How can you spot a narcissist? 

It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.

Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 

I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:47 What is a narcissist?
• 02:43 The continuum of narcissism
• 07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism
• 08:00 Definition of empathy
• 14:50 How to identify a narcissist
• 17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?
• 22:45 Healing a narcissist
• 26:21 Narcissist living in the society
• 28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality
• 30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship
• 33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?
• 36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship
• 38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?
• 38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner
• 44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents
• 46:57 Practicing self regulation
• 57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership
• 1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations
• 1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace
• 1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood

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