Within the Christian community, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger” is often quoted as a hard-and-fast rule for married couples to follow whenever they experience conflict. But sometimes Ted and I do go to bed mad—and surprisingly, it’s been good for our marriage. In today’s episode, we’ll tell you why.

3 Reasons We Go to Bed Mad
We don’t want to sweep any issues under the rug.
We need a break before addressing conflict.
We want genuine apologies and real reconciliation.

Us Time Challenge

Think of another hard-and-fast rule couples are often told. Do you practice it in your marriage? How has it been helpful? If not, what do you do instead and why?

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage
FREE Team Us Study Guide

Links Mentioned in This Episode
Commentary on Ephesians 4:26 at BibleRef.com 
“The Benefits of Slumber” at NIH News in Health
The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriagesby Shaunti Feldhahn

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website
Instagram
Facebook

Within the Christian community, “Do not let the sun go down on your anger” is often quoted as a hard-and-fast rule for married couples to follow whenever they experience conflict. But sometimes Ted and I do go to bed mad—and surprisingly, it’s been good for our marriage. In today’s episode, we’ll tell you why.
3 Reasons We Go to Bed Mad
<ol>
<li>We don’t want to sweep any issues under the rug.</li>
<li>We need a break before addressing conflict.</li>
<li>We want genuine apologies and real reconciliation.</li>
</ol>
Us Time Challenge
Think of another hard-and-fast rule couples are often told. Do you practice it in your marriage? How has it been helpful? If not, what do you do instead and why?
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li><a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)">Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage</a></li>
<li><a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)">FREE Team Us Study Guide  </a></li>
</ul>
Links Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.bibleref.com/Ephesians/4/Ephesians-4-26.html)">Commentary on Ephesians 4:26</a> at BibleRef.com </li>
<li><a href="https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2013/04/benefits-slumber#:~:text=Sleep%20helps%20you%20think%20more,nightly%20sleep%2C%E2%80%9D%20says%20Mitler">“The Benefits of Slumber”</a> at NIH News in Health</li>
<li><a href="https://amzn.to/4dgY67T">The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages</a> by Shaunti Feldhahn</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li><a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">Website</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">Instagram</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">Facebook</a></li>
</ul>

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.

Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.

Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because...

Team Us

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

Why We Go to Bed Mad (And Why It's Helped Our Marriage)

When you go out as a couple, do you and your spouse engage the people God puts in your path? Or are you so focused on yourselves that you miss out on impacting others and allowing others to affect you? Today, we share three reasons to engage others as a couple.

3 Reasons to Engage Others as a Couple
Engaging others as a couple can push us out of our comfort zone, which is where we grow the most.
Engaging others allows us to help others feel seen and valued.
Engaging others pushes us to surrender our plans to God’s plans.

Us Time Challenge

Look for opportunities to engage others the next time you’re out as a couple.

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)  

Links Mentioned in This Episode
“The Powerful Benefits of Stepping Outside of Your Comfort Zone” by Stephanie Cornwell at RealSimple.com (https://www.realsimple.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-7559829)
“Is Zeus Dead Yet? A Guide to Having Better Conversations” by Kate Gatson at RabbitRoom.com (https://www.rabbitroom.com/post/is-zeus-dead-yet-a-guide-to-having-better-conversations )
“Life’s Interruptions Are Divine Opportunities” by Trevin Wax at DesiringGod.com (https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/trevin-wax/lifes-interruptions-are-divine-opportunities/)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
 Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

When you go out as a couple, do you and your spouse engage the people God puts in your path? Or are you so focused on yourselves that you miss out on impacting others and allowing others to affect you? Today, we share three reasons to engage others as a couple.
3 Reasons to Engage Others as a Couple
<ol>
<li>Engaging others as a couple can push us out of our comfort zone, which is where we grow the most.</li>
<li>Engaging others allows us to help others feel seen and valued.</li>
<li>Engaging others pushes us to surrender our plans to God’s plans.</li>
</ol>
Us Time Challenge
Look for opportunities to engage others the next time you’re out as a couple.
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)  </li>
</ul>
Links Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li>“The Powerful Benefits of Stepping Outside of Your Comfort Zone” by Stephanie Cornwell at RealSimple.com (<a href="https://www.realsimple.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-7559829">https://www.realsimple.com/how-to-get-out-of-your-comfort-zone-7559829</a>)</li>
<li>“Is Zeus Dead Yet? A Guide to Having Better Conversations” by Kate Gatson at RabbitRoom.com (<a href="https://www.rabbitroom.com/post/is-zeus-dead-yet-a-guide-to-having-better-conversations">https://www.rabbitroom.com/post/is-zeus-dead-yet-a-guide-to-having-better-conversations</a> )</li>
<li>“Life’s Interruptions Are Divine Opportunities” by Trevin Wax at DesiringGod.com (<a href="https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/trevin-wax/lifes-interruptions-are-divine-opportunities/">https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/trevin-wax/lifes-interruptions-are-divine-opportunities/</a>)</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li> Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

From NPCs to Real Players  (Why Engaging with Others as a Couple Matters)

What’s the secret to a strong marriage? Listen in as we talk about the importance of consistent follow through in three specific areas.

Us Time Challenge

Pick one idea from each of the areas to put into practice this week.

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)  

Links Mentioned in This Episode
“Beating the Carnies: The Secrets to Winning 5 Popular State Fair Games,” Brett and Kate McCay, The Art of Manliness (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/games-tricks/how-to-win-state-fair-games/)
“The Ideal Praise-to-Criticism Ratio,” Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman, Harvard Business Review (https://hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-praise-to-criticism)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

What’s the secret to a strong marriage? Listen in as we talk about the importance of consistent follow through in three specific areas.
Us Time Challenge
Pick one idea from each of the areas to put into practice this week.
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)  </li>
</ul>
Links Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li>“Beating the Carnies: The Secrets to Winning 5 Popular State Fair Games,” Brett and Kate McCay, The Art of Manliness (<a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/games-tricks/how-to-win-state-fair-games/">https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/games-tricks/how-to-win-state-fair-games/</a>)</li>
<li>“The Ideal Praise-to-Criticism Ratio,” Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman, Harvard Business Review (<a href="https://hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-praise-to-criticism">https://hbr.org/2013/03/the-ideal-praise-to-criticism</a>)</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

The Secret to a Strong Marriage

Are you and your spouse in a season of grief? When we face loss, sometimes it’s hard to walk through it hand-in-hand. We share two practical things we have done to navigate grief together over the years.

Us Time Challenge

Think about how you grieve and consider how your spouse does. What are some ways you can better understand and respect the way your spouse experiences grief?

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)  

Links Mentioned in This Episode
“The Five Stages of Grief,” Grief.com (https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/)
Naming the Child: Hope-filled Reflections on Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death by Jenny Schroedel (https://a.co/d/6rNy0FU)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

Are you and your spouse in a season of grief? When we face loss, sometimes it’s hard to walk through it hand-in-hand. We share two practical things we have done to navigate grief together over the years.
Us Time Challenge
Think about how you grieve and consider how your spouse does. What are some ways you can better understand and respect the way your spouse experiences grief?
Team Us Resources 
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)  </li>
</ul>
Links Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li>“The Five Stages of Grief,” Grief.com (<a href="https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/)">https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/)</a></li>
<li>Naming the Child: Hope-filled Reflections on Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death by Jenny Schroedel (<a href="https://a.co/d/6rNy0FU">https://a.co/d/6rNy0FU</a>)</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

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