MINI: Is it okay for your partner to travel while you're pregnant?

Published Jan 15, 2025, 6:00 AM

A woman on Reddit has sparked conversation over whether she should let her husband go on a solo holiday when she is 31 weeks pregnant.

Laura, I want your opinion on this because purely because you're the only one in the room that has been pregnant and had a baby.

I haven't had any secret babies.

There's a woman on Reddit, you know those like am I the a whole threads.

She's posted long story short.

She's thirty one weeks pregnant, quite early still, but you know, could happen. Her husband wants to go overseas for ten days. She has said it's to see his like mum and dad, Like that's what he's saying. I don't know if I believe that. He's like, I want to go see my family before the baby. Now she's petrified that he's going to miss the birth. This is because he actually did miss the birth of their first child. He was overseas working. It was in COVID lockdowns. He couldn't quite make it back across the border in time, so she gave birth withouting, which I imagine is like horrible. As a partner, you want your partner there, so would you let your partner?

Because when I read this, I thought, Okay, thirty.

One weeks he wants to go for ten days, which is giving the travel time whatever I'm saying that's two weeks, so that will take to thirty three weeks, which people do go at that time.

The problem is the longer they argue about it. Every day you're getting closer.

I think personally, I would let my partner go controversial or not not controversial.

But I'm guessing that they're at like a standoff where they're just not seeing eye to eye on this.

Absolutely. That's she's saying, no, don't go. He's saying, please let me go. His own parents are saying I don't think you should come.

It's just him.

He's saying, I really want to go and see my parents, which I understand because if you're about to have another baby, the time is now, The time is before the baby comes. You're not going to take off for ten days when you've got a newborn. So if he wants to go overseas and see his parents, I'm just wondering if he's like if he's a bit of an expat and the parents are a bit of a cover, like all his friends are still back home. He's like, I swear it's just seeing my parents, but it's like a last lad's trip.

And he's gonna go on like a five day Oh no, it's wedding of the head, isn't it where they go out after the baby's born.

But he's just doing it prior.

Look, I mean, I can see why she probably feels as though she's being made that there is just like an unreasonable request, right, Like it's an unreasonable expectation to put on your husband that you can't do anything prior. But the thing is she already has a kid, so she would also be solo parenting for ten days while she's heavily pregnant. I think that's part of it where I'd be like, hey, actually, it's not just about missing the pregnancy. You're going to go overseas. You're gonna have a holiday that's going to cost a whole heap of money, and you're gonna leave me here with a kid whilst I'm heavily pregnant.

I don't know. I don't feel like it's unreasonable.

Ringing a lot of bells that's just gone to the jungle on a.

Holiday for six weeks, left you with the kids.

I'm getting some alarm bells going off. Matt did do I mean fair?

If he misses the if he misses the birth of his child because he's overseas.

That's more of an excuse, isn't it.

Because my husband almost missed the birth of my child, and that was because he went downstairs to go get himself a sandwich. Very similar Laura, so similar, but something that Matt did do and I it was so hard. So when I had my second daughter, Lola, Matt he had at the time just signed up for Dancing with the Stars. So his training for Dancing with the Stars started pretty much the day that Lola was born.

The Man Loves a reality TV show, one might say.

So he was gone and it was really hard because he would go and do these massive training days. They're like six to eight hour training days. He just wasn't home on top of his normal work schedule, and so I was at home with two babies. Our kids are really close in age, and it was possibly the hardest period just having him not around. And I think with this question, right, you're like, oh, can I let him go? I don't think you can stop your partner from really doing anything if they want to do it. But there is a flaw on effect, and that is how much it affects you and how much it upsets you. And the relationship and everything else. And that was so hard, especially having like he was matched with the hottest dance partner.

She was hot, and I was postponed. She was. It was a hard time for all of us. Ruvie. She was beautiful and she's so nice.

Yeah, and I was so postparted, and every time I'd see her, I was just like, oh, I myself.

Every time you saw them gry rating together, you were like, damn it, you had vomit on you.

At home, he was aftering the charter gyrating on a twenty four year old with a six pack, and I was at home breastfeeding and crying.

I'm good, okay, all right, before Laura goes down a really dark place.

Back to this question, I'm going to say, I hear you, I validate you.

But you're gonna have to let him go.

I'm gonna take a guess that it's thirty three weeks when he gets back, that you've still got plenty of time with the baby in there.

So, Oh'm I gonna take a risk. No, I deeply disagree with you. You would. I think you're not being unreasonable.

I feel as though there's many other factors here other than just the fact that he might miss the birth. I think it's the fact that it puts an unnecessary load on you. At this point in time, he.

Needs to go see his parents before he never gets to see them again because he's stuck at home with a newborn and another kid.

Spoiler. The parents should come here. They might not be the baby is born, they might.

Not be able to are Oh, they're coming.

That's different. It's a cover. It's a rouge.

There's like a Bucks party going on or something over there.

Yeah, thanks for that, producer, Grace for that little tidbit. Is it on the nose? It changes everything?

I didn't see that, all right, guys.

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