Dear Steve and Shirley, My boyfriend is in love with his brother's wife and he won't admit it. It started as a joke, but now it's starting to get under my skin. I met his brother. The same night I met him. His brother had just started dating the lady he married. That was four years ago. They are married, but my boyfriend and I are not. My boyfriend idolizes his sister in law and compliments her when she's all dressed up, which is all of the time. Her hair is sure and fly and she has expensive purses and shoes. She called me last week and asked me if we could do a day of pampering together.................................................