Can you build a creative life without chaos?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I’m chatting with Anna Kai, an incredibly talented writer and storyteller about her journey from being a theater kid with big dreams to navigating an unstable career in acting, gig work, and eventually finding a balance between creativity and financial security. Anna shares her struggles with relationships, unlearning toxic dating patterns, and how she stopped trying to "fix" people to find real love.

We also talk about the challenges of making couple friends in adulthood, why family input on your relationship should have limits, and the emotional shifts that come with settling into a new phase of life.

This is a raw, honest conversation about self-discovery, independence, and embracing change.

 

What We Discuss:
0:00 - Introduction
0:17 - Origins of the Story
5:53 - Family Expectations
7:18 - Motivations and Drive
13:04 - Relationship Journey
16:59 - Lessons Learned and Growth
18:47 - From "Bad Boys" to Real Men
23:31 - Meeting My Husband
25:15 - The Power of Intuition
29:54 - Dating Struggles: Women and Men
32:57 - Past Encounters: Exes Reaching Out
34:12 - Intercultural Marriage
42:57 - Marriage: Challenges and Surprises
44:55 - Building Adult Friendships
48:41 - Key Takeaways and Advice
50:01 - Embracing Vulnerability
51:59 - Coping with Emotions
52:36 - Closing Remarks

 

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Can you build a creative life without chaos?
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I&rsquo;m chatting with Anna Kai, an incredibly talented writer and storyteller about her journey from being a theater kid with big dreams to navigating an unstable career in acting, gig work, and eventually finding a balance between creativity and financial security. Anna shares her struggles with relationships, unlearning toxic dating patterns, and how she stopped trying to "fix" people to find real love.
We also talk about the challenges of making couple friends in adulthood, why family input on your relationship should have limits, and the emotional shifts that come with settling into a new phase of life.
This is a raw, honest conversation about self-discovery, independence, and embracing change.
&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">0:00 - Introduction</li>
<li aria-level="1">0:17 - Origins of the Story</li>
<li aria-level="1">5:53 - Family Expectations</li>
<li aria-level="1">7:18 - Motivations and Drive</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:04 - Relationship Journey</li>
<li aria-level="1">16:59 - Lessons Learned and Growth</li>
<li aria-level="1">18:47 - From "Bad Boys" to Real Men</li>
<li aria-level="1">23:31 - Meeting My Husband</li>
<li aria-level="1">25:15 - The Power of Intuition</li>
<li aria-level="1">29:54 - Dating Struggles: Women and Men</li>
<li aria-level="1">32:57 - Past Encounters: Exes Reaching Out</li>
<li aria-level="1">34:12 - Intercultural Marriage</li>
<li aria-level="1">42:57 - Marriage: Challenges and Surprises</li>
<li aria-level="1">44:55 - Building Adult Friendships</li>
<li aria-level="1">48:41 - Key Takeaways and Advice</li>
<li aria-level="1">50:01 - Embracing Vulnerability</li>
<li aria-level="1">51:59 - Coping with Emotions</li>
<li aria-level="1">52:36 - Closing Remarks</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Anna:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://maybeboth.com/about/">https://maybeboth.com/about/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://youtube.com/@maybeboth">https://youtube.com/@maybeboth</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMkVa873s/">https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMkVa873s/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/maybeboth">https://www.instagram.com/maybeboth</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Radhi:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a></li>
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</ul>

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

A Really Good Cry

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

Anna Kai: Escaping Toxic Relationships, Dating Red Flags and How to Attract a Healed Man

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/9ec37915-bdd3-4a15-8cf2-b281008be46d/transcript

What actually changes when you understand the blueprint you were born with?

Why do certain patterns repeat? Why do some seasons feel heavy, and others open?

And can astrology really give clarity without taking away your free will?

 

In this episode, Radhi sits down with The AstroTwins, Ophira and Tali Edut, for a grounded, eye-opening conversation about astrology as a tool for self-understanding, timing, purpose, and relationships. They break down the basics in a way that finally makes sense — from the Sun, Moon, and Rising signs to the North and South Nodes, planetary cycles, and what a birth chart actually shows about your inner world.

 

The twins share how they discovered astrology in college, how being four minutes apart created subtle differences in their charts, and why no one has a “perfect” or “lucky” chart. They explain why astrology shouldn’t be treated as a rulebook, how to avoid becoming dependent on predictions, and why free will matters just as much as the stars.

 

They also explore love and compatibility, what Mercury retrograde is actually about, and why 2026 will bring a major collective reset as Saturn and Neptune meet at zero degrees Aries.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
What your birth chart reveals beyond your zodiac sign
The role of your Sun, Moon, and Rising — and which one people feel the most
How the North & South Nodes point to purpose, patterns, and growth
Why timing matters: Jupiter return, Saturn return, retrogrades, and yearly cycles
How to use astrology without letting it control your decisions
What really makes two people compatible (and why “hard” relationships can be meaningful)
The difference between Western and Vedic astrology
What the AstroTwins predict for 2026 — and why it’s a year of new beginnings

 

This episode is a clear, refreshing reminder that astrology isn’t about telling you who you are — it’s about helping you understand yourself better. When you know the patterns, the timing, and the possibilities, you can make choices with more confidence, clarity, and intention.

 

Follow The AstroTwins: 

https://astrostyle.com/

https://www.instagram.com/astrotwins/

https://www.youtube.com/@astrotwins-tv





Follow Radhi:

https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ

https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/

https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

What actually changes when you understand the blueprint you were born with?
Why do certain patterns repeat? Why do some seasons feel heavy, and others open?
And can astrology really give clarity without taking away your free will?
&nbsp;
In this episode, Radhi sits down with The AstroTwins, Ophira and Tali Edut, for a grounded, eye-opening conversation about astrology as a tool for self-understanding, timing, purpose, and relationships. They break down the basics in a way that finally makes sense &mdash; from the Sun, Moon, and Rising signs to the North and South Nodes, planetary cycles, and what a birth chart actually shows about your inner world.
&nbsp;
The twins share how they discovered astrology in college, how being four minutes apart created subtle differences in their charts, and why no one has a &ldquo;perfect&rdquo; or &ldquo;lucky&rdquo; chart. They explain why astrology shouldn&rsquo;t be treated as a rulebook, how to avoid becoming dependent on predictions, and why free will matters just as much as the stars.
&nbsp;
They also explore love and compatibility, what Mercury retrograde is actually about, and why 2026 will bring a major collective reset as Saturn and Neptune meet at zero degrees Aries.
&nbsp;
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">What your birth chart reveals beyond your zodiac sign</li>
<li aria-level="1">The role of your Sun, Moon, and Rising &mdash; and which one people feel the most</li>
<li aria-level="1">How the North &amp; South Nodes point to purpose, patterns, and growth</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why timing matters: Jupiter return, Saturn return, retrogrades, and yearly cycles</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to use astrology without letting it control your decisions</li>
<li aria-level="1">What really makes two people compatible (and why &ldquo;hard&rdquo; relationships can be meaningful)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between Western and Vedic astrology</li>
<li aria-level="1">What the AstroTwins predict for 2026 &mdash; and why it&rsquo;s a year of new beginnings</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
This episode is a clear, refreshing reminder that astrology isn&rsquo;t about telling you who you are &mdash; it&rsquo;s about helping you understand yourself better. When you know the patterns, the timing, and the possibilities, you can make choices with more confidence, clarity, and intention.
&nbsp;
Follow The AstroTwins:&nbsp;
<a href="https://astrostyle.com/">https://astrostyle.com/</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/astrotwins/">https://www.instagram.com/astrotwins/</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@astrotwins-tv">https://www.youtube.com/@astrotwins-tv</a>
 
Follow Radhi:
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a>
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Astrology Decoded: What Your Chart Reveals About Purpose, Destiny & Growth

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Could the pain you feel actually be wisdom waiting to unfold?

How often do your expectations write a story your reality can’t live up to?

Could disappointment be your teacher, not your enemy?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia dives deep into the emotion we all try to avoid—disappointment.

 

She explores why this feeling cuts so deep, describing it as the space between expectation and reality—a form of grief for what could have been. Drawing from her own reflections, Radhi reveals how disappointment often says more about our assumptions than the situation itself.

 

Instead, Radhi invites listeners to find peace in the middle ground: To feel the emotion fully, take ownership of their response, and reframe disappointment as tuition—the price we pay for wisdom.





In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why disappointment may be a form of grief, not failure
How perfectionism and shrinking dreams both come from fear
Why effort doesn’t always equal outcome—and that’s okay
How to reframe disappointment as tuition, not tragedy
Why feeling your emotions fully gives them less power
How to stop outsourcing your peace to other people or results

 

You’ll learn how to stop outsourcing your peace, communicate with compassion, and find meaning in moments that didn’t go as planned. This isn’t about pretending everything’s fine—it’s about trusting that you can handle what is.

 

Follow Radhi:

https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ

https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/

https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

Could the pain you feel actually be wisdom waiting to unfold?
How often do your expectations write a story your reality can&rsquo;t live up to?
Could disappointment be your teacher, not your enemy?
&nbsp;
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia dives deep into the emotion we all try to avoid&mdash;disappointment.
&nbsp;
She explores why this feeling cuts so deep, describing it as the space between expectation and reality&mdash;a form of grief for what could have been. Drawing from her own reflections, Radhi reveals how disappointment often says more about our assumptions than the situation itself.
&nbsp;
Instead, Radhi invites listeners to find peace in the middle ground:&nbsp;To feel the emotion fully, take ownership of their response, and reframe disappointment as tuition&mdash;the price we pay for wisdom.
 
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why disappointment may be a form of grief, not failure</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How perfectionism and shrinking dreams both come from fear</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why effort doesn&rsquo;t always equal outcome&mdash;and that&rsquo;s okay</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How to reframe disappointment as tuition, not tragedy</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why feeling your emotions fully gives them less power</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to stop outsourcing your peace to other people or results</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
You&rsquo;ll learn how to stop outsourcing your peace, communicate with compassion, and find meaning in moments that didn&rsquo;t go as planned. This isn&rsquo;t about pretending everything&rsquo;s fine&mdash;it&rsquo;s about trusting that you can handle what is.
&nbsp;
Follow Radhi:
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/">https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/</a>
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia">https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia</a>

Dealing with Disappointment (And When Things Don’t Go Your Way)

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What if the person you’ve become is still carrying the pain of who you once were?

Could the patterns you can’t seem to break—disconnection, fear, self-doubt—be echoes of an unsafe childhood?

And what if healing isn’t about fixing the past, but teaching your body that it’s safe now?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Anna Runkle, the creator of Crappy Childhood Fairy, for a powerful and compassionate conversation on how early emotional wounds shape the way we connect, love, and live as adults.

 

Anna shares her journey of growing up in chaos, learning to recognize the lasting effects of trauma, and discovering the tools to calm her dysregulated nervous system. Together, Radhi and Anna explore the deep link between childhood pain and adult disconnection—and how learning to regulate your body can transform how you experience love, safety, and belonging.

 

They unpack why traditional talk therapy doesn’t always reach the root of trauma, how emotional neglect can manifest as anxiety and isolation, and the small daily practices that help rebuild connection from the inside out. This isn’t just a conversation about childhood—it’s about learning to feel safe in your own body again.

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 
What emotional dysregulation really is—and how to recognize it in yourself
How early trauma impacts the nervous system and adult relationships
Why connection can feel uncomfortable after an unsafe childhood
Practical tools to regulate your emotions and calm your body
How writing and self-reflection can help rewire your brain for safety
Why healing starts with awareness, not blame

 

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, distant from yourself, or unsure how to feel safe with others, this episode is your reminder: your body remembers—but it can also relearn.

 

Follow Anna:
https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/
https://www.youtube.com/CrappyChildhoodFairy
https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-runkle-baa9778

 

Follow Radhi:
https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ
https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/
https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

What if the person you&rsquo;ve become is still carrying the pain of who you once were?
Could the patterns you can&rsquo;t seem to break&mdash;disconnection, fear, self-doubt&mdash;be echoes of an unsafe childhood?
And what if healing isn&rsquo;t about fixing the past, but teaching your body that it&rsquo;s safe now?
&nbsp;
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Anna Runkle, the creator of Crappy Childhood Fairy, for a powerful and compassionate conversation on how early emotional wounds shape the way we connect, love, and live as adults.
&nbsp;
Anna shares her journey of growing up in chaos, learning to recognize the lasting effects of trauma, and discovering the tools to calm her dysregulated nervous system. Together, Radhi and Anna explore the deep link between childhood pain and adult disconnection&mdash;and how learning to regulate your body can transform how you experience love, safety, and belonging.
&nbsp;
They unpack why traditional talk therapy doesn&rsquo;t always reach the root of trauma, how emotional neglect can manifest as anxiety and isolation, and the small daily practices that help rebuild connection from the inside out. This isn&rsquo;t just a conversation about childhood&mdash;it&rsquo;s about learning to feel safe in your own body again.
&nbsp;
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">What emotional dysregulation really is&mdash;and how to recognize it in yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">How early trauma impacts the nervous system and adult relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why connection can feel uncomfortable after an unsafe childhood</li>
<li aria-level="1">Practical tools to regulate your emotions and calm your body</li>
<li aria-level="1">How writing and self-reflection can help rewire your brain for safety</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why healing starts with awareness, not blame</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, distant from yourself, or unsure how to feel safe with others, this episode is your reminder: your body remembers&mdash;but it can also relearn.
&nbsp;
Follow Anna:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/">https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/CrappyChildhoodFairy">https://www.youtube.com/CrappyChildhoodFairy</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/">https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-runkle-baa9778">https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-runkle-baa9778</a></li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Follow Radhi:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a></li>
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</ul>

How to Rebuild Trust and Connection After Growing Up in Chaos with The Crappy Childhood Fairy Anna Runkle

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Anna Kai: Escaping Toxic Relationships, Dating Red Flags and How to Attract a Healed Man

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