Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I decided early against having children. We have a great social life and our house is still the hangout spot for our friends. He's sixty one and I'm fifty nine, and we have made the marriage work for twenty seven years. Last year I found out he was cheating. His lover kept calling his phone over and over, so I told him to handle it. He told me that he handled it. I decided not to stress about it because there was nothing I could do to stop him from cheating, and I was not ready to leave him and be alone, so I didn't ask any questions. He did all he could to show me how remorseful he was for cheating, and I was just happy that our friends didn't find out, so I didn't have to deal with the embarrassment and stress.........................................................