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New Name, New Energy. What's going on, my son, Lennon.

New Name, New Energy. What's going on, my son, Lennon.

It's been a long day, but it's I'm here. I'm Blessed Black and Holly Favor and I woke up this morning.

It's been a long day, but it's I'm here. I'm Blessed Black and Holly Favor and I woke up this morning.

Along we along several months, not just yeah, yeah, well, I guess so I wouldn't say it's been rough as much as I would say it's been long, Like it felt long to me, just the the traveling, the heat, the constant arguments, who agrees, who doesn't agree, who likes who, who doesn't like. It just seemed like it went on and on and on, and I just wanted it to be over.

Along we along several months, not just yeah, yeah, well, I guess so I wouldn't say it's been rough as much as I would say it's been long, Like it felt long to me, just the the traveling, the heat, the constant arguments, who agrees, who doesn't agree, who likes who, who doesn't like. It just seemed like it went on and on and on, and I just wanted it to be over.

I wanted the election to be over.

I wanted the election to be over.

Yeah, the election was a lot, you know what I'm saying. It was heavy because a lot of us worked hard and you know, put a lot of effort into it. I think for me, it's just been the last probably like a couple of weeks. So many people that I know or love have lost their life. Yeah, you know, so that's that's like kind of heavy for me. I got friends who's lost parents, you know, just literally just this morning, one of my friends lost his life in the club, you know, two days ago, Chubby Baby with somebody that's loved throughout the industry, like was such a good dude, lost his life. You know, we got ca can It's just it's just constant people just losing their life. And so I'm just I'm blessed to still be alive. So I can't complain about any of that, you know, but it doesn't feel all the way good to just constantly keep seeing death around you. So you know, I'm just I'm wrestling with that.

Yeah, the election was a lot, you know what I'm saying. It was heavy because a lot of us worked hard and you know, put a lot of effort into it. I think for me, it's just been the last probably like a couple of weeks. So many people that I know or love have lost their life. Yeah, you know, so that's that's like kind of heavy for me. I got friends who's lost parents, you know, just literally just this morning, one of my friends lost his life in the club, you know, two days ago, Chubby Baby with somebody that's loved throughout the industry, like was such a good dude, lost his life. You know, we got ca can It's just it's just constant people just losing their life. And so I'm just I'm blessed to still be alive. So I can't complain about any of that, you know, but it doesn't feel all the way good to just constantly keep seeing death around you. So you know, I'm just I'm wrestling with that.

I think that's what it makes for the conversation around how much we allow ourselves to be like divided by issues and politics and whatever whatever conflicts we find ourselves in, because life goes by so fast, like you think you have time, but you really really don't, because you just don't know, you don't know what can happen. I was just driving the other day and this person did something that was absolutely like could have got everybody killed, and I was thinking to myself, wow, today could be it like over not even me.

I think that's what it makes for the conversation around how much we allow ourselves to be like divided by issues and politics and whatever whatever conflicts we find ourselves in, because life goes by so fast, like you think you have time, but you really really don't, because you just don't know, you don't know what can happen. I was just driving the other day and this person did something that was absolutely like could have got everybody killed, and I was thinking to myself, wow, today could be it like over not even me.

It's not something that I'm doing. I'm not drinking and driving.

It's not something that I'm doing. I'm not drinking and driving.

I wasn't texting, I wasn't any of those things, so I could get to you know. I think about the movies where they're like you get to the pearly gates and it's like why me, Like I did everything right in this situation this day, but this other person was being irresponsible and therefore my life, you know, was taken. And I was thinking, Wow, it's so quick, it's so short, like you just never know and you really you can control, but so much of your destiny because it's not in your hands, you know.

I wasn't texting, I wasn't any of those things, so I could get to you know. I think about the movies where they're like you get to the pearly gates and it's like why me, Like I did everything right in this situation this day, but this other person was being irresponsible and therefore my life, you know, was taken. And I was thinking, Wow, it's so quick, it's so short, like you just never know and you really you can control, but so much of your destiny because it's not in your hands, you know.

Although you can control.

Although you can control.

The choices that we make, that make that can have you know, a what do you call it. I don't want to say a quick ending, but can make you make your time shorter. But you can't necessarily control when life will be when it'll just be over.

The choices that we make, that make that can have you know, a what do you call it. I don't want to say a quick ending, but can make you make your time shorter. But you can't necessarily control when life will be when it'll just be over.

And I'm blessed to be here and have you know, had made mends with a lot of my friends, like even you know RP to to my man pers you know, we had gotten into argument over Trump online, like we was arguing back and forth over Trump, you know, and we've seen each other and it was always love when you've seen each other. We hug each other, we laughed about it, you know what I'm saying. And then I went to his birthday party, brought him a bottle of champagne, took pictures, like, showed him loved and then to wake up five o'clock in the morning people calling you saying that he ain't here, man, And you just never know, you know.

And I'm blessed to be here and have you know, had made mends with a lot of my friends, like even you know RP to to my man pers you know, we had gotten into argument over Trump online, like we was arguing back and forth over Trump, you know, and we've seen each other and it was always love when you've seen each other. We hug each other, we laughed about it, you know what I'm saying. And then I went to his birthday party, brought him a bottle of champagne, took pictures, like, showed him loved and then to wake up five o'clock in the morning people calling you saying that he ain't here, man, And you just never know, you know.

What I'm saying.

What I'm saying.

So a lot of the the little things and the tedious and the menial things that arguments and discrepancies that you have with your friends, Man, they don't even be worth it, you know what I'm saying. I would definitely give it all just to have my friend back. So it's just it's.

So a lot of the the little things and the tedious and the menial things that arguments and discrepancies that you have with your friends, Man, they don't even be worth it, you know what I'm saying. I would definitely give it all just to have my friend back. So it's just it's.

A lot, man. Chubby Baby.

A lot, man. Chubby Baby.

I literally just seen Chubby Baby in Atlanta a couple of weeks ago. Was sitting there laughing and he was talking to me. Were talking about all types of things, just because we came up in this game. Just watching him from the beginning, you know, early in the early nineteen late ninety nine and ninety eight, you know, and just watching him grow into what he was.

I literally just seen Chubby Baby in Atlanta a couple of weeks ago. Was sitting there laughing and he was talking to me. Were talking about all types of things, just because we came up in this game. Just watching him from the beginning, you know, early in the early nineteen late ninety nine and ninety eight, you know, and just watching him grow into what he was.

And just that's you know, my friend Prophet that I grew up with, that's his cousin. So yeah, so that's so you know, a sad thing too. And then of course Clark Kent.

And just that's you know, my friend Prophet that I grew up with, that's his cousin. So yeah, so that's so you know, a sad thing too. And then of course Clark Kent.

Was the first people that I wrapped to in late ninety nine. It was like ninety eight. I mean it was like, yo, I loved you and was telling people about me. So it's just like it's just hitting home and it was really just sorry.

Was the first people that I wrapped to in late ninety nine. It was like ninety eight. I mean it was like, yo, I loved you and was telling people about me. So it's just like it's just hitting home and it was really just sorry.

No, you know, you have so many especially men like man gotta gotta gotta gotta, got.

No, you know, you have so many especially men like man gotta gotta gotta gotta, got.

To take care of yourself.

To take care of yourself.

Guys have to take care of yourself mentally and physically. You know, it's not only bad habits, but also the depression that can create situations.

Guys have to take care of yourself mentally and physically. You know, it's not only bad habits, but also the depression that can create situations.

You know, depression can turn into sickness.

You know, depression can turn into sickness.

Not having a place to go to place your frustrations and your feelings. I was thinking about how we were doing the podcast for Icewear Vesso and he you know, I was saying when we were talking about why people may not like Kamla Harris so much, and I said, some of it and some men has to do with trauma deths been unaddressed, and how a lot of times men don't have a place to go to like bring their stuff because every space that you all have to show up in it's all about like manly being manly, macho, even when you're at home, like a woman doesn't want a man in the house that's whining and whimpering. It's like you want your man to show up strong, but trying to show up strong all the time can turn into internal sickness that you know, therefore the alcohol becomes the thing. Therefore the drugs or the permit, whatever it is. And so you know, I just think that it's an important message for us to be out here preaching and teaching that you all as men and we also as women, but need to be really really taking care of ourselves. Y'all need to be taking care of yourself.

Not having a place to go to place your frustrations and your feelings. I was thinking about how we were doing the podcast for Icewear Vesso and he you know, I was saying when we were talking about why people may not like Kamla Harris so much, and I said, some of it and some men has to do with trauma deths been unaddressed, and how a lot of times men don't have a place to go to like bring their stuff because every space that you all have to show up in it's all about like manly being manly, macho, even when you're at home, like a woman doesn't want a man in the house that's whining and whimpering. It's like you want your man to show up strong, but trying to show up strong all the time can turn into internal sickness that you know, therefore the alcohol becomes the thing. Therefore the drugs or the permit, whatever it is. And so you know, I just think that it's an important message for us to be out here preaching and teaching that you all as men and we also as women, but need to be really really taking care of ourselves. Y'all need to be taking care of yourself.

You know.

You know.

I was thinking about Clark Kent and that was one of his messages, like in the last few years of his life when we would see him, like his message was, man, take care of yourself, you know, check your health, make sure you're good. It's not that he could control his situation again, right, but I'm sure through what he went through he knew that it is important for you to be on top of your health. And you know, I was looking at messages between the two of us back and forth where I said to him, listen, I ain't gonna ask you the specifics of what's going on or how you're doing, but I just wanted to tell you that I care. And he wrote back and said, you know, that's just the simplicity of this message means so much to me. And he said, and you keep doing what you're doing and don't ever stop ever. And that's something that'll stick with me for the rest of my life.

I was thinking about Clark Kent and that was one of his messages, like in the last few years of his life when we would see him, like his message was, man, take care of yourself, you know, check your health, make sure you're good. It's not that he could control his situation again, right, but I'm sure through what he went through he knew that it is important for you to be on top of your health. And you know, I was looking at messages between the two of us back and forth where I said to him, listen, I ain't gonna ask you the specifics of what's going on or how you're doing, but I just wanted to tell you that I care. And he wrote back and said, you know, that's just the simplicity of this message means so much to me. And he said, and you keep doing what you're doing and don't ever stop ever. And that's something that'll stick with me for the rest of my life.

You know.

You know.

That was cluk Man.

That was cluk Man.

Clark was one of those people that when it came to hip hop, he wanted he had all of the knowledge. He would give you all the types of the background. He would debate you about lyricists. But his energy was always beautiful. It was never never a negative energy. You walk into a Cluck Kim party. He was one of the top DJs in the world. You know what I'm saying. If you've seen him just in the club, he would look at you, he'd give you this love hug like you're good to see you, you know what I'm saying.

Clark was one of those people that when it came to hip hop, he wanted he had all of the knowledge. He would give you all the types of the background. He would debate you about lyricists. But his energy was always beautiful. It was never never a negative energy. You walk into a Cluck Kim party. He was one of the top DJs in the world. You know what I'm saying. If you've seen him just in the club, he would look at you, he'd give you this love hug like you're good to see you, you know what I'm saying.

So and much love to his wife Keisha.

So and much love to his wife Keisha.

She just beautiful, just amazing, and it just was a beautiful They are a beautiful group couple. She will continue on with his leg see with his family. So Clark Kent and your friend Percy, and the number of individuals that just keep I mean, I see it, and perhaps the Internet has just made it more real and we see it a lot. But there's a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of death that is taken.

She just beautiful, just amazing, and it just was a beautiful They are a beautiful group couple. She will continue on with his leg see with his family. So Clark Kent and your friend Percy, and the number of individuals that just keep I mean, I see it, and perhaps the Internet has just made it more real and we see it a lot. But there's a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of death that is taken.

That's why we got to live life. Man.

That's why we got to live life. Man.

I'm telling you, if you don't listen to nothing else, so I said, you could debate me about anything, but live life.

I'm telling you, if you don't listen to nothing else, so I said, you could debate me about anything, but live life.

Enjoy yourself.

Enjoy yourself.

Surround yourself around people that have positive energy, do things in love peace. We are at this age and when you get to the forties and almost fifties, you have to surround yourself by nothing but love and positivity. Anything else is causing stress, is weighing down on your body, is taken away from your health. You got to make and make sure that you take care of your health. Go and get regular checkups, make sure you eating properly, exercise, do all the things necessary, man, and surround yourself by good and positive energy. I don't want to be nowhere around nothing that I gotta force that I gotta worry about if somebody gonna shoot me or kill me.

Surround yourself around people that have positive energy, do things in love peace. We are at this age and when you get to the forties and almost fifties, you have to surround yourself by nothing but love and positivity. Anything else is causing stress, is weighing down on your body, is taken away from your health. You got to make and make sure that you take care of your health. Go and get regular checkups, make sure you eating properly, exercise, do all the things necessary, man, and surround yourself by good and positive energy. I don't want to be nowhere around nothing that I gotta force that I gotta worry about if somebody gonna shoot me or kill me.

I don't want, I don't want. I'm past that. When you when you was twenty, you thought that was cool.

I don't want, I don't want. I'm past that. When you when you was twenty, you thought that was cool.

I want to go to the club. We might have beef, and for some reason it gave you some a drenaline rush. I don't know what we thought was so cool about that, but you realize now that that was the dumbest I want to go. When I look or think there's somebody that might have a problem, I don't even want to be there now. I don't want nothing to do with that. I want blues music. I want slow gems. I want R and B like. I don't want nothing that's gonna cause any type of drum. I want to leave at the end of the night tipsy after a drink on a little wine, a little whatever, and I want to go to sleep and wake up and say how much of a good time?

I want to go to the club. We might have beef, and for some reason it gave you some a drenaline rush. I don't know what we thought was so cool about that, but you realize now that that was the dumbest I want to go. When I look or think there's somebody that might have a problem, I don't even want to be there now. I don't want nothing to do with that. I want blues music. I want slow gems. I want R and B like. I don't want nothing that's gonna cause any type of drum. I want to leave at the end of the night tipsy after a drink on a little wine, a little whatever, and I want to go to sleep and wake up and say how much of a good time?

That's it. That's what I want to do.

That's it. That's what I want to do.

Now, that's the end of that.

Now, that's the end of that.

I said.

I said.

If somebody says, well, Tomik Mallory, you a dirty two bit, no good so and so I'm gonna say, you know you're right. I was thinking the same thing about myself. Have a nice day, don't care. Not interested in turning everything into a fight, because what we're fighting on the outside, the things like I keep going back to the person in the comments section that said, to whatever these young men, I ain't gonna go back over the story. If we only knew who the real enemy is was I say, is, then we would focus so much more of our time on that. And I truly do believe that over the next several years we will be.

If somebody says, well, Tomik Mallory, you a dirty two bit, no good so and so I'm gonna say, you know you're right. I was thinking the same thing about myself. Have a nice day, don't care. Not interested in turning everything into a fight, because what we're fighting on the outside, the things like I keep going back to the person in the comments section that said, to whatever these young men, I ain't gonna go back over the story. If we only knew who the real enemy is was I say, is, then we would focus so much more of our time on that. And I truly do believe that over the next several years we will be.

Meeting and I don't want to say it as if the enemy.

Meeting and I don't want to say it as if the enemy.

Hasn't always been around, but we'll be meeting the enemy in reform and have to stand up to that. Let me tell you my thought of the day. So you know, yesterday a video of Donald Trump talking about some of his policies and some of the first one hundred days like things he intends to do, was released, and one of the things that he touched on was that he will be immediately addressing the gender affirming care and stopping it. Only two genders that will be acknowledged is male and female. And you know, there will be no more puberty blocking medicine. Any doctor who is found to be administering and prescribing those types of medications for minors, they will not be eligible for Medicaid, and medicare to go to their medical facilities and they'll be placed on different lists or whatever, so they will not be allowed to care for minors who have any kind of you know, that they're transitioning in any way. And you know, in the caption of the person who posted the video I saw, they said that zero point zero zero six people, like some very very small number of kids identify as transgender at a very you know, minor kids. Now, you know, throughout the campaign, there was this whole thing about there being a youth or kids that go to school and then when they get back from school they're either And I'm really literally trying to paraphrase it because I think for me to sit here and even repeat the stupid that I saw that people leave home, go to school, and come back there was a boy when they left, and they come back a girl, I can't even repeat that and make sense of it. So I'm gonna say that what they probably meant is that the kid would go to school and say, you know, I feel this way, and then they come back talking about changing their sex, because I just can't process the other thought because there's no way that that can happen. There are not doctors in America giving children sex changes or changing their gender. That is not a thing, right, it is not a thing. But the gender affirming care that is something that people have had to get and had to consult with medical professionals about. Now, first of all, let's just be clear the percentage, and I've actually wrote this down that there is little to no utilization of gender affirming surgeries by kids miners who identify as transgender.

Hasn't always been around, but we'll be meeting the enemy in reform and have to stand up to that. Let me tell you my thought of the day. So you know, yesterday a video of Donald Trump talking about some of his policies and some of the first one hundred days like things he intends to do, was released, and one of the things that he touched on was that he will be immediately addressing the gender affirming care and stopping it. Only two genders that will be acknowledged is male and female. And you know, there will be no more puberty blocking medicine. Any doctor who is found to be administering and prescribing those types of medications for minors, they will not be eligible for Medicaid, and medicare to go to their medical facilities and they'll be placed on different lists or whatever, so they will not be allowed to care for minors who have any kind of you know, that they're transitioning in any way. And you know, in the caption of the person who posted the video I saw, they said that zero point zero zero six people, like some very very small number of kids identify as transgender at a very you know, minor kids. Now, you know, throughout the campaign, there was this whole thing about there being a youth or kids that go to school and then when they get back from school they're either And I'm really literally trying to paraphrase it because I think for me to sit here and even repeat the stupid that I saw that people leave home, go to school, and come back there was a boy when they left, and they come back a girl, I can't even repeat that and make sense of it. So I'm gonna say that what they probably meant is that the kid would go to school and say, you know, I feel this way, and then they come back talking about changing their sex, because I just can't process the other thought because there's no way that that can happen. There are not doctors in America giving children sex changes or changing their gender. That is not a thing, right, it is not a thing. But the gender affirming care that is something that people have had to get and had to consult with medical professionals about. Now, first of all, let's just be clear the percentage, and I've actually wrote this down that there is little to no utilization of gender affirming surgeries by kids miners who identify as transgender.

Little to none.

Little to none.

Also, I couldn't find the exact percentage, but I know that everything I read said that it is almost like no kids using gender affirming medication except in extreme circumstances. So let me tell you when I read what an extreme circumstance may be. It's not all about changing your sex to something different, right, It's not all about gender changing your gender. It could be that you are a child who was born as a male assigned or a male, and you have male genitilia, but then you also are growing breast at the same time, right, and so a doctor will prescribe something that is a puberty blocker that basically will stop the breast from growing so that you're not walking around in society, especially as mean as kids are. When you go to school, you in the boys' bathroom, or you are playing sports with boys and you are a boy, but you also have breast because that's growing.

Also, I couldn't find the exact percentage, but I know that everything I read said that it is almost like no kids using gender affirming medication except in extreme circumstances. So let me tell you when I read what an extreme circumstance may be. It's not all about changing your sex to something different, right, It's not all about gender changing your gender. It could be that you are a child who was born as a male assigned or a male, and you have male genitilia, but then you also are growing breast at the same time, right, and so a doctor will prescribe something that is a puberty blocker that basically will stop the breast from growing so that you're not walking around in society, especially as mean as kids are. When you go to school, you in the boys' bathroom, or you are playing sports with boys and you are a boy, but you also have breast because that's growing.

That is a thing, Okay, It is also a thing that a little girl could have her.

That is a thing, Okay, It is also a thing that a little girl could have her.

Female genitalia and then be growing a beard and having hair growing in places because there is something chemical imbalance or whatever that's happening within her. I don't know if that's the correct word, but I would assume it's a chemical imbalance when you have two different things going on at once.

Female genitalia and then be growing a beard and having hair growing in places because there is something chemical imbalance or whatever that's happening within her. I don't know if that's the correct word, but I would assume it's a chemical imbalance when you have two different things going on at once.

When I was a kid, I grew up.

When I was a kid, I grew up.

I had a jaj and the vejj and the breast grew at the same time. I never was in a situation where all of a sudden certain things made me feel like I.

I had a jaj and the vejj and the breast grew at the same time. I never was in a situation where all of a sudden certain things made me feel like I.

Was boy and then.

Was boy and then.

Yeah, like whatever, whatever, whatever can be the I don't want to misspeak about it because it's too serious. Right, And so you have doctors that see these things. You might have a child who is extremely depressed, who is suffering with, you know, issues, looking at themselves. They're very confused, and there are doctors out here who know what to do. Now are there doctors that might be actually working with and supporting a child who's saying I am not a girl. I feel like I'm something else and I want to transition. Maybe they are, but the statistics, the data shows that that is happening at.

Yeah, like whatever, whatever, whatever can be the I don't want to misspeak about it because it's too serious. Right, And so you have doctors that see these things. You might have a child who is extremely depressed, who is suffering with, you know, issues, looking at themselves. They're very confused, and there are doctors out here who know what to do. Now are there doctors that might be actually working with and supporting a child who's saying I am not a girl. I feel like I'm something else and I want to transition. Maybe they are, but the statistics, the data shows that that is happening at.

The low, super super super super low rate. So it's not.

The low, super super super super low rate. So it's not.

As someone else said to me, someone we both love and care for said to me, it's not important at all that it should not be happening at all, because it's not important to give children gender affirm and care. I don't agree with that, but here's what I say to all the people that I'm watching online who have so much to say about this topic. It is true that this is a very very minute issue that is not happening at large rates to a bunch of kids everywhere you go, because I've asked you, I've asked other friends of ours, I've asked family members how many of y'all the kids in the class are transgender? Or your kids went to school, came back and said, I feel like I should be something else, and most people are telling me that didn't happen.

As someone else said to me, someone we both love and care for said to me, it's not important at all that it should not be happening at all, because it's not important to give children gender affirm and care. I don't agree with that, but here's what I say to all the people that I'm watching online who have so much to say about this topic. It is true that this is a very very minute issue that is not happening at large rates to a bunch of kids everywhere you go, because I've asked you, I've asked other friends of ours, I've asked family members how many of y'all the kids in the class are transgender? Or your kids went to school, came back and said, I feel like I should be something else, and most people are telling me that didn't happen.

But you know what is at high rates mass school shootings.

But you know what is at high rates mass school shootings.

You know what else is a high at high rates fenton all deaths among young people. So it is interesting to me right that this person who people think is the big bad wolf. He's the big bad Trump that's coming in to deal with this thing that is this small.

You know what else is a high at high rates fenton all deaths among young people. So it is interesting to me right that this person who people think is the big bad wolf. He's the big bad Trump that's coming in to deal with this thing that is this small.

Is this small, and.

Is this small, and.

Yet these other things are this big. And his top priority is to address this. You know why, because what he's not getting ready to do is go tell the NRA and the gun companies that they have to do something to stop guns from getting into the hands of kids. That's what he's not gonna do. What he's not gonna do because he didn't do it while he was president before and he had no intention of doing it now. To address the issues that Congress has laid before the Republican Party to say, sign on to this that will help us to deal with people who have access to guns with mental health, who have access to guns, as they say the Beltway or whatever they call it, where there's guns that's being traffic up and down our community. And by the way, this is before are the quote end quote border crisis, because what about the fact that there are companies that profit they make money off of So you can't blame this on the immigrants.

Yet these other things are this big. And his top priority is to address this. You know why, because what he's not getting ready to do is go tell the NRA and the gun companies that they have to do something to stop guns from getting into the hands of kids. That's what he's not gonna do. What he's not gonna do because he didn't do it while he was president before and he had no intention of doing it now. To address the issues that Congress has laid before the Republican Party to say, sign on to this that will help us to deal with people who have access to guns with mental health, who have access to guns, as they say the Beltway or whatever they call it, where there's guns that's being traffic up and down our community. And by the way, this is before are the quote end quote border crisis, because what about the fact that there are companies that profit they make money off of So you can't blame this on the immigrants.

You gotta look at the people.

You gotta look at the people.

It's like they say, drugs aren't being made in the black community, so why is it that only people in the community are being held accountable for the drugs. Why are you not You should be out immediately talking about finding ways to crack down on these gun companies and the NRA.

It's like they say, drugs aren't being made in the black community, so why is it that only people in the community are being held accountable for the drugs. Why are you not You should be out immediately talking about finding ways to crack down on these gun companies and the NRA.

You know what else he's gonna do. Oh, he said he's.

You know what else he's gonna do. Oh, he said he's.

Gonna target Big Farmer to make sure that they stop with gender affirming drugs. Will he also deal with the fact that they have profited off of and marketed opioids and fentanol and other drugs to our community.

Gonna target Big Farmer to make sure that they stop with gender affirming drugs. Will he also deal with the fact that they have profited off of and marketed opioids and fentanol and other drugs to our community.

Are they gonna do anything about that?

Are they gonna do anything about that?

No?

No?

You know why because those are his boys, those are his donors, those are his people. So it's interesting to me that people feel, which is true, that the issue of gender affirm and care is something that it's small, it's not something that should be significant, We shouldn't be focused on it. Okay, If that is in fact the truth, then why in the first days of his announcements did he not say I'm gonna get to this because I have an issue with this, and it seems that a bunch of Americans also have an issue with this because we know black folks, we know people of all races that have an issue with the agenda affirming thing. But This is not as significant as the fact that your child and my child are more likely to go to a school, a mall, a skating rink, or somewhere and get shot by somebody who happens to be a person that has a gun in their hand because they probably have some mental health issue, right, or to get drugs out of the hands of our kids.

You know why because those are his boys, those are his donors, those are his people. So it's interesting to me that people feel, which is true, that the issue of gender affirm and care is something that it's small, it's not something that should be significant, We shouldn't be focused on it. Okay, If that is in fact the truth, then why in the first days of his announcements did he not say I'm gonna get to this because I have an issue with this, and it seems that a bunch of Americans also have an issue with this because we know black folks, we know people of all races that have an issue with the agenda affirming thing. But This is not as significant as the fact that your child and my child are more likely to go to a school, a mall, a skating rink, or somewhere and get shot by somebody who happens to be a person that has a gun in their hand because they probably have some mental health issue, right, or to get drugs out of the hands of our kids.

Everything you said is on point, you know, And I tell people all the time. Donald Trump is a master manipulator, right, He's figured out and now he lined hisself with Elon Musk, you know, and he's figured out how to target certain things that he know triggers people like as a man, like as an alpha male, you want you you you, especially when you're young. In the black community, we've been taught we've been taught a lot of things about that they're trying to demasculate. They're trying to emasculate us, and they want us emasculate us, and they want to feminize.

Everything you said is on point, you know, And I tell people all the time. Donald Trump is a master manipulator, right, He's figured out and now he lined hisself with Elon Musk, you know, and he's figured out how to target certain things that he know triggers people like as a man, like as an alpha male, you want you you you, especially when you're young. In the black community, we've been taught we've been taught a lot of things about that they're trying to demasculate. They're trying to emasculate us, and they want us emasculate us, and they want to feminize.

Us and all those things.

Us and all those things.

So those are fears that we have, right, So you fear everything. You're like, no, we're not. We're in a way, We're not gonna let our kids be emasculate. We don't want that for our kids. So he stokes that fear, even though as you grow older, you know, when I was twenty and all that those things were prevalent. In my mind, I ain't gonna be around a gay person. I'm gonna stay it worth for this. And as you grow older you're like, well, that's their part, that's their issue, that's the that's their reality, that's how they live their lives. Right, They're not bothering me. They're not imposing anything on me. It doesn't it's not rubbing off on me. I'm who I am and they who are, and everybody is an individual, and you start to realize, well, that person, that's the individual. He's not doing nothing to me. She's not doing anything to me, So why is that such a big deal. But what Trump knows is that it's inside our community. It's a certain thing that it's a conversation within our community. So he plays on that. So when he says we don't want no transgender and we don't want this, he knows that the average person, especially a male who feels he's a strong male, is going to say, yeah, we don't want that. Far kids, even though you don't see it for your kids. When you go to school, you don't see it. That's not something your kids are not coming home saying, hey, this will happen to my school today. You know, they tried to tell me I was trained or I went to school and they taught me about this is not conversation that happening. But he knows how to stoke that fear. He knows if he constantly says that. He knows if he constantly says that, even if it's not happening, it's just like they're eating the cats and they're eating the dogs. Even if it's not happening, people keep on the migrants are raping and killing you, even though the percentage of that happening is damning.

So those are fears that we have, right, So you fear everything. You're like, no, we're not. We're in a way, We're not gonna let our kids be emasculate. We don't want that for our kids. So he stokes that fear, even though as you grow older, you know, when I was twenty and all that those things were prevalent. In my mind, I ain't gonna be around a gay person. I'm gonna stay it worth for this. And as you grow older you're like, well, that's their part, that's their issue, that's the that's their reality, that's how they live their lives. Right, They're not bothering me. They're not imposing anything on me. It doesn't it's not rubbing off on me. I'm who I am and they who are, and everybody is an individual, and you start to realize, well, that person, that's the individual. He's not doing nothing to me. She's not doing anything to me, So why is that such a big deal. But what Trump knows is that it's inside our community. It's a certain thing that it's a conversation within our community. So he plays on that. So when he says we don't want no transgender and we don't want this, he knows that the average person, especially a male who feels he's a strong male, is going to say, yeah, we don't want that. Far kids, even though you don't see it for your kids. When you go to school, you don't see it. That's not something your kids are not coming home saying, hey, this will happen to my school today. You know, they tried to tell me I was trained or I went to school and they taught me about this is not conversation that happening. But he knows how to stoke that fear. He knows if he constantly says that. He knows if he constantly says that, even if it's not happening, it's just like they're eating the cats and they're eating the dogs. Even if it's not happening, people keep on the migrants are raping and killing you, even though the percentage of that happening is damning.

So that's what the thing is.

So that's what the thing is.

He focuses on the low vibrational shit that he knowsh triggers you, right, So when I have a common day, like yo, they given. I had a conversation with a guy in Michigan and we just talking about the election. He's liked, I ain't voting. I ain't voting nothing. He said, i'mnna ask you a question, man. It's Kamala Harris given transgender operations in jail.

He focuses on the low vibrational shit that he knowsh triggers you, right, So when I have a common day, like yo, they given. I had a conversation with a guy in Michigan and we just talking about the election. He's liked, I ain't voting. I ain't voting nothing. He said, i'mnna ask you a question, man. It's Kamala Harris given transgender operations in jail.

I said, what do you mean she's giving people operations? Is that's what she's doing?

I said, what do you mean she's giving people operations? Is that's what she's doing?

Because I've seen the commercial to say that, I said, well, I don't know the particulars of it. I don't know what if it was a health situation or whatever, but I heard that there was one situation with that it happened, and it was probably you know, the person had some issues. I didn't read the whole thing, but it's not a normal thing that happens every day. He said, well, I don't want nothing to do with that. I said, well, how many? I said, think about this? You so focused on that the possibility of that affecting your life is what?

Because I've seen the commercial to say that, I said, well, I don't know the particulars of it. I don't know what if it was a health situation or whatever, but I heard that there was one situation with that it happened, and it was probably you know, the person had some issues. I didn't read the whole thing, but it's not a normal thing that happens every day. He said, well, I don't want nothing to do with that. I said, well, how many? I said, think about this? You so focused on that the possibility of that affecting your life is what?

Like?

Like?

How many have you been to person? He said yeah.

How many have you been to person? He said yeah.

I said, have you been around where somebody had a sex transfer operation or anything?

I said, have you been around where somebody had a sex transfer operation or anything?

He said no. I said, if he did, how would it affect you?

He said no. I said, if he did, how would it affect you?

You go to your cell that person or they sell, how would that affect your direct life? He said, I'm saying I just don't want it anywhere. I said, okay, and I get it. You might not want it because that's why you don't got it. I said, but if he gives the police immunity, right, you think that's gonna affect your life more than that on the one percent chance of that you because you out here every day with the police.

You go to your cell that person or they sell, how would that affect your direct life? He said, I'm saying I just don't want it anywhere. I said, okay, and I get it. You might not want it because that's why you don't got it. I said, but if he gives the police immunity, right, you think that's gonna affect your life more than that on the one percent chance of that you because you out here every day with the police.

You walk every day, your friends get arrested, they gather.

You walk every day, your friends get arrested, they gather.

So imagine if the police had immunity right and they was able to pull you over and do what they want to you. Do you think that affects you more? Or that that one operation that somebody had in the prison. And he said, you're right, I said, because that's what happens. They get you to focus on shit that really don't that don't really affect you, and it don't really matter to you, right, but.

So imagine if the police had immunity right and they was able to pull you over and do what they want to you. Do you think that affects you more? Or that that one operation that somebody had in the prison. And he said, you're right, I said, because that's what happens. They get you to focus on shit that really don't that don't really affect you, and it don't really matter to you, right, but.

You just the thought of it.

You just the thought of it.

He knows that it triggers something in you as a male, because you feel it.

He knows that it triggers something in you as a male, because you feel it.

So this is what he does. He figures out how to trigger things in you.

So this is what he does. He figures out how to trigger things in you.

That actually the percentage of them having everything because they talk about the migrants every day, and I know we have immigration problem.

That actually the percentage of them having everything because they talk about the migrants every day, and I know we have immigration problem.

We know, well, let's not say we have an immigration problem because they take little words, but there is in fact a situation with the immigrant community, the migrant community that needs to be addressed, needs to be a dressed, it needs work, it.

We know, well, let's not say we have an immigration problem because they take little words, but there is in fact a situation with the immigrant community, the migrant community that needs to be addressed, needs to be a dressed, it needs work, it.

Does any serious work, and they and they figured out how to compound it they figured out, you know what we're gonna do. We're gonna make sure that when we get to the immigrants inside of Arizona, when we get them inside of Florida, we're gonna shift them to one that We're gonna shift them in Chicago, We're gonna shift in LA and we're gonna shift in New York to the Democratic States to where they overload, to where it's hundreds of thousands of them. And they look and then people see it, like you look at them, it's busses. They done took over this. They figured out how to make it look like it's a bigger issue because so they and they focus on that, and they make you focus on that. And the reality is I've lived the once immigrants and migrants my whole life. But my whole life I live in the Bronx. It's a melting pot. Every time the new immigrant class coming, they come to the Bronx. You know, I remember when the Dominicans came here. I remember when Africans came here. I remember when Venezuela. Like you watch them come in. We figured out how to live with each other. Some of them my best friends.

Does any serious work, and they and they figured out how to compound it they figured out, you know what we're gonna do. We're gonna make sure that when we get to the immigrants inside of Arizona, when we get them inside of Florida, we're gonna shift them to one that We're gonna shift them in Chicago, We're gonna shift in LA and we're gonna shift in New York to the Democratic States to where they overload, to where it's hundreds of thousands of them. And they look and then people see it, like you look at them, it's busses. They done took over this. They figured out how to make it look like it's a bigger issue because so they and they focus on that, and they make you focus on that. And the reality is I've lived the once immigrants and migrants my whole life. But my whole life I live in the Bronx. It's a melting pot. Every time the new immigrant class coming, they come to the Bronx. You know, I remember when the Dominicans came here. I remember when Africans came here. I remember when Venezuela. Like you watch them come in. We figured out how to live with each other. Some of them my best friends.

And the interesting thing about it in my opinion is that I know a lot of I know a lot.

And the interesting thing about it in my opinion is that I know a lot of I know a lot.

I'm like you.

I'm like you.

I grew up in the Bronx and Harlem and then to the Bronx, and I know a lot of people who are immigrants. I mean a lot of people who are immigrants, or at least the parents were immigrants, or the child might have been born in the United States, but the rest of their families immigrants. And I can tell you right now that those people are mainly the most peaceful people I.

I grew up in the Bronx and Harlem and then to the Bronx, and I know a lot of people who are immigrants. I mean a lot of people who are immigrants, or at least the parents were immigrants, or the child might have been born in the United States, but the rest of their families immigrants. And I can tell you right now that those people are mainly the most peaceful people I.

Know, the.

Know, the.

Citizens that I had to run from. So I'm just saying like, and it's very intention very intentional.

Citizens that I had to run from. So I'm just saying like, and it's very intention very intentional.

And they figured it out, and they looked at the things, and I'm telling you, they have study groups. They sat down with the study groups. What what is going to trigger these people the most?

And they figured it out, and they looked at the things, and I'm telling you, they have study groups. They sat down with the study groups. What what is going to trigger these people the most?

Because we keep saying it, whether it is or not, we're going to keep on stoking that fear, and that's gonna be the main thing that they focus on.

Because we keep saying it, whether it is or not, we're going to keep on stoking that fear, and that's gonna be the main thing that they focus on.

They're gonna get so focused on the ship.

They're gonna get so focused on the ship.

That don't matter, that's barely happening, that the zero point one percent happening, that they're gonna forget about the real ship that's going on. Right So that's that's what that's what Donald Trump has done. And you know, like, once again, I do not agree. I do not think any child should be should be affirming any gender as a child.

That don't matter, that's barely happening, that the zero point one percent happening, that they're gonna forget about the real ship that's going on. Right So that's that's what that's what Donald Trump has done. And you know, like, once again, I do not agree. I do not think any child should be should be affirming any gender as a child.

I just don't know if that's a thing. I don't think this is my person.

I just don't know if that's a thing. I don't think this is my person.

I'm not.

I'm not.

You know, you and I have had this conversation rigging him around the rosie and I you know, I appreciate the fact that your position is your position and it is what it is. But I do wanted to make sure make sure it's clear that we are okay with children affirming.

You know, you and I have had this conversation rigging him around the rosie and I you know, I appreciate the fact that your position is your position and it is what it is. But I do wanted to make sure make sure it's clear that we are okay with children affirming.

What we learn to be fact. So let's just be clear when when.

What we learn to be fact. So let's just be clear when when.

We have we're children and years and it whatever whatever time, some already said this is what is going to be called, this is this, and that's that male female and.

We have we're children and years and it whatever whatever time, some already said this is what is going to be called, this is this, and that's that male female and.

Those kids that say I'm a boy, I'm a boy.

Those kids that say I'm a boy, I'm a boy.

No one has a problem with that, if not no one, But people don't have an issue with that. So we're okay with kids affirming what has been the social construct that they are assigned to. What we have an issue is them saying I feel like something else is happening. That's when we're like, well, I don't believe that a kid should have the right to that. Now, I do agree with you. I agree with you one hundred I just want to make sure that the premise is clear. But I do agree that a child should not be able to make a life altering decision before they become an adult, because that does not mean that I don't understand, believe in one hundred percent feel that parents that know their children are going through something because I've had parents sit in my face and tell me. We tried to ignore it, We tried to do therapy, We tried to say, maybe the child is just crazy, weird, this all kinds of things because we were ignorant. But once we begin to try to understand our depressed child, our child that was withdrawn, our child that was cutting it him or herself or doing certain things. After we tried to understand and they were able to open up to explain to us that they don't feel like the body that they're in is who they truly are, then we had to figure out a way to wrap care around them, to take them to the right. Not just any psychic, because you got psychiatrists and therapists who also don't agree, who might be sitting there telling the kid, oh, you just you know, you need these pills to make you you know, like like I don't know the right pills. So again, I don't want to just be throwing things out, but you could give kids stuff or people things that dope them down, make them feel like, you know, more depressed, instead of trying to help them figure out how to cope with the situation that they're in. And so with that being said, right, I do believe that families should be supportive of their children and trying to understand what the kid is experiencing and educating themselves.

No one has a problem with that, if not no one, But people don't have an issue with that. So we're okay with kids affirming what has been the social construct that they are assigned to. What we have an issue is them saying I feel like something else is happening. That's when we're like, well, I don't believe that a kid should have the right to that. Now, I do agree with you. I agree with you one hundred I just want to make sure that the premise is clear. But I do agree that a child should not be able to make a life altering decision before they become an adult, because that does not mean that I don't understand, believe in one hundred percent feel that parents that know their children are going through something because I've had parents sit in my face and tell me. We tried to ignore it, We tried to do therapy, We tried to say, maybe the child is just crazy, weird, this all kinds of things because we were ignorant. But once we begin to try to understand our depressed child, our child that was withdrawn, our child that was cutting it him or herself or doing certain things. After we tried to understand and they were able to open up to explain to us that they don't feel like the body that they're in is who they truly are, then we had to figure out a way to wrap care around them, to take them to the right. Not just any psychic, because you got psychiatrists and therapists who also don't agree, who might be sitting there telling the kid, oh, you just you know, you need these pills to make you you know, like like I don't know the right pills. So again, I don't want to just be throwing things out, but you could give kids stuff or people things that dope them down, make them feel like, you know, more depressed, instead of trying to help them figure out how to cope with the situation that they're in. And so with that being said, right, I do believe that families should be supportive of their children and trying to understand what the kid is experiencing and educating themselves.

But I do not believe that a.

But I do not believe that a.

Twelve year old, a ten year old, a fourteen, fifteen, even sixteen year old should be able to go to their parent and say, okay, now I'm ready to change my genitulia from one.

Twelve year old, a ten year old, a fourteen, fifteen, even sixteen year old should be able to go to their parent and say, okay, now I'm ready to change my genitulia from one.

Thing to the next. I don't think that.

Thing to the next. I don't think that.

I don't now if they say that they they want their name to be something different, and they go to their family, and the family sits together and work out an understanding, and it takes a lot, it's a lot of therapy for everybody.

I don't now if they say that they they want their name to be something different, and they go to their family, and the family sits together and work out an understanding, and it takes a lot, it's a lot of therapy for everybody.

It's a whole lot. And I think your children are worth investing in that way in them. But I don't think that people should be changing their sex at before they're grown and able to fully understand the decision that they're making. Nevertheless, it's happening at the lowest rate of anything.

It's a whole lot. And I think your children are worth investing in that way in them. But I don't think that people should be changing their sex at before they're grown and able to fully understand the decision that they're making. Nevertheless, it's happening at the lowest rate of anything.

Right, And I agree, I agree. I just said that's what I say.

Right, And I agree, I agree. I just said that's what I say.

I just believe that, you know, as children, we make a lot of harsh decisions, brass decisions, or decisions that we're not one hundred percent aware of. Like I've watched now, I've been a fifteen sixteen thought I knew everything. It was like, Noah, nah, I want to do this, I'm gonna do this. And then by the time I was nineteen twenty, I'm like, I don't even know what made.

I just believe that, you know, as children, we make a lot of harsh decisions, brass decisions, or decisions that we're not one hundred percent aware of. Like I've watched now, I've been a fifteen sixteen thought I knew everything. It was like, Noah, nah, I want to do this, I'm gonna do this. And then by the time I was nineteen twenty, I'm like, I don't even know what made.

Me do that.

Me do that.

So those are realities, and then there's just the reality that we just don't know.

So those are realities, and then there's just the reality that we just don't know.

Right.

Right.

If you're not somebody who identifies as trans, or you're not somebody who's dealing with that reality, you don't know. So I'm not I don't want to put anything on somebody else based on my reality and based on my experiences, because my experience is not your experience the way that you deal your brain doesn't work like mine, your body is not working like mine. So I don't have the right to impose my mentality, in my emotions and my physical feelings on you.

If you're not somebody who identifies as trans, or you're not somebody who's dealing with that reality, you don't know. So I'm not I don't want to put anything on somebody else based on my reality and based on my experiences, because my experience is not your experience the way that you deal your brain doesn't work like mine, your body is not working like mine. So I don't have the right to impose my mentality, in my emotions and my physical feelings on you.

It's just not right to me. But I do not.

It's just not right to me. But I do not.

Believe that we should be making those lifetime decisions before a person is an adult person. I think then you let that adult person make those decisions because at that point they can't blame that on anyone but themselves, and they're fully aware. I just don't that's just what they can't give put that on anyone else for themselves not blame. It is your decision to make, and I think an adult should be able to.

Believe that we should be making those lifetime decisions before a person is an adult person. I think then you let that adult person make those decisions because at that point they can't blame that on anyone but themselves, and they're fully aware. I just don't that's just what they can't give put that on anyone else for themselves not blame. It is your decision to make, and I think an adult should be able to.

Do that, you know, so I agree, I agree.

Do that, you know, so I agree, I agree.

I believe that they're trying to tell us that they're trying to emasculate men, especially black men, and I want to clarify that there is definitely an attempt to emasculate black men. Is when you look at TV, when you look at a lot of different things, you know, this whole toxic masculinity thing that's over I feel like it's oversaturated as used in too many point of views, and everything is not toxic masculinity. I believe there are things that are masculine that we do as men that is toxic, but I can't believe that everything that we do because a lot of those things are we are taught to utilize those for survival. And I say this all the time. A lot of things that people say it's toxic masculinity. If I when I was in prison, if I didn't utilize those things, I probably wouldn't be here.

I believe that they're trying to tell us that they're trying to emasculate men, especially black men, and I want to clarify that there is definitely an attempt to emasculate black men. Is when you look at TV, when you look at a lot of different things, you know, this whole toxic masculinity thing that's over I feel like it's oversaturated as used in too many point of views, and everything is not toxic masculinity. I believe there are things that are masculine that we do as men that is toxic, but I can't believe that everything that we do because a lot of those things are we are taught to utilize those for survival. And I say this all the time. A lot of things that people say it's toxic masculinity. If I when I was in prison, if I didn't utilize those things, I probably wouldn't be here.

But does that mean it's toxic, I don't know.

But does that mean it's toxic, I don't know.

I can't tell you it's time because it was survival mode. It was things that we use to survive there. When you become when you are in a jungle, you know, and you around wolves, you're either gonna be a predator or you're gonna be pray.

I can't tell you it's time because it was survival mode. It was things that we use to survive there. When you become when you are in a jungle, you know, and you around wolves, you're either gonna be a predator or you're gonna be pray.

Right once they sense that.

Right once they sense that.

You pray and you and you you crying, and you emotional and you you can cry all the time, and you got to explain all these things that that doesn't work in real life where we are and the real where where I'm from, it just doesn't work. So you know, I know that those things are real, but I also know that we lack a lot of emotional intelligence. We've utilized those things that whenever we can't get our way, or we don't know how to express something, or we feel pain, we react with this level of aggression that I believe is toxic. So those both those things can exist at the same time.

You pray and you and you you crying, and you emotional and you you can cry all the time, and you got to explain all these things that that doesn't work in real life where we are and the real where where I'm from, it just doesn't work. So you know, I know that those things are real, but I also know that we lack a lot of emotional intelligence. We've utilized those things that whenever we can't get our way, or we don't know how to express something, or we feel pain, we react with this level of aggression that I believe is toxic. So those both those things can exist at the same time.

And need to break it down.

And need to break it down.

We definitely need to break it down, and I think we should.

We definitely need to break it down, and I think we should.

Those are conversations we should be having, but we should not allowed those things to allow us to impose our will on other people and the things in the realities that they go for, and and not to allow them to trick us by using the trans community or the LGBTQ community against us, because those individuals are dealing with their own, you know, their own situations. So when when you start realizing that, you start to evolve and you start to grow, you started realizing that a lot of things that we took as serious or a lot of things that we were taught were just wrong. Like you know, we we really as a young black boys in our community, we targeted those people. We felt like it was like a plague. And as you grow older, these are just individuals. These are people were just different realities. I have people who that are gay, that are lgbt and trans that they are cool people, don't you know.

Those are conversations we should be having, but we should not allowed those things to allow us to impose our will on other people and the things in the realities that they go for, and and not to allow them to trick us by using the trans community or the LGBTQ community against us, because those individuals are dealing with their own, you know, their own situations. So when when you start realizing that, you start to evolve and you start to grow, you started realizing that a lot of things that we took as serious or a lot of things that we were taught were just wrong. Like you know, we we really as a young black boys in our community, we targeted those people. We felt like it was like a plague. And as you grow older, these are just individuals. These are people were just different realities. I have people who that are gay, that are lgbt and trans that they are cool people, don't you know.

It's not that I know a lot, but.

It's not that I know a lot, but.

I've been around them and they and they were fine.

I've been around them and they and they were fine.

And respect. They didn't have the.

And respect. They didn't have the.

They were human beings and their reality was just different than minds every respect we have friends.

They were human beings and their reality was just different than minds every respect we have friends.

Have you in this industry, if you've been this industry long enough, then you've been around gay and trans people.

Have you in this industry, if you've been this industry long enough, then you've been around gay and trans people.

That's just the reality of what it is.

That's just the reality of what it is.

I don't know about trans people though, maybe they just never say inside the industry, oh okay, okay, okay, because I think that's another thing is that people when they don't experience something or they haven't been around it, they listen to whatever they hear on these shows and they.

I don't know about trans people though, maybe they just never say inside the industry, oh okay, okay, okay, because I think that's another thing is that people when they don't experience something or they haven't been around it, they listen to whatever they hear on these shows and they.

Listen they've been in this industry for years.

Listen they've been in this industry for years.

Well, I'm just saying, until I became until my.

Well, I'm just saying, until I became until my.

Older years as an activist, I never I did not meet I had not met a openly trans person. That was not something that I was introduced to. And once I did, and once I did, I was.

Older years as an activist, I never I did not meet I had not met a openly trans person. That was not something that I was introduced to. And once I did, and once I did, I was.

Like, okay.

Like, okay.

My first reaction certainly was not a positive one, like, let's just be honest, because I had been told they're this.

My first reaction certainly was not a positive one, like, let's just be honest, because I had been told they're this.

I mean, I don't understand.

I mean, I don't understand.

So you're trying to tell me you never was around men that were dressed like women that were like fully dressed.

So you're trying to tell me you never was around men that were dressed like women that were like fully dressed.

Now, what my experience was more of the opposite my in my life, may have been one or two men that were like kind of like rich what's his.

Now, what my experience was more of the opposite my in my life, may have been one or two men that were like kind of like rich what's his.

Name, Richie, little Richard, little.

Name, Richie, little Richard, little.

Richard, like kind of like that, right, like a little and I'm yeah, yeah yeah, and a little princey, right. But they weren't called trans right, Like when I say trans gender, I mean that this is a person who has fully decided they not this, they're they're that. So what I experienced was people who were gay, and mainly it was women who dressed up and behaved more masculine, like that's how you knew something's up. Maybe there was a boy that was a lot more feminine and so okay, but that was rare because again, dealing with people's trauma, a lot of young men did. They never were able to really show you that it was an act of rebellion for a woman to be like this is me.

Richard, like kind of like that, right, like a little and I'm yeah, yeah yeah, and a little princey, right. But they weren't called trans right, Like when I say trans gender, I mean that this is a person who has fully decided they not this, they're they're that. So what I experienced was people who were gay, and mainly it was women who dressed up and behaved more masculine, like that's how you knew something's up. Maybe there was a boy that was a lot more feminine and so okay, but that was rare because again, dealing with people's trauma, a lot of young men did. They never were able to really show you that it was an act of rebellion for a woman to be like this is me.

Like two women were living together and everybody knew in the building like that.

Like two women were living together and everybody knew in the building like that.

It's a little strange because usually the is man and women with children. So when two women, especially with no kids or older kids, were living together in the projects, you kind of it was like whispers about it, but it wasn't a big bowld conversation. Very rarely did you have a man who was outwardly openly gay, And if you did, he was very flamboyant, like right, and maybe he kept it himself. That wasn't my experience.

It's a little strange because usually the is man and women with children. So when two women, especially with no kids or older kids, were living together in the projects, you kind of it was like whispers about it, but it wasn't a big bowld conversation. Very rarely did you have a man who was outwardly openly gay, And if you did, he was very flamboyant, like right, and maybe he kept it himself. That wasn't my experience.

It just wasn't.

It just wasn't.

And and by the way, later in life, I was told, oh, you know, so and so was whatever, or if a family member died of like HIV or something like that, like they said, well, you know he was into this or he was dad in the third, But that wasn't what he did. When he came to my parents' house or he went to my grandmother's house, or I saw him at family thing.

And and by the way, later in life, I was told, oh, you know, so and so was whatever, or if a family member died of like HIV or something like that, like they said, well, you know he was into this or he was dad in the third, But that wasn't what he did. When he came to my parents' house or he went to my grandmother's house, or I saw him at family thing.

You see him at the family thing.

You see him at the family thing.

He done turned into the most masculine man ever.

He done turned into the most masculine man ever.

And then when he's house that's what. That's what. That's my experience.

And then when he's house that's what. That's what. That's my experience.

We know it's there. As I got older, I began to understand it. When I was eight year nine, ten eleven years old, I didn't see that. I saw more women than I did men. So I'm just saying, when you don't know, then when I met someone like that, I'm like, oh my god, Like what do I say? You know, I was all like, oh, I'm all uncomfortable. I don't know how I got to speak to them. I don't say this, don't say that, And it ended up being that the person is kind of like relax first of all. Second of all, it's not that deep. I understand that you don't know, and so I can help you along. And it's not that serious then and nowaday like it's not that serious.