Real compassion breaks down the barriers that divide us. It's not just about doing nice things, it's about creating a safety net of care. True compassion blurs the lines between "me" and "you." It's about understanding that we're all connected and that looking out for each other is what really matters.

Today, I welcome Alok Vaid-Menon, a writer, performer, and advocate known for their activism in the LGBTQ+ community. They're recognized for their insightful discussions on gender, identity, and social justice. Alok's work often challenges societal norms and perceptions, aiming to promote acceptance and equality for all genders. Their powerful storytelling and performances resonate with audiences worldwide, sparking important conversations about inclusivity and self-expression.

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Alok and I talked about how they were able to live authentically and how they found confidence through writing. We also explore finding beauty in the little things and how we connect in this digital world. Alok shares insights on dealing with hate using compassion and where all that hate might actually come from.

Make sure to sit back and relax as you listen to this insightful and inspiring conversation with Alok! 



What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:29 Living authentically
02:15 Finding confidence through writing
06:17 Growing up different in Texas
08:24 Cultural influence on parenting
14:20 Appreciating parent’s sacrfices
16:34 The beauty in the mundane
20:24 Connection and community in a digital age
24:35 Handling hate with compassion
29:44 Where does hate come from?
33:33 What is true compassion?
39:38 Embracing every emotion in our growth
48:27 The intersection of religion, spirituality, and gender
52:19 Balancing masculine and feminine energies
55:52 Living your truth
58:12  Love across religious divides
1:01:14 The last time Alok had a good cry
1:04:12 What kind of crier is Alok?

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Real compassion breaks down the barriers that divide us. It's not just about doing nice things, it's about creating a safety net of care. True compassion blurs the lines between "me" and "you." It's about understanding that we're all connected and that looking out for each other is what really matters.
Today, I welcome Alok Vaid-Menon, a writer, performer, and advocate known for their activism in the LGBTQ+ community. They're recognized for their insightful discussions on gender, identity, and social justice. Alok's work often challenges societal norms and perceptions, aiming to promote acceptance and equality for all genders. Their powerful storytelling and performances resonate with audiences worldwide, sparking important conversations about inclusivity and self-expression.
In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Alok and I talked about how they were able to live authentically and how they found confidence through writing. We also explore finding beauty in the little things and how we connect in this digital world. Alok shares insights on dealing with hate using compassion and where all that hate might actually come from.
Make sure to sit back and relax as you listen to this insightful and inspiring conversation with Alok! 
 
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">00:29 Living authentically</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:15 Finding confidence through writing</li>
<li aria-level="1">06:17 Growing up different in Texas</li>
<li aria-level="1">08:24 Cultural influence on parenting</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:20 Appreciating parent’s sacrfices</li>
<li aria-level="1">16:34 The beauty in the mundane</li>
<li aria-level="1">20:24 Connection and community in a digital age</li>
<li aria-level="1">24:35 Handling hate with compassion</li>
<li aria-level="1">29:44 Where does hate come from?</li>
<li aria-level="1">33:33 What is true compassion?</li>
<li aria-level="1">39:38 Embracing every emotion in our growth</li>
<li aria-level="1">48:27 The intersection of religion, spirituality, and gender</li>
<li aria-level="1">52:19 Balancing masculine and feminine energies</li>
<li aria-level="1">55:52 Living your truth</li>
<li aria-level="1">58:12  Love across religious divides</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:01:14 The last time Alok had a good cry</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:04:12 What kind of crier is Alok?</li>
</ul>
Follow Alok:
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</ul>
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This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!

There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 

Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more. 

This podcast won’t solve all your problems, but it WILL go through them with you. Radhi Devlukia brings you a new weekly show called A Really Good Cry, a space where we can embrace the real, the messy and the beautiful parts of life that can be difficult to digest alone, together. Tune in for a good ole’ laugh, maybe shed a tear or two, and join a community where you can have a really good cry!
There's no small talk here, we are diving straight in and it’s gonna get real. Whether it’s raw, unfiltered conversations, debate and discussions of different perspectives and life experiences or going on an emotional rollercoaster. A Really Good Cry is there for you to learn, connect, and find comfort together - that allows us to see the world and ourselves with a new perspective. 
Some episodes will also feature surprise guests, including celebrities, scientists, experts and more. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Tag @areallygoodcry on Instagram with your best crying face for a chance to be featured on our social media channels. Like, comment and follow @areallygoodcry on Instagram if you want the chance to be featured on episodes. You can also subscribe to get exclusive and bonus content. Radhi will give listeners the opportunity to be part of the show by responding to dms, comments, questions and more.

A Really Good Cry

Alok Vaid-Menon: Accepting Yourself - How to Not Let the Judgement of Others Mold Who You Are

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/90183c89-0f55-46ab-9cb9-b19300720133/transcript

How many relationships could be saved by a single honest conversation?

Assumptions can be silent relationship killers, creeping into our interactions and creating unnecessary barriers.  In this episode of A Really Good Cry, we dive into how unspoken assumptions can drive people apart and how open communication can bring them back together.

We’ll also explore why we make assumptions, how they affect our lives, and offer practical tips to break the habit. Discover how challenging your assumptions can lead to stronger, more genuine connections.

Tune in to learn how questioning your assumptions can transform your relationships for the better.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:47 Resolving family drama 
02:24 The problem with taking assumption as truth
03:55 Why do we have assumptions?
06:43 How do you stop yourself from making assumptions?
09:09 Everything is not about you
10:24 Let go of your fear of discomfort
13:07 Assumptions can ruin relationships
15:44 How honest conversations can transform your relationship
17:15 Give someone the benefit of your doubt
19:05 “Humans have the need to know…”
21:05 What to do when you find yourself assuming?

Follow Radhi:
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https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

How many relationships could be saved by a single honest conversation?
Assumptions can be silent relationship killers, creeping into our interactions and creating unnecessary barriers.  In this episode of A Really Good Cry, we dive into how unspoken assumptions can drive people apart and how open communication can bring them back together.
We’ll also explore why we make assumptions, how they affect our lives, and offer practical tips to break the habit. Discover how challenging your assumptions can lead to stronger, more genuine connections.
Tune in to learn how questioning your assumptions can transform your relationships for the better.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">00:47 Resolving family drama </li>
<li aria-level="1">02:24 The problem with taking assumption as truth</li>
<li aria-level="1">03:55 Why do we have assumptions?</li>
<li aria-level="1">06:43 How do you stop yourself from making assumptions?</li>
<li aria-level="1">09:09 Everything is not about you</li>
<li aria-level="1">10:24 Let go of your fear of discomfort</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:07 Assumptions can ruin relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">15:44 How honest conversations can transform your relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:15 Give someone the benefit of your doubt</li>
<li aria-level="1">19:05 “Humans have the need to know…”</li>
<li aria-level="1">21:05 What to do when you find yourself assuming?</li>
</ul>
Follow Radhi:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/">https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ</a></li>
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</ul>

Breaking the Cycle of Family Trauma: How to Create New Thought Patterns and Communicate Authentically

Ever heard of the saying, “Listen to your gut?”

Your gut health plays a pivotal role in your overall well-being, influencing everything from digestion and nutrient absorption to immune function and even mood regulation.

It's like a second brain residing in your abdomen, communicating with your body in ways we're only beginning to understand.

Today, let's dive deep into simple yet effective ways to maintain a healthy gut. We'll cover practical tips for improving digestion and highlight common foods that can naturally enhance your gut health. We'll also touch on recognizable signs that might indicate if you're experiencing any gut-related issues.

By following these tips and incorporating digestion-friendly foods into your diet, you're taking a positive step towards a healthier gut and a happier version of yourself.



What We Discuss:
00:00 Everything is linked to our gut
01:07 What is gut health?
02:01 Signs of gut issues
05:56 Your body cleanses your insides at night
07:22 Tip #1: Control your sugar intake
13:54 Tip #2: Eat the rainbow - have a variety of natural foods in different colors
21:38 Tip #3: Stop drinking cold water
25:10 Tip #4: Incorporate spice in your food
29:10 Tip #5: Avoid eating raw foods
32:13 We have a responsibility to look after our health

Follow Radhi:
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https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/
https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

Ever heard of the saying, “Listen to your gut?”
Your gut health plays a pivotal role in your overall well-being, influencing everything from digestion and nutrient absorption to immune function and even mood regulation.
It's like a second brain residing in your abdomen, communicating with your body in ways we're only beginning to understand.
Today, let's dive deep into simple yet effective ways to maintain a healthy gut. We'll cover practical tips for improving digestion and highlight common foods that can naturally enhance your gut health. We'll also touch on recognizable signs that might indicate if you're experiencing any gut-related issues.
By following these tips and incorporating digestion-friendly foods into your diet, you're taking a positive step towards a healthier gut and a happier version of yourself.
 
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Everything is linked to our gut</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:07 What is gut health?</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:01 Signs of gut issues</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:56 Your body cleanses your insides at night</li>
<li aria-level="1">07:22 Tip #1: Control your sugar intake</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:54 Tip #2: Eat the rainbow - have a variety of natural foods in different colors</li>
<li aria-level="1">21:38 Tip #3: Stop drinking cold water</li>
<li aria-level="1">25:10 Tip #4: Incorporate spice in your food</li>
<li aria-level="1">29:10 Tip #5: Avoid eating raw foods</li>
<li aria-level="1">32:13 We have a responsibility to look after our health</li>
</ul>
Follow Radhi:
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</ul>

What Your Gut Health Says About You: 5 Changes You Can Make to Improve Your Gut

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/a77c7e41-3d7e-4b7f-b7a5-b18c005960f2/transcript

30, flirty, and single??

Today, Radhi welcomes two of her amazing best friends to A Really Good Cry, Francia Raisa and Deepica Mutyala! 

In this episode they openly discuss the joys and challenges of their friendship, highlighting the importance of genuine connections and the power of sisterhood. Francia and Deepica also share their personal journeys of defying these expectations and finding happiness in their own paths, proving that life doesn't always follow society's timelines.

Tune in to this captivating episode and witness the magic that happens when authentic friendships and personal transformations come together.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
04:18 Being single-shamed
11:08 Choosing not to have kids
13:08 It’s okay to change your mind
14:14 Growing on your own first
18:09 Changing the social norms 
20:38 Trusting yourself first, gain confidence after
22:51 Handling negative comments
24:40 Embracing every season of your life
29:40 “Don’t set yourself up for failure…”
33:12 Having a community and surrounding yourself with good people
40:22 Fear of doing something first
41:17 Masculine and feminine qualities in relationships
45:27 Definition of man and masculinity in dating
49:07 Financial responsibility in relationships
51:33 Be okay with your partner’s vulnerability
54:04 What makes a woman?
1:00:05 Qualities of a good friend
1:12:27 Check up on all your friends
1:14:44 How to handle unrequested opinions
1:20:18 Gossiping in relationships
1:27:12 Things to work on to become a better friend
1:34:03 Communicate with your friends better
1:39:53 Be open to new friendships
1:48:36 What type of crier are you?

Follow Francia:
https://www.instagram.com/franciaraisa/
https://www.facebook.com/TheRealFranciaRaisa/
https://www.tiktok.com/@franciaraisa

Follow Deepica:
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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbK1O-GSEDwjdSO5udBVrxQ
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https://www.facebook.com/deepica/

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https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia

30, flirty, and single??
Today, Radhi welcomes two of her amazing best friends to A Really Good Cry, Francia Raisa and Deepica Mutyala! 
In this episode they openly discuss the joys and challenges of their friendship, highlighting the importance of genuine connections and the power of sisterhood. Francia and Deepica also share their personal journeys of defying these expectations and finding happiness in their own paths, proving that life doesn't always follow society's timelines.
Tune in to this captivating episode and witness the magic that happens when authentic friendships and personal transformations come together.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">04:18 Being single-shamed</li>
<li aria-level="1">11:08 Choosing not to have kids</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:08 It’s okay to change your mind</li>
<li aria-level="1">14:14 Growing on your own first</li>
<li aria-level="1">18:09 Changing the social norms </li>
<li aria-level="1">20:38 Trusting yourself first, gain confidence after</li>
<li aria-level="1">22:51 Handling negative comments</li>
<li aria-level="1">24:40 Embracing every season of your life</li>
<li aria-level="1">29:40 “Don’t set yourself up for failure…”</li>
<li aria-level="1">33:12 Having a community and surrounding yourself with good people</li>
<li aria-level="1">40:22 Fear of doing something first</li>
<li aria-level="1">41:17 Masculine and feminine qualities in relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">45:27 Definition of man and masculinity in dating</li>
<li aria-level="1">49:07 Financial responsibility in relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">51:33 Be okay with your partner’s vulnerability</li>
<li aria-level="1">54:04 What makes a woman?</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:00:05 Qualities of a good friend</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:12:27 Check up on all your friends</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:14:44 How to handle unrequested opinions</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:20:18 Gossiping in relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:27:12 Things to work on to become a better friend</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:34:03 Communicate with your friends better</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:39:53 Be open to new friendships</li>
<li aria-level="1">1:48:36 What type of crier are you?</li>
</ul>
Follow Francia:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.instagram.com/franciaraisa/">https://www.instagram.com/franciaraisa/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.facebook.com/TheRealFranciaRaisa/">https://www.facebook.com/TheRealFranciaRaisa/</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@franciaraisa">https://www.tiktok.com/@franciaraisa</a></li>
</ul>
Follow Deepica:
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</ul>
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</ul>

Deepica Mutyala & Francia Raísa: Single, Married, or It’s Complicated? Society’s Expectations on Women and How To Find Your Identity Beyond the Stereotypes

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/af81996a-efcc-49f5-acac-b185007bc110/transcript

Alok Vaid-Menon: Accepting Yourself - How to Not Let the Judgement of Others Mold Who You Are

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