Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been dating a man for 8 years and he proposed last month. Shortly after we met, he found out about a 2 year old daughter by a woman he had a one-night stand with. The child’s mother was messing with 2 guys so of course he took a paternity test. I drove him back and forth to visit his child, which was over 3 hours away. I was friendly with the child’s mother and his daughter and I became besties.................