Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 35-year-old lovely woman and my husband and I are having a dilemma. Four years ago, my husband of 10 years cheated on me with a woman he used to work with and he got her pregnant. He told me about the affair and I was livid, but after the baby was born, I was able to forgive him and move on. A year or so later, I had an affair with a guy that I met at the gym. He was good in bed and I quickly got hooked................