so all that to say, you have to be very careful what you are asking for. So when you're trying to manifest something, develop a detailed description from the qualities, to the values, to the characteristics, not just based on your immediate desires that come to mind, but whether it's a partner or a professional goal or a life goal, make sure you know exactly what you are asking for. I have definitely experienced this professionally. I really wanted this one thing, and I kept thinking about it, I kept speaking about it. I was putting in a lot of effort to receive that, putting in a lot of energy towards it without truly thinking it through. And it did come to me, but not in the way that I wanted it to, and it didn't actually make me feel the way that I thought it would. And after all that, I realized I actually didn't want it at all, and it wasn't what was going to help me in my life, and it wasn't what was going to bring me the joy that I thought it would. So remember that where your thoughts flow and your energy goes is where you.

Will end up.

Will end up.

It's what you will become in your life. So do it intentionally and thoughtfully. And now once you figured out what it is that you actually want, you then need to start the process of bringing it into existence.

It's what you will become in your life. So do it intentionally and thoughtfully. And now once you figured out what it is that you actually want, you then need to start the process of bringing it into existence.

So what does that actually mean.

So what does that actually mean.

It means taking it from your mind, from your dream and bringing out to God and to the universe. So whether that is writing out, praying it, vision boarding it, speaking it to yourself every single day, bringing it to life. And I actually read this about manifesting about writing down your goals, and it said that you are forty percent more likely to achieve your goal if you write it down because the active writing reinforces your commitment and keeps the goal at the top of your mind. And so ideally writing it down every single day, or seeing it in front of you every single day, having it stuck up on your bedroom more having it stuck up in your office, like having it at the top of your mind.

It means taking it from your mind, from your dream and bringing out to God and to the universe. So whether that is writing out, praying it, vision boarding it, speaking it to yourself every single day, bringing it to life. And I actually read this about manifesting about writing down your goals, and it said that you are forty percent more likely to achieve your goal if you write it down because the active writing reinforces your commitment and keeps the goal at the top of your mind. And so ideally writing it down every single day, or seeing it in front of you every single day, having it stuck up on your bedroom more having it stuck up in your office, like having it at the top of your mind.

It almost stops you.

It almost stops you.

From making choices throughout the day that don't serve that goal or that purpose, because it's so easy to forget things. We have so many things running through our mind over and over again throughout the day, and so sometimes the big goals that we want to achieve they take a back seat. But if you are seeing it every day, writing it every day, it will help you to curate your life to meet that goal. It will make it more likely that you will do things and change your lifestyle and say yes to the right things that actually support the goal that you are trying to achieve. So then once you brought it into existence, you've moved it from your dreams or your subconscious to your reality. That is just the beginning. The place most people think is the end is actually just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it, think it, and then give it over to the universe and let them let the universe do it's thing. It's actually not the case at all. That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you have to think, are you really ready for that desire to come true? Now, this is the most important part. It's preparing for your prayers. It's preparing for what you are asking for when it comes. Are you going to be ready? Have you done the groundwork to plant the seed? Do you have the nutrients and the water you need to grow the seed? And then you have to keep the plant alive. Do you have the vision and the eyes to recognize it when it comes into your life. Do you have the space in your life to receive it and the lifestyle and the mindset to actually hold on to it and keep it. I once asked one of my close friends. I said to her, so, what have you been up to and she said, oh, you know, I've just been taking these dance lessons and I was like, oh, amazing. You know, she's a singer, and so I asked her. I said, oh, do you have a performance coming up or you know, are you shooting a music video or something? And she said no, I'm just preparing for my prayers. And I was like, what She's like, I'm just preparing for my prayers because the one day when it does come that I am on stage in front of thousands of people, the day that I get the call that I'm signed to this label, the day I get the call, I need to be ready to be able to get onto that stage. I need the dance moves ready, I need my singing voice to be ready. I need to be prepared so that when that day comes, I'm not getting ready from that moment. I don't start the preparations there. I don't start as a beginner I actually am already the expert. I'm ready to receive it. And that really shifted my mindset once I heard that, rather than thinking when is it coming? Why isn't it coming? To me? Changing that internal dialogue, am I ready for it?

From making choices throughout the day that don't serve that goal or that purpose, because it's so easy to forget things. We have so many things running through our mind over and over again throughout the day, and so sometimes the big goals that we want to achieve they take a back seat. But if you are seeing it every day, writing it every day, it will help you to curate your life to meet that goal. It will make it more likely that you will do things and change your lifestyle and say yes to the right things that actually support the goal that you are trying to achieve. So then once you brought it into existence, you've moved it from your dreams or your subconscious to your reality. That is just the beginning. The place most people think is the end is actually just the beginning. People think you just have to dream it, think it, and then give it over to the universe and let them let the universe do it's thing. It's actually not the case at all. That's just the seed being planted. At this point, you have to think, are you really ready for that desire to come true? Now, this is the most important part. It's preparing for your prayers. It's preparing for what you are asking for when it comes. Are you going to be ready? Have you done the groundwork to plant the seed? Do you have the nutrients and the water you need to grow the seed? And then you have to keep the plant alive. Do you have the vision and the eyes to recognize it when it comes into your life. Do you have the space in your life to receive it and the lifestyle and the mindset to actually hold on to it and keep it. I once asked one of my close friends. I said to her, so, what have you been up to and she said, oh, you know, I've just been taking these dance lessons and I was like, oh, amazing. You know, she's a singer, and so I asked her. I said, oh, do you have a performance coming up or you know, are you shooting a music video or something? And she said no, I'm just preparing for my prayers. And I was like, what She's like, I'm just preparing for my prayers because the one day when it does come that I am on stage in front of thousands of people, the day that I get the call that I'm signed to this label, the day I get the call, I need to be ready to be able to get onto that stage. I need the dance moves ready, I need my singing voice to be ready. I need to be prepared so that when that day comes, I'm not getting ready from that moment. I don't start the preparations there. I don't start as a beginner I actually am already the expert. I'm ready to receive it. And that really shifted my mindset once I heard that, rather than thinking when is it coming? Why isn't it coming? To me? Changing that internal dialogue, am I ready for it?

Whether it's in.

Whether it's in.

Relationships where you're asking when will that person come? When will I find them? When will the right person walk into my life? That to am I ready to receive the man or woman that I'm dreaming about? Have I done the work to be worthy of that person? Have I done the work to maintain a relationship with them once I receive them? Have I cleansed my mind and my heart to be able to even recognize this person when they do come my way? So this next one I'm going to share with you is probably the thing I found the hardest about manifesting. And I read this one line and I realized that all these years I thought I was doing this process, but really and truly I was missing this key component, Are you ready for it? It's a pretty tough pill to swallow. The line says, you manifest what you subconsciously believe that you are worthy of receiving. I'm going to say that one more time, you manifest what you subconsciously believe you are worthy of receiving. So what do you believe you deserve? And are you talking to and treating yourself in that way too? My friend keeps saying she wants a certain type of guy, but she's still talking to the kind of guys who've always been good to her. She keeps going for the same type of guide that isn't emotionally available, that doesn't treat her well. They will look the same, they will act the same. There's no mystery about it. We know from the moment she's talking to them that they're going to be the same type of person. But that's not telling the universe or yourself that you deserve better. It's not telling the world that you're ready for new and improved. It's you saying you're happy with the stale and the old, and you don't really care whether it gets better or not, because you're choosing to continue the same pattern. You're choosing to tell yourself this is all I deserve, this is all I'm worthy of, and even professionally, this is honestly where I struggled the most. I always felt like I was not intelligent from a young age, from teachers telling me that to being the least intelligent person in my family academically. It was just something that I didn't really quite shake growing up, and I didn't realize how much it affected me until I started going into rooms and feeling like, why am I here?

Relationships where you're asking when will that person come? When will I find them? When will the right person walk into my life? That to am I ready to receive the man or woman that I'm dreaming about? Have I done the work to be worthy of that person? Have I done the work to maintain a relationship with them once I receive them? Have I cleansed my mind and my heart to be able to even recognize this person when they do come my way? So this next one I'm going to share with you is probably the thing I found the hardest about manifesting. And I read this one line and I realized that all these years I thought I was doing this process, but really and truly I was missing this key component, Are you ready for it? It's a pretty tough pill to swallow. The line says, you manifest what you subconsciously believe that you are worthy of receiving. I'm going to say that one more time, you manifest what you subconsciously believe you are worthy of receiving. So what do you believe you deserve? And are you talking to and treating yourself in that way too? My friend keeps saying she wants a certain type of guy, but she's still talking to the kind of guys who've always been good to her. She keeps going for the same type of guide that isn't emotionally available, that doesn't treat her well. They will look the same, they will act the same. There's no mystery about it. We know from the moment she's talking to them that they're going to be the same type of person. But that's not telling the universe or yourself that you deserve better. It's not telling the world that you're ready for new and improved. It's you saying you're happy with the stale and the old, and you don't really care whether it gets better or not, because you're choosing to continue the same pattern. You're choosing to tell yourself this is all I deserve, this is all I'm worthy of, and even professionally, this is honestly where I struggled the most. I always felt like I was not intelligent from a young age, from teachers telling me that to being the least intelligent person in my family academically. It was just something that I didn't really quite shake growing up, and I didn't realize how much it affected me until I started going into rooms and feeling like, why am I here?

Have I just been invited? Out of pity?

Have I just been invited? Out of pity?

I wonder what got them to invite me to this from or oh my gosh, why do they want me to write a book? Like? All this doubt that used to keep coming into my mind over and over again, and honestly, all it did was hold me back. All it did was hold me back from dreaming bigger. All it did was hold me back from thinking I even deserved more or could do more. And I really had to work through it, and honestly, at times I still have to. But I started telling myself I do deserve better. Every time those thoughts came into my mind, I would switch it. You have to switch things up. If you notice a negative thought passion about yourself going on over and over again in your mind, it's disrupting your ability to dream bigger. And so if your minds telling you I'm not intelligent enough or that you don't deserve something, so I do deserve it, I do work hard, and it really did shift what came to me, or you know, maybe it is just it changed what I saw as opportunities or that I started saying yes to things. But either way, things started to change in my life and manifest in my life differently. So it's one thing asking for something that you want and trying to manifest it, But do you really believe to your core that you were worthy of receiving it? And that can be the one single difference between desiring something and thinking you're manifesting it to actually becoming true and real in your life, because if you don't believe it, no one else will. And if you don't believe that you're capable of receiving it, keeping it and working hard for it, what's the universe going to think. It's giving you exactly what you think you deserve, not what you're thinking about. It's giving you what you think you deserve in your life.

I wonder what got them to invite me to this from or oh my gosh, why do they want me to write a book? Like? All this doubt that used to keep coming into my mind over and over again, and honestly, all it did was hold me back. All it did was hold me back from dreaming bigger. All it did was hold me back from thinking I even deserved more or could do more. And I really had to work through it, and honestly, at times I still have to. But I started telling myself I do deserve better. Every time those thoughts came into my mind, I would switch it. You have to switch things up. If you notice a negative thought passion about yourself going on over and over again in your mind, it's disrupting your ability to dream bigger. And so if your minds telling you I'm not intelligent enough or that you don't deserve something, so I do deserve it, I do work hard, and it really did shift what came to me, or you know, maybe it is just it changed what I saw as opportunities or that I started saying yes to things. But either way, things started to change in my life and manifest in my life differently. So it's one thing asking for something that you want and trying to manifest it, But do you really believe to your core that you were worthy of receiving it? And that can be the one single difference between desiring something and thinking you're manifesting it to actually becoming true and real in your life, because if you don't believe it, no one else will. And if you don't believe that you're capable of receiving it, keeping it and working hard for it, what's the universe going to think. It's giving you exactly what you think you deserve, not what you're thinking about. It's giving you what you think you deserve in your life.

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I constantly have received reminders that when you are trying to manifest things in your life, you may not get everything that you envision in the timeframe that you expect it, or even in the way that you expect it to get it, but having gratitude for every little step along the way is so key. You don't wait to be grateful for the large things that come around. And I remember Jay once said this to me, and it really stuck in my head. He said, the hard work that I do is the way I show gratitude for the things that have come into my life. So putting the work in every single day for the things that have already come into my life is showing gratitude and is also showing that I'm ready and prepared to work for more things that I want in my life. I thought that was really beautiful that doing the work is the form of gratitude to say I'm grateful, and I'm going to show I'm grateful by continually still putting in the work every single day. And my last one it would be make sure you're ready for all the tests that come to check you are actually ready to receive, because the test will come to see if you're actually ready for what you've asked for, whether it's your toxic X coming back into your life, or temptations from the habits that you're trying to leave behind. Because you can't just receive it when you ask for it. You do have to have little tests along the way to see if you're really about that life. God's not just going to give it to you because you ask for it. That's not real love. Real love is making sure you've got this before you get this. God will not give you anything that you cannot handle, whether it's good or bad. And so to make sure, the universe wants to make sure that you actually can receive it. You've got the space for it, you've got the mindset for it, and so little tests will come your way just before you probably get.

I constantly have received reminders that when you are trying to manifest things in your life, you may not get everything that you envision in the timeframe that you expect it, or even in the way that you expect it to get it, but having gratitude for every little step along the way is so key. You don't wait to be grateful for the large things that come around. And I remember Jay once said this to me, and it really stuck in my head. He said, the hard work that I do is the way I show gratitude for the things that have come into my life. So putting the work in every single day for the things that have already come into my life is showing gratitude and is also showing that I'm ready and prepared to work for more things that I want in my life. I thought that was really beautiful that doing the work is the form of gratitude to say I'm grateful, and I'm going to show I'm grateful by continually still putting in the work every single day. And my last one it would be make sure you're ready for all the tests that come to check you are actually ready to receive, because the test will come to see if you're actually ready for what you've asked for, whether it's your toxic X coming back into your life, or temptations from the habits that you're trying to leave behind. Because you can't just receive it when you ask for it. You do have to have little tests along the way to see if you're really about that life. God's not just going to give it to you because you ask for it. That's not real love. Real love is making sure you've got this before you get this. God will not give you anything that you cannot handle, whether it's good or bad. And so to make sure, the universe wants to make sure that you actually can receive it. You've got the space for it, you've got the mindset for it, and so little tests will come your way just before you probably get.

The thing you've been wanting.

The thing you've been wanting.

Okay, So now that I've given you all my warnings and given you all the small print, and let me break down the manifesting process to you. And so this was the best version of the process that I've read. It breaks it down really well. There's three types of goals when you're manifesting, not just one. You've got your breakthrough goals, your result goals, and your process goals. So the first is breakthrough goals. These are your huge, magnificent dreams in your life, the epic ones, the game changes. You know. These are the goals and dreams that make you light up when you think or talk about them, the ones that excite you and invoke the feeling of hope in you. In this process, when you're thinking about those big goals, the why is really important. The intention is so important, if not more important than the goal. There may be multiple wise, some more feel superficial than others, but you do need to know your deep rooted why, and it needs to be refined and purified and really thought about, because if it's not strong enough, then you will not.

Okay, So now that I've given you all my warnings and given you all the small print, and let me break down the manifesting process to you. And so this was the best version of the process that I've read. It breaks it down really well. There's three types of goals when you're manifesting, not just one. You've got your breakthrough goals, your result goals, and your process goals. So the first is breakthrough goals. These are your huge, magnificent dreams in your life, the epic ones, the game changes. You know. These are the goals and dreams that make you light up when you think or talk about them, the ones that excite you and invoke the feeling of hope in you. In this process, when you're thinking about those big goals, the why is really important. The intention is so important, if not more important than the goal. There may be multiple wise, some more feel superficial than others, but you do need to know your deep rooted why, and it needs to be refined and purified and really thought about, because if it's not strong enough, then you will not.

Feel strong enough to get there.

Feel strong enough to get there.

The why is actually a great indicator for you to know whether you should even be wanting this goal. So really breaking that down in your mind, like, what is the reason I want to do this? Is it because I want to prove something to someone that may not be a big enough Why is it because I want to help people that may be an amazing Why is it because I want to change the lives of these people? Is it because I want to do better for myself and I want to be better for other people? Whatever the goal is, know that it has to be big enough and deep enough, and usually has to involve some sort of service to somebody else, a benefit to somebody else to really make it a solid goal.

The why is actually a great indicator for you to know whether you should even be wanting this goal. So really breaking that down in your mind, like, what is the reason I want to do this? Is it because I want to prove something to someone that may not be a big enough Why is it because I want to help people that may be an amazing Why is it because I want to change the lives of these people? Is it because I want to do better for myself and I want to be better for other people? Whatever the goal is, know that it has to be big enough and deep enough, and usually has to involve some sort of service to somebody else, a benefit to somebody else to really make it a solid goal.

That's what I found in my life.

That's what I found in my life.

Especially if it's just just benefiting me, yeah, of course I might make it happen. But if it's something that I think is going to benefit other people and me, it just changes the goal to something bigger and better and helps you to stick to it more. The more positive outcomes that you can link to your goal, the more likely you will be to follow through. Now, the second that I said result goals, So you should write down these for yourself. Right now, we're just kind of going through it, but really you should write down these three goals and then work your way through them yourself because you'll need a lot more time than this. So the first one being the breakthrough goal, So that's your big goal that we just spoke about. Okay, So the second one we've already spoken.

Especially if it's just just benefiting me, yeah, of course I might make it happen. But if it's something that I think is going to benefit other people and me, it just changes the goal to something bigger and better and helps you to stick to it more. The more positive outcomes that you can link to your goal, the more likely you will be to follow through. Now, the second that I said result goals, So you should write down these for yourself. Right now, we're just kind of going through it, but really you should write down these three goals and then work your way through them yourself because you'll need a lot more time than this. So the first one being the breakthrough goal, So that's your big goal that we just spoke about. Okay, So the second one we've already spoken.

Abound breakthrough goals.

Abound breakthrough goals.

Now that is your largest goal, like the end goal, essentially it's the endgame. This second part of manifestation is doing your result goals. Now, they are the milestones towards your breakthrough goals. So for example, let's say you want financial freedom, that is your breakthrough goal. Your result goal would put a number and a date on it. It's where you take your big dream and you turn into actual achievable goals. It's still big ones along the way, but it becomes more specific with numbers, timelines, and actual outcomes. They're the milestones between where you are now and where you want to go. So it's all the big steps that you're going to achieve, that you're going to tick off that you know will allow you to get to your end goal. These goals are actually so important because they give you an actual feeling of accomplishment. They also talk directly into your beliefs, showing your subconscious that it is actually possible. The little goals always feel way more achievable than the big, overpowering ones. So when you make your manifestation goals time bound, So when you put like a time frame on something, it forces your subconscious mind to start figuring out ways to achieve them. I'll begin to point out your new opportunities or avenues and will lead you to your desired outcome. So similar to what I said about writing your goals down before, when you end up putting specifics to things, it puts an urgency to it, right like when you have a time limb on something naturally you know that you need to pay attention and focus and not get distracted, and so it's similar in that way when you end up having goals and time frames and checklists. One pushes you to do things faster, but also make sure that you don't go off track and go on to another path. And the last one is your process goals.

Now that is your largest goal, like the end goal, essentially it's the endgame. This second part of manifestation is doing your result goals. Now, they are the milestones towards your breakthrough goals. So for example, let's say you want financial freedom, that is your breakthrough goal. Your result goal would put a number and a date on it. It's where you take your big dream and you turn into actual achievable goals. It's still big ones along the way, but it becomes more specific with numbers, timelines, and actual outcomes. They're the milestones between where you are now and where you want to go. So it's all the big steps that you're going to achieve, that you're going to tick off that you know will allow you to get to your end goal. These goals are actually so important because they give you an actual feeling of accomplishment. They also talk directly into your beliefs, showing your subconscious that it is actually possible. The little goals always feel way more achievable than the big, overpowering ones. So when you make your manifestation goals time bound, So when you put like a time frame on something, it forces your subconscious mind to start figuring out ways to achieve them. I'll begin to point out your new opportunities or avenues and will lead you to your desired outcome. So similar to what I said about writing your goals down before, when you end up putting specifics to things, it puts an urgency to it, right like when you have a time limb on something naturally you know that you need to pay attention and focus and not get distracted, and so it's similar in that way when you end up having goals and time frames and checklists. One pushes you to do things faster, but also make sure that you don't go off track and go on to another path. And the last one is your process goals.

So you've had your breakthrough goals, your.

So you've had your breakthrough goals, your.

Result goals, and now we have our process goals, and so they're really getting smaller and smaller with each category with each step, So the last one being your process goals. These are the daily actions and steps, all inspired obviously by your breakthrough goal, but they are the tiny steps, the little movements in between that get you to both your result goals and eventually the breakthrough goal. These are probably the most important, but the most overlooked. These are the steps that will help you to see if one you're really ready for the grind, and two there'll be the steps that keep momentum.

Result goals, and now we have our process goals, and so they're really getting smaller and smaller with each category with each step, So the last one being your process goals. These are the daily actions and steps, all inspired obviously by your breakthrough goal, but they are the tiny steps, the little movements in between that get you to both your result goals and eventually the breakthrough goal. These are probably the most important, but the most overlooked. These are the steps that will help you to see if one you're really ready for the grind, and two there'll be the steps that keep momentum.

They're the steps that.

They're the steps that.

Really give you the boosts that you need to keep going, because completing things make you feel like things are possible, even if it's the first two steps or two months on a two year plan. Progress and movement towards a goal, and checking things off creates this positive feedback loop that in turn pushes you towards the next step and the next So these are really the everyday things that you're going to do to get you to your result goals, and then your result goals are the grander thing that you're going to do to get you to your ultimate breakthrough goal. So what I recommend is you writing down those three steps and filling them out. This may take you days, it may take you weeks, it may take you months. You're thinking about your entire life and deciding what is it that I want to do and achieve in my life. And so it doesn't even have to be a lifelong plan, by the way, These can be for specific things that you want to do over the next two years, over the next three years, over the next year. This can really help you to map out and encourage you to just start thinking and dreaming bigger. And I think that's a big part of it, you know. It's just when you end up planning your life, you feel like you've got a direction. And sometimes when we feel lost in life, it's not because nothing's going right for us. It's because we haven't sat down to think what it is we actually want, and this process can really help us to figure those things out. This last step I've added myself because I really think it's crucial to success in this whole process, and this is cleaning out. We're cleaning out to let the new and improved in. So physically we have to do this.

Really give you the boosts that you need to keep going, because completing things make you feel like things are possible, even if it's the first two steps or two months on a two year plan. Progress and movement towards a goal, and checking things off creates this positive feedback loop that in turn pushes you towards the next step and the next So these are really the everyday things that you're going to do to get you to your result goals, and then your result goals are the grander thing that you're going to do to get you to your ultimate breakthrough goal. So what I recommend is you writing down those three steps and filling them out. This may take you days, it may take you weeks, it may take you months. You're thinking about your entire life and deciding what is it that I want to do and achieve in my life. And so it doesn't even have to be a lifelong plan, by the way, These can be for specific things that you want to do over the next two years, over the next three years, over the next year. This can really help you to map out and encourage you to just start thinking and dreaming bigger. And I think that's a big part of it, you know. It's just when you end up planning your life, you feel like you've got a direction. And sometimes when we feel lost in life, it's not because nothing's going right for us. It's because we haven't sat down to think what it is we actually want, and this process can really help us to figure those things out. This last step I've added myself because I really think it's crucial to success in this whole process, and this is cleaning out. We're cleaning out to let the new and improved in. So physically we have to do this.

What does that mean?

What does that mean?

It's what is physically limiting you, What is in your external environment that's preventing you from reaching your goal. It may be people, it may be things in your home, it may maybe parts of your daily routine. Find those and do a spring clean to maximize your chances of success. So really, what you're saying to yourself is what in my day is pushing me towards the goal and what's taking me away and making sure that the balance is right there. Mentally, we're getting rid of limiting beliefs. We don't have space for them anymore. We're not doing it anymore. Limiting beliefs are counterproductive to manifesting. They're literally doing the opposite thing. If you're trying to manifest something better, but you're still telling yourself that you're not good enough to get there. You're just sending mixed signals. It's like telling someone that you want to be with them, but also telling them that they're.

It's what is physically limiting you, What is in your external environment that's preventing you from reaching your goal. It may be people, it may be things in your home, it may maybe parts of your daily routine. Find those and do a spring clean to maximize your chances of success. So really, what you're saying to yourself is what in my day is pushing me towards the goal and what's taking me away and making sure that the balance is right there. Mentally, we're getting rid of limiting beliefs. We don't have space for them anymore. We're not doing it anymore. Limiting beliefs are counterproductive to manifesting. They're literally doing the opposite thing. If you're trying to manifest something better, but you're still telling yourself that you're not good enough to get there. You're just sending mixed signals. It's like telling someone that you want to be with them, but also telling them that they're.

Just not good enough for you. That's is so toxic.

Just not good enough for you. That's is so toxic.

So during this process, search for your limiting beliefs and get them onto paper and reframe them to be positive.

So during this process, search for your limiting beliefs and get them onto paper and reframe them to be positive.

For example, if you're saying.

For example, if you're saying.

I'm incomplete without a man in my life or a woman in my life, change that to I'm complete as I am. Or if you're thinking I'm not smart enough, change that to I'm an intelligent, badass human who is capable of anything and everything. That's my own one, but I'm going to loan it over to you because it's a great one. So now, over the years of manifesting things in my life, whether I realize in hindsight or whether I've consciously done it, I've noticed more and more that one thing that is necessary alongside manifesting is surrender. I think it has to come hand in hand. So many times I've asked for things and they've manifested in my life, only for me to realize it's not really what I needed in my life. It may have been what I wanted, but was it really what I needed?

I'm incomplete without a man in my life or a woman in my life, change that to I'm complete as I am. Or if you're thinking I'm not smart enough, change that to I'm an intelligent, badass human who is capable of anything and everything. That's my own one, but I'm going to loan it over to you because it's a great one. So now, over the years of manifesting things in my life, whether I realize in hindsight or whether I've consciously done it, I've noticed more and more that one thing that is necessary alongside manifesting is surrender. I think it has to come hand in hand. So many times I've asked for things and they've manifested in my life, only for me to realize it's not really what I needed in my life. It may have been what I wanted, but was it really what I needed?

For my growth.

For my growth.

I've come to the conclusion that because of our limited vision and this ability not to see like a bird's eye view of our life, we might not really know what we need or what's good or bad for us. So now, instead of trying to think of specific goals or specific things that I want in my life, I pray this one prayer and I believe that it will bring me everything that I need in my life that's going to benefit me to grow in every part of my life, professionally, personally, spiritually, emotionally, and I say, just give me what I need to purify my mind and my intentions, to serve others to my best ability, to give to others the best way I can, and to bring me closer to You God, or closer to living with authenticity and integrity. However I get there, really only you know, but I'm prepared to do the work on the journey there, and honestly, being able to have that in my mind, more so than a specific goal, has been the most powerful, more so than manifesting something professionally or personally or financially. Really and truly, the most content I felt is when I've had that prayer in my life more than anything else, And so really, I think that this is just a really great practice, like manifesting is a great practice to connect deeper to yourself, to understand yourself, better, understand your dreams, your desires, and connect to something more than you believe in, bigger and better, believing in God, believing in the universe. It's a practice to surrender and also know that I'm going to put in the work. But what the result is I can't attach myself to and it makes you remain hopeful and excited in life. And if a process is offering all of that to you, it feels like a pretty magical and wonderful thing to do. So I guess I'll end with saying why not why not try it? If it has the possibility of doing all those things for you, and on top of that the bonus of possibly making your wildest dreams of reality, why not give it a go. Thank you so much for listening to a really good cry. I hope this episode was useful. Let me know if you give these tips a go or if you found it informative and sending you all so much stuff

I've come to the conclusion that because of our limited vision and this ability not to see like a bird's eye view of our life, we might not really know what we need or what's good or bad for us. So now, instead of trying to think of specific goals or specific things that I want in my life, I pray this one prayer and I believe that it will bring me everything that I need in my life that's going to benefit me to grow in every part of my life, professionally, personally, spiritually, emotionally, and I say, just give me what I need to purify my mind and my intentions, to serve others to my best ability, to give to others the best way I can, and to bring me closer to You God, or closer to living with authenticity and integrity. However I get there, really only you know, but I'm prepared to do the work on the journey there, and honestly, being able to have that in my mind, more so than a specific goal, has been the most powerful, more so than manifesting something professionally or personally or financially. Really and truly, the most content I felt is when I've had that prayer in my life more than anything else, And so really, I think that this is just a really great practice, like manifesting is a great practice to connect deeper to yourself, to understand yourself, better, understand your dreams, your desires, and connect to something more than you believe in, bigger and better, believing in God, believing in the universe. It's a practice to surrender and also know that I'm going to put in the work. But what the result is I can't attach myself to and it makes you remain hopeful and excited in life. And if a process is offering all of that to you, it feels like a pretty magical and wonderful thing to do. So I guess I'll end with saying why not why not try it? If it has the possibility of doing all those things for you, and on top of that the bonus of possibly making your wildest dreams of reality, why not give it a go. Thank you so much for listening to a really good cry. I hope this episode was useful. Let me know if you give these tips a go or if you found it informative and sending you all so much stuff