On today’s episode, the well known author, Kyle Benson joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to
discuss the simple principles that make marriage last. Kyle discusses the profound effectiveness of Emotion Focused Therapy in the stabilization of relationships. In addition, he recognizes the benefits of using the research by John and Julie Gottman to maintain a healthy relationship.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Kyle Benson?
3:00 - Combination of Gottman Method and Emotional Based Therapy
8:36 – What is the longing for attachment?
10:15 –Am I enough? Am I worthy of love and care?
12:50 – Attachment Strategies/Styles
16:03 – Emotion Focused Therapy
20:15 – Conflict is fire
22:43 – One sided partner effort
26:10 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?
27:25 – Kyle’s resources
28:40 – Takeaways

About Kyle Benson:

Kyle studies how partners in healthy relationships intentionally –talk to each other, have passionate sex, stay emotionally connected, and more – to uncover the tools and perspectives that make love last. His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including The Gottman Institute, Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.

Insights:

Liz: The healthy “We” starts with a healthy “Me.”
Kyle: Underneath every criticism is a longing for attachment.
Dave: It is not necessarily a poor partner but a poor pattern.

Invites:

   -    Join Kyle Benson’s email list to get free and easily acceptable tips to make marriage last.
   -    Take 10 minutes to write down how you are going to change the unwanted patterns in your relationship.

Kyles’s Links:

https://www.kylebenson.net/

FB @Kyle Benson: https://www.facebook.com/kylebenson.net

Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today’s episode, the well known author, Kyle Benson joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss the simple principles that make marriage last. Kyle discusses the profound effectiveness of Emotion Focused Therapy in the stabilization of relationships. In addition, he recognizes the benefits of using the research by John and Julie Gottman to maintain a healthy relationship.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Kyle Benson? 3:00 - Combination of Gottman Method and Emotional Based Therapy 8:36 – What is the longing for attachment? 10:15 –Am I enough? Am I worthy of love and care? 12:50 – Attachment Strategies/Styles 16:03 – Emotion Focused Therapy 20:15 – Conflict is fire 22:43 – One sided partner effort 26:10 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection? 27:25 – Kyle’s resources 28:40 – Takeaways
About Kyle Benson:
Kyle studies how partners in healthy relationships intentionally –talk to each other, have passionate sex, stay emotionally connected, and more – to uncover the tools and perspectives that make love last. His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including The Gottman Institute, Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.
Insights:
Liz: The healthy “We” starts with a healthy “Me.” Kyle: Underneath every criticism is a longing for attachment. Dave: It is not necessarily a poor partner but a poor pattern.
Invites:
   -    Join Kyle Benson’s email list to get free and easily acceptable tips to make marriage last.    -    Take 10 minutes to write down how you are going to change the unwanted patterns in your relationship.
Kyles’s Links:
<a href="https://www.kylebenson.net/">https://www.kylebenson.net/</a>
FB @Kyle Benson: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/kylebenson.net">https://www.facebook.com/kylebenson.net</a>
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Making Love Last | Kyle Benson | # 53

On today's episode, the Netflix hit Aleeza Ben Shalom, from “Jewish Matchmaking”
joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss the magic of matchmaking. Discover what matchmaking is, if it is for you, and how you can build a better marriage based on lessons Aleeza uses during matchmaking. We hope you enjoy!

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Aleeza Ben Shalom?
7:12 – Tools for matchmaking with your soul mate.
9:03 – What makes the best match?: Soul mate potential baseline.
13:50 – Is there something better out there?
16:00 – Stories of making the match.
18:14 – Handling challenges with your partner.
19:05 – Aleeza’s marital success stories.
21:57 – Benefits of hiring a matchmaker.
23:45 – "Mystery in your history”
24:50 – Where can I learn about matchmaking?
27: 15 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?
29:00 – Aleeza’s resources
29: 30 – Takeaways

About Aleeza Ben Shalom:

Aleeza Ben Shalom is a renowned matchmaker, dating coach, author, sought-after speaker, and soulmate clarity expert who empowers marriage-minded singles to find and identify the one. She guides them from uncertainty and overwhelm to the clarity needed for confident decision-making regarding their potential life partners. Aleeza is the featured Matchmaker on Season 1 of the new Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking. Aleeza authored two insightful books, Get real, Get Married-a guide to get over your hurdles and under the chuppah, and Virtual Dating, your guide to relationships in a socially distanced world. As the founder of Marriage Minded Mentor, a company who focuses on helping singles get married, she connects singles globally with skilled matchmakers and dating coaches.

Aleeza’s impressive track record has earned her the title of “Jewish Dating Guru,” as she has successfully led over 200 singles through the steps to engagement, regardless of age, affiliation, or life stage.

For over 15 years, Aleeza has worked with men and women worldwide to break unhealthy patterns and foster relationships that lead to marriage. During this time, she has trained more than 350 dating coaches and matchmakers worldwide.
She now lives in Israel with her husband, five children and a lovable dog!

Insights:

Dave: There are many factors that make us a good match with the people around us.

Liz: Have hope that there IS a person out there for you!

Aleeza: World peace begins at home. Do your best to love yourself and build a family.

Invites:
Listen to the matchmaker, matchmaker podcast and find a topic that you love, have a discussion with your partner.
Write down what your values, beliefs, attractions, bothers and fears are. Reflect on how these could affect your future dating and marriage experiences.

Aleeza’s Links:

IG @Aleezabenshalom
Fb /aleezabenshalom
Linkedin/aleezabenshalom
Twitter/aleezabenshalom
Tiktok/aleezabenshalom

The Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today's episode, the Netflix hit Aleeza Ben Shalom, from “Jewish Matchmaking” joins Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz to discuss the magic of matchmaking. Discover what matchmaking is, if it is for you, and how you can build a better marriage based on lessons Aleeza uses during matchmaking. We hope you enjoy!
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Aleeza Ben Shalom? 7:12 – Tools for matchmaking with your soul mate. 9:03 – What makes the best match?: Soul mate potential baseline. 13:50 – Is there something better out there? 16:00 – Stories of making the match. 18:14 – Handling challenges with your partner. 19:05 – Aleeza’s marital success stories. 21:57 – Benefits of hiring a matchmaker. 23:45 – "Mystery in your history” 24:50 – Where can I learn about matchmaking? 27: 15 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection? 29:00 – Aleeza’s resources 29: 30 – Takeaways
About Aleeza Ben Shalom:
Aleeza Ben Shalom is a renowned matchmaker, dating coach, author, sought-after speaker, and soulmate clarity expert who empowers marriage-minded singles to find and identify the one. She guides them from uncertainty and overwhelm to the clarity needed for confident decision-making regarding their potential life partners. Aleeza is the featured Matchmaker on Season 1 of the new Netflix series Jewish Matchmaking. Aleeza authored two insightful books, Get real, Get Married-a guide to get over your hurdles and under the chuppah, and Virtual Dating, your guide to relationships in a socially distanced world. As the founder of Marriage Minded Mentor, a company who focuses on helping singles get married, she connects singles globally with skilled matchmakers and dating coaches.
Aleeza’s impressive track record has earned her the title of “Jewish Dating Guru,” as she has successfully led over 200 singles through the steps to engagement, regardless of age, affiliation, or life stage.
For over 15 years, Aleeza has worked with men and women worldwide to break unhealthy patterns and foster relationships that lead to marriage. During this time, she has trained more than 350 dating coaches and matchmakers worldwide. She now lives in Israel with her husband, five children and a lovable dog!
Insights:
Dave: There are many factors that make us a good match with the people around us.
Liz: Have hope that there IS a person out there for you!
Aleeza: World peace begins at home. Do your best to love yourself and build a family.
Invites:
<ul>
<li>Listen to the matchmaker, matchmaker podcast and find a topic that you love, have a discussion with your partner.</li>
<li>Write down what your values, beliefs, attractions, bothers and fears are. Reflect on how these could affect your future dating and marriage experiences.</li>
</ul>
Aleeza’s Links:
IG @Aleezabenshalom Fb /aleezabenshalom Linkedin/aleezabenshalom Twitter/aleezabenshalom Tiktok/aleezabenshalom
<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/matchmaker-matchmaker/id1658901272">The Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

The Magic of Matchmaking |  Aleeza Ben Shalom | #52

On today's episode, Dr. Lee Baucom joins us, and we have a great discussion about
intentionality and actively creating a stronger marriage connection both physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Join Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz in this journey on strengthening marriage connection, relationships, and personal values.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Lee Baucom
2:30 – Number one concern for new couples
5:12 – Shifts you need to make in the first year of marriage
9:08 – Pause button marriage
12:52 – Difference in how you communicate vs communication skills
14:25 – The arc of disconnection
16:14 – Three levels of connection
18:58 – Intentionality is important
22:14 – What can you do to reconnect?
25:51 – Difference between marriage fail point and individual fail point
28:30 – Husbands bootcamp
31:36 – There is intentionality behind everything
35:28 – Key component to a stronger marriage connection
38:06 – Resources
39:07 – Takeaways

About Lee Baucom:

Dr. Lee Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For three decades, Lee has been helping people around the world save, restore, and create the marriage they deserve and desire. He's the author of the book, “How to save your marriage in three simple steps”, in addition to six other books, and he's the creator of the highly effective internet Marriage program. Save the marriage. Lee is also the host of two popular podcast Thrive nation and save the marriage.

Insights:

Dave: Lack of attention leads to loss of connection. Physical, emotional, and spiritual
connection all have an impact on your partner, what will you do to strengthen those areas?

Liz: The key of the “We” and having each other’s backs, we all want someone to get us and know us. You are in this together.

Lee: Remember the pause button, did you hit pause and what is it going to take to un-pause it. Get more intentional about connecting from a physical, spiritual, and emotional level. Take action.

Invites:

   -    Shift from “you and me” to “we”. Remember that you are a team, and it is important to acknowledge those struggles as a team.
   -    Mature relationships are not without the feelings of romance and passion but include communications and connection
   -    Husband bootcamp is a video bootcamp structured over 30 days to get into shape and address the wounds that men carry around with them that can get in the way of
relationships

Lee Baucom links:

https://savethemarriage.com/
https://savethemarriage.com/podcast
https://savethemarriage.com/books



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today's episode, Dr. Lee Baucom joins us, and we have a great discussion about intentionality and actively creating a stronger marriage connection both physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Join Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz in this journey on strengthening marriage connection, relationships, and personal values.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Lee Baucom 2:30 – Number one concern for new couples 5:12 – Shifts you need to make in the first year of marriage 9:08 – Pause button marriage 12:52 – Difference in how you communicate vs communication skills 14:25 – The arc of disconnection 16:14 – Three levels of connection 18:58 – Intentionality is important 22:14 – What can you do to reconnect? 25:51 – Difference between marriage fail point and individual fail point 28:30 – Husbands bootcamp 31:36 – There is intentionality behind everything 35:28 – Key component to a stronger marriage connection 38:06 – Resources 39:07 – Takeaways
About Lee Baucom:
Dr. Lee Baucom is internationally known for his methods and approaches to saving marriages. For three decades, Lee has been helping people around the world save, restore, and create the marriage they deserve and desire. He's the author of the book, “How to save your marriage in three simple steps”, in addition to six other books, and he's the creator of the highly effective internet Marriage program. Save the marriage. Lee is also the host of two popular podcast Thrive nation and save the marriage.
Insights:
Dave: Lack of attention leads to loss of connection. Physical, emotional, and spiritual connection all have an impact on your partner, what will you do to strengthen those areas?
Liz: The key of the “We” and having each other’s backs, we all want someone to get us and know us. You are in this together.
Lee: Remember the pause button, did you hit pause and what is it going to take to un-pause it. Get more intentional about connecting from a physical, spiritual, and emotional level. Take action.
Invites:
   -    Shift from “you and me” to “we”. Remember that you are a team, and it is important to acknowledge those struggles as a team.    -    Mature relationships are not without the feelings of romance and passion but include communications and connection    -    Husband bootcamp is a video bootcamp structured over 30 days to get into shape and address the wounds that men carry around with them that can get in the way of relationships
Lee Baucom links:
<a href="https://savethemarriage.com/">https://savethemarriage.com/</a> <a href="https://savethemarriage.com/podcast">https://savethemarriage.com/podcast</a> <a href="https://savethemarriage.com/books">https://savethemarriage.com/books</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Beating The Odds in Marriage | Dr. Lee Baucom | #51

Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection dives into Amanda
Christensen’s personal money mission to help couples learn how to manage their finances and build their connection.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Amanda Christensen?
2:28 – Why is money such a hard topic to discuss in marriage?
5:03 – Dave’s experience: managing a tight budget as college students.
6:02 – Liz’s experience: managing money when you are developing financial independence prior to marriage.
7:05 – Money autonomy and money wins.
10:00 – Learn your money personality.
11:26 – What does the research say about how couples manage finances?
One spouse handling main finances, trust, communication, chose what kind of account
management works for you, discovering how to communicate about money without
argument, little or no debt and living within your means.
22:40 – Personal finance is personal!
23:50 – Amanda’s money management tip #1: Have a money plan
25:18 – Amanda’s money management tip #2: Develop financial trust
26:16 – Amanda’s money management tip #3: Talk about large purchases
26:58 – Amanda’s money management tip #4: Talk about debt
28:14 – Amanda’s money management tip #5: What does it mean to live within your means?
30:45 – Amanda’s money management tip #6: Work together during challenge
34:35 – Understanding your own and your spouse’s money script
37:18 – Resources to find out more about Amanda’s work
38:36 – Takeaways

About Amanda Christensen:
Amanda H. Christensen is an Extension Professor and Accredited Financial Counselor
responsible for statewide personal finance education through USU Extension. She’s editor of the Utah Money Moms blog. She and her team are the recipients of two consecutive Best of State awards for efforts to improve financial wellness across the state. You can view their live webinar schedule or request a free class for your group at finance.usu.edu/efw. On a Sunday afternoon you’ll find Amanda sipping a Diet Coke with lime at the kitchen table over a 1000 piece puzzle listening to an audio book.

Insights:

Dave: Developing trust and communication around money builds connection and allows you to
be on the same page.

Liz: The key to a couple’s financial success is about doing what is best for them.

Amanda: Even couples in great marriages disagree about money, and that’s okay!

Invites:

   •    Take the online “money personality assessment” at www.powerpay.org and use the
code “FWFREETANF” for a free e-course and personality assessment. Discuss your
results with your partner.
   •    A money plan with your partner for the next month. See where you are living
within your means and may be living outside of your means.
   •    Discover what your money script is by asking yourself the questions Amanda outlines in the podcast. Now, discover what your spouse’s money script is.

Amanda Christensen Links:

PowerPay Money Master Online Course Link: www.powerpay.org
Code for listeners to register for free: “FWFREETANF”

Financial Management Practices of Couples in Great Marriages Research
article: https://www.proquest.com/openview/7e860331b30e51876bb6df092364c6b9/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=37909

Happiness and income research update: 

https://penntoday.upenn.edu/news/does-more-money-correlate-greater-happiness-Penn-Princeton-research

The gender gap and retirement: https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/gender-gap-retirement

www.utahmoneymoms.com

@utahmoney moms

www.finance.usu.edu



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection dives into Amanda Christensen’s personal money mission to help couples learn how to manage their finances and build their connection.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Amanda Christensen? 2:28 – Why is money such a hard topic to discuss in marriage? 5:03 – Dave’s experience: managing a tight budget as college students. 6:02 – Liz’s experience: managing money when you are developing financial independence prior to marriage. 7:05 – Money autonomy and money wins. 10:00 – Learn your money personality. 11:26 – What does the research say about how couples manage finances? One spouse handling main finances, trust, communication, chose what kind of account management works for you, discovering how to communicate about money without argument, little or no debt and living within your means. 22:40 – Personal finance is personal! 23:50 – Amanda’s money management tip #1: Have a money plan 25:18 – Amanda’s money management tip #2: Develop financial trust 26:16 – Amanda’s money management tip #3: Talk about large purchases 26:58 – Amanda’s money management tip #4: Talk about debt 28:14 – Amanda’s money management tip #5: What does it mean to live within your means? 30:45 – Amanda’s money management tip #6: Work together during challenge 34:35 – Understanding your own and your spouse’s money script 37:18 – Resources to find out more about Amanda’s work 38:36 – Takeaways
About Amanda Christensen: Amanda H. Christensen is an Extension Professor and Accredited Financial Counselor responsible for statewide personal finance education through USU Extension. She’s editor of the Utah Money Moms blog. She and her team are the recipients of two consecutive Best of State awards for efforts to improve financial wellness across the state. You can view their live webinar schedule or request a free class for your group at finance.usu.edu/efw. On a Sunday afternoon you’ll find Amanda sipping a Diet Coke with lime at the kitchen table over a 1000 piece puzzle listening to an audio book.
Insights:
Dave: Developing trust and communication around money builds connection and allows you to be on the same page.
Liz: The key to a couple’s financial success is about doing what is best for them.
Amanda: Even couples in great marriages disagree about money, and that’s okay!
Invites:
   •    Take the online “money personality assessment” at www.powerpay.org and use the code “FWFREETANF” for a free e-course and personality assessment. Discuss your results with your partner.    •    A money plan with your partner for the next month. See where you are living within your means and may be living outside of your means.    •    Discover what your money script is by asking yourself the questions Amanda outlines in the podcast. Now, discover what your spouse’s money script is.
Amanda Christensen Links:
PowerPay Money Master Online Course Link: <a href="http://www.powerpay.org">www.powerpay.org</a> Code for listeners to register for free: “FWFREETANF” Financial Management Practices of Couples in Great Marriages Research article: <a href="https://www.proquest.com/openview/7e860331b30e51876bb6df092364c6b9/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&amp;cbl=37909">https://www.proquest.com/openview/7e860331b30e51876bb6df092364c6b9/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&amp;cbl=37909</a>
Happiness and income research update: 
<a href="https://penntoday.upenn.edu/news/does-more-money-correlate-greater-happiness-Penn-Princeton-research">https://penntoday.upenn.edu/news/does-more-money-correlate-greater-happiness-Penn-Princeton-research</a>
The gender gap and retirement: <a href="https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/gender-gap-retirement">https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/personal-finance/gender-gap-retirement</a>
<a href="http://www.utahmoneymoms.com">www.utahmoneymoms.com</a>
@utahmoney moms
<a href="http://www.finance.usu.edu">www.finance.usu.edu</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Money Struggles & Financial Planning | Amanda Christensen | #50

On Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection, we dive deep into disagreements with our guest, Laura Silverstein, who is a certified Gottman couples therapist. Discover with Dave and Liz all kinds of tips to help couples manage differences in their marriage shared by Laura.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Laura Silverstein 
1:47 – Conflict is not a bad thing in marriage 
4:00 – The number one communication problem in couple relationships 
6:21 – Two parts to establishing new habits 
11:11 – Four horsemen – John Gottman 
14:55 – What to do when both partners continue to be critical 
18:27 – How to repair damages within a partnership 
23:50 – Ownership, humility and kindness 
27:05 – A little about Laura’s book workbook 
29:07 – Key to a stronger marriage connection 
31:35 – Takeaway’s

About Laura Silverstein:

Laura Silverstein is Certified Gottman Couples therapist as well as a recognized thought leader in the field of relationship wellness, sought out for her expert advice from media outlets such as, the New York Times and the today's show. In her book, Love is an action verb, Laura helps couples focus on their strengths instead of their problems and guides them with small step by step action plans.

Insights:

Dave: It takes humility, compassion, understanding and awareness when rebuilding something that has fallen. Take the time to slow things down and really look at things from a wider perspective

Liz: Take ownership, be humble and stay kind when working through a repair in couple relationships

Laura: It is important to have humility and stay humble when we enter loving relationships, no matter the challenges at hand

Invites:

   •    Take ownership, have humility and be kind. Those are key things to effectively repair a relationships

   •    When things start to escalate, it is good to ask for a break – take a time out and revisit later

   •    Two parts to learn – learning how to avoid conflict in the first place, if possible, and understanding how to get out of it once you are stuck

Laura Silverstein Links:

https://laurasilverstein.co

Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On Today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection, we dive deep into disagreements with our guest, Laura Silverstein, who is a certified Gottman couples therapist. Discover with Dave and Liz all kinds of tips to help couples manage differences in their marriage shared by Laura.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Laura Silverstein 1:47 – Conflict is not a bad thing in marriage 4:00 – The number one communication problem in couple relationships 6:21 – Two parts to establishing new habits 11:11 – Four horsemen – John Gottman 14:55 – What to do when both partners continue to be critical 18:27 – How to repair damages within a partnership 23:50 – Ownership, humility and kindness 27:05 – A little about Laura’s book workbook 29:07 – Key to a stronger marriage connection 31:35 – Takeaway’s
About Laura Silverstein:
Laura Silverstein is Certified Gottman Couples therapist as well as a recognized thought leader in the field of relationship wellness, sought out for her expert advice from media outlets such as, the New York Times and the today's show. In her book, Love is an action verb, Laura helps couples focus on their strengths instead of their problems and guides them with small step by step action plans.
Insights:
Dave: It takes humility, compassion, understanding and awareness when rebuilding something that has fallen. Take the time to slow things down and really look at things from a wider perspective
Liz: Take ownership, be humble and stay kind when working through a repair in couple relationships
Laura: It is important to have humility and stay humble when we enter loving relationships, no matter the challenges at hand
Invites:
   •    Take ownership, have humility and be kind. Those are key things to effectively repair a relationships
   •    When things start to escalate, it is good to ask for a break – take a time out and revisit later
   •    Two parts to learn – learning how to avoid conflict in the first place, if possible, and understanding how to get out of it once you are stuck
Laura Silverstein Links:
<a href="https://laurasilverstein.co">https://laurasilverstein.co</a>
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Relationship Repair: More Than Fighting Fair | Laura Silverstein | #49

On today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection, learn about the 7 primal
questions that all humans are seeking to answer if their lives, careers and especially their relationships. Discover with Dave, Liz and Mike how to remedy these questions and understand their answers and how that works in your life.



Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Mike Foster?
2:02 – What is the primal question model?
5:17 – The 7 Primal Questions
9:09 – How does understanding these questions apply to marriage?
13:38 – Satellite questions
15:14 – How does the primal question model apply to parenting?
18:12 – Understanding the importance of seeking emotional intelligence
20:19 – Safeguarding the scramble
22:48 – How does answering the primal question affect communication?
27:26 – The 7 Primal Questions assessment
30:24 – What is the most common primal question?
31:45 – Key to a stronger marriage connection
32:37 – Where to find more resources
34:16 – Takeaways



About Mike Foster:

Known as the Mr. Rogers of personal development, Mike Foster is a best-selling author,
speaker, and executive coach empowering people to build strong lives and relationships.
His new book “The Seven Primal Questions” is a revolutionary new way to understand our emotional needs. Based on over four years of research and 6,000 hours of one-on-one interviews, the Primal Question model will transform your relationship with yourself and others. Mike’s work has been featured on Good Morning America, FOX News and the New York Times. He lives in San Diego with his wife Jennifer and their fluffy dog.



Insights:

Mike: Awareness needs to be moved into action.

Dave: Be aware of ACE’s and see how we can provide ourselves and other safety, connection and security.

Liz: Behavior adaptation makes a difference in how we act today.



Invites:

   •    Ask your spouse how you can answer their primal question with a “yes.”
   •    Sit down with yourself or your spouse and discover which of the 7 primal
questions you need to be answered. Share this with your partner and write it down
in a journal or safe space where you can review it often.
   •    Seek to understand what your child’s primal question is by talking with your
spouse and child about what they need from you as a parent.
   •    Take the assessment @ mikefoster.tv



Mike Foster Links:

https://www.mikefoster.tv

https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today’s episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection, learn about the 7 primal questions that all humans are seeking to answer if their lives, careers and especially their relationships. Discover with Dave, Liz and Mike how to remedy these questions and understand their answers and how that works in your life.
 
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Mike Foster? 2:02 – What is the primal question model? 5:17 – The 7 Primal Questions 9:09 – How does understanding these questions apply to marriage? 13:38 – Satellite questions 15:14 – How does the primal question model apply to parenting? 18:12 – Understanding the importance of seeking emotional intelligence 20:19 – Safeguarding the scramble 22:48 – How does answering the primal question affect communication? 27:26 – The 7 Primal Questions assessment 30:24 – What is the most common primal question? 31:45 – Key to a stronger marriage connection 32:37 – Where to find more resources 34:16 – Takeaways
 
About Mike Foster:
Known as the Mr. Rogers of personal development, Mike Foster is a best-selling author, speaker, and executive coach empowering people to build strong lives and relationships. His new book “The Seven Primal Questions” is a revolutionary new way to understand our emotional needs. Based on over four years of research and 6,000 hours of one-on-one interviews, the Primal Question model will transform your relationship with yourself and others. Mike’s work has been featured on Good Morning America, FOX News and the New York Times. He lives in San Diego with his wife Jennifer and their fluffy dog.
 
Insights:
Mike: Awareness needs to be moved into action.
Dave: Be aware of ACE’s and see how we can provide ourselves and other safety, connection and security.
Liz: Behavior adaptation makes a difference in how we act today.
 
Invites:
   •    Ask your spouse how you can answer their primal question with a “yes.”    •    Sit down with yourself or your spouse and discover which of the 7 primal questions you need to be answered. Share this with your partner and write it down in a journal or safe space where you can review it often.    •    Seek to understand what your child’s primal question is by talking with your spouse and child about what they need from you as a parent.    •    Take the assessment @ mikefoster.tv
 
Mike Foster Links:
<a href="https://www.mikefoster.tv">https://www.mikefoster.tv</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/">https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

The 7 Primal Questions | Mike Foster | #48

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit
down with life coach Julie Balkman and discuss the dating game when it comes to relationships and how to get out of the game and develop healthy happy relationships without the runaround.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Julie Balkman?
2:01 – Getting into coaching
5:47 – Thinking that gets us stuck
7:28 – Playing the dating game can be confusing
8:30 – Being in a “situationship”
9:28 – CCQ: Clear, Concise, Quick
14:04 – Largest obstacles for dating today
17:36 – Good tips on connecting in dating
18:33 – Two things to look for in a partner
21:22 – Some practical tips and tools
23:22 – Decision making success system
25:27 – Dating Interview Project
28:42 – Key to a stronger marriage connection
30:05 – Where to find more resources
31:50 – Takeaways

About Julie Balkman:

Julie Balkman was trained and mentored by 3 life coaching programs which resulted in
eight years and thousands of hours in coaching experience. She is an expert panelist
for the LDS dating app “Mutual” and is currently writing a book about LDS dating. She
was a former co-host of a three-year international young adult support group and is the
owner/operator of the 100 interviews project, a project involving 120 young adults
interviewed about dating. She is an artist and illustrator and loves to dance!

Insights:

Julie: Be responsible: being responsible is sexy, romantic, confident, peaceful, and loving. When you are responsible you create a better life for yourself and your significant other.

Dave: It is critical to have a willingness to learn. It is ok to accept different things and want tolearn and change, especially within a relationship.

Liz: I love the idea of CCQ, clear concise and quick

Invites:

   •    Invite me to share my Dating Map Presentation as a guest speaker. I love speaking and teaching to any size audience.
   •    I have 1:1 coaching packages, plus a VIP acceleration package, which I would love to tell about. VIP: 6 weeks, 6 days a week, 20 minutes each day.
   •    Start with love, learn how to be a receiver of love so you can be ready for a real
relationship.

Julie Balkman Links:

https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=julie+balkman&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach.julie/?hl=en

https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-balkman-0898031a5/



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with life coach Julie Balkman and discuss the dating game when it comes to relationships and how to get out of the game and develop healthy happy relationships without the runaround.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Julie Balkman? 2:01 – Getting into coaching 5:47 – Thinking that gets us stuck 7:28 – Playing the dating game can be confusing 8:30 – Being in a “situationship” 9:28 – CCQ: Clear, Concise, Quick 14:04 – Largest obstacles for dating today 17:36 – Good tips on connecting in dating 18:33 – Two things to look for in a partner 21:22 – Some practical tips and tools 23:22 – Decision making success system 25:27 – Dating Interview Project 28:42 – Key to a stronger marriage connection 30:05 – Where to find more resources 31:50 – Takeaways
About Julie Balkman:
Julie Balkman was trained and mentored by 3 life coaching programs which resulted in eight years and thousands of hours in coaching experience. She is an expert panelist for the LDS dating app “Mutual” and is currently writing a book about LDS dating. She was a former co-host of a three-year international young adult support group and is the owner/operator of the 100 interviews project, a project involving 120 young adults interviewed about dating. She is an artist and illustrator and loves to dance!
Insights:
Julie: Be responsible: being responsible is sexy, romantic, confident, peaceful, and loving. When you are responsible you create a better life for yourself and your significant other.
Dave: It is critical to have a willingness to learn. It is ok to accept different things and want tolearn and change, especially within a relationship.
Liz: I love the idea of CCQ, clear concise and quick
Invites:
   •    Invite me to share my Dating Map Presentation as a guest speaker. I love speaking and teaching to any size audience.    •    I have 1:1 coaching packages, plus a VIP acceleration package, which I would love to tell about. VIP: 6 weeks, 6 days a week, 20 minutes each day.    •    Start with love, learn how to be a receiver of love so you can be ready for a real relationship.
Julie Balkman Links:
<a href="https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&amp;rls=en&amp;q=julie+balkman&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;oe=UTF-8">https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&amp;rls=en&amp;q=julie+balkman&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;oe=UTF-8</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach.julie/?hl=en">https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach.julie/?hl=en</a>
<a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-balkman-0898031a5/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-balkman-0898031a5/</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

How To Escape The Dating Game | Julie Balkman | #47

In this episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection podcast, Dr. Ashley LeBaron-
Black tackles the hard conversation “How do I manage money in marriage.” Join us to learn how conversations about money can connect you and your partner rather than pull you apart.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Ashley Lebaron-Black?
1:48 – Is the issue really about money?
5:12 – Managing money habits: Family background
7:34 – Working together to manage money
8:45 – Family financial socialization
10:25 – Overcoming discomfort in talking about money
12:00 – Money management matters: Debt, materialism, financial deception, etc.
15: 35 – Joint bank accounts
18:08 – Financial therapy for marriage
19:30 – What makes a stronger marriage connection to Ashley
20:10 – Ashley’s tools and tips
24:50 – How do I bring up money while dating?
36:40 – Takeaways

About Dr. Ashley LeBaron-Black:

Dr. Ashley LeBaron-Black is an Assistant Professor of Family Life at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. She received her PhD in Family Studies and Human Development from the University of Arizona. Her research focus is family finance, including finances in couple relationships and financial socialization. Ashley has published over 50 peer-reviewed articles and is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Family and Economic Issues. She is Chair of the Family Financial Wellbeing focus group for the National Council on Family Relations (NCFR).

Insights:

Ashley: Don’t let your money control you and your marriage; you can control it

Dave: There is no right way to manage money in your marriage, but it is so important to
understand where your ideas of money management are coming from. Take some time to understand and communicate that with your partner.

Liz: Talk about money with your partner, be honest.

Invites:

   •    Sit down with your partner this week and develop a monthly budget together.
   •    Talk to your spouse about how you want to manage your money together going
forward. Should we do a monthly meeting, get a joint bank account, etc.?
   •    Read a blog post from Ashley’s website to understand a part of money management you and your partner may not understand.

Ashley Lebaron-Black's Links:

https://lebaron-black.byu.edu/



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection podcast, Dr. Ashley LeBaron- Black tackles the hard conversation “How do I manage money in marriage.” Join us to learn how conversations about money can connect you and your partner rather than pull you apart.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Ashley Lebaron-Black? 1:48 – Is the issue really about money? 5:12 – Managing money habits: Family background 7:34 – Working together to manage money 8:45 – Family financial socialization 10:25 – Overcoming discomfort in talking about money 12:00 – Money management matters: Debt, materialism, financial deception, etc. 15: 35 – Joint bank accounts 18:08 – Financial therapy for marriage 19:30 – What makes a stronger marriage connection to Ashley 20:10 – Ashley’s tools and tips 24:50 – How do I bring up money while dating? 36:40 – Takeaways
About Dr. Ashley LeBaron-Black:
Dr. Ashley LeBaron-Black is an Assistant Professor of Family Life at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. She received her PhD in Family Studies and Human Development from the University of Arizona. Her research focus is family finance, including finances in couple relationships and financial socialization. Ashley has published over 50 peer-reviewed articles and is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Family and Economic Issues. She is Chair of the Family Financial Wellbeing focus group for the National Council on Family Relations (NCFR).
Insights:
Ashley: Don’t let your money control you and your marriage; you can control it
Dave: There is no right way to manage money in your marriage, but it is so important to understand where your ideas of money management are coming from. Take some time to understand and communicate that with your partner.
Liz: Talk about money with your partner, be honest.
Invites:
   •    Sit down with your partner this week and develop a monthly budget together.    •    Talk to your spouse about how you want to manage your money together going forward. Should we do a monthly meeting, get a joint bank account, etc.?    •    Read a blog post from Ashley’s website to understand a part of money management you and your partner may not understand.
Ashley Lebaron-Black's Links:
<a href="https://lebaron-black.byu.edu/">https://lebaron-black.byu.edu/</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Marriage & Money Matters | Dr. Ashley LeBaron-Black | #46

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit
down with Dr. Bill Doherty, back from Season 1 due to popular demand, to share how we can all become marital first responders. A long time Marriage and Family Therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face when navigating marital crisis.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty?
2:29 – Where the idea of marital first responders comes from
4:42 – First important step in being a first responder.
6:32 – Other Do’s and Don’ts
9:45 – We can be an influence
12:16 – Common complaints from marriages
15:26 – Perspective skill technique example
19:16 – Learning to protect boundaries
21:36 – Unforced error
24:12 – You can be a friend to someone and their marriage
30:33 – What to say without adding negativity
31:14 – Where to get more resources from Bill
32:55 – Takeaways



About Bill Doherty:

Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University
of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on challenges
couples face in the modern world, on navigating marital crisis and avoiding divorce, and
on using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. His books for the public
include The Intentional Family and Take Back Your Marriage. In recent years Bill has
taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative
working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. Among his awards is the Lifetime Achievement Award from the American Family Therapy
Academy.



Insights:

Bill: Marriage is existing of social relationships and when people open up, it is a precious gift they are giving. It is good to be mindful and intentional in how we respond.

Dave: We can have empathy without agreeing with others perspectives, you can still show compassion and lend a helping hand even if we don’t necessarily agree with what they may be saying.

Liz: LEAP: Listen, empathy, affirm and positive perspective



Invites:

   •    Check out maritalfirstresponders.org and participate in some of the workshops available to you.

   •    When giving advice to friends it is important to be a good friend to that person but also their marriage, listen with empathy but don’t rush to give advice. Don’t jump to take a friend’s side without considering the whole picture.

   •    Use life experience when giving out advice, you may not be an expert but we all have experiences to take and learn from when helping others.



Bill Doherty Links:

https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/

Bill Doherty Books

https://memberium.com/



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On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with Dr. Bill Doherty, back from Season 1 due to popular demand, to share how we can all become marital first responders. A long time Marriage and Family Therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face when navigating marital crisis.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Bill Doherty? 2:29 – Where the idea of marital first responders comes from 4:42 – First important step in being a first responder. 6:32 – Other Do’s and Don’ts 9:45 – We can be an influence 12:16 – Common complaints from marriages 15:26 – Perspective skill technique example 19:16 – Learning to protect boundaries 21:36 – Unforced error 24:12 – You can be a friend to someone and their marriage 30:33 – What to say without adding negativity 31:14 – Where to get more resources from Bill 32:55 – Takeaways
 
About Bill Doherty:
Bill Doherty is a Professor in the Department of Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota. A long-time marriage and family therapist, he is an expert on challenges couples face in the modern world, on navigating marital crisis and avoiding divorce, and on using family rituals to enhance the quality of family life. His books for the public include The Intentional Family and Take Back Your Marriage. In recent years Bill has taken this couples work to the national level via cofounding Braver Angels, an initiative working to decrease the political polarization that is dividing the country. Among his awards is the Lifetime Achievement Award from the American Family Therapy Academy.
 
Insights:
Bill: Marriage is existing of social relationships and when people open up, it is a precious gift they are giving. It is good to be mindful and intentional in how we respond.
Dave: We can have empathy without agreeing with others perspectives, you can still show compassion and lend a helping hand even if we don’t necessarily agree with what they may be saying.
Liz: LEAP: Listen, empathy, affirm and positive perspective
 
Invites:
   •    Check out maritalfirstresponders.org and participate in some of the workshops available to you.
   •    When giving advice to friends it is important to be a good friend to that person but also their marriage, listen with empathy but don’t rush to give advice. Don’t jump to take a friend’s side without considering the whole picture.
   •    Use life experience when giving out advice, you may not be an expert but we all have experiences to take and learn from when helping others.
 
Bill Doherty Links:
<a href="https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/">https://thedohertyapproach.com/about/</a>
<a href="https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&amp;rls=en&amp;q=bill+doherty+books&amp;ie=UTF-8&amp;oe=UTF-8&amp;dlnr=1&amp;sei=WoLKZPDaHuW5kPIP9OmgkA0&amp;si=ACFMAn9jtsBh5jS1LZqlDz9_aAardL6y8_rsKHcaRRk5wEbTxp6dRwMVShG5cEI5FraBJArqUtaUsfW18qqhho8lJTZtxo2G8OXzqux8UTLvi-r_oeBtUGoz2p8ooBRyFvAkmVpf2XER&amp;ictx=1&amp;ved=2ahUKEwi664XesL6AAxV4h-4BHcvRBQkQw_oBegQIWRAC">Bill Doherty Books</a>
<a href="https://memberium.com/">https://memberium.com/</a>
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
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Dr. Liz Hale:
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How To Help Friends & Family with Marriage Struggles | Dr. Bill Doherty | #45

Sam and Ember were on the verge of divorce for several years. They were a couple that Dr. Liz Hale worked with in her private practice, and they are willing to no longer be private but go public and share how they miraculously turned their marriage around from miserable to incredible.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Introduction: Who are Sam and Ember?
2:35 – What is something you wish you would have known before getting married?
4:51 – Contributors to the breakdown of a marriage
9:00 – Sam’s background
11:56 – How can two people experience one marriage differently?
15:45 – Addressing ‘me’ to fix ‘we’
20:00 – Ember’s ah-ha moments toward change
26:01 – Sam’s ah-ha moments toward change
31:00 – Communication strategies
36:43 – The role of forgiveness in healing
41:08 – Strategies to maintain connection
43:14 – Advice for couples on the brink
46:16 – Honesty is a key for a stronger marriage connection. Seek what’s best for the marriage.

Insights:

Sam: Get help. Some issues may be beyond what the two of you can do together. Be honest. You can decide what kind of spouse you want to be.

Ember: Deal with conflict before the weekend. Start your weekend with a clean slate.

Invites:

   -    Deal with conflict as soon as you can. If there is something bothering you, sit down and have a conversation about it with your partner when you both are in a clear headspace.

   -    Take some time today to evaluate yourself. Is there something you need to forgive yourself for?

    -    Give your partner a hug, a small peck on the cheek, or a squeeze of the hand today. Just a little physical affection can go a long way.



Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

podcast.strongermarriage.org

Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
TikTok: @strongermarriagelife


Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU

Facebook Marriage Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/



Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com/

Sam and Ember were on the verge of divorce for several years. They were a couple that Dr. Liz Hale worked with in her private practice, and they are willing to no longer be private but go public and share how they miraculously turned their marriage around from miserable to incredible.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: Who are Sam and Ember? 2:35 – What is something you wish you would have known before getting married? 4:51 – Contributors to the breakdown of a marriage 9:00 – Sam’s background 11:56 – How can two people experience one marriage differently? 15:45 – Addressing ‘me’ to fix ‘we’ 20:00 – Ember’s ah-ha moments toward change 26:01 – Sam’s ah-ha moments toward change 31:00 – Communication strategies 36:43 – The role of forgiveness in healing 41:08 – Strategies to maintain connection 43:14 – Advice for couples on the brink 46:16 – Honesty is a key for a stronger marriage connection. Seek what’s best for the marriage.
Insights:
Sam: Get help. Some issues may be beyond what the two of you can do together. Be honest. You can decide what kind of spouse you want to be.
Ember: Deal with conflict before the weekend. Start your weekend with a clean slate.
Invites:
   -    Deal with conflict as soon as you can. If there is something bothering you, sit down and have a conversation about it with your partner when you both are in a clear headspace.
   -    Take some time today to evaluate yourself. Is there something you need to forgive yourself for?
    -    Give your partner a hug, a small peck on the cheek, or a squeeze of the hand today. Just a little physical affection can go a long way.
 
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/">Strongermarriage.org</a>
<a href="https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/">podcast.strongermarriage.org</a>
Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage">StrongerMarriage.org</a> Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/">@strongermarriagelife</a> TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife">@strongermarriagelife</a>
 Dr. Dave Schramm:
<a href="https://drdaveschramm.com">https://drdaveschramm.com</a>
<a href="https://drdavespeaks.com">https://drdavespeaks.com</a>
Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU">https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU</a>
Facebook Marriage Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579">https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579</a>
Facebook Parenting Group: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642">https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642</a>
Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/">https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/</a>
 
Dr. Liz Hale:
<a href="http://www.drlizhale.com/">http://www.drlizhale.com/</a>

Saving A Marriage On The Brink of Divorce | Sam & Ember | #44

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder couples sometimes drift apart, growing resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

Stronger Marriage Connection

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 

More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.

The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will grow your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection. 
More than ever before, marriages face obstacles, from the busyness of work and daily hassles to disagreements and digital distractions. It's no wonder why couples sometimes drift apart, becoming resentful, lonely, and isolated.
The Utah Marriage Commission invites you to listen and discover new ways to strengthen and protect your marriage connection today!

Stronger Marriage Connection

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