How can you spot a narcissist? 

It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.

Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 

I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:47 What is a narcissist?
02:43 The continuum of narcissism
07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism
08:00 Definition of empathy
14:50 How to identify a narcissist
17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?
22:45 Healing a narcissist
26:21 Narcissist living in the society
28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality
30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship
33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?
36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship
38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?
38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner
44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents
46:57 Practicing self regulation
57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership
1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations
1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace
1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood



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How can you spot a narcissist? 
It's quite a surprise to think that someone close to us might actually have those traits—or maybe, in some ways, we share them ourselves. Narcissism isn't always obvious; it can hide in plain sight, making it tough to tell who's who and leading us to question whether we see it in others or within ourselves.
Today I welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism, personality disorders, and mental health. She's authored several books, including "Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People".
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Dr. Ramani dives into narcissism, breaking down what makes someone a narcissist and how it affects relationships and society. She talks about spotting narcissistic traits, whether they're innate or learned, and how tough it is to change these behaviors. 
I hope this episode provides you with practical insights and a deeper understanding of narcissism, enabling you to navigate relationships with clarity and confidence.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">00:47 What is a narcissist?</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:43 The continuum of narcissism</li>
<li aria-level="1">07:08 Insecurity vs. Narcissism</li>
<li aria-level="1">08:00 Definition of empathy</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:50 How to identify a narcissist</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:32 Can you be born with narcissism?</li>
<li aria-level="1">22:45 Healing a narcissist</li>
<li aria-level="1">26:21 Narcissist living in the society</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:29 Changing a narcissistic personality</li>
<li aria-level="1">30:49 Spotting a narcissist in a relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">33:28 Is a narcissistic person capable of love?</li>
<li aria-level="1">36:42 Two narcissists in a relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:05 How does a narcissists express their emotion?</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:54 Staying with a narcissistic partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">44:31 Growing up with a narcissistic parents</li>
<li aria-level="1">46:57 Practicing self regulation</li>
<li aria-level="1">57:19 Narcissism in history and leadership</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:02:32 Setting boundaries in social situations</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:06:10 Navigating trauma and finding inner peace</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:11:04 Healing through therapy and motherhood</li>
</ul>
 
Follow Dr. Ramani:
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This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

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Dr. Ramani: Narcissism 101 - How to Identify Toxic Traits and Set Boundaries

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Can the future of food be both delicious and sustainable?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I chat with Camila Marcus, an inspiring chef, restaurateur, and sustainability advocate. Known for her pioneering work in promoting ethical dining, Camila shares her journey from growing up in Los Angeles to creating a more sustainable future for the food industry. 

We explore the concept of regenerative farming, how restaurants can drive environmental change, and practical ways to contribute to a healthier planet. Camila’s wisdom on balancing innovation, responsibility, and profitability offers a fresh perspective on the future of food. 



What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:38 What is regenerative farming?
04:58 The language of food
09:06 Why farmers choose monocropping
11:17 “Lab food never solved any problems…”
14:17 Intellectual property rights in the food industry
16:10 Sustainability vs. trends in food
18:56 How to get started with regenerative living
25:17 Misconceptions about healthy eating
27:29 Starting a farm at home
34:26 Balancing motherhood and career with four kids
37:14 Camila’s IVF journey
41:59 The importance of community
44:28 Why we need to talk about IVF more



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My Regenerative Kitchen Book



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Can the future of food be both delicious and sustainable?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I chat with Camila Marcus, an inspiring chef, restaurateur, and sustainability advocate. Known for her pioneering work in promoting ethical dining, Camila shares her journey from growing up in Los Angeles to creating a more sustainable future for the food industry. 
We explore the concept of regenerative farming, how restaurants can drive environmental change, and practical ways to contribute to a healthier planet. Camila’s wisdom on balancing innovation, responsibility, and profitability offers a fresh perspective on the future of food. 
 
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:38 What is regenerative farming?</li>
<li aria-level="1">04:58 The language of food</li>
<li aria-level="1">09:06 Why farmers choose monocropping</li>
<li aria-level="1">11:17 “Lab food never solved any problems…”</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:17 Intellectual property rights in the food industry</li>
<li aria-level="1">16:10 Sustainability vs. trends in food</li>
<li aria-level="1">18:56 How to get started with regenerative living</li>
<li aria-level="1">25:17 Misconceptions about healthy eating</li>
<li aria-level="1">27:29 Starting a farm at home</li>
<li aria-level="1">34:26 Balancing motherhood and career with four kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">37:14 Camila’s IVF journey</li>
<li aria-level="1">41:59 The importance of community</li>
<li aria-level="1">44:28 Why we need to talk about IVF more</li>
</ul>
 
Follow Camila:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/camilla.marcus/">https://www.instagram.com/camilla.marcus/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@camilla.marcus">https://www.tiktok.com/@camilla.marcus</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Regenerative-Kitchen-Plant-Based-Sustainable-Practices/dp/1645022544">My Regenerative Kitchen Book</a></li>
</ul>
 
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Camilla Marcus: The Crisis of the Food System - The Impact on Female Health and Why Sustainable Practices Matter

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We all dream of ‘good hair days,’ but what if the secret isn’t just in the products?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, we’re talking all about the frustrating struggle with hair health, from breakage to thinning, and everything in between. I’m diving into my personal journey of dealing with post-COVID hair loss, how it totally knocked my confidence, and what I did to turn it around. Spoiler: it took way more than just a new shampoo!

We’ll chat about the holistic and Ayurvedic methods that have made a real difference in my hair’s strength and growth—and yes, I’ll be sharing all the practical tips that worked for me. From scalp massages to gut health, and even the crazy impact of stress on our hair, we’re covering it all.

So, if you’re ready to figure out how to get your healthiest, strongest hair yet (without breaking the bank or pulling your hair out—literally), grab your favorite snack, get comfy, and let’s dive in together. Because you deserve to love your hair, and we’re here to make that happen!

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:17 Good hair is a result of good health
05:25 Three types of hair according to Ayurveda
08:16 Embracing your natural hair type
11:04 How external care transforms hair health
12:32 Benefits of using hair oils
14:35 Hair oiling tips
16:24 Do a scalp massage
17:25 Derma roller for hair loss
18:28 More practical tips to protect your hair
21:57 How food & your diet affects your hair
28:53 Stress and hair loss



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https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

We all dream of ‘good hair days,’ but what if the secret isn’t just in the products?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, we’re talking all about the frustrating struggle with hair health, from breakage to thinning, and everything in between. I’m diving into my personal journey of dealing with post-COVID hair loss, how it totally knocked my confidence, and what I did to turn it around. Spoiler: it took way more than just a new shampoo!
We’ll chat about the holistic and Ayurvedic methods that have made a real difference in my hair’s strength and growth—and yes, I’ll be sharing all the practical tips that worked for me. From scalp massages to gut health, and even the crazy impact of stress on our hair, we’re covering it all.
So, if you’re ready to figure out how to get your healthiest, strongest hair yet (without breaking the bank or pulling your hair out—literally), grab your favorite snack, get comfy, and let’s dive in together. Because you deserve to love your hair, and we’re here to make that happen!
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:17 Good hair is a result of good health</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:25 Three types of hair according to Ayurveda</li>
<li aria-level="1">08:16 Embracing your natural hair type</li>
<li aria-level="1">11:04 How external care transforms hair health</li>
<li aria-level="1">12:32 Benefits of using hair oils</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:35 Hair oiling tips</li>
<li aria-level="1">16:24 Do a scalp massage</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:25 Derma roller for hair loss</li>
<li aria-level="1">18:28 More practical tips to protect your hair</li>
<li aria-level="1">21:57 How food &amp; your diet affects your hair</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:53 Stress and hair loss</li>
</ul>
 
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Do You Want Healthy Hair? Ayurvedic Tips for Hair Loss & How to Identify Your Hair Type

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What if your childhood experiences shaped your relationships more than you ever realized?

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, who reveals how our subconscious rules for love shape every connection we form. Thais breaks down how these attachment styles influence not just romantic relationships but also our friendships, family dynamics, and most importantly, our relationship with ourselves.

Thais and I dive deep into the roots of attachment theory, exploring how core wounds from our past can keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns—and more importantly, how we can heal and reprogram these wounds. With her insights and actionable strategies, Thais explains how anyone can shift from an insecure attachment style to a secure, thriving connection.

We also discuss the transformative power of understanding your own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and learning how to cultivate emotional regulation for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. This episode will leave you inspired to change the way you approach love and connection.



What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:27 What is Attachment Theory?
07:38 Identifying your core wounds
13:16 Reprogramming emotional triggers
17:27 How past emotional scars shape present reactions
20:55 Why do you keep dating the same type?
23:37 Heal yourself first
26:52 Learn what your needs are in a relationship
28:52 Communicate your needs vulnerability and transparently
31:34 Have healthy boundaries
32:23 Why do you find secure people boring?
35:23 The six stages of relationships
37:13 Are you hooked on the drama or the person?
40:40 The difference between sacrifice and compromise
43:45 Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant person
46:13 Enmeshment
52:04 Can you be a mix of attachment styles?
54:41 When anxious meets avoidant
57:17 What are your non-negotiables?
59:51 What are your standards or needs?
1:01:19 How do you actually feel when you’re around someone?
1:04:16 Three questions to ask your partner
1:09:24 Thais’ other books
1:10:48 Know more about Thais



Follow Thais:
https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/
https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ
https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson



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What if your childhood experiences shaped your relationships more than you ever realized?
In today’s episode, I’m joined by Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, who reveals how our subconscious rules for love shape every connection we form. Thais breaks down how these attachment styles influence not just romantic relationships but also our friendships, family dynamics, and most importantly, our relationship with ourselves.
Thais and I dive deep into the roots of attachment theory, exploring how core wounds from our past can keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns—and more importantly, how we can heal and reprogram these wounds. With her insights and actionable strategies, Thais explains how anyone can shift from an insecure attachment style to a secure, thriving connection.
We also discuss the transformative power of understanding your own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and learning how to cultivate emotional regulation for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. This episode will leave you inspired to change the way you approach love and connection.
 
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:27 What is Attachment Theory?</li>
<li aria-level="1">07:38 Identifying your core wounds</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:16 Reprogramming emotional triggers</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:27 How past emotional scars shape present reactions</li>
<li aria-level="1">20:55 Why do you keep dating the same type?</li>
<li aria-level="1">23:37 Heal yourself first</li>
<li aria-level="1">26:52 Learn what your needs are in a relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:52 Communicate your needs vulnerability and transparently</li>
<li aria-level="1">31:34 Have healthy boundaries</li>
<li aria-level="1">32:23 Why do you find secure people boring?</li>
<li aria-level="1">35:23 The six stages of relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">37:13 Are you hooked on the drama or the person?</li>
<li aria-level="1">40:40 The difference between sacrifice and compromise</li>
<li aria-level="1">43:45 Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant person</li>
<li aria-level="1">46:13 Enmeshment</li>
<li aria-level="1">52:04 Can you be a mix of attachment styles?</li>
<li aria-level="1">54:41 When anxious meets avoidant</li>
<li aria-level="1">57:17 What are your non-negotiables?</li>
<li aria-level="1">59:51 What are your standards or needs?</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:01:19 How do you actually feel when you’re around someone?</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:04:16 Three questions to ask your partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:09:24 Thais’ other books</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:10:48 Know more about Thais</li>
</ul>
 
Follow Thais:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/">https://university.personaldevelopmentschool.com/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/">https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/</a></li>
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Thais Gibson: How Attachment Styles Control Your Love Life and How to Reprogram It

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Dr. Ramani: Narcissism 101 - How to Identify Toxic Traits and Set Boundaries

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