Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 5 years with a man that thinks we are exclusive. I’m in my late forties and my sex drive has been through the roof lately. My boyfriend is 53 and he’s a beast in the bedroom, but he’s not enough for me and he’s not as kinky as he should be. For the first time in my life, I am a cheater. I’ve been having sex with a 30 year old neighbor and it is fun and spontaneous and he gives me the fire that I desire. This is not the only man I’m seeing on the side though...............