Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been divorced for four years and my 7 year old child is caught up in a dysfunctional mess with me and my ex-husband. After my divorce, I found out that my older sister was having an affair with my husband. Throughout the divorce, she was my rock and I turned to her for advice, since she’d been divorced 3 times. All of the signs were there that they could have been messing around, but I was going thru hell, so I didn’t notice...............