Up to this point, I kept my coaching practice somewhat separate from the Trauma Hiders Club podcast. My coaching practice has always been full, flourishing, and thriving with exponential growth, but, ever since my mom died, I’ve been looking at it. What struck me was the myriad of ways I had kept so many people out while offering exclusive, high-ticket engagement, VIP experiences, and made-up rules about who gets in and who stays out

In this episode, I explore combining my world as the host of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast and as an executive leadership coach. I discuss how and why I’m not for most people and describe the kind of people who will—and who will probably not—connect well with me.

“If you hear something that opens you up to seeing something for yourself, and you want to explore that in reflective, safe, trauma-informed conversations, know that I’m here.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker

This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
Podcasting as a grieving host
How I separated my world as a podcast host from my world as an executive coach
My “Fuck off” and “Fuck, yes!” kinds of people
How to reach out to me

Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER

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Up to this point, I kept my coaching practice somewhat separate from the Trauma Hiders Club podcast. My coaching practice has always been full, flourishing, and thriving with exponential growth, but, ever since my mom died, I’ve been looking at it. What struck me was the myriad of ways I had kept so many people out while offering exclusive, high-ticket engagement, VIP experiences, and made-up rules about who gets in and who stays out
In this episode, I explore combining my world as the host of the Trauma Hiders Club podcast and as an executive leadership coach. I discuss how and why I’m not for most people and describe the kind of people who will—and who will probably not—connect well with me.
“If you hear something that opens you up to seeing something for yourself, and you want to explore that in reflective, safe, trauma-informed conversations, know that I’m here.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
<ul>
<li>Podcasting as a grieving host</li>
<li>How I separated my world as a podcast host from my world as an executive coach</li>
<li>My “Fuck off” and “Fuck, yes!” kinds of people</li>
<li>How to reach out to me</li>
</ul>
Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.
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Trauma Hiders Club Podcast where high achievers like you finally reveal what keeps them awake at night, and that no amount of money or recognition will fix. I’m also making it my business to speak with people who get you.

Hell! I get you. I AM you!

So get your best hiders face, sit down and let you guard down! What’s on the other side of this shit. Will change your life. 

Trauma Hiders Club Podcast where high achievers like you finally reveal what keeps them awake at night, and that no amount of money or recognition will fix. I&rsquo;m also making it my business to speak with people who get you.
Hell! I get you. I AM you!
So get your best hiders face, sit down and let you guard down! What&rsquo;s on the other side of this shit. Will change your life.&nbsp;

Trauma Hiders Club Podcast

Trauma Hiders Club Podcast where high achievers like you finally reveal what keeps them awake at night, and that no amount of money or recognition will fix. I’m also making it my business to speak with people who get you.

Hell! I get you. I AM you! 

So get your best hiders face, sit down and let you guard down! What’s on the other side of this shit. Will change your life.  

Trauma Hiders Club Podcast where high achievers like you finally reveal what keeps them awake at night, and that no amount of money or recognition will fix. I&rsquo;m also making it my business to speak with people who get you.
Hell! I get you. I AM you! 
So get your best hiders face, sit down and let you guard down! What&rsquo;s on the other side of this shit. Will change your life.&nbsp;&nbsp;

Trauma Hiders Club

Two Worlds

Andrea Ashley is the host and producer of the Adult Child Podcast, the leading and fastest-growing podcast on the impact of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. A CPA by profession, Andrea worked in accounting and financial firms before launching her podcast. She has worked in CFGI’s Business and Talent Acquisition team and was a senior consultant for Armanino, as well as an audit senior associate at KPMG US. At the Adult Child Podcast, Andrea and her guests have raw and vulnerable conversations about codependency, complex trauma, alcoholism and addiction, generational trauma, and toxic shame.

Andrea joins me today to discuss connection, disconnection, dysfunction, and what it means to be an adult child. She describes her “Tale of Two Brains” and reveals what the Broken Picker Syndrome is. She shares her experience with severe separation anxiety as a child and explains how she realized that unresolved childhood trauma impacts how she maintains relationships. Andrea also highlights how therapy has helped her work through trauma and enumerates the characteristics that adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families have in common.

“The journey into the soul to embrace our pain, live our authentic selves, and own our entire stories—especially the really messy shit—is a beautiful opportunity to heal and grow.” - Andrea Ashley

This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
A Tale of Two Brains and the Broken Picker Syndrome
How Andrea realized her childhood upbringing impacted her previous relationships
Severe separation anxiety and alcoholism as a symptom of family dysfunction and trauma
What happens to abandonment issues when they’re not healed
How working with a therapist helped Andrea confront complex trauma
What Andrea was like before she worked with a therapist and how she’s changed
Recreating the chaos of our childhood
How therapy led Andrea to search for her life purpose
The road to launching the Adult Child Podcast
The ACA’s Laundry List
Embracing our past and our childhood

Resources Mentioned:
Dump Your Shit
Book: Adult Children of Alcoholic / Dysfunctional Familiesby ACA WSO
Book: The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: Guidance through the Five Stages of Healing from Abandonment, Heartbreak, and Loss by Susan Anderson



Connect with Andrea Ashley:
Adult Child Podcast
Adult Child Podcast on LinkedIn
Adult Child Podcast on Facebook
Adult Child Podcast on Instagram
Adult Child Podcast on TikTok
Andrea Ashley on LinkedIn
Email: andrea@adultchildhoodpodcast.com

Related Episodes:
The Courage to Connect with Our Feelings with Joe Ryan



Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER

Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.

Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music

Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.

Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

Andrea Ashley is the host and producer of the Adult Child Podcast, the leading and fastest-growing podcast on the impact of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. A CPA by profession, Andrea worked in accounting and financial firms before launching her podcast. She has worked in CFGI’s Business and Talent Acquisition team and was a senior consultant for Armanino, as well as an audit senior associate at KPMG US. At the Adult Child Podcast, Andrea and her guests have raw and vulnerable conversations about codependency, complex trauma, alcoholism and addiction, generational trauma, and toxic shame.
Andrea joins me today to discuss connection, disconnection, dysfunction, and what it means to be an adult child. She describes her “Tale of Two Brains” and reveals what the Broken Picker Syndrome is. She shares her experience with severe separation anxiety as a child and explains how she realized that unresolved childhood trauma impacts how she maintains relationships. Andrea also highlights how therapy has helped her work through trauma and enumerates the characteristics that adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families have in common.
“The journey into the soul to embrace our pain, live our authentic selves, and own our entire stories—especially the really messy shit—is a beautiful opportunity to heal and grow.” - Andrea Ashley
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
<ul>
<li>A Tale of Two Brains and the Broken Picker Syndrome</li>
<li>How Andrea realized her childhood upbringing impacted her previous relationships</li>
<li>Severe separation anxiety and alcoholism as a symptom of family dysfunction and trauma</li>
<li>What happens to abandonment issues when they’re not healed</li>
<li>How working with a therapist helped Andrea confront complex trauma</li>
<li>What Andrea was like before she worked with a therapist and how she’s changed</li>
<li>Recreating the chaos of our childhood</li>
<li>How therapy led Andrea to search for her life purpose</li>
<li>The road to launching the Adult Child Podcast</li>
<li>The ACA’s Laundry List</li>
<li>Embracing our past and our childhood</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://dumpyourshit.com/">Dump Your Shit</a></li>
<li>Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Alcoholic-Dysfunctional-Families/dp/0978979702/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36DUNZ33EOIVV&amp;keywords=adult+children+of+alcoholics+and+dysfunctional+families&amp;qid=1655786324&amp;sprefix=adult+children+of+al%2Caps%2C297&amp;sr=8-1">Adult Children of Alcoholic / Dysfunctional Families</a> by ACA WSO</li>
<li>Book: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Abandonment-Recovery-Workbook-Guidance-Heartbreak/dp/160868427X/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=abandonment+recovery+workbook&amp;qid=1655786204&amp;sprefix=Abandonment+%2Caps%2C389&amp;sr=8-1">The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: Guidance through the Five Stages of Healing from Abandonment, Heartbreak, and Loss</a> by Susan Anderson</li>
</ul>
 
Connect with Andrea Ashley:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/adult-child/id1552579027">Adult Child Podcast</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/company/adult-child-podcast/">Adult Child Podcast on LinkedIn</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/adultchildpod/">Adult Child Podcast on Facebook</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod/">Adult Child Podcast on Instagram</a></li>
<li><a href="http://www.tiktok.com/@adultchildpod">Adult Child Podcast on TikTok</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-s-ashley/">Andrea Ashley on LinkedIn</a></li>
<li>Email: andrea@adultchildhoodpodcast.com</li>
</ul>
Related Episodes:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.karengoldfingerbaker.com/podcast/the-courage-to-connect-with-our-feelings-with-joe-ryan">The Courage to Connect with Our Feelings with Joe Ryan</a></li>
</ul>
 
Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.
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Meeting the Adult Child with Andrea Ashley

I’m going to save you a lot of time and needless worry and let you in on a secret that nobody tells you until you become a member of the Dead Family Member Secret Society. The timesaving, worry-saving, and (possibly) money-saving secret is—grief is love. Grief is love’s confusion. Grieving is loving. Now, before you roll your eyes or boo at me, I want you to hear me out.

In this episode, I discuss grief and love. I explain why grief is love confused. I also describe how I’m learning to love my mother in her absence and underscore how grief is learning to love in a new way.

“Grief is learning to love in a new way. I’m learning to love my mother while she isn’t here; I’m grieving her presence, loving her absence.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker

This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
The relationship between grief and love
Why we grieve
Learning to love my mother in her absence

Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER

Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.

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Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers like you.

Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

I’m going to save you a lot of time and needless worry and let you in on a secret that nobody tells you until you become a member of the Dead Family Member Secret Society. The timesaving, worry-saving, and (possibly) money-saving secret is—grief is love. Grief is love’s confusion. Grieving is loving. Now, before you roll your eyes or boo at me, I want you to hear me out.
In this episode, I discuss grief and love. I explain why grief is love confused. I also describe how I’m learning to love my mother in her absence and underscore how grief is learning to love in a new way.
“Grief is learning to love in a new way. I’m learning to love my mother while she isn’t here; I’m grieving her presence, loving her absence.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
<ul>
<li>The relationship between grief and love</li>
<li>Why we grieve</li>
<li>Learning to love my mother in her absence</li>
</ul>
Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.
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Grief and Love

I have chosen peace and quiet. I lived in two worlds for most of my life. One was a world where I let others see what I wanted them to see, and the other was a world where I kept people from the broken, damaged, unlovable me. And, in those two different worlds, I wasn’t aware that I was struggling with quiet, stillness, and peace. While I craved stillness and peace, the dark quiet of the night had been a trigger for me. But, today, I welcome quiet.

In this episode, I share how I straddled between two different worlds for a vast majority of my life and discuss my struggles with peace and quiet. I also describe how I have chosen peace—despite my struggles with it—after the recent passing of my mother.

“The dark, quiet nighttime had been a trigger for me. Here’s the thing: since the passing of my mother, I have chosen quiet, I have chosen stillness, I have chosen peace.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker

“Quiet, stillness, and peace feel like the best, warmest, longest, most welcoming hugs that I craved then and welcome now. Nothingness is everything right now—peace is essential.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker

This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
Living life in two different worlds
The quiet places I created in my life
My struggles with peace and quiet
Choosing stillness, peace, and quiet

Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER

Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.

Apple Podcasts | TuneIn | GooglePlay | Stitcher | Spotify | Amazon Music

Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.

Join me on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn and visit my website to discover the rules of Trauma Club and grab your free download: Discover 5 Ways Your Fuckery Is Getting In The Way of The Next Level of Your Success.

I have chosen peace and quiet. I lived in two worlds for most of my life. One was a world where I let others see what I wanted them to see, and the other was a world where I kept people from the broken, damaged, unlovable me. And, in those two different worlds, I wasn’t aware that I was struggling with quiet, stillness, and peace. While I craved stillness and peace, the dark quiet of the night had been a trigger for me. But, today, I welcome quiet.
In this episode, I share how I straddled between two different worlds for a vast majority of my life and discuss my struggles with peace and quiet. I also describe how I have chosen peace—despite my struggles with it—after the recent passing of my mother.
“The dark, quiet nighttime had been a trigger for me. Here’s the thing: since the passing of my mother, I have chosen quiet, I have chosen stillness, I have chosen peace.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker
“Quiet, stillness, and peace feel like the best, warmest, longest, most welcoming hugs that I craved then and welcome now. Nothingness is everything right now—peace is essential.” - Karen Goldfinger Baker
This week on the Trauma Hiders Club Podcast:
<ul>
<li>Living life in two different worlds</li>
<li>The quiet places I created in my life</li>
<li>My struggles with peace and quiet</li>
<li>Choosing stillness, peace, and quiet</li>
</ul>
Where High Achievers Get Through Shit - TOGETHER
Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Trauma Hiders Club ‘The Podcast’ with Karen Goldfinger Baker. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review wherever you get your podcasts.
<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-hiders-club-podcast/id1569664269">Apple Podcasts</a> | <a href="https://tunein.com/podcasts/Health--Wellness-Podcasts/Trauma-Hiders-Club-Podcast-p1444567/">TuneIn</a> | <a href="https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9vbW55LmZtL3Nob3dzL3RyYXVtYS1oaWRlcnMtY2x1Yi9wbGF5bGlzdHMvcG9kY2FzdC5yc3M">GooglePlay</a> | <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/show/trauma-hiders-club-podcast">Stitcher</a> | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZOxHZICFQhfI2nbrIU2Ut">Spotify</a> | <a href="https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/e8ff8ce6-d410-4eec-b482-b297f7cb8a24/Trauma-Hiders-Club-Podcast">Amazon Music</a>
Be sure to share your favorite episodes on social media to help me reach more high achievers, like you.
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