In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his biggest mistakes and the pressures of professional sport. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his biggest mistakes and the pressures of professional sport. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh &amp; Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives.

The Imperfects

We're all imperfect. On this podcast, Hugh van Cuylenburg, founder of The Resilience Project chats to a variety of interesting people who are willing to make themselves vulnerable, by sharing their own struggles and imperfections. Hugh and good friend Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his mistakes and the pressures of professional sport.  "No one's perfect and that's a realisation I had to come to..I felt like I...

Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 

Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.

In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.

Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 

Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv

📺Things to watch:
Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - https://bit.ly/3T9dCub
Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW

🎧Things to listen to:
Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

📖Things to read:
The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK
How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq
How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - https://bit.ly/3yJddb3

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 
Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.
In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself. Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 
Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/3MIykxv">https://bit.ly/3MIykxv</a>
📺Things to watch:
<ul>
<li>Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - <a href="https://bit.ly/3T9dCub">https://bit.ly/3T9dCub</a></li>
<li>Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW">https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to:
<ul>
<li>Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes</li>
</ul>
📖Things to read:
<ul>
<li>The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK">https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK</a></li>
<li>How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - <a href="https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq">https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq</a></li>
<li>How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - <a href="https://bit.ly/3yJddb3">https://bit.ly/3yJddb3</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Nathan Buckley - Out of The Woods

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others?

That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do. 

Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering.

In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments.

And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?) 



To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B

📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point)
Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - https://amzn.to/4g53tbR
Fierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://amzn.to/4cJESGI

🎧Things to listen to
Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP
Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9

💻Things to check out
Kristin Neff’s online resources - https://bit.ly/3XspqKL
Paul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - https://bit.ly/3AQbJML

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others?
That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do. 
Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering.
In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments.
And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?) 
 
To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4gdli8B">https://bit.ly/4gdli8B</a> 
📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point)
<ul>
<li>Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - <a href="https://amzn.to/4g53tbR">https://amzn.to/4g53tbR</a></li>
<li>Fierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - <a href="https://amzn.to/4cJESGI">https://amzn.to/4cJESGI</a></li>
</ul>
🎧Things to listen to
<ul>
<li>Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - <a href="https://apple.co/4e8XmkP">https://apple.co/4e8XmkP</a></li>
<li>Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic &amp; Why Is It There? - <a href="https://apple.co/3XaFdw9">https://apple.co/3XaFdw9</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to check out
<ul>
<li>Kristin Neff’s online resources - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XspqKL">https://bit.ly/3XspqKL</a></li>
<li>Paul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - <a href="https://bit.ly/3AQbJML">https://bit.ly/3AQbJML</a></li>
</ul>
Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gesuBy">https://bit.ly/4gesuBy</a>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.”

Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed.

Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye.

Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.

Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way! 

Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely.

To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC

📖Things to Read
The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z
Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0

💻Things to check out
The Grace Tame Foundation - https://bit.ly/4cEHtld

📺Things to watch
Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - https://ab.co/3yVZBJr


🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:
The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/
Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au
Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 
Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au
Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/
Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.”
Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed.
Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming &amp; rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye.
Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis. Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way! 
Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely.
To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3MitxTh">https://bit.ly/3MitxTh</a>.
To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC">https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC</a>
📖Things to Read
<ul>
<li>The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - <a href="https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z">https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z</a></li>
<li>Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - <a href="https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0">https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0</a></li>
</ul>
💻Things to check out
<ul>
<li>The Grace Tame Foundation - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cEHtld">https://bit.ly/4cEHtld</a></li>
</ul>
📺Things to watch
<ul>
<li>Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - <a href="https://ab.co/3yVZBJr">https://ab.co/3yVZBJr</a></li>
</ul>
 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:
<ul>
<li>The Butterfly Foundation - <a href="https://butterfly.org.au/">https://butterfly.org.au/</a></li>
<li>Eating Disorders Families Australia - <a href="https://edfa.org.au">https://edfa.org.au</a></li>
<li>Uncovery - <a href="https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO">https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO</a></li>
</ul>
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
Or visit the below support services. 
<ul>
<li>Beyond Blue - <a href="https://www.beyondblue.org.au">https://www.beyondblue.org.au</a></li>
<li>Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - <a href="https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/">https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/</a></li>
<li>Reach Out - <a href="https://au.reachout.com">https://au.reachout.com</a></li>
</ul>

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