Dear Steve Shirley and Tommy. I'm a wife of 14 years I've been with my husband for 18 years. We were together as young teenagers. He doesn't know that I've been seeing someone else since before we got married. I love this other man simply for the man that he is. When we're together, his focus is 100 percent on me. He has limitless sex drive and pleases me every time. About a year ago I began a sexual relationship with another man who I care very much for.