Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 34 years old and my significant other is 39 and we’ve been together for 3 years. I call him my significant other because he has yet to define our relationship. We started as friends, just like most couples do and as we got closer, he told me that he didn’t want anything serious but he enjoyed spending time with me. We started having sex a month after we met and at that time, I was very busy at work and helping my sister with her new baby, so I was not ready for anything serious either.............................