New Year, New Me

Published Dec 19, 2018, 8:00 AM
2019 is almost here and I'm sure many of your are busy thinking about upgrades and changes you'd like to make in your life. In this episode I shared 7 tips to help you as you go about making your list. 

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Welcome to the Therapy for a Black Girls podcasts, a weekly conversation about mental health, personal development, and all the small decisions we can make to become the best possible versions of ourselves. I'm your host, Dr joy Hard and Bradford, a licensed psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. To get more information, visit the website at Therapy for Black Girls dot com. And while I hope you love listening to and learning from the podcast, it is not meant to be a substitute for a relationship with a licensed mental health professional. Hey, y'all, thanks so much for joining me for session eight of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast. This is our last episode of and of course I wanted to spend some time chatting with y'all about your plans for twenty nineteen. Now is the time when many of us are thinking about New Year's resolutions and things we want to do differently next year. For a lot of us, it feels like a natural reset. Everything starts over. We get a new planner, maybe a new schedule, and everything just seems like you get a chance to start fresh. And while of course you can do this anytime, there's nothing wrong with using this opportunity to assess what's happened in the past and figure out how you want to move forward in the future. So if you're planning to make some changes in the new year, here are seven tips that just might help. One. Don't just make a resolution, make a goal and a plan, otherwise you may fall into the trap of not really making the changes that you want to make. Number two. Spend time being thoughtful about what changes you want to make and why, and spend time thinking about what in your life will need expand be removed or reworked for these changes to take place. Remember that changes don't happen in a vacuum, and so when you make changes in your life, changes happen in other people's lives too, And sometimes people don't want you to change, and they'll resist you changing. This is not to say that you don't change, just be aware of it and prepare for how to respond when it happens. Number three, Make your goals realistic. If you rarely cook, saying you're gonna cook five nights a week may not be the most realistic goal, but it's absolutely realistic to think that you could cook three nights out of the week, but you have to have a plan, which brings us to tip number four. Make sure that there is a way to measure your goals. There won't be any way to actually tell if you're making progress if there's not a way to measure it. So, if your goal is to make more time for your friends, perhaps you specify that you'll schedule to spend time with at least one friend each month. That way you can keep track of your progress. Number five, don't stress yourself out trying to do too much. It might be more realistic and more effective to perhaps break your resolutions into quarterly goals as opposed to a laundry list of twenty five different things you want to change. This goes back to making sure you're being realistic in your approach. Can you tackle one new goal of quarter probably? Can you tackle five new goals all at once? Probably? Not. Number six. Find support for the changes you want to make. A good accountability buddy or two can make all the difference in whether you meet your goals or not. Sit down and discuss how you're going to support one another and be specific in asking for what you need from your partner. And number seven, consider making your journey one just for you are a trusted circle. Of course, there's going to be lots of activity on social media about people setting goals and making changes, But I wonder if sometimes we get so caught up in sharing that we lose sight of why we're making the changes in the first place. Perhaps instead of sharing all the progress you're making on Twitter, you choose to instead keep a journal of your progress that can serve as inspiration for you when it gets tough, and can be a source of pride for you when you read it back next year and see just how far you've come. So y'all know, I want to hear what things you might add to the list. Maybe you have things that have helped you to set and stick with New Year's resolutions in the past, be sure to share those with us on social media using the hashtag tb G in session. Just a reminder that membership in the Yellow Couse Collective is still open, and this month we've been focusing on develop up in our vision for twenty nineteen and choosing our word of the year. So if you need that accountability that I talked about earlier, or you want to chat about your goals with other sisters, come on over and join us. At Therapy for Black Girls dot Com slash y c C. If you're planning on starting therapy soon and need help finding a therapist, visit our directory at Therapy for Black Girls dot com slash directory and be sure to grab your tv G swag or a copy of the Breakup Journal in our online store at Therapy for Black Girls dot com slash Shop. I'm wishing you all a peaceful and happy holiday season and can't wait to catch up with you again in twenty nineteen. Thank you all so much for listening, and make sure to take good care of yourself. Doctor doctor, a doctor, doctor

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